What ARE the dating rules?
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How did I ever manage to get a date? A donkey punch joke is always a big big hit.It was previously established on MFP that:
you shouldn't put out on a first date
you always offer to pay
you don't bring children or friends on your date
showering is optional
you must throw out an obligatory donkey joke
I think that was all...
I forgot one: No coupons on a first date0 -
For me I guess the "rules" would be
- stay safe, let a friend know where I am, and pre-arrange a safety phone call etc
- offer to pay
- be me, but let the weird out in measured doses
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Did you text him a pic of you in a wedding dress?I went out with a guy twice... He seemed to be really into me. We kissed in the rain after the 2nd date.
Then the next night my bff and I went out and my drunk *kitten* drunk dialed him at like 3:30am! :noway: Well I texted him (he's up late usually) and then I asked him to call me. He did. We talked for about 15 minutes. I told him I wasn't drunk just wanted to hear from him. Ha!
But after that I noticed he pulled away some. Granted, we've hung out a couple of more times after that but I don't know... it's confusing!
Would that turn you guys off? Did I make myself look psycho?
with the veil on and everything.. WHY?0 -
The rules are this... DO what is in your heart but keep a clear head. If your not compatable or no chemestry - then end it. Dont beat a dead horse - I am dealing with this now - and will be divorced on Jan 30! (THANK GOD!!!). I was suppost to be divorced on Jan 10th but I walked into the courtroom right after they called my name and they made me reschedule. I tell you I was PISSED OFF - I had to cancel 2 parties this weekend
Ooooh that sucks! Well at least it's coming sooner than later.0 -
I went out with a guy twice... He seemed to be really into me. We kissed in the rain after the 2nd date.
Then the next night my bff and I went out and my drunk *kitten* drunk dialed him at like 3:30am! :noway: Well I texted him (he's up late usually) and then I asked him to call me. He did. We talked for about 15 minutes. I told him I wasn't drunk just wanted to hear from him. Ha!
But after that I noticed he pulled away some. Granted, we've hung out a couple of more times after that but I don't know... it's confusing!
Would that turn you guys off? Did I make myself look psycho?
Honestly? I wouldn't say psycho but definitely that you're very interested. Some guys like to "chase" girls so next time I would leave your cell in the car, or if you have a smart phone install one of those apps where you have to do math or a puzzle when you want to make a call late at night.
If you haven't read He's Just Not That Into You, that's a great read!0 -
Act like a guy and they will all fall at your feet. (don't call when you say you will, break plans, etc etc.)0
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Rules? First I've heard about them. To be honest it depends on you and your make up and upbringing. Some people believe that no sex on a first date is a "rule", other dont. Some people think the man should pay others dont etc.
I think some general "rules" would be:
Dont tell them you love them on the first date
Dont eat garlic heavy food just before meeting
Dont wear so much perfume that people are passing out around you
Dont talk about your ex's (had that happen to me once)
Offer to go Dutch on drinks
Dont get drunk
Let someone know where you are going and who you are seeing (you never know)
Dont go into it with any expectations aside from the hope of a fun night finding out about someone else
Dont text them seconds after you leave and then every half hour (a text the next day is considered "proper" from the forums I've read)
Probably best to avoid "messy" foods like spaghetti if you're nervous
Personally speaking I'd tend to be polite (opening doors etc - though that can backfire) and I'd take maybe some flowers if it was a first date. I wouldnt go all the way either... not unless I got hammered.
What you're looking for ideally is someone that shares a similar bunch of rules to you and your outlook towards them.0 -
Read "He's Just Not That Into You." Don't watch the movie, read the book. Excellent, excellent stuff. Main premise is that if a man really wants to be with you, he will move heaven and earth to be with you. If he doesn't do that - then don't blow up his phone, try to decipher "hints", or rationalize his behaviour.0
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I went out with a guy twice... He seemed to be really into me. We kissed in the rain after the 2nd date.
Then the next night my bff and I went out and my drunk *kitten* drunk dialed him at like 3:30am! :noway: Well I texted him (he's up late usually) and then I asked him to call me. He did. We talked for about 15 minutes. I told him I wasn't drunk just wanted to hear from him. Ha!
But after that I noticed he pulled away some. Granted, we've hung out a couple of more times after that but I don't know... it's confusing!
Would that turn you guys off? Did I make myself look psycho?
Sometimes we pull away to slow the pace down. It doesn't mean we aren't interested, it just means we aren't ready to rush into things.
The best way to deal with confusion is to just ask.0 -
I know this one - is it throw them onto their back, pin them to the floor, then if they slap the ground three times that's a submission and a win to you ?0
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Make yourself look like a fool deliberately.0
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Dont complain, do not talk a lot about yourself, do not talk about your terrible boss, or morning traffic etc -- trust me, guys do not care about things like that. Do not talk about your ex, why you broke up etc bla bla bla -- they dont care about that either -- there are very few things they care about actually! lol
try to find a common ground and stick to it etc - make sure you tell him that you enjoyed the night before you guys go separate ways -- AND for the love of god... DO NOT text him right after to tell him that you had a wonderful time.
Good luck!0 -
I went out with a guy twice... He seemed to be really into me. We kissed in the rain after the 2nd date.
Then the next night my bff and I went out and my drunk *kitten* drunk dialed him at like 3:30am! :noway: Well I texted him (he's up late usually) and then I asked him to call me. He did. We talked for about 15 minutes. I told him I wasn't drunk just wanted to hear from him. Ha!
But after that I noticed he pulled away some. Granted, we've hung out a couple of more times after that but I don't know... it's confusing!
Would that turn you guys off? Did I make myself look psycho?
Honestly? I wouldn't say psycho but definitely that you're very interested. Some guys like to "chase" girls so next time I would leave your cell in the car, or if you have a smart phone install one of those apps where you have to do math or a puzzle when you want to make a call late at night.
If you haven't read He's Just Not That Into You, that's a great read!
Read it! I was rereading it last night lol.
I did leave my cell in the car. I called him when we were driving home. I regretted it the next morning but eh, I did want to hear him! Plus we had kissed the night before... IN THE RAIN!0 -
I went out with a guy twice... He seemed to be really into me. We kissed in the rain after the 2nd date.
Then the next night my bff and I went out and my drunk *kitten* drunk dialed him at like 3:30am! :noway: Well I texted him (he's up late usually) and then I asked him to call me. He did. We talked for about 15 minutes. I told him I wasn't drunk just wanted to hear from him. Ha!
But after that I noticed he pulled away some. Granted, we've hung out a couple of more times after that but I don't know... it's confusing!
Would that turn you guys off? Did I make myself look psycho?
Could be the guy wasn't much of a drinker & pretty conservative about getting drunk so it was a turn off. I wouldn't think you were psycho in that situation, but I'm a drinker & like to tie one on occasionally. If it was during the week, you might have woke him up when he had to work & that might have sent a message of not caring about others time schedules or whatever. I'm not
JM0 -
Read "He's Just Not That Into You." Don't watch the movie, read the book. Excellent, excellent stuff. Main premise is that if a man really wants to be with you, he will move heaven and earth to be with you. If he doesn't do that - then don't blow up his phone, try to decipher "hints", or rationalize his behaviour.
Yes, be the exception, not the rule. And don't stress about it. There's a million guys out there, you will find the right one eventually. They usually come around when you're not looking or trying so hard.0 -
1-Cardio
2-The Double Tap
3-Beware of Bathrooms
4-Wear Seat Belts
5-No Attachments
6-The “Skillet”
7-Travel Light
8-Get a Kick *kitten* Partner
9-With your Bare Hands
10-Don’t Swing Low
Lol!
Classic rules? Here's a few I suppose -
Play the shy card once you get the guy's attention,
Don't be overly forward, just enough to draw him in
Don't be *too* eager with the phone, ex: you don't have to call back RIGHT THEN
Enjoy some classic dates before getting very involve (the Park, walk about town & grab lunch or supper at a sidewalk café etc)
Is that what you're looking for La_Amazona?
JM
La_Amazona play the shy card HA! I Lol'd at this :laugh:0 -
AND for the love of god... DO NOT text him right after to tell him that you had a wonderful time.
Good luck!
WTH.. I thought this was polite?? Actually the guy I'm talking about does it TO ME. Thankyouverymuch!
I did text another guy I went out with (no chemistry whatsoever) about an hour later to thank him. Eh.0 -
ha I'm a taurus too.
Rules hmm.
If you call too soon you are clingy.
If you call too late you aren't interested.
If you wait X dates before kissing you are too uptight.
If you give it up right away you are not into serious relationships and just looking for fun.
If a guy likes you and flirts with you but you do not find him attractive, he is creepy.
If a guy likes you and flirts with you and you find him attractive, he is charming.
I think that about sums up the major points.
This sums it up beautifully. You are wise man!
I am re-entering the dating arena and I think you just have to believe in yourself and what you feel. If things don't feel right then chances are they are not. I know there are probably rules but after being married, I realize that the voice in my head told me correctly all along, I just chose not to listen.0 -
Just be yourself, not who you think this person wants you to be. If it's not a match, no harm done. Be honest! Remember in all your nervousness that it's about the other person too - ask questions & LEARN about the person. How else will you know if a second date is warranted? Humor goes a long way in awkward situations like dates. Oh, and turn your cell phone on vibrate or silent.
I do think that there are a couple topics that are off-limits for a first date (they DO need discussing, eventually, but not immediately) :
* Past relationships
* Marriage & kids0 -
1-Cardio
2-The Double Tap
3-Beware of Bathrooms
4-Wear Seat Belts
5-No Attachments
6-The “Skillet”
7-Travel Light
8-Get a Kick *kitten* Partner
9-With your Bare Hands
10-Don’t Swing Low
Lol!
Classic rules? Here's a few I suppose -
Play the shy card once you get the guy's attention,
Don't be overly forward, just enough to draw him in
Don't be *too* eager with the phone, ex: you don't have to call back RIGHT THEN
Enjoy some classic dates before getting very involve (the Park, walk about town & grab lunch or supper at a sidewalk café etc)
Is that what you're looking for La_Amazona?
JM
La_Amazona play the shy card HA! I Lol'd at this :laugh:
I know right? I'm actually VERY shy.. at first. I think he knows I'm not as shy as he thought...0 -
I can add some don'ts!
I went out with a guy on one date and it went something like this...
We went to see a band, I drank a little too much and he came back to my place. We didn't have sex, but we did fool around. After which he decided to tell me he'd once found his mum dead in the kitchen :huh: I stupidly agreed to a second date, but met someone I really liked in between the two dates (who 10 years later is now my husband incidentally!), so told him I was still happy to go to the movies with him, but it would be just as friend. He sent me nasty text messages, calling me a lying cow. A few days later, he texts me to say "sorry if you just got a missed call from me, I may have called while trying to bar your number from my phone". And he thought I would call him why?! :noway: And the punchline was, a week after that he got in touch to say I'd given him chlamydia, and it must have been him because he was a virgin. Er, excuse me?! I hadn't. I was clean. I've always been clean. Evil lying *kitten* :mad:0 -
The rules get you into game play area and just cause issues. So - No Rules!
Except maybe the 3rd date rule.0 -
I went out with a guy twice... He seemed to be really into me. We kissed in the rain after the 2nd date.
Then the next night my bff and I went out and my drunk *kitten* drunk dialed him at like 3:30am! :noway: Well I texted him (he's up late usually) and then I asked him to call me. He did. We talked for about 15 minutes. I told him I wasn't drunk just wanted to hear from him. Ha!
But after that I noticed he pulled away some. Granted, we've hung out a couple of more times after that but I don't know... it's confusing!
Would that turn you guys off? Did I make myself look psycho?
I did the same to a lass I was dating. I had been out for a drink with some mates and rang her when I got back (about 1am). That was the end of that as she then thought I was an alcoholic... ah well, her loss 0 -
No sex before monogamy. Not in the marriage sense, but in the dating one partner sense.0
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No sex before monogamy. Not in the marriage sense, but in the dating one partner sense.
I think I have that one down pretty well. For some reason, I just don't want to have sex. I mean I will one day... but it will be with my boyfriend and there will be candles and roses and music... :smooched: lol0 -
The rules get you into game play area and just cause issues. So - No Rules!
Except maybe the 3rd date rule.
What's the 3rd date rule???0 -
ha I'm a taurus too.
Rules hmm.
If you call too soon you are clingy.
If you call too late you aren't interested.
If you wait X dates before kissing you are too uptight.
If you give it up right away you are not into serious relationships and just looking for fun.
If a guy likes you and flirts with you but you do not find him attractive, he is creepy.
If a guy likes you and flirts with you and you find him attractive, he is charming.
I think that about sums up the major points.
Ahhh!!! I was just gonna type this too! BUT with these changes: If a girl likes you and flirts with you but you do not find her attractive, she's psycho and drama.
If a girl likes you and flirts with you and you find her attractive, you send her pics of your erect penis, because that is what she really wants.0 -
The rules get you into game play area and just cause issues. So - No Rules!
Except maybe the 3rd date rule.
What's the 3rd date rule???
no sex until the 3rd date - or a guy will expect sex on the 3rd date, it differs!0 -
The guy is always wrong.
Next question.
No no no! I'd never let a guy thing he's wrong UNTIL after we're married... :bigsmile: Gotta hook him in somehow.
Exactly why America needs the 2 year marriage license that Mexico is doing.0 -
1. Keep them away from bright light
2. Don't get any water on them
3. Never, never ever feed them after midnight.0
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