First Loves

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  • pain_is_weakness
    pain_is_weakness Posts: 798 Member
    my first lust, oops I mean love will always hold a special place i guess, but I also agree that my definition of love now is truely different from what it was then and I never even wonder what would have happened if we stayed together, now that my daughter is having "boyfriends" I remember back to the "butterflies in my stomach" first kisses and stuff, but other than those happy feelings, I don't hold love for him, just good memories
  • b00b0084
    b00b0084 Posts: 729 Member
    Depends with me. I have 2 first loves if that makes sense. My first one was 4 years older than me and in the Navy the entire time we were together so I never got to see him. The one time I saw him after we started dating was the best night of my life. But when his grandma died he dropped off the face of the earth and it took me 6 years to find him. The second I met while dating the first (on a break up) and he is the father of my son and my soon to be ex husband. I fell in love with him once I realized that my first first love was never to be found. Ironically they are both named David. The first David C. has a special chunk of my life, but he is married now :( and the second David H is a *kitten* but unfortunantly has a place in my heart because he gave me my son. I have never stopped thinking about David C though and a part of me wishes he would leave his wife so we could live the life we always talked about.
  • margieward82
    margieward82 Posts: 406 Member
    Years later we connected and are now married and have a beautiful little girl... yeah, I'd say he's pretty special! :D
  • b00b0084
    b00b0084 Posts: 729 Member
    My first love, is still my love. Here is my Love story.

    S and C dated for 3 years in high school.
    S and C broke up when they went to universtiy far away from each other
    C always knew S was the one and no other boy ever lived up to her one true love.
    C graduated and began working for a large company many hours away, in a large office building shared with many other companies. C was in a bad relationship and had just broken off an engagement and was selling a house.

    10 years after they last saw each other (and 2 weeks after C broke off the bad relationship) C gets in the elavator at work and guess who is there! Thats right S! He had somehow moved to this far away city and gotten a job in the same office building (different company).

    C and S went for coffee and discovered that not only did they work in the same building but C new appartment was accross the street from S's.

    After dating for two years C and S are still very happy, they bought a house this spring and will love happily ever after.

    This is 100% true, and I am 100% lucky :)

    AWWWW friggen adorable! :heart:
    This is the cutest damn story every :heart: :flowerforyou: :heart:
  • b00b0084
    b00b0084 Posts: 729 Member
    i would say im sorry if i ever saw her again...i was pretty much a **** back then. now i make a point to teach my boys the right way to treat someone.

    I love this response!

    My first "love" was a doll. He was such a sweet boy and grew up to become a really great guy. We were each other's firsts and I was the horrible one that broke HIS heart.
    I actually cried when I tracked him down after my daughter was born and found out he was married. I even sent him an email apologizing for being sucha lil b!tch back then and congratulating him on his marriage. He emailed me back and thanked me for my apology even.
    They recently just had their first child and a small part of me was sad, again....he was the one that got away for me
    that is similar to me and mine. he was in the navy and i was so jealous of the girls he would meet and couldnt handle the constant "we are going dark dont know when we can talk next" situations. i found him 6 years after we ended our 4yr relationship and he is married now. he still talked to me like he did when we were dating, but i told him if he isnt going to leave his wife I cant handle him talking to me like that. I am still in love with him and compare guys to him. :(
  • JulieSD
    JulieSD Posts: 567
    I married my first love. We were together for 10 years, married for almost 5. We aren't together now, but we are close.
  • mznisaelaine
    mznisaelaine Posts: 2,262 Member
    The person that I thought I loved, really loved, broke my heart... So if anything he is placed in the broken part of my heart :( .. When my heart officially heals, I'm hoping for whoever my future love will be, will only have a special place in my heart.

    One day, one day.... :/
  • KaleidoscopeEyes1056
    KaleidoscopeEyes1056 Posts: 2,996 Member
    my first bf was a *kitten*, so no, there is no place in my heart for him.
  • Dreamer1311
    Dreamer1311 Posts: 203 Member
    I say no on my part. My very first bf/love call it whatever doesn't have a special place in my heart and I am glad about it ;)
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    My first love, is still my love. Here is my Love story.

    S and C dated for 3 years in high school.
    S and C broke up when they went to universtiy far away from each other
    C always knew S was the one and no other boy ever lived up to her one true love.
    C graduated and began working for a large company many hours away, in a large office building shared with many other companies. C was in a bad relationship and had just broken off an engagement and was selling a house.

    10 years after they last saw each other (and 2 weeks after C broke off the bad relationship) C gets in the elavator at work and guess who is there! Thats right S! He had somehow moved to this far away city and gotten a job in the same office building (different company).

    C and S went for coffee and discovered that not only did they work in the same building but C new appartment was accross the street from S's.

    After dating for two years C and S are still very happy, they bought a house this spring and will love happily ever after.

    This is 100% true, and I am 100% lucky :)

    You just restored my faith in love a little bit there ;)
  • BeeElMarvin
    BeeElMarvin Posts: 2,086 Member
    No. No feelings. I still see her around once in awhile. Her kid is good friends with my nephew. Come to think of it he looks a lot like m...
    Hey, wait a minute!

    I keed. I keed.
  • Marig0ld
    Marig0ld Posts: 671 Member
    Meh...I'm indifferent about him. When I was with my "first love," I was still learning a lot about myself and still settling for guys that gave me any sort of attention. He's a pretty good guy and we're Facebook friends, but breaking up with him was the best thing that ever happened to me. My current guy is a significant upgrade!
  • woou
    woou Posts: 668 Member
    I can certainly remember the person, but the feelings are actually all gone now.
  • eillamarie
    eillamarie Posts: 862 Member
    I agree with the OP. Your first love (or loves) will always be in the back of your mind. Doesn't matter how old you are or what you've experienced, love is love, and there are many versions/levels of it.

    My high school boyfriends, even tho I felt I loved them at the time, do not hold a special place. Aside from my current boyfriend (who is the love of my life & I would not trade him for any man!), I do have one old boyfriend who I will never forget. He was an exchange student, we talked for hours every night, we were kindered spirits, we just "got" eachother. I cried for hours when he left, we still talk to this day, & I miss him every time I think about him or talk to him. I'm so happy with what he's accomplishing in his life & I'll always regard him as a dear friend.

    Sometimes ppl come into your life & make such a positive mark that you never forget them, and that's ok!
  • MelMoly
    MelMoly Posts: 1,303 Member
    My first love and I are still friends... Im just not his type... ;) hehe
  • irunforfun
    irunforfun Posts: 113 Member
    Unfortunately since we have 3 kids together...yes. I hate him as a person, (ex)husband, and human being but "care" for him because we share 3 children together. Nothing more.
  • Jeff92se
    Jeff92se Posts: 3,369 Member
    Yeah but she her rates went WAY up since then. j/k


    My first ended up being a crazy woman.
  • surfrgrl1
    surfrgrl1 Posts: 1,464 Member
    I remember my first crush, won't say how many moons ago that was, but I've had opportunity to see FB photos of him, and ummm, clearly there are no feelings there any more! :wink:
  • Boy, do I remember my first love, he was so cute, brown curly hair, brown eyes and tall. Oh well, won't tell you he was the first boy I ever kissed. Sweet memories.....Diana
  • Mallory0418
    Mallory0418 Posts: 723 Member
    Thinking about him makes me smile. :smile: I can honestly say he will always have a little piece of my heart. We were perfect, until we weren't anymore. Unfortunately, I did the heart breaking. But we got back in touch with each other and mended the wounds a couple years later. We don't see each other much, but when we do we have a big hug and catch up session. Such sweet memories. :smooched:
  • em9371
    em9371 Posts: 1,047 Member
    mine is now my husband :love: , we met iat school when we were 15, moved in together at 18, got married in 2008 and have been together 15 years next saturday!
  • anikab
    anikab Posts: 150 Member
    I definitely do not still have a place in my heart for my first love. We broke up senior year because his parents told him they only pay for his college education to Texas A&M if he broke up with me, because I'm black and he is white. And he was only on the waiting list but said it was because they were letting all the black people in.
  • beduffbrickie
    beduffbrickie Posts: 642 Member
    ok im gona be the soppy male on here :sad: , first love...... asked her out at school when I was 14 yrs old :blushing: , im now 25, still with her, never broken up yet, not married though and dont have any kids. does play on my mind have I missed out? but she saved me from a horrific childhood.
  • NiciS72
    NiciS72 Posts: 1,043 Member
    Hell no, he doesn't deserve the lying cheating SOB! Nuff said.
  • Mallory0418
    Mallory0418 Posts: 723 Member
    I definitely do not still have a place in my heart for my first love. We broke up senior year because his parents told him they only pay for his college education to Texas A&M if he broke up with me, because I'm black and he is white. And he was only on the waiting list but said it was because they were letting all the black people in.

    Um...can you point me in their direction so I can punch them each in the face?! :mad: :mad: :mad: That is ridiculous! So sorry you had to deal with that!
  • My first real love and first actual relationship would have to be my current boyfriend of almost 6 years! :happy: Met when we were 15 and still together now in our final years of college. It isn't always easy but finding that one person who makes you feel complete and sticks with you through it all is just wonderful!
  • I definitely do not still have a place in my heart for my first love. We broke up senior year because his parents told him they only pay for his college education to Texas A&M if he broke up with me, because I'm black and he is white. And he was only on the waiting list but said it was because they were letting all the black people in.

    wow, i go to Texas A&M. what a racist first love you had! trust me. you gotta be smart to get in and actually graduate from there!
  • liftingbro
    liftingbro Posts: 2,029 Member
    My first love is actually my wife. I dated other women but never truly loved them now that I know what it's like to love somoene romantically.
  • leynak
    leynak Posts: 963 Member
    Well, my first love is my fiance and the father of my children. We've been together for almost 8 years. So, yeah he has and will always have a place in my heart. He's my best friend. :smile:
  • rileamoyer
    rileamoyer Posts: 2,412 Member
    My first REAL love, I dumped. I always considered it a mistake that I could not corret, moves, new loves, spouses etc.. We got reacquainted about 10 years or so ago on the internet and stayed friends till his death. He will always be in my heart.
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