I give up. Gained 3 more pounds.

hbrittingham

I totally understand your frustration.

I did look through your diary. There are many days that you are over (not a horrible thing as long as it's not a daily thing), there are many days you only logged a partial day or didn't log at all for several days in a row. I also noticed you had logged 8 ounces of NY strip as 160 or so calories which is waaaayyy off.

I would say that you might want to take a good look at your diary and make sure you are being honest with yourself. Are you measuring and weighing your foods? Are you reading labels? Are you choosing the right food from the database, or the lowest calorie one?

You can make this work with limited exercise as long as you are being honest with yourself and logging every single thing you eat and the appropriate calories for the foods you are eating.

Good luck. I do totally get what you are going through. I had pretty much decided that I was destined to be fat and couldn't figure out why I couldn't lose weight and it all came down to ME and being accountable to myself.

wickedcricket

can u lose 15 mins of sleep? I feel you. I have a hard time with this too and also really hate the idea of getting up early to exercise.

This is what I do. Set your alarm 15 minutes early. 15 damn minutes. Set out your exercise clothes the night before (some ppl even sleep in them) now I have to walk the dogs & have a bottle of water- but other than that, I get a quick smoothie (I get pre bottled ones from aldi, 70 cals each) and do the 30 day shred. it's 20 minutes. so now you're only 5 minutes behind your regular schedule - I can live with that. AND your workout is out of the way.
Any other exercise you get thru the day is EXTRA! Another great way to sneak in exercise is jogging the stairs. If you have stairs in your house, jog those suckers. Instead of 'consolidating' trips to save steps, run 'em again. You can find correct form & stuff on the internet. Stand up straight, DON'T USE THE BANNISTER, don't drag your self up the steps. Use your glutes - NOT back muscles. You'll be amazed how easy it gets - use your strongest core muscles & LIFT yourself up the stairs. I kick stair butt (I live on the 3rd floor) and amaze my family & friends
You can do this BUT YOU HAVE TO WANT IT. if you have kids, you can do 20 minutes. just bite the damn bullet

CarolAnn0730

First let me say... glad you got to vent - we all need to do it sometimes!!

I'm here to say -- I'm a single mom of 3 kids -- 18, 13 and 10! I work full-time, I manage my sons competitve football team and his select baseball team! We have practice 4 nights a week - between 2 of my kids and games on weekends.

I am the POSTER child of not enough time in the day with all that I chose to take on. I have neglected in my work outs lately due to some stress in my life... but that is a choice I've made. I can't blame my lack of weight loss on "it just not working'! My youngest is having a major kidney surgery this week and I've chosen to focus on getting him through it and not be at the gym... but - most nights for me

It's get to practice - and run / walk the park while they are practicing (even in the cold) or it's get him a ride home so I can find a kick boxing class.

We hold our own destiny in our hands. Everything is a CHOICE! If we want something bad enough - we will find a way to get it. I hope you find what's going to work for you... and you don't give up. That little one needs a healthy mom to set a great example of who to be!

tbrewst

You know... this might be seen as anti-the purpose of MFP, but... perhaps you're right. Maybe you should give up for now. Maybe you should put the diet on hold for now. If your life is too stressful and busy and if you're not mentally ready to make the sacrifices you need to make to lose weight, then maybe it's okay to say "now is not the time".

I agree! You don't have to give up as in the sense of binging on 6 cheeseburgers a day but take a break. I have been trying for 5.5 YEARS to lose 12 lbs! I can get down to within 7 lbs of my goal and then I stop losing, gain a few pounds back, lose them, repeat.. I have now replaced my weight goals with fitness goals and I have noticed that I am making better food choices too. I will actually think, "i need some protein" instead of looking for junk to snack on. At Thanksgiving I could ONLY eat half of a piece of chocolate cake....last year I would have eaten two just for dessert and then had two-three pieces a day until it was gone! I don't eat an entire chick fila sandwich anymore, just nuggets. I know that I am capable of losing the 12 lbs, it's hard and requires long term dedication that sometimes I don't have the will for.

casbar911

I was in the same boat you are.... then I found an awesome dietician that new something was wrong based on my food diary and my exercise logs.... she took a RMR which was way low

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then it progressed to thyroid testing...
TSH was normal... however my antibodies (which should be below 30) ARE 347 !!!!
so we have started a low dosage of thyroid meds..... not an instant fix but in 1 mth I have now lost 6lbs!!! where it took me 3 mths to lose 4lbs - so it could def be your thyroid---- you should be able to lose weight without exercise if you calories are with in the right range..... yes exercise is very healthy for you and should be done but you should be able to lose some weight with diet alone... because it is Calories in vs Calories out..... based on my height and weight I was WAY over estimating what my body could burn off because of the Hashimoto's that I have beed diagnosed with my body cant even burn off 1200 calories without exercise.... so I dont go over 1200 even with exercise now... I do not eat back my exercise calories...

this isn't to say that everyone that cant lose weight has a thyroid issue but it could be an underlaying issue... wont hurt (except the blood draw) to have it looked at.... if you do make sure they do a FREE T3 and a FREE T4 test..... they will know what that is....


good luck and dont give up!!!

rentrikin

I say.. give up, be fat, be unhealthy. This is hard work and if you aren't up to it, then just quit. There are so many on here with busy lives that struggle to fit in time to exercise and they do it. Why? Because they make it a priority, they suck it up when it gets tough and they keep on going. The easy way out is to just whine and give yourself excuses why you can't exercise and eat right. I know this sounds hard but what did you expect when you posted what you did?

CoraGregoryCPA

You don't NEED to exercise at all to lose weight. Set your diary to a "doable" calorie intake like 1500 calories. Really stick to that intake and be very honest in your diary.

You should definitely see some sort of drop-maybe 1/2 lb a week. But it's still something! But you will notice that if you make better food choices (doesn't have to be 100% healthy), that they will keep you satisfied longer. Look at my diary for some ideas. If you aren't going to exercise and want to lose weight, don't go way over your calories like I do sometimes.

Being honest in your diary is key.

jenn_is_trouble

Don't give up! Look at the big picture: It's not only aesthetics, but your helth, which is important for you and your child.

Very well said. This is process and there are going to be ups and downs. You have to remember the reason you started this journey in the first place, pick yourself up and keep going.

BobbyClerici

Quit sniveling, get to work and cease with all the excuses.
With this kind of attitude, you'll die fat.

You are better than that.

Biglovelovesme

I say.. give up, be fat, be unhealthy. This is hard work and if you aren't up to it, then just quit. There are so many on here with busy lives that struggle to fit in time to exercise and they do it. Why? Because they make it a priority, they suck it up when it gets tough and they keep on going. The easy way out is to just whine and give yourself excuses why you can't exercise and eat right. I know this sounds hard but what did you expect when you posted what you did?

I tell you what. I read all the responses to your post thus far and this one spoke to me. I have been a BIG whiner, an excuse maker and a procrastinator (about weight loss) for a trillion years. I would get frustrated at the drop of a hat. I would publicly and privately blame anything and everything as the reason my attempts were not successful. I even convinced myself that I was different than the rest of you. That I was doomed and the cards were somehow stacked against me and my metabolism and I would always be fat. The poster above hit the nail on the head...at least for what I need. If you are at all like me, you need too listen to the message that she is sending, albeit sarcastic, it is a damn good one.

Here's my take now. Only I can do this and only I can determine when the time to do this is right. Only I can mess up, only I can succeed. I am in control and I am responsible for lack of control. I can sleep all day and do nothing or I can sleep 23 hours and spend an hour trying to make my body/heart stronger and healthier. All of these choices are mine. The key word is choice.

By no means am I any type of success story yet. But I will be! With the tough love I get at this site, I am honest with myself and with my friends. You CAN do this!! All of us can and I bet that deep down you know that.

Each piece of advice you got as a response is valuable. Some of my best friends and supports on this site responded to you and I can assure you that they are responding out of pure good will to see you succeed. You need to pull yourself up by your bootstraps, take a look in the mirror and as yourself if you are ready. It is either now or later.....just remember, later you could be that much heavier and it will be that much harder.

Best of luck and stay strong.
:drinker:

Goddess111682

If your not exercising, eat no more than 1300 cal a day-

sunkisses

When you want to make it work, you'll find a way. Enjoy your cheeseburger.
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yspen42

Sister I feel the same way! Last week I didnt gain nor did I lose! This week (today) I get on the scale and I gained 1 pound! I have got to figure what I am doing wrong! I workout at least 5 days a week...everyone says you are gaining muscle! Well I want the scale to go down...LOL

aclark6818

Don't give up!!! I keep gaining & losing the same 3 lbs. You may have some medical/metabolism issue. Talk to your doctor.
:flowerforyou:

lamlam2468

Listen to what the others have told you on this message board. Check with your doctor. If it's motivation you need, please feel free to add me.

haileymiller1025

im right there with you with the busy schedual. i have 3kids 7yr 20 months and 6 months old a house full of animals and a hetic schedual. i started this after my youngest was born weighing in at 179 i managed to get down to 163 with cutting calories got frustrated and took a month break.now i re starting at 168 lbs (fyi im only 5ft so i dont hide the weight well) the way i get my exserzie in is when i go shopping i part half way down the parking lot and carry my two youngest well walking at a comfy speed also at bed time i do a dance with each of my kids with all three of them i usally wine up with 10 mins of dancing and goofing off. is it alot of calories no but i will take every little bit and i dont beat myself up if i miss a day of exserzing

shanolap

I say.. give up, be fat, be unhealthy. This is hard work and if you aren't up to it, then just quit. There are so many on here with busy lives that struggle to fit in time to exercise and they do it. Why? Because they make it a priority, they suck it up when it gets tough and they keep on going. The easy way out is to just whine and give yourself excuses why you can't exercise and eat right. I know this sounds hard but what did you expect when you posted what you did?

I tell you what. I read all the responses to your post thus far and this one spoke to me. I have been a BIG whiner, an excuse maker and a procrastinator (about weight loss) for a trillion years. I would get frustrated at the drop of a hat. I would publicly and privately blame anything and everything as the reason my attempts were not successful. I even convinced myself that I was different than the rest of you. That I was doomed and the cards were somehow stacked against me and my metabolism and I would always be fat. The poster above hit the nail on the head...at least for what I need. If you are at all like me, you need too listen to the message that she is sending, albeit sarcastic, it is a damn good one.

Here's my take now. Only I can do this and only I can determine when the time to do this is right. Only I can mess up, only I can succeed. I am in control and I am responsible for lack of control. I can sleep all day and do nothing or I can sleep 23 hours and spend an hour trying to make my body/heart stronger and healthier. All of these choices are mine. The key word is choice.

By no means am I any type of success story yet. But I will be! With the tough love I get at this site, I am honest with myself and with my friends. You CAN do this!! All of us can and I bet that deep down you know that.

Each piece of advice you got as a response is valuable. Some of my best friends and supports on this site responded to you and I can assure you that they are responding out of pure good will to see you succeed. You need to pull yourself up by your bootstraps, take a look in the mirror and as yourself if you are ready. It is either now or later.....just remember, later you could be that much heavier and it will be that much harder.

Best of luck and stay strong.
:drinker:

All of these choices are mine. The key word is choice. The key word is mine!

_Khaleesi_

When you want to make it work, you'll find a way. Enjoy your cheeseburger.
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/380853-motivational-inspirational-quote-pictures

I couldn't agree with you more.

What do you want from a post like this? We are a weight loss site. You saying, "Screw this," means you are no longer interested in pursuing the goal of the site. So then... why are you hear? What are you waiting to hear?

If I can do this, anyone can do this, and that means you won't get any sympathy from me. If you want it bad enough it'll happen, and you won't ever give up.

agleckle

As of this morning, I am within 5 pounds of the wieght I was at 9 months pregnant in 2007. I give up. No weight loss in a month. I started this at 173. This morning, I'm 177.8. Screw it. I'm getting a cheeseburger for lunch.

Before anyone decides to look at my diary and tell me that I need to exercise, I already know that. I'm extremely busy. "But you have to *make* the time". I know that, too. Again, I'm trying but I'm very busy. I'm not going to cut my sleep by an hour to exercise. I'm not a morning person. At night, I do homework, make dinner, give my girl a bath and get things ready for the next day. After tomorrow, I should be able to find some time because it's the last day of class for the semester. I work full time, school part time and single mom to a 4 yr old.

If you guys only knew how much I've changed my diet since I started this, you would understand my frustration. Going from eating anything and everything to 1100 - 1500 cals a day, I should've seen some results. Can I do better? Yes. But I've made big changes and haven't seen any results. I don't want criticism. I don't want anything but to vent about it. I give up.

If you're not willing to put forth the effort, quit *****ing about gaining weight.

I work 70-80 hrs a week and I still find time to run, eat right and go to the gym.

THIS. The longer you keep looking for pity and excuses, the longer the weight will take to come off.

_Khaleesi_

I say.. give up, be fat, be unhealthy. This is hard work and if you aren't up to it, then just quit. There are so many on here with busy lives that struggle to fit in time to exercise and they do it. Why? Because they make it a priority, they suck it up when it gets tough and they keep on going. The easy way out is to just whine and give yourself excuses why you can't exercise and eat right. I know this sounds hard but what did you expect when you posted what you did?

Also... this poster rocks.

mrsdizzyd84

Might be medical. I agree you should see a doctor...

But I have to say that judging by your post you'd probably use that as yet another excuse for why you "CAN'T" lose weight. Bottom line, you aren't ready to lose the weight. If this were easy everyone would be skinny. You have to put in the work in order to see results.

When you are ready to commit without all the excuses come on back. I'm sure we'll all be glad to help where we can.

Happy holidays!

MrsCon40

I don't want criticism. I don't want anything but to vent about it. I give up.

Ok!

lilac67

Life can get in the way of alot of things we want to do or have to do. I think one of Jillian Michaels's quotes fits here, “I am doing the best I can given what I have today.”. Just do what you can each day and don't beat yourself up, it'll even out in the end.

marigold77

Take a little break... sometimes MFP stresses me out. All the tracking of food / exercise can take its toll. While on your break try to incorporate some of the good habits you learned from MFP... and then return when it feels right to you. You'll know when you're ready to lose weight... you have to do it on your terms.

All the best! XO, M.

Play_outside

When you are ready to try again, try eating more whole foods and fewer processed foods. Increase your fibre and decrease your sodium. Eat more fruits and veggies, you barely have any. The fibre guidelines on this website are too low, healthy is 20-35g/day. There are some great suggestions here from people who are super busy and still fit in time to exercise. My younger sister is also a single mom, she has a toddler (full custody), goes to school full time, works part time, and still manages-she has lost 15lbs, her kid doesn't lack for anything, and she has an A+ average!!! I was also a person who made excuses, no time no time, no time for eating well, no time for exercising regularly, and then one day I said, enough of the excuses, I'm taking control of my life. It feels good when you get there. Good luck!

TDGee

Okay, you vented. Feel a little better? Now Cowboy up and do what you need to do.
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pinkita

Well I'm not going to lecture you about exercise, because people CAN lose weight without exercising. I didn't start exercising myself until about 6 weeks after changing my diet.

I quickly looked over the last several days of your food diary though, and on many days you're consuming a whole lot of sodium, which can really affect the number on the scale. On other days you were over your calorie limit. So those two things alone could be why you've gained, and those things you CAN control.

You could have a greasy cheeseburger, or you can make your own healthier version with a turkey patty, reduced-fat cheese, and some whole wheat bread/hamburger bun.

Best of luck.

mrsdizzyd84

Not to mention, You have your goal set to 1200, but it seems more days than not your go way over that. I even see a couple days you are over by more than 500 calories. Surely, you know you're not going to lose weight at that rate.

Additionally, your sodium numbers are off the charts high. High sodium = extra water weight.

Contrarian

"I'm really gonna do it this time!"

That's from your profile. Make better choices, walk places instead of driving and stop making excuses. At some point, being healthy needs to be more important to you than being unhealthy. When you get to that point, this website will still be here.

Good luck.

_SusieQ_

This will probably not be popular, and may fall under Tough Love, but I wanna say "suck it up sista". Your current weight is my first big goal weight. I realize we all have different struggles and different starting points, but I for me I look at where you are now and I am dying to be THERE.