The rudest thing anyone said to you about your weight?

Lozzy_82

The rudest thing wasn't even to my face ... a "friend" said it behind my back, and another "friend" told me about it. Honestly, I wish I'd never heard it.

I was taking a self-defense class in college, you know, the kind where you learn to fight off attackers? One of my supposed guy friends said to one of my other supposed friends, "Why is she taking that? She's, like, unrapeable."

I'm not friends with either of these people anymore.

That's got to be the worst so far. What a vile thing to say!

dargytaylor

when I was a teenager, I was extremely skinny for my height (110 pounds if I was lucky, 5'8"). I was not this skinny because of lack of eating. The way i ate I should have weighed 210. I had a very high metabolism and just plain did not gain weight.

anyways, I had a total stranger come up to me in a store and ask if I need help with my anorexia! I realize she was trying to help, BUT skinny comments beleive it or not are just as bad as over weight ones. I have too many to count. I was teased alot for my weight.

my principle in high school also called a meeting with my parents to discuss my weight! again, trying to help.....but I bet none of the overweight kids parents were called back in the eighties.

MissMisery1313

I was at a wedding a couple years back. I felt good about myself and I was also 22 lbs lighter than I am now. Had on a cute sun dress and was asked by the bride when I was due. I was so hurt. My husband and I left the wedding right away and we no longer speak to them.

Unless you actually see the baby coming out, NEVER ask a woman if she's pregnant or when she's due.

elusivezero

my fiance's mother said to me that i'd be just as beautiful as my fiance's ex if i lost weight.
she's obsessed with weight - and yeah, she's been slim all her life and she probably felt that it was all she had going for her.
was she being mean? i don't know. but i was steaming mad.

i'm damn beutiful already. we all are. it's all about attitude.

elusivezero

The rudest thing wasn't even to my face ... a "friend" said it behind my back, and another "friend" told me about it. Honestly, I wish I'd never heard it.

I was taking a self-defense class in college, you know, the kind where you learn to fight off attackers? One of my supposed guy friends said to one of my other supposed friends, "Why is she taking that? She's, like, unrapeable."

I'm not friends with either of these people anymore.

That's got to be the worst so far. What a vile thing to say!

I'd say! Some people don't even realise what rubbish comes out of their mouths.

richmondcowgirl

heard this said about a friend and so glad she didn't hear it cause her skins not as think as mine and I turned off by it. A guy at an event wanted someone to practice on and someone suggested her cause she's always willing to help.... his words "I don't play with animals and she's a cow"

Nattiejean57

One time I was standing outside and some kids drove past me and yelled "slimfast" nice right? Also this guys I worked with had a girlfriend from my home town and he was explaining to me that he was explaining to her what I looked out so she could figure out who I was and he told her I was bigger. I got a job once and they kept all the resumes on file, I looked at mine and on the back it said "very pretty, well put together a little on the bigger side" I quit that day.

I also had an abusive ex who called me a fat cow every chance he got but he was just a jerk in general.

kbeller88

frI've always been chubby and big, I'm a red head so it was even " better",

Big-Red Truck.
Rotten Tomatoe
Red headed bomber
Beached Whale
Heffer
Young and pregnant how sad = I was 14 and still a virgin..

The worst thing that has ever happened me was I was going through the drive-thru at McDonalds and was getting a salad with some water but the guys in front of me (who seemed to be drunk) started yelling things out the window like

"fatty needs another cheese burger,
Hurry go so she doesn't eat our food,
You don't need a burger you need liposuction
Slimfast B*tch!"

:sad:
when I got to the window I was so embarrassed I told the girl to cancel the order and give me my money back. I have never cried so hard in my life, and I was pregnant at the time so I couldn't really diet.

Hoakiebs

My wife told me I repulsed her. The most embarrassing was when my 3 year old daughter used to call me fat like George, the daddy in the cartoon Peppa Pig.

serendipity22

I was having dinner with a group of friends and a new girl who I didn't know but was in a class with one of my friends. When we opened our menus, she looked me up and down and said "Well, I'll save room for dessert. Obviously, your going to have dessert." She continued to make rude offhand comments about me the whole meal. The thing is that she was wrong. I'm a very slow eater who always eats a small amount of food and gets a doggie bag for the rest. I almost never get dessert because I don't really like most desserts. I think she thought that since all of my friends were thin that it was okay to say mean things about my weight. She was dumped pretty quickly by my friends.

I also had a woman say to me "You would be so pretty if you just lost the weight". I think I'm quite pretty now. Yes, I will lose weight and gain muscle but I will still be the same person inside.

My mom is always putting down overweight people. She will whisper "look what that girl is eating" or "oh my, she is so chunky. It really isn't healthy." I think it is her passive aggressive way of telling me I need to lose weight.

The waiter at a sandwich shop my thin friend and I frequent always bring out my veggie sandwich with carrot stick side and gives it to my friend and me the cheeseburger and fries.

kbeller88

My wife told me I repulsed her. The most embarrassing was when my 3 year old daughter used to call me fat like George, the daddy in the cartoon Peppa Pig.

Not to be rude but I would die if my husband ever told me that...I mean my husband drops subtle hints here and there like we "both" could lose about 50 lbs, or would you like to start a diet together...We're both overwieght yes but we are also big built, meaning we dont' look as much as we really wiegh but hes constantly telling me how proud he is and hes glad I'm doing something about it finally...one day we will talk about how it makes both of us feel with our "past" wieght issues, but until then I'm going to support him and hes going to support me..

AlmstHvn

I hadn't seen my mom in nearly a year and had put on several pounds. Then I spent a few days with her. I got my plate ready for dinner (normal sized portions) and she looked at it, and me, and with surprise said, "Oh! You don't really eat that much, do you!" ... like she was shocked I didn't have a trough piled to the ceiling and a shovel to cram it all in. "I sit at a desk all day and on the couch all night, Mom, I don't eat any different than I used to."

Ever see that tv show "Golden Girls"? I think the Mom was based on my mom - completely unable to self-edit what comes out her mouth!!!

You can also see why so many months had passed between visits to my mom. Why subject myself to that stuff too often, you know?

zoodalia

At a party, in front of everyone, my boyfriend's friend asked if I was wearing a bodysuit to 'hold the fat in'. MORTIFIED.

supertempdonna

I didn't get the pregnant one but I got this when my best friend was pregnant:

"Are you sure you aren't pregnant too Emma? You're piling on the weight at the same rate she is..."

Accompanied with a pat to my belly.

Bloomsday

People at work, whom I report to, tell me outright that my career would go better if I did something about my weight.

So frustrating and humiliating considering that my weight gain has been a result of illness and meds.

Psyb3r

I've had the pregnant comments before, but the worst was when my Father-in-Law asked me if there was something I needed to tell them. I completely missed what he meant, until my husband told me he wanted to know if I was pregnant! That was awful.

I've also had my mom call me and ask me how the "diet" was going, even when she knew that I wasn't dieting (this was way before MFP).

And I agree that sometimes it isn't what people say so much as how they look at you. You can almost hear the disgust in their thoughts.

But we're all on here for a reason, and we can show them all how wrong they were!

JOEYJACKMOM

A long time ago, a friend once said to me, "you're not THAT fat, you just look really fat because you have big boobs." I responded with, "you're not THAT stupid, you just seem really stupid because you say such stupid stuff."

elimendoza31

The rudest comment that i have been told is...( you have such a beautiful face shame that your fat..) that hurt...but made me a stronger person...

dobarber

My wife and I went to wedding and we were getting ready to go to our car. My brother and I were talking and joking about the buffet they were having there and he said "I bet they're gonna be scared when you get there and see your fat *kitten* walk up with a plate." He didn't just say it quietly. He said it in front of everyone and loudly so everyone in the area could hear it including my kids. I got apologies for that from everyone who heard that but have never heard anything from him. We haven't spoken since. On the bright side I know how much he weighs and will be lower than him in 50 more pounds. He's at 245 right now and I'll be 240 and getting lower. We'll see who the Fat *kitten* will be then! Sorry for the bitterness but he pissed me off and pissed my wife off.

netsirk12

My wife and I went to wedding and we were getting ready to go to our car. My brother and I were talking and joking about the buffet they were having there and he said "I bet they're gonna be scared when you get there and see your fat *kitten* walk up with a plate." He didn't just say it quietly. He said it in front of everyone and loudly so everyone in the area could hear it including my kids. I got apologies for that from everyone who heard that but have never heard anything from him. We haven't spoken since. On the bright side I know how much he weighs and will be lower than him in 50 more pounds. He's at 245 right now and I'll be 240 and getting lower. We'll see who the Fat *kitten* will be then! Sorry for the bitterness but he pissed me off and pissed my wife off.

That is horrible. Family saying things is the worst. When I was my lowest 170 I was told I needed to eat something because I looked gross by my family though I was still over weight. Now after losing 23 lbs (much more to go) My sister said "23 lbs, so what! your still fat!" Nothing is harder than an unsuportive family. Thats why I love MFP so much.
Did you ever say anything to him about it? I hope you do someday and prove to him how much of a ****bag he is. I havnt said anything to my fam yet but the next time it happens I sure will. My family is all obese and should be the last people telling me how I should look and what I should eat. Everyone has their battles and I think it is wrong to make fun of them about it. It is one thing if he came to you concerned and willing to offer help but ugh some people are dirtbags!!!!

castadiva

I thought the preggo thing only happened in movies or telly :S

I remember back in grade school, some girl got my attention and called me over to her friends and boyfriend, she asked why i was such a lazy P.O.S. and called me fat turd. I think this was 6th grade? I punched her boyfriend and called her miserable trollop. I think that was the first time i punched a dude too.
I was pretty fat and lazy back then, but still

But you had a great vocabulary!

dobarber

@netsirk12: Yeah we haven't had a good relationship for a while and my brother always picks at me about being fat and ugly and that he's the better looking one(even though he's nasty looking, smells bad and extremely unhealthy looking and no I don't bring those things up to him because I don't want to sink to his level) and I just stand there and take his abuse knowing that you can't mold s%^t into a diamond and you can't turn stupid into an einstein. This abuse has been going on for years so I don't even bother with it anymore. I have come to terms with the fact that he's an a-hole that will never change.

rachcamp88

a friend of mine told me: 'you're not fat, you're just round and bubbly'

Kirkajuice

My ex-wife sang a little ditty:

"Butterball, butterball,
Daddy is a butterball,
Yellow rolls of far and all,
Oh, Daddy is a butterball."

... teaching my then-5 and -7 year-old sons to sing along. (I was wearing a yellow shirt, thus the yellow rolls of fat.)


Easily the worst thing anyone's said.

That was cruel, only a horrible person would sing that, let alone teach it to children!

jenlb99

My ex father in law told the whole family the reason his mother (my grandmother in law? lol) got a new bathtub was because I broke it. How the hell does one break a bathtub?!

I was at my heaviest of 245 or so at the time, but still -- total ****. That man hated me something fierce, and I'll never know (or care) why.

clkuchtyn

I knew this guy for a really long time. Finally we hung out one night. We ended up making out, etc. After awhile we were chatting (and drinking) and he told me that I was pretty, but I'd be WAY hotter if I lost some weight. Seriously! Are you kidding me?! We've been making out for like an hour and I know you're kinda drunk but, SERIOUSLY! Worst part about it was, I was like "Ya, I should really start working out more". That is how great my self esteem was, because I knew I did have some extra weight to lose. I had overlooked that being "hot" and attractive doesn't always equate to what you're scale says. This was over 10 years ago. If it were to happen today I'd probably throw a drink on him and tell him everything that I am besides skinny. I'm smart, funny, outgoing, and honestly pretty hot regardless of the scale. Oh ya, then he wanted to date me! what a jerk!

stetienne

I told someone I shaved my beard because I was tired of looking at the gray whiskers. To which he replied, "yeah, but now you can't hide that double-chin." I rejoined MFP that afternoon.

AnnieSPAJ

While I was in early pregnancy I got lots of comments about how swollen I must have been in my ankles. The sad thing is I WASNT swollen, my ankles were their normal pre-pregnant size I always felt I had nice looking ankles but once anyone knew I was pregnant it was like I was open to criticism about normal pregnancy woes.

When I was 6 weeks pregnant my roommate said, "Wow you're already showing!! How sweet!"

I didn't start showing until I was 18 weeks pregnant...

I've only heard comments while pregnant. I never had any issues with my weight until pregnancy and now, 10 weeks postpartum.

I told my job as soon as i found out I was pregnant. I was 5 weeks and a little overweight but also blessed with a potbelly. I had one woman tell me that she already knew because I was showing. I told her, no I'm not, I just have a gut. And she proceeded to argue with me about it. And yeah, people really did think they could comment on whatever they wanted after that. Most of my pregnancy I was right on track with my weight gain, but I'm 5' tall, people couldn't comprehend that it just looked like more because of my height.

Jadesfattorment

I was at the store and some chick around my age (I'm 19.) Who was really and I mean really skinny looks at her friend, points to me and says "Look at the rolls on that one, she is so fat!" and they both giggled of corse. Right as my eyes started to tear up I darted to my car and went home, it really is what got me on this site.

abigailm83

The most recent came while looking through pictures of my kids with my ex-husband and his fiance. As a picture came up of my son and I she asked "who is that?" I looked at her and answered thats me and said oh I didn't reconize you. Of course she is like the size of my theigh lol She didn't stop there though she continued to say how my neck looked much longer in the pictures. I wanted to throw her out of my house but it was christmas. The other occasion that comes to mind is when I was in target with my daughter who at the time was not quite a week old and the dumb lil cashier asked if I had just had a baby. I looked at her and then look at the carseat in my cart and replied yes. She couldn't actually see my daughter in the carseat but then said oh I didn't know if you were pregnant again. I really wanted to say some un-nice things to her lol