guys drive me nuts

acasey0123

so on new years eve I met a guy at a party and we were texting (usually when he was drunk) for a couple days after that. I havent heard from him since Thursday. I really want him to come to another one of the parties hosted in my apartment but I feel like I should wait until he texts me next since I dont wanna seem desperate also I texted him something early-last night and no response

Why do guys have to be pains- I thought he was great since he texted me (even though he was drunk but still) but then all of a sudden he stopped

EDITED: we did hookup and some of his texts were on how he wished we lived closer

liftingheavy

Hi Sister,

He may have been into a hookup, and that is not what you do. If this is what you wanted, do not be shy about saying so.

But be safe.

ket_the_jet

Here's a hint: If you are hosting a party, it's not coming on too strong to invite him.

Unless he shows up and it's just you, he, and thirty-nine lit candles.
-wtk

RahBuhBuh

As I tell all of my teen girls, "Guys are doo doo butts". I don't have a better explanation.

Rayman79

I'm not really seeing how he's driving you nuts, the only thing you have a problem with is the fact that he hasn't replied to ONE of your texts... The rest, sadly, is in your head.

And they say men drive people nuts... if you want him to come to the party, invite him. If he says no thanks or doesnt respond then you know where you stand. No need for neuroticism here.

cobracars

Perhaps he is more sincere when he's been drinking. Life is like an amusement park, there's all kinds of rides. If you prefer the roller coaster that is dating a drinker, then enjoy the ride! If you want something more steady like the merry-go-round, he may not be the type for you.

_snw_

sucks he didn't respond. But as I got a little older, i made a rule for myself - if he stops calling/texting, then so do I. I would have sent him a message like you did, but if I didn't hear back, I'm not going to be chasing some guy who doesn't want to call me. I never really saw the point in that - i certainly didn't want to end up with a half assed boyfriend who didn't want to talk to me.

move on - find another. :glasses:

AllanMisner

Never take the first impression of men, or even the second one seriously. Only invite him to your party if you want him there. If it is meant to be, he'll show and be cool going forward. If not, let it go.

acasey0123

As I tell all of my teen girls, "Guys are doo doo butts". I don't have a better explanation.

hahaha TOO funny!!!

christine24t

Honestly, if he hasn't been that active on the texting part of it, I wouldn't even invite him. Maybe it's just because I watched He's Just Not That Into You, but I think if a guy's not texting you back, he probably doesn't like you that much. Sorry if that's harsh. But if I like a guy and he texts me, I'm all over it.

kaswain

Unless he shows up and it's just you, he, and thirty-nine lit candles.
-wtk

BAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Could you imagine the look on his face if this is what he walked into!?!

b0t23

guys typically pursue but they want a response
so maybe now he is waiting to get a sign from YOU

Carl01

To break it down into matter of fact terms.

You met 11 days ago,at least he was intoxicated (you did not mention if you were ot not) and at some point you had sex of some nature.
For a little while he maintained contact but now that has waned.
You now are upset because he has seemingly lost interest in things.

First off I know man bashing has become something of a past time but honestly neither of you has a real place to stand as far as accusing one or the other of mis deeds.It was a tenuous relationship at best.
You are more emotionally invested then he is...I don`t see how that is his fault.

Bottom line is that if it is important to you then either call or text,tell him about the party,invite him to it and if he says no or doesn`t respond then accept what is and move on.
Yes,in a perfect world it would not be polite of him to ignore you without an answer but we don`t live in a perfect world and often that happens when a person is in that situation,have had it happen to me so it is not an exclusive man or woman thing but a human reaction.

happyhiram

To break it down into matter of fact terms.

You met 11 days ago,at least he was intoxicated (you did not mention if you were ot not) and at some point you had sex of some nature.
For a little while he maintained contact but now that has waned.
You now are upset because he has seemingly lost interest in things.

First off I know man bashing has become something of a past time but honestly neither of you has a real place to stand as far as accusing one or the other of mis deeds.It was a tenuous relationship at best.
You are more emotionally invested then he is...I don`t see how that is his fault.

Bottom line is that if it is important to you then either call or text,tell him about the party,invite him to it and if he says no or doesn`t respond then accept what is and move on.
Yes,in a perfect world it would not be polite of him to ignore you without an answer but we don`t live in a perfect world and often that happens when a person is in that situation,have had it happen to me so it is not an exclusive man or woman thing but a human reaction.

Pretty much this.

You sir, you are a smart man.

TimWilkinson101

On a different forum (computer game related) I see lots of very similar posts but from the opposite perspective. In those, a guy is waiting for a girl he met to reply to his tect and is wondering if its not been too soon or if he should send another or whatever.

It sounds like he doesnt want to see you anymore and is too impolite / chicken / lazy to actually tell you this. It "may" be that he's misplaced his phone or been on business or something like that in which case, he might text you soon. I guess it depends on what he last texted to you and what you last texted to him. However, I'd view the fact that he is texting mostly when drunk as a not exactly positive sign.

MaximalLife

so on new years eve I met a guy at a party and we were texting (usually when he was drunk) for a couple days after that. I havent heard from him since Thursday. I really want him to come to another one of the parties hosted in my apartment but I feel like I should wait until he texts me next since I dont wanna seem desperate also I texted him something early-last night and no response

Why do guys have to be pains- I thought he was great since he texted me (even though he was drunk but still) but then all of a sudden he stopped

EDITED: we did hookup and some of his texts were on how he wished we lived closer

Sounds like a match made in heaven.
The "hook up", drunk texting.

And then you wonder .....

MaximalLife

On a different forum (computer game related) I see lots of very similar posts but from the opposite perspective. In those, a guy is waiting for a girl he met to reply to his tect and is wondering if its not been too soon or if he should send another or whatever.

It sounds like he doesnt want to see you anymore and is too impolite / chicken / lazy to actually tell you this. It "may" be that he's misplaced his phone or been on business or something like that in which case, he might text you soon. I guess it depends on what he last texted to you and what you last texted to him. However, I'd view the fact that he is texting mostly when drunk as a not exactly positive sign.

Maybe he wasn't drunk enough....lol

BellydanceBliss

i have to remember that one lol....

BellydanceBliss

that was response to guys are doo doo butts

trudy45

I wouldnt bother tbh! I have found with my bf who i have now been going out with for 4 years.
He actually made an effort and done the chasing, so if he really likes you , he will chase you and I found that out after about 3 years of not being chased haha!

Trudy x

TheDoctor90

Wow a guy doesn't reply to one texts and we're all animals, *kitten*, theworstpeopleintheworld.
Instead of playing mind games, why not just text an invite to your party...

BrettPGH

Wow a guy doesn't reply to one texts and we're all animals, *kitten*, theworstpeopleintheworld.
Instead of playing mind games, why not just text an invite to your party...

Because women are irrational monsters.

JennaM222

I wouldnt bother tbh! I have found with my bf who i have now been going out with for 4 years.
He actually made an effort and done the chasing, so if he really likes you , he will chase you and I found that out after about 3 years of not being chased haha!

Trudy x

This. The best thing Ihave EVER done for my "love life" is read, "He's just not that in to You". A guy who only texts you when he is drinking just wants a booty call. Period.

ajball90

sucks he didn't respond. But as I got a little older, i made a rule for myself - if he stops calling/texting, then so do I. I would have sent him a message like you did, but if I didn't hear back, I'm not going to be chasing some guy who doesn't want to call me. I never really saw the point in that - i certainly didn't want to end up with a half assed boyfriend who didn't want to talk to me.

move on - find another. :glasses:

This ^ made that mistake once, never again

FlyEaglesGuy

Sorry to say,but it sounds like he is just looking for someone to text when he is drunk and feeling frisky. He just wants someone to feed his ego!

Invite him, if he comes early and shows interest then he might have potential , if he comes late he might be hoping that you are drunk by then and just want a hookup!

Sorry that just the way it is.

If a man is interested, he will always respond to your text. If not then he may just be a boy playing games.

Scoobies100

Honestly, if he hasn't been that active on the texting part of it, I wouldn't even invite him. Maybe it's just because I watched He's Just Not That Into You, but I think if a guy's not texting you back, he probably doesn't like you that much. Sorry if that's harsh. But if I like a guy and he texts me, I'm all over it.

Couldn't have put it better myself

santamommy

My son said that if he only comes around and text when drunk you don't want to waste your time on him...no response from him now is a clear answer....he is not interested.

12skipafew99100

She didn't say she had sex with him.:noway: Why did you say that?

CrazyDaisysMommy

I used to live with 6 guys (we were all in our early 30s or late 20s), and it was probably the best research opportunity a woman could ever have. When a guy I was interested in was unresponsive, I used to ask them things like, "well, what if he's just shy?' or "Maybe he doesn't know how I feel?" They sat me down for an intervention and said if he was interested, he'd call. If you've been responsive and now he's not, move on." So, don't waste another minute on this one. You deserve to be pursued and made to feel like a goddess!

MissingMinnesota

Sorry to say,but it sounds like he is just looking for someone to text when he is drunk and feeling frisky. He just wants someone to feed his ego!

Invite him, if he comes early and shows interest then he might have potential , if he comes late he might be hoping that you are drunk by then and just want a hookup!

Sorry that just the way it is.

If a man is interested, he will always respond to your text. If not then he may just be a boy playing games.

This

MissingMinnesota

She didn't say she had sex with him.:noway: Why did you say that?

Look at her Edit: she said they hooked up.