What ARE the dating rules?

La_Amazona

So I took this from the other thread. I'm new to dating. I've gone out several times with several guys. It's fun but about one of the most nervewrecking things ever! I am impatient by nature so I have a feeling I'm not following the "rules". I'm such a newbie at this that I even googled "dating rules" to find out what they're all about. Of course a million things came up and I got overwhelmed. I've been out of the game for 11 years!!

What are the rules that I need to know??

And yes, for me, I probably will break the rules because if I like someone, I can't hide it. But not everybody lives like me. A guy I could be totally into could be totally into RULES. I need to learn something new today! :bigsmile:

Carl01

The guy is always wrong.

Next question.

the_journeyman

Rules? Nah, it's all up you. You make your own rules and if they send one guy running, he wasn't one you'd enjoy dating!

Wanna ask a guy out? Do it! You don't have to wait for them to ask you out or be the first to show interest.

JM

twilightfan20

My boyfriend usually just brings or makes something up as he goes along. It's something new every week and usually benefits him a lot more. So I just started making up rules of my own. I think the rules vary between people lol.

La_Amazona

The guy is always wrong.

Next question.

No no no! I'd never let a guy thing he's wrong UNTIL after we're married... :bigsmile: Gotta hook him in somehow.

skinnywithin

The guy is always wrong.

Next question.

I LOVE YOU CARL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

skinnywithin

There are NO rules...JUST HAVE FUN

KingBee79

The guy is always wrong.

Next question.

No no no! I'd never let a guy thing he's wrong UNTIL after we're married... :bigsmile: Gotta hook him in somehow.

That's funny....scary funny....:laugh:

La_Amazona

But there ARE rules!!!

I know it. It doesn't mean I will follow them (I'm a taurus and stubborn as hell and I'm a preacher's kid so usually what you tell me to do, I will do the opposite) but I kinda would like to know if I've broken one yet.

Indy_Mario

1-Cardio
2-The Double Tap
3-Beware of Bathrooms
4-Wear Seat Belts
5-No Attachments
6-The “Skillet”
7-Travel Light
8-Get a Kick *kitten* Partner
9-With your Bare Hands
10-Don’t Swing Low

La_Amazona

The guy is always wrong.

Next question.

No no no! I'd never let a guy thing he's wrong UNTIL after we're married... :bigsmile: Gotta hook him in somehow.

That's funny....scary funny....:laugh:

Funny huh Vicente!

AllanMisner

I'll give the only advice you can count on. Use sunscreen.

The rest is up to you.

Kirsty_UK

But there ARE rules!!!

I know it. It doesn't mean I will follow them (I'm a taurus and stubborn as hell and I'm a preacher's kid so usually what you tell me to do, I will do the opposite) but I kinda would like to know if I've broken one yet.

since you're clearly not into following rules (me either!), would you want to be with a guy that is?

Edit: I've never been backwards in coming forward when I was single. If I liked a guy, he knew it fairly quickly. And if he wasn't interested, at least I knew and could move on.

UponThisRock

no underwear allowed

auticus

ha I'm a taurus too.

Rules hmm.

If you call too soon you are clingy.
If you call too late you aren't interested.
If you wait X dates before kissing you are too uptight.
If you give it up right away you are not into serious relationships and just looking for fun.

If a guy likes you and flirts with you but you do not find him attractive, he is creepy.
If a guy likes you and flirts with you and you find him attractive, he is charming.

I think that about sums up the major points.

La_Amazona

But there ARE rules!!!

I know it. It doesn't mean I will follow them (I'm a taurus and stubborn as hell and I'm a preacher's kid so usually what you tell me to do, I will do the opposite) but I kinda would like to know if I've broken one yet.

since you're clearly not into following rules (me either!), would you want to be with a guy that is?

I think I have followed some actually, without knowing it. I think. Ha!

MissFit0101

1-Cardio
2-The Double Tap
3-Beware of Bathrooms
4-Wear Seat Belts
5-No Attachments
6-The “Skillet”
7-Travel Light
8-Get a Kick *kitten* Partner
9-With your Bare Hands
10-Don’t Swing Low

hell to the yes lmao!

engineman312

dating is pretty easy these days, in my opinion. you have all these things like groupon, living social, etc to give people that normally aren't that creative an idea of fun stuff to do.

tomomatic

Basic dating rule: I'm not allowed to. My wife would kill me. Painfully. I love my woman. She is fierce.

The guy is always wrong.

Next question.

No no no! I'd never let a guy thing he's wrong UNTIL after we're married... :bigsmile: Gotta hook him in somehow.

That's diabolical and brilliant.

PandaofDestruction

Chivalry is not dead and a man should treat you to some of it But the rest of the time just have fun and be yourself, if he likes you he will keep asking you out and if he doesn't it's his loss.

the_journeyman

1-Cardio
2-The Double Tap
3-Beware of Bathrooms
4-Wear Seat Belts
5-No Attachments
6-The “Skillet”
7-Travel Light
8-Get a Kick *kitten* Partner
9-With your Bare Hands
10-Don’t Swing Low

Lol!

Classic rules? Here's a few I suppose -

Play the shy card once you get the guy's attention,
Don't be overly forward, just enough to draw him in
Don't be *too* eager with the phone, ex: you don't have to call back RIGHT THEN
Enjoy some classic dates before getting very involve (the Park, walk about town & grab lunch or supper at a sidewalk café etc)

Is that what you're looking for La_Amazona?

JM

Kirsty_UK

But there ARE rules!!!

I know it. It doesn't mean I will follow them (I'm a taurus and stubborn as hell and I'm a preacher's kid so usually what you tell me to do, I will do the opposite) but I kinda would like to know if I've broken one yet.

since you're clearly not into following rules (me either!), would you want to be with a guy that is?

I think I have followed some actually, without knowing it. I think. Ha!

third date sex? :laugh:

BerryH

Men are from The Earth. Women are from The Earth. Just deal with it!

When a person says X, don't spend days analysing with friends and internet acquaintances whether they actually meant Y or implied Z, they probably just meant X.

Be clear with your intentions. "I'll call you Wednesday to sort out something for the weekend" will cause a lot less anxiety over Monday and Tuesday than "Call you soon."

odusgolp

It was previously established on MFP that:

you shouldn't put out on a first date
you always offer to pay
you don't bring children or friends on your date
showering is optional
you must throw out an obligatory donkey joke

I think that was all...

I forgot one: No coupons on a first date

Sh1tsRainbows

I'll give the only advice you can count on. Use sunscreen.

The rest is up to you.

OMG I LOVE that song!!!!!!:drinker:

La_Amazona

I went out with a guy twice... He seemed to be really into me. We kissed in the rain after the 2nd date.

Then the next night my bff and I went out and my drunk *kitten* drunk dialed him at like 3:30am! :noway: Well I texted him (he's up late usually) and then I asked him to call me. He did. We talked for about 15 minutes. I told him I wasn't drunk just wanted to hear from him. Ha!
But after that I noticed he pulled away some. Granted, we've hung out a couple of more times after that but I don't know... it's confusing!

Would that turn you guys off? Did I make myself look psycho?

_binary_jester_

I went out with a guy twice... He seemed to be really into me. We kissed in the rain after the 2nd date.

Then the next night my bff and I went out and my drunk *kitten* drunk dialed him at like 3:30am! :noway: Well I texted him (he's up late usually) and then I asked him to call me. He did. We talked for about 15 minutes. I told him I wasn't drunk just wanted to hear from him. Ha!
But after that I noticed he pulled away some. Granted, we've hung out a couple of more times after that but I don't know... it's confusing!

Would that turn you guys off? Did I make myself look psycho?

Did you text him a pic of you in a wedding dress?

Jconner30

The rules are this... DO what is in your heart but keep a clear head. If your not compatable or no chemestry - then end it. Dont beat a dead horse - I am dealing with this now - and will be divorced on Jan 30! (THANK GOD!!!). I was suppost to be divorced on Jan 10th but I walked into the courtroom right after they called my name and they made me reschedule. I tell you I was PISSED OFF - I had to cancel 2 parties this weekend

La_Amazona

But there ARE rules!!!

I know it. It doesn't mean I will follow them (I'm a taurus and stubborn as hell and I'm a preacher's kid so usually what you tell me to do, I will do the opposite) but I kinda would like to know if I've broken one yet.

since you're clearly not into following rules (me either!), would you want to be with a guy that is?

I think I have followed some actually, without knowing it. I think. Ha!

third date sex? :laugh:

Nope! I actually dated a guy for almost 3 months and didn't give it up to him.. ha

odusgolp

I went out with a guy twice... He seemed to be really into me. We kissed in the rain after the 2nd date.

Then the next night my bff and I went out and my drunk *kitten* drunk dialed him at like 3:30am! :noway: Well I texted him (he's up late usually) and then I asked him to call me. He did. We talked for about 15 minutes. I told him I wasn't drunk just wanted to hear from him. Ha!
But after that I noticed he pulled away some. Granted, we've hung out a couple of more times after that but I don't know... it's confusing!

Would that turn you guys off? Did I make myself look psycho?

Did you text him a pic of you in a wedding dress?

LMGDAO

engineman312

I went out with a guy twice... He seemed to be really into me. We kissed in the rain after the 2nd date.

Then the next night my bff and I went out and my drunk *kitten* drunk dialed him at like 3:30am! :noway: Well I texted him (he's up late usually) and then I asked him to call me. He did. We talked for about 15 minutes. I told him I wasn't drunk just wanted to hear from him. Ha!
But after that I noticed he pulled away some. Granted, we've hung out a couple of more times after that but I don't know... it's confusing!

Would that turn you guys off? Did I make myself look psycho?

Did you text him a pic of you in a wedding dress?

lol. reminds of of the episode of Friends where rachel answers the door in a wedding dress and its the guy she likes.