Anyone Doing This Without Their Spouse/SO?

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  • tadbiggs
    tadbiggs Posts: 77
    Just me. My wife is blessed with a metabolism were she doesn't need to diet. She has been extremely supportive , but gets pissed when I enter in my calories while we are still sitting at the table.
  • rubygarcia86
    rubygarcia86 Posts: 73 Member
    I'm doing this on my own and always have been. My boyfriend is overweight, and would like to weigh less, but isn't willing to change any of his habits (bad eating or exercise)... He tries to be supportive, but still wants pizza or nachos or wings or whatever on the weekends, and it's getting to the point where I think I have to start bringing my own food over to his place so that I'm not sucked into his bad habits or his parents bad habits.

    We'll be moving out together in a couple of months, and I know it'll be easier then for me to control what food comes into the house, but I am not willing to put my health on hold so that he can get on board.

    Does anyone have any suggestions? I've got things mostly under control, but any ideas to make things easier would be much appreciated.

    :)

    so me and my bf have been fat together because we mostly eat out. and what we have been trying to stick to is to splurge once a week. We have been pretty good until this week...but its about compromising. If i know we are going to go out on the weekend i make sure i work out so i can eat those calories haha
  • slimmerme2012
    slimmerme2012 Posts: 120
    My husband has no interest at all in working out or eating healthy....which sucks b/c I wish he did! He does support me though lol
  • lisarz1963
    lisarz1963 Posts: 3 Member
    I'm doing this without my husband. He's very supportive though. He's also a very good cook but I have been trying to do more of it with healthy meals, he eats whatever I make :)
  • skpresley20
    skpresley20 Posts: 177 Member
    Yes I'm going solo as well. Funny thing though now that I'm eating better my wife is too

    I'm the cook so as long as I cook healthy my wife eats healthy...but she's still eating all the sweets, drinking soda, etc. I can't blame her. I'm sure pregnancy cravings are rough. And I know she wants to get back on the bandwagon after she has the baby.

    Ok man, not even going to lie, pregnancy cravings are NO JOKE! They are the devil incarnated. My husband told me that I was straight evil when a craving hit me that I couldn't have!~ lol
  • Keto1on1
    Keto1on1 Posts: 23 Member
    Well i'm the wife and i'm trying to lose weight my spouse i not as suppotive he likes to eat but he will work out with me so i guess thats good but i agree it is hard doing it alone but keep the faith you can do it!
  • xMedullaOblongatax
    xMedullaOblongatax Posts: 136
    I'm alone on this too. My fiance is supportive of me but only verbally. He'll throw some loving encouragement between gulps of chemical-riddled soda, junk food, and grease burgers. The most strenuous physical activity he'll do is a leisurely walk that some dude in a coma could outrun. =(

    I am slowly filtering healthier food into his daily diet... swapping plain pastas for whole wheat grain pastas, trying to shift more coffee, juice, and cappucino into his drinks instead of soda, getting more baked foods rather than fried, etc. It's slow, VERY slow... but I'm still trying! :D
  • AlmstHvn
    AlmstHvn Posts: 376 Member
    Solo. My husband was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes a couple of years ago, but still eats like he always has - huge portions, too many sweets, and he rarely checks his sugar level. Makes me sad. He is really supportive of my journey, and says he's going to jump in. He joined the gym the same time I did but has only gone a few times, then quit. I told him he looks sexy when he's sweaty from working out ... hope he gets back in the groove soon. Coz he does ... VERY sexy ... *waggles eyebrows.
  • ccadroz93
    ccadroz93 Posts: 136 Member
    I did it by myself, then my husband joined me, then I got hurt and stopped working out, then he stopped working out.....now I am doing it again and he is not, but I am sure that as my body changes he will again join me. The cool thing is that this time my 16 year old is joining me!! Very cool! Good luck! Help your honey eat good for that little baby you two made!!
  • Sabresgal63
    Sabresgal63 Posts: 641 Member
    I'm solo as well, but my husband really doesn't eat alot of junk..............he tells me that he eats because he has too..............oh the hardships..............lol
  • snookumss
    snookumss Posts: 1,451 Member
    My boyfriend is 270 and doesnt want to get smaller at all (we are both powerlifters). He feels if he loses his mass he wont be able to squat 850lbs like he is now.

    Sucks, a lot. He eats taco bell, I eat my chicken and half an english muffin.
  • Priincess_Natalie
    Priincess_Natalie Posts: 367 Member
    Lead by example :).

    I quit smoking 11 months ago. My husband who was not interested in even trying quit almost a month ago now.

    I started exercising 10 months ago and my husband had zero interest in it. He started lifting weights a month ago and has started a cardio program this week.

    He has slowly started to try my healthier food and he likes some of it.

    I didn't let temptation get in the way of my goals and a nice side effect has been getting my husband healthier with me :)
  • aweightymatter
    aweightymatter Posts: 222
    Yep!! I live with my boyfriend and I am pretty much totally alone with this. He is supportive of *my* goals but if he thinks what I'm making is too "bird food"-like, he defaults to fast food. He also NEVER exercises. He was one of those guys who was skinny without trying in his early 20s and so never learned any good habits, and now it's catching up with him. My weight loss and drastic lifestyle changes haven't really made him come around at all, either, but as long as he's supportive of my choices, I can deal.

    We also live with with one other person. I do all the cooking pretty much since I would be cooking for myself anyways, so I just make whatever I want, and then they can eat it if they want, and if not, too bad (shrug)

    That said, also, in my circle of close *friends* I'm the only one into a healthy lifestyle. I love them all, but I met most of my current friends during a serious "party girl" phase of my life so I guess I shouldn't be surprised.

    I would kill for, like, ONE or TWO friends IRL who are somewhere in the middle -- healthy, but not totally square -- they have to be out there somewhere, right? Well, I guess until I find them, I have the Internet ;)
  • aweightymatter
    aweightymatter Posts: 222
    My boyfriend is 270 and doesnt want to get smaller at all (we are both powerlifters). He feels if he loses his mass he wont be able to squat 850lbs like he is now.

    Sucks, a lot. He eats taco bell, I eat my chicken and half an english muffin.

    OMG I would love to be in a powerlifting couple. What?! That sounds so fun!!!
  • scraig77
    scraig77 Posts: 14 Member
    I am doing it without my spouse, but since I am the one who does the shopping & cooking he is eating healthier by default anyway. My daughter is doing this with me though, she does not need to lose, but I am trying to teach her to maintain and to just be healthy - she is a teenager so you know I can't tell her anything she does not already know so it is nice having her see it on here. My brother got me on the site along with my parents, Although I live across the state from my brother, it enables him to be more supportive of me.
  • nicki_1004
    nicki_1004 Posts: 36
    My husband is tiny. He eats candy, snack cakes, and chips all the time and never gains weight. My youngest son is the same way. My oldest son is a little "overweight" but the doctor says it isn't anything to be concerned about at this point. I have been overweight all my life if I even think about eating junk I gain weight. I said I am not going to go on a "diet" and have to cook different meals for everyone. I need to make a lifestyle change so that it isn't just a quick fix and I end up gaining it back. Since I am the one who does the shopping and the cooking, I am cooking meals better. I buy low fat cheeses, milk, Barilla plus whole grain pasta. It is great! I am cooking things that are healthier and they don't even realize it. Unless they see the packages afterwards and then try to say I thought something was different...
  • tdots1andonly
    tdots1andonly Posts: 23 Member
    ON my own here as well. It is extremely hard because when my SO wants to eat junk every now and hten I wish to induldge and try to budget it into caleries but he gives me a nasty look for his feeling that I am not following through. Anyway, He wants to tone up but he does it the unhealthy way, he goes all day not eating then eats a large portion at night and not always the healthiest choice either. Some nights I end up having to make two different meals since he don't want salad that me and my children are having. It is frustrating.
  • STARSHINE1975
    STARSHINE1975 Posts: 168 Member
    My SO isn't overweight, he's one of those forever thin Asians with the killer metabolism. So he eats 5 full meals a day. And pretty much eats what ever he wants. He does however eat what ever I cook and will only eat crappy food when he's not with me. He knows it's hard (he used to be a trainer) so he makes sure that I'm not tempted.

    When we do eat out, I do take a bite of whatever wonderfully fattening food he's eating. That way I don't strangle him from across the table.

    Bonus points: He eats/craves so many more vegetables now that I cook everything. =)
  • aweightymatter
    aweightymatter Posts: 222
    I'm doing this on my own and always have been. My boyfriend is overweight, and would like to weigh less, but isn't willing to change any of his habits (bad eating or exercise)... He tries to be supportive, but still wants pizza or nachos or wings or whatever on the weekends, and it's getting to the point where I think I have to start bringing my own food over to his place so that I'm not sucked into his bad habits or his parents bad habits.

    We'll be moving out together in a couple of months, and I know it'll be easier then for me to control what food comes into the house, but I am not willing to put my health on hold so that he can get on board.

    Does anyone have any suggestions? I've got things mostly under control, but any ideas to make things easier would be much appreciated.

    :)

    You may not be able to totally "control" everything. For instance, my bf HATES going "grocery shopping" but still manages to make it to the store to buy his non-food -- chips, candy, ice cream, drinks with HCFS, etc. Mostly our tastes are different so not all of his stuff tempts me, but with the stuff that does, I tell him to hide it somewhere I won't find it. Luckily, I'm not crazy enough to dig through his drawers or whatever looking for food.

    GOOD LUCK :)
  • jeyko
    jeyko Posts: 368 Member
    Yes, I'm flying solo on this journey also. It's not always easy, that's for sure.
  • vadiane1
    vadiane1 Posts: 50
    MY hubby was all LETS DO IT!!!! on 1/3/12.here I am facing 1/25/12...........WITHOUT HIM and his promises. I started Jillian Michael's 30 day shred. I eat right, I get up at 5 am to workout..........alllllllllll the while wanting to sucker punch him! BUT, to give credit, he admitted tonight he aint doing nothing without me leading the way!!!!!!!!!!!.WFH?
  • dbratton87
    dbratton87 Posts: 55 Member
    She can definitely eat healthy, whole foods along with you. That would be great for her and the baby. She may get to have more than you but there's no reason she can't get on board and eat a super healthy diet with you. Now would be a great time for her to do that and be supportive of you at the same time. Also, if she is in the habit of eating clean, losing the baby weight after delivery will be a snap. Just adjust her portion size. If she nurses the weight will be super easy to get off but even if not it will be easier. Pregnancy doesn't mean you have to eat bad. If anything it's the opposite.
  • fatgirlzrule2
    fatgirlzrule2 Posts: 162 Member
    My huband and I are both losing together. I guess since we gained a lot of it together, we should lose it together. LOL. I am going "clean", though, and he doesn't want to go that "extreme". He does 95% of the cooking in our house, so it makes it REALLY nice to have him eating healthy, too!!
  • debnp88
    debnp88 Posts: 4
    I'm doing this solo as well - my husband has no desire to join me. Sometimes, it's hard, however, I try to surround myself with positive people and the kids I coach help motivate me as well as everyone on this site. Good Luck to everyone!!!
  • nikkilou1978
    nikkilou1978 Posts: 146 Member
    My hubby keeps saying he should and wants to lose weight. But the chocolate and triple cheese burgers he shoves in his mouth says otherwise. It is very hard and takes a lot of dedication to keep myself on track.
  • 1Timothy4v8
    1Timothy4v8 Posts: 503 Member
    Yea I am, but not because my hubby is stubern he is natrully very very lean, and should not lose any weight he is at a very healthy weight, but he supports me, at least I think cuz he has been buying a lot of treats recently he never did that before, and also he never eats sweets, hhhhmmmm? and he looked at me all concerned tonight and asked if my mom was pressuring me to lose weight, hahahaha, I said no that I was encouraging her, then he looked at me with more concern and said that he doesn't want me to feel like he wants me to lose weight or feel pressure to do so, I said no, then he said I just want you to be happy, Gosh I love him, so in a sense I am not alone =)
  • gatecityradio
    gatecityradio Posts: 401
    My girlfriend and I are both doing this.
  • mab33
    mab33 Posts: 242 Member
    Same boat. Hubby works manual labor, has quite the gut and could lose 20, but his arms and legs are super skinny. His idea of weight loss is not having that extra snack right before bed. He already eats three times what I do.

    He's the reason I got so big in the first place - he loves me with the extra handles. Says women should be soft and cuddly. Gag!
  • kbw414
    kbw414 Posts: 194
    My husband doesn't need to diet because he's always been very lean. He's been 100% supportive though, and eats the healthy meals I cook with nothing but gratitude. We don't keep any unhealthy snacks in the house, and he's ok with that because he wants to eat healthy too. He just knows to sneak snacks when I'm not around :) When it warms up, I hope he'll join me for some outdoor exercise!

    I should add that when I eat my goal weight of 140 and conquer my health issues, he's taking me on a trip overseas to a destination of my choice! If that isn't motivation, I don't know what is! :)
  • ratellcm
    ratellcm Posts: 164 Member
    I'm a healthy weight, but I don't think he is. He eats what I cook, and it's typically healthy, but I'm afraid he doesn't eat enough during the day. Sometimes I don't think he gets enough calories, or sometimes I notice that a bag of Skittles has gone missing.

    I pack my lunch (and dinner if I'm working) the night before, but he doesn't, and then he wakes up too late and just stuffs his pockets with Nutrigrain bars.

    He hasn't been sleeping well, and I think it's because he hasn't been exercising. I haven't been working out as much as I'd like, but I do walk between 3 and 7 km every day. I work at a gym, so sometimes he says he's going to come and exercise but then find something else he has to do instead. :(

    I'm going to start lifting weights this week though, and hopefully I'll get strong enough to kick his butt and maybe he'll feel like he has to keep up! :)

    It's tough, but I'm going to keep trying and see if any gradual changes happen!

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