GUYS: what do u want in a woman?

sunkisses

I agreed. i am 5'4, (130 now, been 115, 120, etc, its according) and have been 103lbs before(when i was getting into drugs in my teen years), still never had my bones stick out like that lying down. neither did my ex-anorexic sister at her worst (bad) I'm not jealous, not of her. I'm jealous of what i can NOT have, like a 20 in waist cute piggy toes a button nose, two arms even (when i want to fix my hair) not of that. ANYONE CAN LOOK LIKE THAT IF THEY STOP EATING LONG ENOUGH.

NOW, i have had friends who were naturally super thin, i felt bad, they hated it. one tried eating as much as she could for weeks and couldnt gain. she would cry so hard, she hated it. all three of them did. the one bought her curves later and feels a bit better now. i think that there are different ideas of beauty, and 12 yr old pre-pubescent skeleton bones is just not mine. sexy comic book hero chicks, pin ups, play boys, lingerie models (not vs ones, to thin now) beyonce, kim kard, those are girls i envy. or super fit ones like beil. love jessica beil. still underweight, but so pretty and fit. fit, toned, thats attractive, bones (to me) just are not. I'm sorry. no offense to anyone. i wish everyone a fab holiday, a great nights sleep, and a long and peaceful life. xo

No matter how you word it, no matter how many times you try to come back, you're still the same girl who bust into a thread so you could argue with another member about what HE finds attractive and to insult/attack another human being who is his friend. Point blank: what you've said about TKN11 was rude and totally uncalled for. Trying to bury your post or clarify your post doesn't make that any less evident.

ETA: This post is also really cruel of you.

missbp

What's really amusing about this pic is that the girl in the pic would not look exactly like that if she was standing up. The angle she is holding the camera at, is making her body look leaner. Sure, she is a slim girl, but this photo is not a true representation of her body. Her legs are positioned to look slimmer, her hips are sticking out because she is laying down and her ribs are also sticking out because she is stretching her torso to take the pic. It's just another photo representing a female body type that is unrealistic for most women, including the one in the pic. As a mom with a young daughter, who is quickly learning from TV and other media to hate her body, I find it rather sad.

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You know what I find sad is that a grown woman can smugly talk about another woman she doesn't know, pick her body and picture apart, and then try to sound like she can't fathom why her daughter hates her body.
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Sunkiss, You are correct, I do not know the woman in the picture anymore then you know me. I did not smugly pick her body apart. I essentially stated what the woman in the photo confirmed herself. Which is that this picture is not a true representation of her body. It is obvious that the woman in the picture works very hard to stay fit. I would never try and dispute that or diminish her efforts at all. If my comment was perceived that way BY HER, then I apologize TO HER. It is clear that you misread my post, because I never said I couldn't "fathom why my daughter hates her body." I know exactly why my daughter feels the way she does about her body.
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queenpushycat

I know beyonce is gorgeous i'm so JELOUS!!!!!!!!! her skin, her body, her FACE!!!!!!

and her voice.

PetitePerfection

I think if I find a woman who's in better shape than me, that'll be the end all.

Not that I'm in fantastic shape, but try to eat better, and exercise more than most. And I can think of maybe 2 girls I know that actually go to the gym and touch a weight. Actually, I know only 2 that go to the gym period.

And a body like this

I don`t think she looks discusting but it sounds like you`re much more my type.

she looks disgusting. just absolutely disturbing. what happen to women looking like sexy curvy goddess with round butts and dd's. why do they want to look like concentration camp victims? guess i'm old school. thank god hubby agrees.

That is my picture. And I am perfectly healthy. I weigh 135, and i'm 5'7''. It is because i'm lying down that my ribs are sticking out. I've worked hard over my entire life and I was a college athlete. I also lost 70 pounds - healthily - over the course of 2 years. Thanks for calling me disgusting though.

I think you look awesome!!!! They're just jealous:happy:

nolachick

ok I'll repeat the question:

>>>>>> GUYS: what do u want in a woman? <<<<<<<

I think the topic was for GUYS so if you dont have a penis you should not be posting on this thread except if you're posting an answer to my question on behalf of someone who has a penis.

THANKS!!!

nolachick

A woman who is smart, funny, loves the outdoors, animals, likes to travel, she must have her stuff together and not have emotional baggage, children from a previous relationship or relationships, she must be intofitness, must have a job, must have a car and doesn't talk about herself or work 24/7 and doesn't have to take 2 hours to get ready to go somewhere. She has to be as comfortable in jeans or sweats as she is a dress?

umm have we met? i think u just described me

ok maybe i take 1 hour to get ready but that's pretty normal for girls

Hey one hour is great, it's something I can live with, lol

:happy:

servilia

Umm all the hating and jealousy = :sick:

I guess if you've never been thin, you wouldn't know that your hipbones stick out like that when you're lying down.

I've been thin....I weighed 130 at 5'3" but my hip bones never stuck out like that. I'm definitely not jealous, I just stated that it wasn't 'attractive' in my opinion.

Maybe you had a higher % body fat covering up the bones. Or maybe you have small bone structure. Besides 130 at 5'3" is not the same as 135 at 5'7" when it comes to slimness.

SheRa1964

ok I'll repeat the question:

>>>>>> GUYS: what do u want in a woman? <<<<<<<

I think the topic was for GUYS so if you dont have a penis you should not be posting on this thread except if you're posting an answer to my question on behalf of someone who has a penis.

THANKS!!!

Guess it's not hard to figure out what "you" want. Happy Thanksgiving to YOU.

MikeM53082

one word: FEMININITY!

You don't have to be the perfect, blonde hair, big boobs type of girl. Just be warm, womenly, and smile a lot.

Elisirmon

I been several weights thruout my life I do have myhips poke out at any weight from 110 to 170lbs...it just depends on your frame and bone structure anywho does it really matter each person is accountable for themselves in relation to their body and health.

Carl01

ok I'll repeat the question:

>>>>>> GUYS: what do u want in a woman? <<<<<<<

I think the topic was for GUYS so if you dont have a penis you should not be posting on this thread except if you're posting an answer to my question on behalf of someone who has a penis.

THANKS!!!

I did,so have several others.

Phoenix24601

What happened to curvy bodies and round butts and DDs..? Is that they are still over weight!! ..they get diabetes,,heart conditions..high blood pressure

hmmm...so being a DD or above means overweight? That's funny, because I am in that curve category at 134 pounds and 5'7. hmmm.......

And I think that the girl in the picture looks great btw.


edit: i asked my fiance and he said physically he liked long healthy hair, pretty eyes, and nice legs.

Libby81

Leave the lady alone, this site is meant to be supportive. I wonder how any of you would react to finding a thread with your picture on and pages of hateful comments from people you've never even had message contact with.

I think the post was actually about what guys look for in women so leave the poor girl alone and let the guys answer their question

SerenaFisher

I think if I find a woman who's in better shape than me, that'll be the end all.

Not that I'm in fantastic shape, but try to eat better, and exercise more than most. And I can think of maybe 2 girls I know that actually go to the gym and touch a weight. Actually, I know only 2 that go to the gym period.

And a body like this

she looks disgusting. just absolutely disturbing. what happen to women looking like sexy curvy goddess with round butts and dd's. why do they want to look like concentration camp victims? guess i'm old school. thank god hubby agrees.

Not the first person to react to this comment, but I am going to put in my two cents anyway. This woman isn't "concentration camp" skinny, she is actually very healthy. A few ribs sticking out? Seriously, I know girls at 170lbs who have ribs stick out... It's not like you can play them like a xylophone. As for the hips, she has curvy hips, and IS CURVY and is HEALTHY. Not all "curvy" women are bigger, and just because you can see the curvature of her hips in a smooth line doesn't mean she's starving.

And if your hubby agrees? WHY DO YOU CARE WHAT THE OTHER MAN WANTS???? Just saying.

Thankfully there are all types of men, that want all types of women so in the long run eventually there is someone for everyone. To me love is the most important part though, in love I find all flaws become much smaller. Oh... not that it counts, I don't have a penis ^_^

Maggieq87

It was nice to read what the honest answers were.

Also, my hip bones stick out like that when I lie down and I am 210. I just have very prominant hip bones. *shrugs* She looks dam fit to me, and I'm straight, haha.

Ant_M76

Somebody who is fun to be with and is positive and laughs a lot.
Somebody who can listen and shows genuine interest in me and is not only interested in talking about herself.
Somebody who is down to earth.
Somebody who I find beautiful.
Somebody who could be a best friend.

That is all

stayxtrue

- Trust
- Secure (had too many gf's who hate me talking to other girls)
- Fit and healthy (this does not mean super skinny)
- Honest
- Loving
- Happy and content
- Down to earth

There a lot more but that would be the basic things I look for

stayxtrue

- Trust
- Secure (had too many gf's who hate me talking to other girls)
- Fit and healthy (this does not mean super skinny)
- Honest
- Loving
- Happy and content
- Down to earth

There a lot more but that would be the basic things I look for

honeysprinkles

You girls are pretty rude..

That's a friend of mine off here, and she's got a nearly-perfect body.

She too overcame a terrific transformation, like many of us on MFP.

I agree, you can tell that she looks good. Of course she looks thin laying down, but some of those comments seem like they were just said out of spite/jealousy.

honeysprinkles

I really hope she looks healthy when she isn't stretched out and twisted like shes doing the potty dance.

I tried to reply to this, but it was too long and my response didn't show up, so I'll retype it. Does no one in this thread actually go to the beach?? Maybe it's because I live in Florida, but this is what everyone (who's in shape at least) looks like laying out at the beach, I know many people with pictures like this...it's not because they're trying to look thinner than they are or "doing the potty dance." This is what people look like laying at the beach, I don't understand the big deal.

Angela_2_Oh

- Trust
- Secure (had too many gf's who hate me talking to other girls)
- Fit and healthy (this does not mean super skinny)
- Honest
- Loving
- Happy and content
- Down to earth

There a lot more but that would be the basic things I look for

Amen!

Tiggerrick

come on boys, grow up and be serious. I want to hear answers from real Men out there.

Been married twice now, and you learn and you learn....
1. Financially secure (yes, money is important). Doesn't have to pay my way through life, but can't drag me down either.
2. Fit. Needs to be able to do some of what I do. Not necessarily best me, but is she does... great.
3. Smart. What good is money and looks without a brain. If you can't hold your own in a conversation, I would feel my time wasted.
4. Caring.
5. Honest/open.
6. Open minded. You don't have to agree with me on everything, but you have to at least understand me.
7. Classy on the streets. Slutty in the sheets..... You all know it's true. Sexual compatibility is important.
8. Able to cook. (Both my exes didn't know how, tired of doing all the cooking).
9. Positive attitude.
10. Self confident.
11. Clean (both herself and the home), but NOT OCD about it.
12. Supportive

I'm sure there's more, but these are basic. Things like no vices (smoking, drugs, alcoholism) are basic and non-negotiable.

Ericgunner

Someone who is sympathetic to my needs, and let's me keep my Harley in the living room. And I am really lucky because I married her 30 years ago.

kelseyessex

Hi people,

I know this post is for guys and sorry for sticking my nose in but I just read the whole of this thread.

I feel so sad after reading it. I used to have bulimia and have not long recovered and to read the way some of you spoke in this thread was like reading my thoughts when I was ill.

Everyone is different and the worst thing in the world to do is compare yourselves to each other in weight, size or anything else for that matter. None of you are Beyonce or Nicole Richie or anyone else and never will be...you are you so accept who you are.

Fat, thin, curvy, skinny, tall, short....whatever size or shape you are you have to love yourself on the inside before you can even begin to love yourself on the outside.

Again sorry for busting in on the thread but I know what its like to feel like your not worth it unless you're a certain shape or size and its not nice, no one should be judged for what they look like ever!

Spread the love people and stamp out that negativity xxx

nolachick

Somebody who is fun to be with and is positive and laughs a lot.
Somebody who can listen and shows genuine interest in me and is not only interested in talking about herself.
Somebody who is down to earth.
Somebody who I find beautiful.
Somebody who could be a best friend.

That is all

awww this is a nice answer thnx for sharing

nolachick

- Trust
- Secure (had too many gf's who hate me talking to other girls)
- Fit and healthy (this does not mean super skinny)
- Honest
- Loving
- Happy and content
- Down to earth

There a lot more but that would be the basic things I look for

good answer

nolachick

thanks to all the guys who gave a response.

and for the person who had something to say about my question, the reason i had to repeat it is because some females on here started bickering about something completely off topic (another female) and criticizing her, I was trying to get the point across of what my original question was.

RoadkingDavid

Relationship expert Gregory J.P. Godek compiled 10 qualities that 5,000 men want most in a woman. I have to agree wholeheartedly with his list:
1. Demonstratively loving
2. Attentive
3. Sexy
4. Confident
5. Caring
6. Independent
7. Intelligent
8. Beautiful
9. Romantic
10. Has a sense of humor

Note that sexiness and beauty are in the eyes of the beholder. A sexy and beautiful woman to me is one who exhibits the other 8 qualities noted above.

eyoungone05

Sense of humar
Confident
Independent
Respectful
Secure
Smart
Down to earth
Honest
Someone who loves me for me and accept all my imperfections

sharishopalot

Hmmm this going to be interesting, Ive got to read this..