Are you SERIOUS?!?!?! Beging Rant... ( Ladies)

janet_pratt

Next time you'll know WHAT? Some people are too freaking stupid to be allowed breathing space! So since I have two adopted children because I couldn't get pregnant, I have no clue what it's like to be a parent? We adopted a brother and sister whose mother was a drug addicted alcoholic. They were two and four when we got them and all the love and guidance we gave them could not counteract what the idiot who gave birth to them put them through before we got them. The boy was oldest. He's now 26 and doing life in prison and believe me, I felt a mother's pain watching him slip away from us. The girl is 23 and is almost as bad a parent as her mother was. I'm raising her kids for the next 6 months while she gets counseling. And their birth mother has now shown up and has been sober for 5 years and wants to be grandma to my grandkids and is second guessing the way we raised them. Yeah, there's pain and there's pain. Just because someone manages to pass a child through a birth canal does not make them a mother. How THAT for a rant?

iHEARTcardiacnurses

You should have punched her straight in the **** and said "Now you feel the pain of being a mother too!" and walked off....

60% of the time it works everytime :glasses:

Maryfullofgrace

Truth be told, yes, Naturally, you did it! Who else? (playing with the words... )

JoJo_fat2fab

I could see myself saying the same thing... but joking. You're sure that she wasn't joking?

lol she was definitely not joking

Goofy076

OMG what a jerk!!!! I am so sorry you have to deal with such morons!!! you are one of the most beautiful , amazing mommies i ever met so tell those jerks to go scratch it!!!!!!

diverchic73

wow... what a horrible woman!

My mother adopted me because she couldn't have more children... does that mean that she's not my mother... I guess everyone in my family has it wrong and she's not my mother as she didn't give birth to me via vaginal or c-section birth. huh, news to me.

I feel sorry for that woman's family... you can walk away, find a different salon... avoid her... they can't.

Congratulations on the birth of a healthy baby... and for surviving the complications and resulting operation. You deserve much better than her narrow minded idiocy.

Shanphichloe

Seriously???

What makes me sad is that no matter what you would of told that "lady", she wouldn't understand your situation . You can't argue with stupid...

JoJo_fat2fab

Next time you'll know WHAT? Some people are too freaking stupid to be allowed breathing space! So since I have two adopted children because I couldn't get pregnant, I have no clue what it's like to be a parent? We adopted a brother and sister whose mother was a drug addicted alcoholic. They were two and four when we got them and all the love and guidance we gave them could not counteract what the idiot who gave birth to them put them through before we got them. The boy was oldest. He's now 26 and doing life in prison and believe me, I felt a mother's pain watching him slip away from us. The girl is 23 and is almost as bad a parent as her mother was. I'm raising her kids for the next 6 months while she gets counseling. And their birth mother has now shown up and has been sober for 5 years and wants to be grandma to my grandkids and is second guessing the way we raised them. Yeah, there's pain and there's pain. Just because someone manages to pass a child through a birth canal does not make them a mother. How THAT for a rant?

I'm sorry you're going thru that.

WifeNMama

I've had both c section and a vbac, and people who talk trash about women who go through c-sections are rude and clueless.
I would pick a regular birth every time, what a cake walk compared to my first kid, and that's with 25 hours of induced labor and contractions that felt like they were going to tear open my c-section scar. The recovery time is just not comparable.
What does it matter what method was used when the baby gets here healthy and thriving? Whichever birth happens, its only the beginning of a lifetime of caring and teaching, and that's what defines motherhood.

P.S. I hope she never runs into a woman who's adopted children, she's a felony charge waiting to happen.

CaptainGordo

I could see myself saying the same thing... but joking. You're sure that she wasn't joking?

lol she was definitely not joking

OK. What a turd then! Sorry...

mommared53

I haven't read all the responses but I just want to say, I guess the wonderful parents who adopt because maybe they're not able to conceive don't know what it feels like to be a parent either huh? What a lunatic that woman is! Going through "natural" childbirth has nothing whatsoever to do with feeling like a parent. Her comment was one of the DUMBEST comments I've read. I'm glad you and your baby are doing well now. God bless you both. :flowerforyou:

jennmoore3

So I was at the hair salon and this lady I haven't seem since I was pregnant (baby is 6 months now) said to me " So you gave birth huh, how's the baby, did you do it naturally?" I told her I had an emergency c-section. She look at me straight in my eyes and said "Oh you don't know what being a mother is then. You need to feel the pain"

ARE YOU ****ING KIDDING ME?!?!?!

Well I didn't want to be rude because my mommy was there, so I just explained to her what happened. That I wanted to give birth naturally and while I was in labor I started bleeding too much and the doctors needed to get the baby out before it was "too late" . My baby was born at 6:17am and I was in the OR until 12:35PM because the doctors couldn't stop my bleeding and I had ten doctors debating whether or not they were going to remove my uterus. I needed a blood transfusion (4 pints). Thank God I'm alive and well taking care of my baby and husband.

All she said was, " well maybe next time you'll know"


I really wanted to choke her...

**Sorry for the length of the story**


END RANT..

Wow, I am so glad everything worked out for you and your miracle baby. You both are truely miracles, kiss your hubby a extra time tonight, and snuggle that baby extra as well. I work in Surgery as a Surgical Technologist. I have been on the Doctor's side trying to help people. It is so scary to think of what you and your medical team was going through. I love assisting on C-Sections and have never in 11 years of doing my job have had a case like yours. It would have been so hard for me not to punch her right in her face. I do commend you for keeping your cool. I would have too just for my mommy. lol You should never talk to that woman ever again. I personally would never tell someone they are less of a mom than me because they had a section. Sections are very hard surgeries to recover from because they are surgery, major surgery.

catwrangler

I responded to this on your wall because I can swear there:mad:

seven8seven

wow! Some people are sooo da** ignorant!!! Bitter old hag. Thank God you and your baby are alive and healthy! You are a wonderful mother because you gave life to that baby and love and nurture it. The nerve of people these days :explode: I can't imagine how you felt!! My blood is boiling just thinking about it -- how IGNORANT and COLD! :explode:

Contrarian

I thought I was adopted, but I guess I'm an orphan. *sigh*

AshDHart

I'm so sorry you had to deal with someone lacking a soul. I had my 1st and 3rd by c-section and my son and I wouldn't have survived child birth without it. Some people need to seriously not talk since they don't seem to have a functioning brain.

Nothing compared to what happened to you but 24 years ago about 8 weeks after my 1st one was born I was at the salon. My son is a redhead, I'm brunette, and his father is dirty blond. This old biddy came up looked at my son and then looked back and forth at our hair and then smiled and said "You have such an understanding husband." 24 years later and I'm still shocked at what she said.

mistresseeyore

I had one too. My son was traversed and in distress. I know I'm a Momma, cause I take care of him every day, love him every day, do everything he needs. She needs to mind her own business. I'm thankful that you made it through.

pattycakes726

What an idiot! So anyone who had had an epidural, a C-section or adopted is not really a mom?? People never cease to surprise me.

JoJo_fat2fab

OMG what a jerk!!!! I am so sorry you have to deal with such morons!!! you are one of the most beautiful , amazing mommies i ever met so tell those jerks to go scratch it!!!!!!

Thank you Kimmie :flowerforyou:

athenawho

So...my mom wasn't a mother when she adopt my brother and sisters?

She wasn't a mom when fed them when they were hungry, sheltered them when they were cold, or held them when they cried? She wasn't a mother when she kissed boo-boos or sang them to sleep?

She wasn't a mother until she gave birth to me? AND even then she wasn't a mother because she had to have a c-section to save MY life?


Wow, I'll stop calling her 'mom' then. I better change the contact info on my phone to Dad & Sherri.

MercenaryNoetic26

That beeezzzzzzzzzzotch! You've very polite, I'd have been like, "Oh, natural births were so yesterday, didn't you know?!"

kennethmgreen

So I was at the hair salon and this lady I haven't seem since I was pregnant (baby is 6 months now) said to me " So you gave birth huh, how's the baby, did you do it naturally?" I told her I had an emergency c-section. She look at me straight in my eyes and said "Oh you don't know what being a mother is then. You need to feel the pain"
...

There are times that an explanation is a waste of your energy. This was one of them.

The pain (and joy) of parenthood is not defined by one moment, but spans a lifetime.

mcrowe1016

You can't cure stupid and you cant cure b!tch

ElizabethRoad

If I ever had a baby I think I would refrain from talking about any details except with people I knew well. Because I probably would have slapped this woman for real.

arewethereyet

I thought I was adopted, but I guess I'm an orphan. *sigh*

Right? And I am a different parent to the eldest cuz he was c-section?

Pfft some people are daft.:grumble:

Oishii

Woah! I had an emergency C section too and no one has ever said anything horrible to me about it, thank goodness, but to suggest there is less pain? Ridiculous!

i_love_vinegar

Just ignore the lady -- she obviously does not have much going for her.

Congratulations on BEING A MOM btw~ :flowerforyou:

servilia

omg what an idiot.

fteale

I actually wanted to kill people who said caesareans were the easy option after having one. How being cut open, membranes ripped, STAPLED not stitched back together, all the while being able to feel it all, a couple of hours after having major abdominal surgery that if it were a hysterectomy (which is incidentally pretty much the same operation), you would be restricted to bed for at least a couple of days, having to get up, with the catheter still attached, wash yourself and all the blood off you, change nappies at regular intervals, lift a 9 1/2 lb baby (FUN when your abdominal muscles have just been severed), breastfeed which causes contractions in the very place you have just been cut open (the pain of that is actually indescribable), have to get up and walk to find a midwife to ask them for pain relief, even simple paracetamol, and then being stuck in there, in mid July, with no air-conditioning, in a ward with 15 other mothers and their new babies, all screaming every hour of the night for 5 days........How exactly is THAT the easy option??????? Oh, and I forgot to add, All that was after 21 hours of full on labour, throughout which I was throwing up, and after 3 nights of no sleep.
Then there's a 12 weeks of scar infections, and feeling like you are going to split open every time you lift something.

I have done it the natural way too, and I know which I'd choose 100 times over. The pain of a natural birth is NOTHING in comparison.

This is one subject I get properly furious about.

jamcalli

Firstly- CONGRATS on motherhood!

Secondly-
I wonder at what point a birth becomes natural? Is it purely having a baby pop out of your vagina, or it is without drugs too? And after that, do we go a whole step further and do away with thousands of years of knowledge of germ theory and cleanliness? Or should we also climb trees at some point and pop them out up there? I'm just asking, because I haven't had a child yet, and want to do it right so I can be in this woman's special "mother" club. *vomits*

Essentially, this person is anti-lifesaving technology. I wonder if she also thinks you're not a real mom if you give your child medicines, or maybe, cook with fire or, say take your kid to school in a car?

Anyway, enough of this chit-chat, I'm off to sweep the cave while my husband goes out hunting for Woolly Mammoths.