Totally hateful comments by extended family members...

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  • supertracylynn
    supertracylynn Posts: 1,338 Member
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    [sarcasm] Because running home and posting a rant on Mfp is the way to go.

    Also, why tell him what you weigh if it's not his business?
  • sunshine421969
    sunshine421969 Posts: 273 Member
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    Sounds like he is jealous because you are wanting to do something about your health ..Now when you have lost your weight
    (AND YOU WILL) he will be jealous of you again...Keep your head up girl ! You got this !! Explain to your children that it was not right for him to say the things he did and it was disrespectful of him.... by you walking away you showed who the better person :flowerforyou:
  • ryall70
    ryall70 Posts: 519 Member
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    This is supposed to be a SUPPORT group. She totally did the right thing to rant to people that might care instead of making a fool of herself to an idiot in front of her kids.
    Lose it and prove he is an idiot, don't let that bring you down.
  • YassSpartan
    YassSpartan Posts: 1,195 Member
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    I was informed a few minutes ago by my mother's husband that I would never lose the weight I'm trying to lose because of my age (31). Then he proceeds to ask me how much I weigh and then laugh maniacally that I weigh five pounds more than he does.

    There are several things about this that piss me off:
    1. We aren't close so he has NO business talking to me about how much I weigh...or how much weight I should lose.
    3. These rude comments were made loudly and repeated for emphasis IN FRONT OF MY CHILDREN.
    4. I don't argue in front of my kids and I was so angry I just took my kids and left.
    5. I'm not THAT old and I'm not THAT overweight.
    6. He's 3 inches shorter than I am and I can guarantee that my body fat is probably lower than HIS!

    Sometimes people totally suck. Sometimes family dynamics suck. What just makes me irate is that I didn't say anything. I know nothing I say would matter to him I just wish I had put him in his place.

    K

    No reason to argue with people who don't have a brain. I don't know you and I believe you can do it 100% so who cares what he says or think. Not to mention that's usually the reaction of people who envy you, your will, determination and desire to be successful. You do what you have to do, lose your weight, and when you reach your goal, visit him and say "what's up fatty" lol jk about this last part :bigsmile:
  • Usbornegal
    Usbornegal Posts: 601 Member
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    Here are some assertive, self-affirming ways to respond:

    1. Remember that you hold the trump card - the grandkids! Send your mom a sympathy card for being in such a relationship, and let her know that you are not going to expose your children to such a bully. Let her know that you will be setting up special tie with her, you and your kids every few weeks, without him around.

    2. Whenever you think of him, remind yourself that you can change your weight, but he will always be an a**.

    3. Take the stress and pain to the gym and run it off on the treadmill, you will feel better and reach your goal faster.

    4. Refuse to let his juvenile, bullying attitude take up any more space in your life. Keep his mysery out of your life and HAVE FUN!
  • TracyMichelle24
    TracyMichelle24 Posts: 16
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    Proving him wrong is going to feel so good!! Wow, 31 is too old? Who knew?!
  • becoming_a_new_me
    becoming_a_new_me Posts: 1,860 Member
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    [sarcasm] Because running home and posting a rant on Mfp is the way to go.

    Also, why tell him what you weigh if it's not his business?

    No need to be sarcastic or unsupportive. Really, why do people do this? If you don't agree, then either be constructive in your critism or sit on your hands until the rude feeling passes.
  • MissingMyOldSelf
    MissingMyOldSelf Posts: 689 Member
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    [sarcasm] Because running home and posting a rant on Mfp is the way to go.

    Also, why tell him what you weigh if it's not his business?

    No need to be sarcastic or unsupportive. Really, why do people do this? If you don't agree, then either be constructive in your critism or sit on your hands until the rude feeling passes.

    Agreed! Why even post if what you think will irritate someone???? How is that going to make things better???
  • perpetuallyfit
    perpetuallyfit Posts: 153 Member
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    Actions speak louder than words!! Lose the weight girl and show him how wrong he is about you! You would be the one gaining from this. You were absolutely right in not stooping to his level. You were dignified!! He is a jerk!
  • Di3012
    Di3012 Posts: 2,250 Member
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    [sarcasm] Because running home and posting a rant on Mfp is the way to go.

    Also, why tell him what you weigh if it's not his business?

    No need to be sarcastic or unsupportive. Really, why do people do this? If you don't agree, then either be constructive in your critism or sit on your hands until the rude feeling passes.

    I agree :flowerforyou: .

    Those sorts of replies are happening ALL over forums on the internet at the moment. Nonsensical, sarcastic, ridiculous replies that quite frankly, belong nowhere except in the dustbin!

    I don't know what is happening, but there appears to be a long, long string of postings all on different message boards that appear to be written by immature prepubescent individuals that serve no purpose whatsoever.

    Not just on MFP but EVERYWHERE.. It is unnecessary and the perpetrators really need to sort out their anger before typing again!!!!!!
  • Di3012
    Di3012 Posts: 2,250 Member
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    Mean people suck!!! I feel your pain! I have completely hateful in-laws. I avoid conflict with them by avoiding them. I also get a little joy by knowing I'll be the one picking out their nursing home :blushing:
    BAHAHAHAHAHAHA that is wrong on so many levels :laugh:
  • castadiva
    castadiva Posts: 2,016 Member
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    Here are some assertive, self-affirming ways to respond:

    1. Remember that you hold the trump card - the grandkids! Send your mom a sympathy card for being in such a relationship, and let her know that you are not going to expose your children to such a bully. Let her know that you will be setting up special tie with her, you and your kids every few weeks, without him around.

    I'm sorry you had to experience that. I think this poster absolutely has the right idea, not just for you, but for your kids as well. Spending time around someone like your mother's husband gives them all the wrong messages about how to treat others, and also about weight-related issues. Do make an effort not to cut yourself off from your mother, but do also make it clear to her that her husband is not welcome around your kids unless his behaviour changes to that of an appropriate, respectful adult role-model.
  • AliciaStaton
    AliciaStaton Posts: 328 Member
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    Hi

    You did the right thing by walking away, but it seems to me no matter what you would have said to me he would still be an idiot. You may be 5pounds more than he is, but the difference is your going to lose that weight because you have decided to do something about it.

    Dont listern to negative people, they just try and bring you down, he sounds like he insecure and his mother needs to mind her own business:love:
  • lesle1
    lesle1 Posts: 354 Member
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    You can lose the weight. I'm 51 in 9 days. I lost over a 100 pounds the last year and a half. I have hypothyroidism and am on Synthroid, I have 3 kids and grandkids. You just have to make up your mind and do it! Do something an hour a day... walking, jogging, something in the gym. Just get out there! It's worth it! You'll feel better then you have in years! Exercising and eating right makes you feel younger! Now if I can only find boots to fit my calves for that Catwoman costume I'm going to wear to that party... Running sure makes it hard to find boots that fit :smile:
  • kikislove2
    kikislove2 Posts: 71 Member
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    Yes, I would have had to send the kids somewhere and put him in his place. I think he may be attracted to you and picking on you is his sick way of expressing it. I would talk to mom about her man and let her know that it would be appreciated if she would let him know to steer clear of me. Hopefully she takes your side and has your back on this.
  • sistergoddess
    sistergoddess Posts: 38
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    You did the right thing, best to get out of there before the situation deteriorated further.

    My best piece of advice from this though, take a mental note of how he made you feel, and next time you are struggling for motivation to get to the gym etc, use it! Prove the fat little *kitten* wrong, then go back and kick his *kitten*! :P

    This!!!!
  • Azriel829
    Azriel829 Posts: 19 Member
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    Don't take what he says to heart. Consider the source, and keep in mind he's probably the type of person that belittles others to make himself feel better about his long list of imperfections. I have family members who also make comments about my weight, and family members who try and sabotage the dieting efforts of others while they fill the hole in their face. You're doing all that you are for you, not for them. People like that aren't worth wasting mental or emotional energy on them.
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
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    Bah... You're a young whippersnapper! You know you're going to do this.

    But I would talk to your mother about how inappropriate it is for her husband to discuss such things with you.
  • EricMurano
    EricMurano Posts: 825 Member
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    Wow what a **** head! He deserves a punch in the ****!
  • csparon
    csparon Posts: 200 Member
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    The only thing I can say is consider the source. Take it with a grain of salt, you will do great just keep working at it and ignore what they say!

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