Once a cheater, always a cheater?
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kimletton11
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Okay, so my mom and I were having a discussion last night. We were talking about my future stepbrother and I mentioned the saying, "Once a cheater, always a cheater." She disagreed with me. She said that once someone finds the person that they are meant to be with and fall in love, she doesn't think they will cheat.
What do ya'll think? And why?
What do ya'll think? And why?
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I think they were on a break.0
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i do agree.
im not so sure thought if you were with someone, they cheated and you took them back - then i would think of the phrase once a cheater always a cheater.
But if the person is notoriously known for cheating but then is with someone new who are we to say how they feel and if their attitudes change!0 -
I think it depends on the circumstances. If the person has a one-night stand, okay, I could see how they might not cheat again. But if they carry on a long term affair, then yes, once a cheater always a cheater.0
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Every situation, everywhere is different.
But by and large, you are right.
<-- Reformed cheater0 -
people make mistakes and it depends on if it happens once or more than that0
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good question and I have wondered that myself with a guy that I am currently dating. I think it depends on the person but history does tend to repeat itself. I will be interested to see if anybody has any personal experiences about it....0
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I agree with you. I believe that, once you allow yourself to step your toe across that line, it is much easier to do it again. The reality is that, as I've heard Dr. Phil said, "The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior." I believe that. I would be very hesitant to date a man who has a past of infidelity.
It's a character issue to me, really.0 -
I think they were on a break.
LOL!0 -
It's in between. Just cause they cheat once, doesn't necessarily guarantee that they will do it again. But just cause they're in love doesn't mean they won't. People are human and unfortunately, sometimes will give into temptation despite being happy and in love.
Just my personal experience.0 -
i agree, nothing is absolute like that. maybe they will find the "one" and realize it's not worth the breach of trust... or maybe they'll go back to their old ways.0
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I think they were on a break.
And no, I don't agree that once a cheater always a cheater.0 -
Once a cheater not always a cheater but from my experiance depending on how bad the person was, if they really love someone they will eventually quit. It is just a matter if the other person is willing to stick around long enough to find out.
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Honestly, if you have proven to be a cheater while married I would say it would be hard to trust. I am not sure though because you would hate to say that someone could never have the ability to change. It all depends on that person and their moral compass.0
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I think they were on a break.
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This is definitely dependent of the person and the situation. Truthfully, I feel anyone can change if they have the right motivation. Look at all of us here on MFP:)0
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I think maraige is hard - Rewarding, but, like all things worthwhile, not a cakewalk. (married 24 years and counting for life) The temptation will be there. Hard to say whether he is committed enough to resist - I think it's possible he could be faithful, but my advice would be to keep your eyes open and love him through his weaknesses.0
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This thread should be titled:
Ladies, keep your man happy.0 -
I definitely think people have the ability to change. Young daters can cheat out of boredom or many other reasons, but when you grow up and really fall in love they can be monogamous no problem. I have cheated on boyfriends before, but I was young, curious and now that I am really in love with my husband you realize young love isn't quite the same as real love. An adult cheater though, that could be a different story.... I don't really think that any two people are the exact same so now that I am pondering, ha, I'm not sure there is a general answer to this question.0
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I will say there are 2 types of cheaters.
There are the ones that truly honestly made the biggest mistake of their life and will prove themselves to you for the rest of their life (if they have to) that you are safe with them, that they screwed up and that they'll never hurt you like that.
Then there are the ones that although they know they messed up, and might regret it (or not), they don't feel remorse, therefore, most likely it will happen again. They don't understand (or care) of the impact their cheating has on anybody. These are the cheaters that most likely will always be cheaters or at least always have the potential to cheat again.0 -
I've been on both sides of that coin. Married a man who had previously cheated on his wife (not with me), he cheated on me twice. I forgave but will never forget if we go for round three I will be a single female. I also became very unhappy in my marriage and cheated with the same person for many years. I've had temptations but haven't cheated again and don't plan to.0
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