Older Men vs Younger Men?

Being2befit

Okay i have a serious thing for older guys....salt pepper hair drives me crazy!!! Awwwww

Im 21 and guys between 30/45 are good for me there mature and no what they want

well some of them do..

As long as they dont think there still.21 and trying to play games lets be mature

juliecat1

It obviously has to more to do with the guy but typically older for me too.

happydaze71

I used to always go for the older guys, first husband 4 years older, next 9 years older, next 12 years older and it became glaringly obvious he was turning into a grumpy old grandpa.
I am 40 and just broke up with a 41 yo, and have just started seeing a 33 year old, who no.. its not going to work, he's just not there yet. The 41 year old, I am still hung up on. Who knows... its all down to animal attraction lol

dovesgate

I used to go for older guys but the majority just weren't mature enough to do basic things like hold a steady job and if they did, they didn't want to go anywhere or do anything.

8 years ago I started seeing my husband who is nearly 2 years younger than me. I haven't looked back since.

Scorpioangel

I think that it really depends not on the age, but the chemistry between the two. I know older guys who still have a lot of growing up to do (that probably will never happen) and then there are younger guys who have their act together

PBJunky

Or men one's own age?
Ladies, what do you think?
My partner is 17 years older than me and my ex husband is 5 years younger. I guess I'm not so into men my own age. :bigsmile:
If I had to, though, I'll stick with the older guys.

I prefer older woman....

Oishii

Dh is just 2 years younger than me, which everyone in Japan said was the perfect gap. When we married I was decades ahead in experience in life, but recently he thinks I'm getting younger while he gets older :laugh:

anikab

I prefer older men myself. Salt and pepper hair, hair on the chest....totally dig it. I've dated all different ages and dated someone ten years older a few months back and found more common ground. Although age doesn't always equal maturity, I prefer older. The younger ones or the ones my age aren't on the same level as I am maturity wise, especially because I have kids.

catherine4211

I'm thinking us older women are looking for younger (active and fun)......the younger girls seem to be looking for the older (mature). Most of the men my age are broke because they are paying a ton to their ex-wives........but the young ones might want kids.........there are pros and cons to both..............there is no perfect age in my opinion. It's all in the person.

kimletton11

I've always been into older men too. I prefer at least a 10 year difference, but it's not mandatory. Guys my age are too immature, don't know what they want, want to party/drink all the time. 30+ is my kinda guy

^^^This!!!

pain_is_weakness

my husband is in his mid 30's and I am 23. I like older men or men my own age if they know when to have fun and also know when to work (I can't stand 20-something yr olds who live with mama still)

my husband has fun and I honestly act older than him so maybe I didn't go old enough lol, but I think my cut off would be 40 because men get older and sex drive gets lower lol, gotta make sure they have a good body still

zeeeb

my partner is 4 years older than me... but that's not what i look for in a man. that's just how it worked out.

as long as he's a decent man....

actually after years of sifting through idiots, all i was after was an honest man (with a job) who wasn't an idiot, and was on the same page as me.... (doesn't seem too much to ask does it?)

took years and years of sifting to find one. Why are there so many idiots out there? players, cheaters, committment phobes, no-hopers, bludgers, liars, people with unsavoury habits, people with drug / alcohol / gambling / addiction problems etc.

i'd hate to get back into the dating game again, seriously, it's bloody hard work to find someone that's on the same page as you with big picture goals.

AggieLu

For me, a man I'm crazy about, and one that is equally as crazy about me. It doesn't matter whether he is younger, older or my age. A man that will allow me to cry when I need to and laugh with me, stimulate me intellectually, one that will agree to disagree, enjoy adventures and spontaneity, one that stands up for what he believes in...

A man that will love me unconditionally.

ummlovelovesyou

Age is just a number!

sunkisses

The closer to retirement the better. Let's have a Metamucil shake and see where things go.

solpwr

Two things, because two of my favorite friends posted here...

Age IS just a number. Attitude is everything. If you, and I mean that in a generic sense and not any person specifically, need the quality of stability to compliment you as a person, you may be interesting in someone older, but actually just need a certain level of maturity.
If you are reasonably mature and need vitality in your life that a younger person often brings, yes, you will look for someone younger.

I would submit, like my friend @Ummlovelovesyou said, that age is a number. I generally go for younger women, because they are more vital, energetic, and in better shape, so they can keep up with me.

But they need to be taking care of themselves. Like my friend @sunkisses said, closer to retirement is better for many reasons that I agree with.

I could retire in 10 years! My kids are grown. You know how much great fun I could be having in 10 years? I'm working hard on my savings! Getting my bills over with! I'm going to have some serious fun! I do *kitten* that 30 year old guys don't or won't do. My health is better than my 95 yo grandfather's was when he was my age. I'm ready to ROCK retirement and I need a chick who can keep up, but is ready to rock it out too. And I'm not talking golf, I'm talking climbing mountains in Argentina and Nepal.

That's why women my age who are active and energetic go for young guys, because they still have a fire that burns inside. Girls who are younger often go for the older guys because that's all that the young guys often have, a fire that burns inside. Which doesn't pay the bills, or take care of the kids, or get them out of the apartment. That's not everyone's situation, but sometimes its true.

SDkitty

I married when I was 25 and my wife 42. She thought I was in my 30's and I thought she was in her 30's...we were both wrong but it has worked out wonderful! 26 years later and still going strong.

I'm sorry but did no one else notice this statement? How on earth could you marry someone if you didn't even know how old they were?

Misdy

My BF is 17 years older. I didn't specifically go out looking for an older man, it just happened :happy: He's older but definitely hasn't grown up yet! :laugh:

servilia

wow seeing a lot of big differences here. I personally can't be with a man even close to my dad's age and he's only 22 years older than me. LOL
My husband is 11 days olders than me. I wouldn't mind a difference up to 5 years older in general but you never know who you might meet right (well not me, I'm married already, but in general). Sometimes I wish he was a few years older but I can't change his age

cramernh

My husband is 6 years younger than I am..... 12 years ago, he pursued me....... heheehhe, Im 37, he is about to turn 31...

boomboom011

my husband is 13 years older than i am. i love it! I see my friends with guys their age and the dynamics are so different and I am so glad.

I wouldnt have it any other way. I love that we are in different phases. We compliment each other with his wisdom and my youth. I remind him how to have fun and reminds me that i need to be a grown up sometimes.

Carl01

Trust me,older men are what you want. :bigsmile:

kb455

Depends on the guy, I think. I'm sure there are older guys who are as immature a man 10 years younger. In my experience, though, I dated a guy that was a few years younger than me. He was fun but he was also jealous, insecure and extremely immature. I admit, I can be immature and impulsive at times but this guy had me beat my a long shot. But.... I still think it depends on the individual guy.

whitehandlady

i've mostly done the my -own -age -or -slightly -younger thing and frankly....i want to go with older bc i think it would work out wayyyy better

StrengthIsBeautiful

My first thought was to respond with a preference toward older men. This might sould silly, but when I really think about it, age does not matter to me as much as to whether or not a man has served in the Military or not, no matter what branch. I've dated men who have served and those who have not. A man who has honorably served his Country has a level of maturity, knows the value of teamwork, hard work, and so many other things that I would not date someone who hasn't. Doesn't matter the age.

3GKnight

Trust me,older men are what you want. :bigsmile:

Yes.



I'm 32.

Just sayin'.

anikab

Trust me,older men are what you want. :bigsmile:

Yes.



I'm 32.

Just sayin'.

Haha you guyssssss

eyoungone05

Tho I do agree with most of my MFP women on here, I still have to rep for us YOUNGSTERS on here and everywhere. I grew up with three older brothers 6, 5 yrs older than me. I do like to believe that I'm more mature than my age and got a good head on my shoulders. I'm established and yeah just like -Kb455- it does depend on the person. @ MissSharkatta-"here as younger men, and men my own age just want sex 24/7, and cant hold any form of conversation." ...............ummm yeah we want sex all the time we are in our prime sexually. The old we get the less testosterone we produce so, it wud be against my own self to not take advantage of this precious and valuable time of my life.....hahahahahaha lol just saying

servilia

Anyone concerned about the physical/sexual aspects of being with a much much older man? It's one thing when you're 30 and he's 50. What about when you're 45 and he's 65?

0PhAtDaDdY

Anyone concerned about the physical/sexual aspects of being with a much much older man? It's one thing when you're 30 and he's 50. What about when you're 45 and he's 65?

Let's see in ten years I'll be 65 and wife will be 42 I will report back and let you know how things are going? Right now all is well...