guys drive me nuts

jennajava

I can't help but wonder if this post was by a guy, that he hooked up with a girl now she no longed texts him, if he would be criticized for hooking up part.

Ahh double standards. I love them.

Nah, I'd say the same exact thing. No double standards here.

You're probably one of few then.

_binary_jester_

I can't help but wonder if this post was by a guy, that he hooked up with a girl now she no longed texts him, if he would be criticized for hooking up part.

Ahh double standards. I love them.

Nah, I'd say the same exact thing. No double standards here.

Good for you...no sarcasm intended.

kimoRUN

Sounds like it was just a classic case of "Toot it n' Boot it".

rml_16

If you don't give it up, you're a tease. If you do give it up, no one wants to buy the cow.

I married what I hoped to have been a one night stand. Sometimes it works out. I don't think this time is going to work out for you. Time to move on to the next fella.

Agreed. I met The Boyfriend once, then ran into him again four months later. We talked pretty much all night, went to breakfast with my friends and then he came home with me. He was supposed to be leaving for the next four months or so and I DID NOT want a relationship.

Seven years later ...

However, it started long-distance and he called me every morning and every night for a week, then we went to Disneyworld for the weekend and then he called me every morning and every night again until we ended up moving in together almost immediately.

Do I think it was necessarily the best way to start a relationship? No. But he didn't blow me off just because we had sex too early.

_binary_jester_

I can't help but wonder if this post was by a guy, that he hooked up with a girl now she no longed texts him, if he would be criticized for hooking up part.

Ahh double standards. I love them.

Holy crappy grammar.

I appreciate the people who were actually able to successfully interpret that.

gorgeouss9

wow, your story sounds just like mine. about two weeks ago i met a guy at a party (who lives in the west coast- i live in the east coast) and i ended it after a week of talking every day because it was just too much of a long-distance thing. been there, done that... and i'm sick of it, too! i say, just try to find someone in your area..

gorgeouss9

I love that you are willing to hook up with a stranger but still cling to the "omg girls can't initiate contact" idea.

:laugh:

Agreed. Quite the oxymoron.

agreed x 2! I think that men these days love girls to take charge (a bit too much) :laugh:

skinnywithin

Hate to be so BLUNT..but if the only time he sends you a text is when he is drunk..THEN HE IS JUST NOT THAT IN TO YOU .

I think he is just looking for a drunk BOOTY CALL ! ............................NEXT !

Cueball55

I wouldnt bother tbh! I have found with my bf who i have now been going out with for 4 years.
He actually made an effort and done the chasing, so if he really likes you , he will chase you and I found that out after about 3 years of not being chased haha!

Trudy x

You know, then I get the opposite feedback from other women... if the guy makes it too easy, then he's not a challenge so the woman gets bored and moves on (I have the problem of being the 'nice guy'). Can't win!

theoneandonlybrookie

1) Great relationships have started with drunk hook-ups and one night stands. Not always. Sometimes it's a one time thing. But sometimes you realize how awesome that person was and want to see more of them.

2) There is nothing wrong with two consenting adults who are free to do so (i.e. not in monogamous relationships) getting drunk and getting it on. It's fun. It's stress relieving. Don't judge it.

3) You have nothing to lose by texting him once and inviting him to your party. What if he says no or doesn't reply? Isn't that the worst case scenario? You have lost nothing. You did gain a fun, one-time hook-up. I see that as a win.

Best of luck!

Cueball55

Hate to be so BLUNT..but idf the only time he sends you a text is when he is drunk..THEN HE IS JUST NOT THAT IN TO YOU .

I think he is just looking for a drunk BOOTY CALL !

+1

annabellj

I wouldnt bother tbh! I have found with my bf who i have now been going out with for 4 years.
He actually made an effort and done the chasing, so if he really likes you , he will chase you and I found that out after about 3 years of not being chased haha!

Trudy x

You know, then I get the opposite feedback from other women... if the guy makes it too easy, then he's not a challenge so the woman gets bored and moves on (I have the problem of being the 'nice guy'). Can't win!

I went after my husband, if a girl is really that into you, she will let you know. He was/is very shy

annabellj

I wouldnt bother tbh! I have found with my bf who i have now been going out with for 4 years.
He actually made an effort and done the chasing, so if he really likes you , he will chase you and I found that out after about 3 years of not being chased haha!

Trudy x

You know, then I get the opposite feedback from other women... if the guy makes it too easy, then he's not a challenge so the woman gets bored and moves on (I have the problem of being the 'nice guy'). Can't win!

I went after my husband, if a girl is really that into you, she will let you know. He was/is very shy

and my husband is the nice guy also!

fionarama

YOu'll never know unless you do it. I agree ith the guy advice, send out the invite, then if he comes you can talk face to face - if he doesn't come you have your answer also.
what have you got to lose?

Bigaug

guys drive me nuts

Probably wasn't a far drive anyway

CrazyDaisysMommy

You know, then I get the opposite feedback from other women... if the guy makes it too easy, then he's not a challenge so the woman gets bored and moves on (I have the problem of being the 'nice guy'). Can't win!

Have no fear, nice guys do win. I went out with a guy who after our first date called me every night. Was I freaked out? Heck ya. I was raised on the 3-day rule for calls. Then one day it occured to me, why wouldn't he want to talk to me? He's trying to decide if he's interested and was letting me know that I was worth the effort. And I found out that he was actually very interesting. So a little over a year later I realized that I was the luckiest woman in the world. So I proposed.

Ant_M76

You're thinking about it too much. Just phone him, if you like him and ask if he wants to see you.

Side point - he seems like a bit of a loser, if he has been drunk several times in the first week and a half of January...

auticus

There are too many rules.

ArroganceInStep

Side point - he seems like a bit of a loser, if he has been drunk several times in the first week and a half of January...

I miss college

Ant_M76

Side point - he seems like a bit of a loser, if he has been drunk several times in the first week and a half of January...

I miss college

Lol - you and me both

ItsJustK

Everyone keeps recommending "He's Just Not That In To You" or something? I learned everything I need to know from Salt N Pepa.

auticus

I suggest Manowar. It's a good band for relationships.

ninerbuff

It was for booty call. Gotta say I did this myself back in the day.


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La_Amazona

There are too many rules.

I don't even know them yet.

I'm horrible at this. I have read the book (he's just not into you) and it opened up my eyes. I was rereading parts of it last night actually.
I am impatient. If I like someone, it's obvious. If I feel that you're into me, I have no problem saying "hey let's hang out!". So I am sure I show the signs BUT only after I feel he's into me. So I guess I expect the same and that the guy be as open about how he feels for me. I want a guy to be obvious. I hate the tug of war method (he's into me, he's not, he called, now he didn't, we went out, didn't hear from him).

Dating is stressful for me. I rather just skip all the interviewing and find a nice cute guy that I adore and vice versa.

I'm sorry you're feeling stressed. I understand. But if he's only calling you at certain times or when he's drinking, then it's probably not a good sign.

I HATE DATING!! :explode: :grumble:

Carl01

There are too many rules.

I don't even know them yet.

I'm horrible at this. I have read the book (he's just not into you) and it opened up my eyes. I was rereading parts of it last night actually.
I am impatient. If I like someone, it's obvious. If I feel that you're into me, I have no problem saying "hey let's hang out!". So I am sure I show the signs BUT only after I feel he's into me. So I guess I expect the same and that the guy be as open about how he feels for me. I want a guy to be obvious. I hate the tug of war method (he's into me, he's not, he called, now he didn't, we went out, didn't hear from him).

Dating is stressful for me. I rather just skip all the interviewing and find a nice cute guy that I adore and vice versa.

I'm sorry you're feeling stressed. I understand. But if he's only calling you at certain times or when he's drinking, then it's probably not a good sign.

I HATE DATING!! :explode: :grumble:

Imagine us guys where the presumption still is that we are the ones to have to put our necks on the chopping block of date rejection. :ohwell:

auticus

Come on its awesome

As charlie sheen once said: "you're better off just taking a sandblaster to the nuts"

lmao

xginanax

Okay lets put this in a nice way, its obvious that you interested and he's not. There's really nothing you can do to get him to text you and why do i have this feeling you only throwing a party because of him? something in my head telling me you only throwing a party so he can show up and you will have an excuse to see him? Am i right? if not then apologize

but word of advice please please never ever hook up with any guy first time round!, or second or anything. Kissing is fine only if they take you out on a date but its always best on a second date if it goes well, and when it comes to sex, try not to sleep with the guy at least after 3 months of dating .. yeah yeah i know that's too long to wait and that he might just loose interest and leave you but that's the point, the point is to test him to see if he's really interested and if he wants more then just one night tap and gap kinda thing you know.

It also shows you have respect for yourself and your body. AND NO I'M NOT saying you don't but just telling you in general.
Also Please don't waste time on someone that's not welling to waste time on you. There's plenty of fishes in the sea GURRLLLLL!!!! ;0)

You beautiful in your own way. Don't think too much of it and just enjoy life as it is. and I just hope you take my advice for next guy. Life is all about experience and learning from them so i hope this is just a lesson for you.

Goodluck!

hope you make a better choice! x

rossi02

Back in my single and dating days, I lived by the rule if a guy wanted to go all the way the same night as meeting you.. he didn't see you as girlfriend material. So if I went along with it, to take it for what is was. If a guy is really into you, or sees a future he wants to get to know you and build a relationship with you before sex. Then the fact that he only drunk texted, would reaffirm that for me. So, if you are looking for a booty call, invite him. If you are looking for a relationship.. move along to the next guy.

Munque

1) Great relationships have started with drunk hook-ups and one night stands. Not always. Sometimes it's a one time thing. But sometimes you realize how awesome that person was and want to see more of them.

2) There is nothing wrong with two consenting adults who are free to do so (i.e. not in monogamous relationships) getting drunk and getting it on. It's fun. It's stress relieving. Don't judge it.

3) You have nothing to lose by texting him once and inviting him to your party. What if he says no or doesn't reply? Isn't that the worst case scenario? You have lost nothing. You did gain a fun, one-time hook-up. I see that as a win.

Best of luck!

Amen, you said it perfectly. I don't see the big deal.

vim_n_vigor

So, he is a great guy and very responsive, as long as he is drunk? He may have just been a great holiday fling, and nothing more. Besids, not responding to one text is hardly the end of the world. I realize younger people think that you have to respond to texts immediately or you are being horribly rude - that is not actually true.