So confused by a lot of people on here...

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  • chevy88grl
    chevy88grl Posts: 3,937 Member
    This is a reason why I keep my food diary set to friends only. I consume a lot of calories in a day (2300-2500 net) and I'm maintaining my weight while doing so. Unfortunately, people seem to think they need to "fix" me and inform me that I'm simply eating too much food.

    What? If I'm maintaining my weight, I'm NOT eating too much!

    I'm also a very picky eater and I tend to eat the same things day in and day out. I'm happy and content eating the same things each day and I don't need anyone to tell me what might be a healthier choice or whatever.
  • runnercheryl
    runnercheryl Posts: 1,314 Member
    I have been on here now for nearly 1 month, and I have no friends on here......No I am not antisocial, my weightloss is a personal journey. I got myself into this state and I am going to get myself out of it. I love to read all the threads and comment on a few. i intend on sharing some of my sucsesses and I am sure in the future I will ask for advice on certain things.
    My food diary is private, because of people acting in the very manner you have spoken about. I have the odd bit of chocolate, I even have some crisps (oh the shame lol)

    I eat healthy most of the time, I always stay within my calorie range and i am consistanly losing weight.
    A little bit of what you fancy does you no harm!!!!

    I am happy:tongue:

    Haha. I've found the forum has become a bit of a demon to me. I'm on here every day now because I'm feeling wrapped up and involved, but I do sort of wish I'd never discovered it because I get this huge sense of disappointment in most of the threads I read.
  • tinacc1
    tinacc1 Posts: 57 Member
    ...Ask my cat!... hahahaha :)
    :laugh:
  • thekacks
    thekacks Posts: 146 Member
    Unfortunately we have people who jump feet first into weight loss and end up harming themselves in the long run. Yea we run into douche bags on here but 90% of the time its people trying to help.

    I often get called "blunt" or "Mean" when on the forums but I can honestly say that the people that I did educate are now losing weight with high calorie diets.

    BTW I'll eat anything that fits into my macros and lose weight.
    I may gain some water weight due to sodium but screw it! I know it goes away after a day!

    sometimes we need to have thicker skin and really read and compare the thoughts and ideas of others.
    A lot of it is bull****.
    Some of it is true!

    Never take advice from someone with 0 weight loss and 1 forum post.
    =D
    THIS^^^^1000%

    Frankly if I were to hit a buffet for lunch and McD's for dinner or something, I would hope one of my friends on here would rip me a new one for doing it... make me think twice about doing it again! That's one of the pros of keeping your food journal public... to be held accountable. I say all the more guilt you can make me feel, the better. The less chance it will happen again.

    That being said, yes I do agree that people know what works best for them. However, we are all here for similar purposes, and the point of this site is SUPPORT. If someone can't take some well intentioned criticism, they have more problems than just their weight/fitness/health.

    What really burns my *kitten* is when I see someone go way over their caloric goal, don't log any exercise, hit up the fast food, and then whine "I'm so frustrated... I'm not losing any weight... this is too hard"... HELLO... WAKE UP... It's called EFFORT. I haven't lost much but I am determined... and I know the effort it will take. Complain all you want if you are putting in the effort, but if you aren't... maybe I'm just a (insert nasty word here) but I say put up or shut up!

    There's my rant. And yes, I was deleted from someone's friend list just the other day because I commented on their lack of effort. Oh well I feel I need to surround myself with people who really WANT to change their life. Not just talk about it.
  • olee67
    olee67 Posts: 208 Member
    The only way some people can do this is to be totally gung ho. If they don't set their mind a certain way, do certain things, and act a certain way, they'll fall of their own bandwagon. Fact is, no one eats perfectly... It's nearly impossible these days. And, even better, perfection is all in who you asked. Even experts disagree about this that and the other... Hell, our "recommended" diet from the U.S. government is just about the same as what farmers feed their livestock to fatten them up for slaughter...

    There's two ways to kill yourself through food. Each too much of the wrong stuff, or, eat to little of anything... Everything in between is good enough as long as you're reaching your goals...
  • janehen12
    janehen12 Posts: 162 Member
    I think a lot of people fail to take into account peoples previous lifestyle, yes they still could be making poor choices, but if they acknowledge that, and have made an improved choice then good for them! As far as i'm concerned thats what the food note bit is for, saying I realise this was wrong but its better than this! Getting a processed weight watchers meal, designed to be well balanced, is better than a high calorie indian processed meal!
    Sometimes your day can make it nearly impossible, like I have a tiny gap between lectures and don't always remember to prepare or buy something better in advance. Fact is though, I've not been at this seriously for long, and so I'm bound to make mistakes. If I went in all guns blazing, I'd end up giving up, like I have before, like I did at the start of the year, and end of last year.

    Lol at the way i've been referenced in this...


    Do what works for you and no one else.
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    Unfortunately we have people who jump feet first into weight loss and end up harming themselves in the long run. Yea we run into douche bags on here but 90% of the time its people trying to help.

    I often get called "blunt" or "Mean" when on the forums but I can honestly say that the people that I did educate are now losing weight with high calorie diets.

    BTW I'll eat anything that fits into my macros and lose weight.
    I may gain some water weight due to sodium but screw it! I know it goes away after a day!

    sometimes we need to have thicker skin and really read and compare the thoughts and ideas of others.
    A lot of it is bull****.
    Some of it is true!

    Never take advice from someone with 0 weight loss and 1 forum post.
    =D

    THIS.
  • Mom0fTwo
    Mom0fTwo Posts: 326 Member
    Just TRY and have a diet coke on here.... go ahead... I DARE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!


    hahahahahahha awesome, i like diet drinks cause sometimes water sucks and a lot of other drinks have worse sodium, 20mg for a diet coke woot woot ;)
  • tawanda25
    tawanda25 Posts: 32 Member
    It's all about perspective and self reflection....then hopefully move forward to a better and healthy you.
  • Just TRY and have a diet coke on here.... go ahead... I DARE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    dont you know it'll kill you! geez!! hahaha... it is a little uncalled for sometimes
  • brittanyjeanxo
    brittanyjeanxo Posts: 1,831 Member
    When you give your opinions in a public place you open yourself up to hearing other peoples opinions,ignore them or tell them to *kitten* off, if your are not interested in their opinions

    Totally this! Take nothing personally, take everything with a pinch of salt.

    A whole pinch?! I thought it was a grain! Awh, man, I'm gonna retain water! :sad:
  • Helloitsdan
    Helloitsdan Posts: 5,564 Member


    Frankly if I were to hit a buffet for lunch and McD's for dinner or something, I would hope one of my friends on here would rip me a new one for doing it... make me think twice about doing it again! That's one of the pros of keeping your food journal public... to be held accountable. I say all the more guilt you can make me feel, the better. The less chance it will happen again.

    That being said, yes I do agree that people know what works best for them. However, we are all here for similar purposes, and the point of this site is SUPPORT. If someone can't take some well intentioned criticism, they have more problems than just their weight/fitness/health.

    What really burns my *kitten* is when I see someone go way over their caloric goal, don't log any exercise, hit up the fast food, and then whine "I'm so frustrated... I'm not losing any weight... this is too hard"... HELLO... WAKE UP... It's called EFFORT. I haven't lost much but I am determined... and I know the effort it will take. Complain all you want if you are putting in the effort, but if you aren't... maybe I'm just a (insert nasty word here) but I say put up or shut up!

    There's my rant. And yes, I was deleted from someone's friend list just the other day because I commented on their lack of effort. Oh well I feel I need to surround myself with people who really WANT to change their life. Not just talk about it.

    Been there! I've tossed many a "ED kid who doesnt want help" because of my comments on their diaries and the idiots who support them. You want to survive here you stick with winners! Surround yourself with like minded healthy folk!

    On the opposite side of things i've turned many an ED person into eating healthy and losing inches through educating them on the right way to eat!

    Stick with the winners!
  • chevy88grl
    chevy88grl Posts: 3,937 Member
    Unfortunately we have people who jump feet first into weight loss and end up harming themselves in the long run. Yea we run into douche bags on here but 90% of the time its people trying to help.

    I often get called "blunt" or "Mean" when on the forums but I can honestly say that the people that I did educate are now losing weight with high calorie diets.

    BTW I'll eat anything that fits into my macros and lose weight.
    I may gain some water weight due to sodium but screw it! I know it goes away after a day!

    sometimes we need to have thicker skin and really read and compare the thoughts and ideas of others.
    A lot of it is bull****.
    Some of it is true!

    Never take advice from someone with 0 weight loss and 1 forum post.
    =D
    THIS^^^^1000%

    Frankly if I were to hit a buffet for lunch and McD's for dinner or something, I would hope one of my friends on here would rip me a new one for doing it... make me think twice about doing it again! That's one of the pros of keeping your food journal public... to be held accountable. I say all the more guilt you can make me feel, the better. The less chance it will happen again.

    That being said, yes I do agree that people know what works best for them. However, we are all here for similar purposes, and the point of this site is SUPPORT. If someone can't take some well intentioned criticism, they have more problems than just their weight/fitness/health.

    What really burns my *kitten* is when I see someone go way over their caloric goal, don't log any exercise, hit up the fast food, and then whine "I'm so frustrated... I'm not losing any weight... this is too hard"... HELLO... WAKE UP... It's called EFFORT. I haven't lost much but I am determined... and I know the effort it will take. Complain all you want if you are putting in the effort, but if you aren't... maybe I'm just a (insert nasty word here) but I say put up or shut up!

    There's my rant. And yes, I was deleted from someone's friend list just the other day because I commented on their lack of effort. Oh well I feel I need to surround myself with people who really WANT to change their life. Not just talk about it.

    You're an adult and if you make the choice to eat at a buffet or even McDonald's, why should you be "ripped apart"? This isn't a diet, it is a lifestyle change. There's nothing written somewhere that says "Thou shall not eat at buffets or at McDonald's". While some people follow an "all or nothing" approach, many people find that they are unsuccessful at that type of lifestyle and prefer to practice "everything in moderation".

    I personally would be pissed if someone "ripped into me" because I ate something THEY didn't agree with me eating.
  • breeanreyes
    breeanreyes Posts: 228 Member
    The only time anyone should give advice is when it's asked for, we all have vices and should be free to talk about them without judgement
  • agentscully514
    agentscully514 Posts: 616 Member
    People are very emotionally invested in food, especially their own food choices. It has to do with personal history, family dynamics, judgement, body image, so many things. So people can get very defensive about their own choices.
  • mea9
    mea9 Posts: 561 Member
    What are we supposed to talk about if we don't offer our opinions? Take what you like and leave what you don't. Do not, ever, ever take anything anyone on the internet says personally. Most people mean well, and those who don't are just insecure.

    Also, I'm sorry but McDonald's is poison.

    This.
  • ahinski
    ahinski Posts: 200 Member
    When I get advice that makes me feel offended, it's usually because it's the exact advice I need in order to make a positive change.



    Also, going to McDonald's for a salad is like going to a crack house for vitamins--you're probably not going to get what you really want and you're financially supporting drug dealers.
  • Unfortunately we have people who jump feet first into weight loss and end up harming themselves in the long run. Yea we run into douche bags on here but 90% of the time its people trying to help.

    I often get called "blunt" or "Mean" when on the forums but I can honestly say that the people that I did educate are now losing weight with high calorie diets.

    BTW I'll eat anything that fits into my macros and lose weight.
    I may gain some water weight due to sodium but screw it! I know it goes away after a day!

    sometimes we need to have thicker skin and really read and compare the thoughts and ideas of others.
    A lot of it is bull****.
    Some of it is true!

    Never take advice from someone with 0 weight loss and 1 forum post.
    =D
    THIS^^^^1000%

    Frankly if I were to hit a buffet for lunch and McD's for dinner or something, I would hope one of my friends on here would rip me a new one for doing it... make me think twice about doing it again! That's one of the pros of keeping your food journal public... to be held accountable. I say all the more guilt you can make me feel, the better. The less chance it will happen again.

    That being said, yes I do agree that people know what works best for them. However, we are all here for similar purposes, and the point of this site is SUPPORT. If someone can't take some well intentioned criticism, they have more problems than just their weight/fitness/health.

    What really burns my *kitten* is when I see someone go way over their caloric goal, don't log any exercise, hit up the fast food, and then whine "I'm so frustrated... I'm not losing any weight... this is too hard"... HELLO... WAKE UP... It's called EFFORT. I haven't lost much but I am determined... and I know the effort it will take. Complain all you want if you are putting in the effort, but if you aren't... maybe I'm just a (insert nasty word here) but I say put up or shut up!

    There's my rant. And yes, I was deleted from someone's friend list just the other day because I commented on their lack of effort. Oh well I feel I need to surround myself with people who really WANT to change their life. Not just talk about it.

    You're an adult and if you make the choice to eat at a buffet or even McDonald's, why should you be "ripped apart"? This isn't a diet, it is a lifestyle change. There's nothing written somewhere that says "Thou shall not eat at buffets or at McDonald's". While some people follow an "all or nothing" approach, many people find that they are unsuccessful at that type of lifestyle and prefer to practice "everything in moderation".

    I personally would be pissed if someone "ripped into me" because I ate something THEY didn't agree with me eating.

    i posted on a thread the other day ...about eating less then 1000 calories a day and after doing the vlcd diet where i drank all liquid protein ...because i had a doctor that told me too ..i was attacked by several people and even had SOMEONE tell me they wished they had a slap button for me .....now my dairy is private as is my profile ....and i dont expect much from the threads to be honest ...
  • taramaureen
    taramaureen Posts: 569 Member
    People just think they know it all LOL. Me included! I keep my food journal open and honestly from all the backlash I've seen on the boards I've never been ripped a new one for my food choices, even if I had eaten fast food twice that day. I keep my food journal open because I'm not ashamed of my choices. It's not a source of embarrassment to me. The only thing that's ever even somewhat came up is someone told me I stink after my workout because of my diet, although I'm pretty sure it's the sweat that pours off of me. I could be wrong though :D

    Just ignore the know it alls. They're never going to change and it makes them feel better to spout their advice off.


  • Just ignore the know it alls. They're never going to change and it makes them feel better to spout their advice off.

    ^^^ THIS
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