What gets on your nerves the most about the boards?

soccerella

1) every time i post on a thread, it dies

2) when i post scientific fact, people tell me that their study (which is not a scientific one) is the better one and that I dont know what Im talking about ---- nevermind the fact that I actually am a biologist

3) critisizing my wine intake! I know I like wine, I dont need you reminding me of that. Mention that I drank wine today/ yesterday is most likely going to make me realize my glass is empty and i forgot to refill

Hahaha, sorry I feel for your 1)... I've dubbed myself the thread-killer because even LIVELY DEBATES just die in the mud as soon as I post a simple 'hey there, i agree' ....

And stop drinking wine!! (COULDN'T RESIST >.<) lol

yea seriously! I post in a HUGE debate 7 pages long and then noone responds again for 20 hours.....and then everyone ignores what I say, which is obviously right and if they just would read it then they would have all the answers they were looking for!

and side note- as soon as i typed the wine thing, I went downstairs and refilled....but I already budgeted for it

HorrorChix89

Women who uses the word "hubby" :yawn:

gp79

There are a few things that annoy me. One of them being both new / old posters who are too lazy to use the search feature. Every week it's the same questions.

fuzz_pawz

Since I started MFP, I have been addicted to the boards and they've helped motivate me. Here lately, I'm seeing a lot of posts about people talking about what they should do if a friend on here is doing this or that (mostly losing too much or eat too little or even eating junk).

Firstly, this gets on my nerves because it's almost common sense. If there is someone out there that is eating 500 cal a day, informing them (in a polite way) that it's unhealthy is advisable (note: the cost [them getting mad] does not outweigh the benefits [you could help someone who needs it and may not realize what they are doing is bad for them].

Everyone is making comments about how MFP is about helping others, but starting a board post and ranting about it isn't really helping them.

And if I want to eat McDonalds three times a day one day, I don't think it's your place to tell me what is and isn't healthy. Maybe I didn't have enough money to buy anything more than a hamburger on the dollar menu. Maybe I forgot my lunch at home and there is no where else to get food in the amount of time I have to get food. Maybe I just wanted a dang hamburger!

Sometimes I think we should get off our high horses about what's healthy and what's not. I know we are all excited about eating right and knowing all this knew information and we want to share it, but belittling others and making it seem as if you know best is not the best way to do it.

Well said, and I agree

HorrorChix89

There are a few things that annoy me. One of them being both new / old posters who are too lazy to use the search feature. Every week it's the same questions.

That's on every forum ever created

jakki_brown

I agree that scientifically there are less healthy ways to lose weight, but there are some techniques out there that are controversial and considered dangerous by some. For example, studies show that Adkins isn't the BEST diet, but some doctors do recommend it to patients. There are some people on the forums that preach balance (which is ultimately the best), but not all users are going to approach it this way. Adkins will always be around because the results are quick and it's known.

That being said, it isn't constructive for users to fight for their opinions (fact or not) to change the minds of other users.

While I think the HCG diet is foolish and dangerous, my comment was not specific to her comment about HCG. It was more of a general comment to a phenomenon I see frequently- when someone doesn't like something that is based on scientific fact, they call it an 'opinion' so that they can feel better about rejecting it.

And I think it IS constructive for users to point out when someone is using faulty science and even to argue their point. While we're unlikely to sway a 'true believer' in <insert whatever fad diet/gimmick you like here>, we CAN educate others who are more open minded, and that is very important to me.

If I challenge someone's claims and say they are not backed by science, it's not because I'm trying to convince the person I'm arguing with necessarily to stop doing what they are doing (though it would be nice if I could)... it's because I don't want others to be damaged by what another says simply because they lack the education to notice something is incorrect.

While I see your point and agree with it (it's important to inform others), I believe there are people who are wanting to be healthy and people who are looking for a quick fix. Both people will find what they want to find very quickly and will disregard anything that seems to be nonsense to them. I think it's very easy to pick out what is healthy and what isn't healthy. Huge debates aren't typically needed to make this happen. Quick fixers are going to find their fad diets and the people pursuing a healthy lifestyle will know a fad diet when they see one.

Quasita

People that flat out ignore me because of my numbers, and people that spend time worrying about how fast I'm losing right now. It just reminds me that I'm a fat *kitten* to start with.
Also, when I make legitimate posts on the forums and then people flood me out!!!

jakki_brown

Maybe it's because I have been overweight all my life and so I am a little sensitive, but I have noticed troll or would be troll posts and I don't really think this is the place for that...I understand people need to lighten up and let loose, but I sometimes can't tell if people are being rude just to be rude or if they are just being sarcastic or what...makes me really think about what I might post IF I post.....and I am one of those newbies you are speaking of, but I haven't asked a bunch of questions...YET!

I may not have answers, but you're more than welcome to ask me questions. I don't bite. AND I don't mind.

yummy♥

3) critisizing my wine intake! I know I like wine, I dont need you reminding me of that. Mention that I drank wine today/ yesterday is most likely going to make me realize my glass is empty and i forgot to refill

And stop drinking wine!! (COULDN'T RESIST >.<) lol

you don't need to stop drinking wine unless you want to.

i lost 30 pounds last year and drank wine most nights.
just be sure it fits into your calories and macros.

april522

Since becoming active again in looking through the message board in the past couple of weeks, I have noticed sooooooo many negative posts people make towards others. I don't remember it being so bad when I first joined.

jakki_brown

People that flat out ignore me because of my numbers, and people that spend time worrying about how fast I'm losing right now. It just reminds me that I'm a fat *kitten* to start with.
Also, when I make legitimate posts on the forums and then people flood me out!!!

j


I know starting out from the beginning, I could lose 5 lbs in a week (for the 1st week or so) and people would have my tail if they saw those numbers on here. Don't pay any attention to them. Unless you're losing like 10 lbs every week for a month because you're not eating and exercising way too much.. don't worry about it!

eml48341

3) criticizing my wine intake! I know I like wine, I don't need you reminding me of that. Mention that I drank wine today/ yesterday is most likely going to make me realize my glass is empty and i forgot to refill

HAHAHAHA! I have a glass or two of wine pretty much every night. I work out so I can drink. Although, nobody critiques my drinking since my husband is my only friend on here and he knows not to come between me and my vino :drinker:

Cold_Steel

Mostly just threads like this.

huzzah!

karinapeterson

I am new and have even noticed this belittling and felt a little too. Just cause I am new here does not mean I am new to dieting and exercise or that I have even had success dieting. I am MFP to motivate me not make me feel like an idiot. and to make friends in a similar situation, not to judge others.

I was taught if you have nothing nice to say dont say anything at all, saves a lot of hurt. Or if you are answering someones question and offering your opinion do it in a polite and respectful manner. You dont know their situation fully! a profile and diary do not tell you all about them.

We are here to support mostly good luck to you all in whatever way you are aiming for it and however it gets you there!

jakki_brown

Since becoming active again in looking through the message board in the past couple of weeks, I have noticed sooooooo many negative posts people make towards others. I don't remember it being so bad when I first joined.

I just noticed this as well! That's why I even started this posts! I got fed up with seeing all the complaints about others... and here I am complaining! Wow, sorry for the contradiction..

I just miss the lovely "Hey, you go!" from complete strangers.. I think this is what drew me to MFP. Everyone was so nice!

Judway

There are a few things that annoy me. One of them being both new / old posters who are too lazy to use the search feature. Every week it's the same questions.

i am new and just about 1 hr. ago while surfing around the site i found the search button so i will be using it

jakki_brown

I am new and have even noticed this belittling and felt a little too. Just cause I am new here does not mean I am new to dieting and exercise or that I have even had success dieting. I am MFP to motivate me not make me feel like an idiot. and to make friends in a similar situation, not to judge others.

I was taught if you have nothing nice to say dont say anything at all, saves a lot of hurt. Or if you are answering someones question and offering your opinion do it in a polite and respectful manner. You dont know their situation fully! a profile and diary do not tell you all about them.

We are here to support mostly good luck to you all in whatever way you are aiming for it and however it gets you there!

I know, right? Just because a new person comes on doesn't mean they are new to dieting. They may need help around the site, but not in losing weight.

soccerella

Since becoming active again in looking through the message board in the past couple of weeks, I have noticed sooooooo many negative posts people make towards others. I don't remember it being so bad when I first joined.

oh yea! It makes me sad to see people personally attacking others. There are appropriate ways to say you dont agree with someone or that what they are thinking of doing is potentially unhealthy, but there doesnt need to be name calling

soccerella

cheers fellow winos :drinker:

Jorra

I am most annoyed by threads like this one. It's just like any other repetitive topic, plus it almost always devolves into an argument.

Cold_Steel

Since becoming active again in looking through the message board in the past couple of weeks, I have noticed sooooooo many negative posts people make towards others. I don't remember it being so bad when I first joined.

I just noticed this as well! That's why I even started this posts! I got fed up with seeing all the complaints about others... and here I am complaining! Wow, sorry for the contradiction..

I just miss the lovely "Hey, you go!" from complete strangers.. I think this is what drew me to MFP. Everyone was so nice!

Jan / Feb is the most stressful time in every bodies lives.... Recovering from Christmas, realization of how low their income tax return is going to be, its friggin cold in a lot of places... It is a cycle... Every one will be all cheery later... But now every one is in that FML mood then the 2012'ers yeah... lol

DannyMussels

Count Dracula never logs blood into his food diary.

Like I wouldn't notice.

missfluffyuk

What annoys me the most, is that because I often have opinions that are very different from others here, and I'm quite vocal about it, people feel the need to gang up on me & "bash" me & my views, and call me "ignorant", "stuck up", things like that.

I've also had times where I've given advice to someone who asked for it, and somebody disagrees with me so they'll say "Oh yeah, you've lost soooo much weight doing that" or something to that effect. There's a difference between KNOWING what generally works & ACTUALLY DOING it.

ivansmomma

As a fellow thread-killer, maybe we need to start a message board about thread-killers and see how far it goes. Yes, I drink wine, I have snacks, but all in moderation. I agree with the one poster on here who said she gets the support - not from message boards - but from her MFP friends.

The biggest thing that bugs me about these boards is the lack of knowledge in spelling and english.

SergeantSunshine_reused

1.) Myths being spread. Then people say "WELL IT WORKS FOR ME!" Yeah, but that doesn't make it true.
2.) The saying "everyone is different" because we are all special snowflakes
3.) Lately has been all the skinny bashing

april522

oh yea! It makes me sad to see people personally attacking others. There are appropriate ways to say you dont agree with someone or that what they are thinking of doing is potentially unhealthy, but there doesnt need to be name calling

Exactly... unfortunately, there are those who like to be crude and mean, and there are people who like to stir the pot. I guess it's hard for me to understand that since it's not in my nature to be that way (unless I get treated that way first).

I get to where I ignore some of the discussions posted.

LeanerBeef

Just shutup! This post gets on my nerves!! Shutup! Go brush you hair or something....................................

vjrose

Trolls!

stephabef

Bad grammar upsets me, as does poor spelling. I'd never correct anyone, though.

SONIA820

Maybe it's because I have been overweight all my life and so I am a little sensitive, but I have noticed troll or would be troll posts and I don't really think this is the place for that...I understand people need to lighten up and let loose, but I sometimes can't tell if people are being rude just to be rude or if they are just being sarcastic or what...makes me really think about what I might post IF I post.....and I am one of those newbies you are speaking of, but I haven't asked a bunch of questions...YET!

I may not have answers, but you're more than welcome to ask me questions. I don't bite. AND I don't mind.

Aww Thanks! That's really nice of you and I might take you up on that!