Huge Mistake or not?

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  • dlcam61
    dlcam61 Posts: 228 Member
    I don't usually reply to non MFP posts, but here's my 2 cents. Damage is done. Now you two need to sit down & have a really serious conversation. Be honest, because it won't do you or your friendship any good not to be honest. It will remain awkward until you talk about it. Don't be childish and play the waiting game. Like you said, inept teenagers do that. You are a grown woman, take control of the situation and ask him to dinner/lunch/coffee/whatever it is you usually do. And be to the point. Otherwise you are no better a friend than he is if you can't just say what's on your mind & get it out in the open.

    Hope you have a Happy New Year! :flowerforyou:
  • LuciaLongIsland
    LuciaLongIsland Posts: 815 Member
    Run like hell and don't look back. HTH! :drinker:

    This is what I was thinking, but instead I just texted him and invited him for drinks tonight. :wink:

    Good idea!!! I am old fashioned. I would not call him. If he wants to maintain the friendship or pursue more, let him call you. Let him be the man. I think you will look desperate if you call.
  • Raebug123
    Raebug123 Posts: 79 Member
    I agree with the rest definitely call him. Its possible that he feels the same way but didn't know how to proceed and the drinks just helped, BUT you must prepare yourself for the fact that it may have just been "drunken fun". Either way good luck.
  • LMHinson15
    LMHinson15 Posts: 201 Member
    Run like hell and don't look back. HTH! :drinker:

    This is what I was thinking, but instead I just texted him and invited him for drinks tonight. :wink:

    I really hope he responds positively and that you can have a great "air-clearing" conversation!! Deep breaths until then!!
  • TNAJackson
    TNAJackson Posts: 686 Member
    Run like hell and don't look back. HTH! :drinker:

    This is what I was thinking, but instead I just texted him and invited him for drinks tonight. :wink:

    Did he text you back? If he goes for drinks, I would think he is into you for real.

    Yeah, did he text you back?!?
  • Debbe2
    Debbe2 Posts: 2,071 Member
    This is what I was thinking, but instead I just texted him and invited him for drinks tonight. :wink:
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    Didn't read this before my previous response!! This is so exciting! Can't wait for the outcome.... remember he said "I love you"
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    Once you've exchanged bodily fluids with a friend, the best way to recover is to just keep on being friends. Unless the sex was particularly awkward. Then you keep on being friends, but crack jokes about that time you guys got drunk and he finished on your eyebrow.
  • Lsqueezy
    Lsqueezy Posts: 128
    Run like hell and don't look back. HTH! :drinker:

    This is what I was thinking, but instead I just texted him and invited him for drinks tonight. :wink:

    Did he text you back? If he goes for drinks, I would think he is into you for real.

    Yeah, we're meeting for dinner tonight. I guess I'll know then.
  • killagb
    killagb Posts: 3,280 Member
    This is what I was thinking, but instead I just texted him and invited him for drinks tonight. :wink:

    Didn't read this before my previous response!! This is so exciting! Can't wait for the outcome.... remember he said "I love you"
    Remember "drunken sex".
  • oberon0124
    oberon0124 Posts: 10,524 Member
    Do what your heart tells you to do!! Follow it, it usually is right!!
  • Lizzy_Sunflower
    Lizzy_Sunflower Posts: 1,510 Member
    ...I just texted him and invited him for drinks tonight. :wink:
    I saw this on Cinemax last night!

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    Best. Answer. Ever.
  • scs143
    scs143 Posts: 2,190 Member
    Run like hell and don't look back. HTH! :drinker:

    This is what I was thinking, but instead I just texted him and invited him for drinks tonight. :wink:

    Did he text you back? If he goes for drinks, I would think he is into you for real.

    Yeah, we're meeting for dinner tonight. I guess I'll know then.

    Good. I think that's a good sign. Have fun!
  • rpphillip
    rpphillip Posts: 230 Member
    You can`t change the past,be yourself and go on.
    Tell him how you feel and be willing to accept whatever happens. :flowerforyou:



    I think this is the right thing to do! He is probable feeling the same way, if it was just something that happen because you to where drinking then you can clear the air , :bigsmile: and if it was the start of something more then that is great!
  • CaptainGordo
    CaptainGordo Posts: 4,437 Member
    Didn't read this before my previous response!! This is so exciting! Can't wait for the outcome.... remember he said "I love you"
    Remember "drunken sex".
    Yeah. If you can't remember saying it, it doesn't count.
  • BeautifulScarsWECHANGED
    BeautifulScarsWECHANGED Posts: 749 Member
    Was it everything you'd hoped for....and more?? :laugh:

    Seriously, it would be a shame to actually cross the line and then be dissapointed.
  • CaptainGordo
    CaptainGordo Posts: 4,437 Member
    Yeah, we're meeting for dinner tonight. I guess I'll know then.
    Sweet! Looking forward to a pic-heavy thread in the "Success Stories" forum in the morning! :drinker:
  • seehawkmomma
    seehawkmomma Posts: 815
    I think you should be as awkward as possible.

    Dont call, dont write, and make a "your mom" reference if he does call.

    Oh yeah, to really ensure awkwardness make sure to reference the size of his tool set.




    Okay so seriously This is what I would do.

    Step One: Send text "Well, blah blah blah *insert inside joke here" Btw i'd love to go out, maybe grab some drinks this week. You down?"
    Step Two: When you meet up with him dont act any differently. Get comfortable and than say something like "So about the other night....I like you".....maybe not really like that. But along those lines.
    Step Three: DONT GO HOME WITH HIM THAT NIGHT. Regardless of the answer. DONT.
    Step Four: Let him take you out on a real date.

    I would think if you were friends and he slept with you he could be into you. My gut says he's into you and probably just as freaked out as you are :)
  • seehawkmomma
    seehawkmomma Posts: 815
    I think you should be as awkward as possible.

    Dont call, dont write, and make a "your mom" reference if he does call.

    Oh yeah, to really ensure awkwardness make sure to reference the size of his tool set.




    Okay so seriously This is what I would do.

    Step One: Send text "Well, blah blah blah *insert inside joke here" Btw i'd love to go out, maybe grab some drinks this week. You down?"
    Step Two: When you meet up with him dont act any differently. Get comfortable and than say something like "So about the other night....I like you".....maybe not really like that. But along those lines.
    Step Three: DONT GO HOME WITH HIM THAT NIGHT. Regardless of the answer. DONT.
    Step Four: Let him take you out on a real date.

    I would think if you were friends and he slept with you he could be into you. My gut says he's into you and probably just as freaked out as you are :)
  • Lsqueezy
    Lsqueezy Posts: 128
    Thanks for the advice. I totally needed someone to virtually b*tch slap me and tell me I was being an adolescent and to put my big girl panties on and suck it up. It is what it is.
  • CaptainGordo
    CaptainGordo Posts: 4,437 Member
    Thanks for the advice. I totally needed someone to virtually b*tch slap me and tell me I was being an adolescent and to put my big girl panties on and suck it up. It is what it is.
    Heh.
  • PandaofDestruction
    PandaofDestruction Posts: 114
    Didn't read this before my previous response!! This is so exciting! Can't wait for the outcome.... remember he said "I love you"
    Remember "drunken sex".
    Yeah. If you can't remember saying it, it doesn't count.

    Don't start drinking until you talk first! :)
  • gatorflyer
    gatorflyer Posts: 536 Member
    You know, it's entirely possible that he's having similar feelings and not knowing what to do or what to say. So, someone needs to take the first step and open up the dialogue and talk about it. Whatever the outcome, it's better to know and move forward than to wonder. The waiting really is the hardest part, and often the "not knowing" leads you to guessing, second guessing and jumping to the wrong conclusions. SO, call him.
  • BeautifulScarsWECHANGED
    BeautifulScarsWECHANGED Posts: 749 Member
    Didn't read this before my previous response!! This is so exciting! Can't wait for the outcome.... remember he said "I love you"
    Remember "drunken sex".
    Yeah. If you can't remember saying it, it doesn't count.

    This. Also, I tell everyone I love them when I'm drunk. :laugh:
  • BEERRUNNER
    BEERRUNNER Posts: 3,046 Member
    Hell yeah hes gonna meet up again!!! Good times ahead for ma dawg!! He is thinking"ima tap that again!"

    He is thinkin "Friends with Benefits" Hell yeah!:devil:
  • Lsqueezy
    Lsqueezy Posts: 128
    Hell yeah hes gonna meet up again!!! Good times ahead for ma dawg!! He is thinking"ima tap that again!"

    He is thinkin "Friends with Benefits" Hell yeah!:devil:

    I do need some extra help with my cardio. :smile:
  • killagb
    killagb Posts: 3,280 Member
    Hell yeah hes gonna meet up again!!! Good times ahead for ma dawg!! He is thinking"ima tap that again!"

    He is thinkin "Friends with Benefits" Hell yeah!:devil:

    I do need some extra help with my cardio. :smile:
    Flash forward to awkward break up and loss of friend when it gets 'weird'. :drinker:
  • Meggles63
    Meggles63 Posts: 916 Member
    Bump - lol....I want to see how this ends up :drinker:
  • BEERRUNNER
    BEERRUNNER Posts: 3,046 Member
    Hell yeah hes gonna meet up again!!! Good times ahead for ma dawg!! He is thinking"ima tap that again!"

    He is thinkin "Friends with Benefits" Hell yeah!:devil:

    I do need some extra help with my cardio. :smile:

    Ohhhh so I think you want a little action too.............Oh then im sure it will be all good! IF AND I SAY A BIG IFFFFF you guys keep at that and you dont get too attached and start using the word"LOVE" this MIGHT work..............

    Hell yeah Booty calls ahead!!!!:devil:
  • MaximalLife
    MaximalLife Posts: 2,447 Member
    So I don't usually post on here unless it's strictly fun stuff, but I have a serious dilemma. On Christmas a good friend and I had a lot of drinks. We were feeling particularly affectionate and hugging and he says he loves me. Great, I love him too. Many drinks later we went home together. The next day was a little weird, but we just kind of went back to friend mode when he took me to my car for the walk of shame.

    The dilemma here is that I really do like him. Did I already ruin it by sleeping with him?

    Oh and I haven't heard from him since. Ugh. What do I do now? I feel like a socially inept teenager. In the past boyfriends have been boyfriends and friends who are boys just friends. I've never blurred the line before.
    The "friendship" is over.

    What happens next is up to you both. It's hard for reasonably attractive men and women to ever be "just friends" and not get the hots for one another at some point. Neither me nor my wife have any friends of the opposite sex.

    We know better, and now you do too.
    At this point you have nothing to lose; call him.
  • killagb
    killagb Posts: 3,280 Member
    Bump - lol....I want to see how this ends up :drinker:
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