What makes a relationship work?

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  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    In your opinion what makes a relationship work? Say two people really love each other-but have lots against them...

    Does love conquer all barriers? Or does it take more?

    I am personally leaning towards both people (in love) will make anything work until they decided not to.

    Thoughts?
    :heart:

    Respect, friendship, love, communication (not necessarily in that order).
  • kenzietea
    kenzietea Posts: 614 Member
    Security. Being secure in yourself, and your partner- along with providing the tools for your partner to feel secure.

    And many of the other things people have already mentioned ^_^
  • kenzietea
    kenzietea Posts: 614 Member
    triple post! ah! lol
  • kenzietea
    kenzietea Posts: 614 Member
    oops, double post!
  • Debbe2
    Debbe2 Posts: 2,071 Member
    Marriage or a committed relationship is wonderful but it is hard work too! Worth everything that goes into it. Lots against you as you say... depends. Maybe at least you know what difficulties lie ahead and can see how comfortably the two of you will "conquer all". BTW, my husband and I are married 28 and 1/2 years- I'm speaking from experience here :love:
  • CiciPorcayo
    CiciPorcayo Posts: 380 Member
    I just really think that what makes a relationship work. is trust, honesty, love, to be caring, suportive and understanding more then anything. We are only human we make mistakes sometimes big sometimes small.. but if we do what we say we will, what we swear we will in vows... Sickness and in Health, Good and Bad, for better or for worse... til death do you part ;) definetly think thats what keeps you together...
  • chanstriste13
    chanstriste13 Posts: 3,277 Member
    being nice to each other.
  • Hambone23
    Hambone23 Posts: 486 Member
    This is my absolute favorite quote about relationships. It was written by Anne Morrow Lindberg in Gift from the Sea:

    “When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity - in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.

    The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits - islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides.”
  • MadeInDR022
    MadeInDR022 Posts: 260
    I just got a tattoo on my bicep that says this:

    "You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly"!

    This to me is the key to all relationships!


    Exactly!
  • Rikki444
    Rikki444 Posts: 326 Member
    Well, this is an excellent question. A loaded one!

    Love does conquer all, but often we forget that we need to love Self first in order to love another. Chew on that.

    Perfection should never be required or expected of/from you. Ignore every romantic comedy you have ever watched.

    Men have one basic need..... that is to know that they have what it takes to be your champion.... and women have one basic need.... to know that they are lovely/beautiful..... when you satisfy this need, your relationship works.

    The goal in relationship is to provide your loved one the opportunity to be the best version that they hold of themselves not the best version you imagine they should be. You should also be provided with that opportunity.
  • Fairysoul
    Fairysoul Posts: 1,361 Member
    Love is definately a big part of it, but also communication is key, you must be honest with eachother and tell eachother everything, no secrets no matter what.
  • fudgebudget
    fudgebudget Posts: 198 Member
    It's a lot of work, but it's worth it. You have to take the time to understand each other's communication styles (because you can talk all day and not really understand each other if you haven't taken the time to decode), then you have to communicate BEFORE an issue becomes a _big_ issue.

    Physical attraction is of course part of it, too. And, I know I could never stay with someone who didn't make me laugh.
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