Question for MEN (stretch marks)

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  • heresmyinsidevoice
    heresmyinsidevoice Posts: 311 Member
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    My husband is wonderful, but he definitely doesn't like my stretch marks. He can ignore them "in the moment" but he has definitely expressed, if not disgust, then definite "I hope you're going to cover those things up" sentiments more than once.
    He's not really shallow in general, but he is with that. Either mine are worse than I thought or they really are repulsive.

    I will not disparage your husband, b/c that isn't right. But I will say that you are a smokin' hot babe and from what I have read from you also a lovely person. After all your hard work I'm sorry you have to hear that at home.

    Since Kaschnat just mentioned it, I wonder if my hubby would be less concerned about mine if he WAS the cause of them. Since I had my son (which is where most of them came from) before I met him, maybe that's why they bother him so much?
    I don't know.

    Well sheet. I'm not going to say anything belittling your hubby as the last poster had mentioned. However, if he had any sort of resentment for the way your body looks because of having a child previous to him being in your life, that wouldn't be fair, would it? If he came into your life in acceptance of you and your son being part of the full-meal deal, then I would think that the stretch marks would be part of the package as well. Like a lot of people have mentioned, stretch marks and having children go hand-in-hand. Heck, people have them without having had children - I got them when I was going through puberty. No one's perfect - I'm sure in the heat of the moment, no one really looks like a perfect spring chicken - the messy hair, the sweat, the weird body positions, the stupid "O" face. With all that you've accomplished in your journey so far, I would hope that your hubby will one day be more supportive in emphasizing on how sexy it is to see you healthy, happy, working hard and enjoying those screwed up stupid "O" faces even more than before - stretch marks and all! All us MILFs unite!
  • TDGee
    TDGee Posts: 2,209 Member
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    If I've got her naked, the last thing I'm worried about is stretch marks

    Also, "Better hurry before she wakes/sobers up."
  • HMonsterX
    HMonsterX Posts: 3,000 Member
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    Ive had them since i was about 13, and they got more widespread as i gained the weight. Im now almost at goal, and ofc they are still here. I used to only wear long sleeved t shirts to cover them, never ever wear shorts, etc...

    ...but as im looking better, im starting to feel less concerned about them. Seeing that some of the ripped guys here have them has also been a big boost to my attitude.

    Thank you guys for all being so honest. :)
  • mmuzzatti
    mmuzzatti Posts: 706 Member
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    My stretch marks go away when I get excited...hey that's the reason for my belly! All that belly turns to Peter!
  • heresmyinsidevoice
    heresmyinsidevoice Posts: 311 Member
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    My stretch marks go away when I get excited...hey that's the reason for my belly! All that belly turns to Peter!

    HA HA HA HA HA!!! You're awesome!! Perfect answer! :drinker:
  • Keegan_Wright
    Keegan_Wright Posts: 3 Member
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    They don't bother me a bit. Then again, I've had them since I was 11 and growing. Makes me wonder if I would feel differently if I would have never had them.....I guess the same way I wonder if I would be more into small things with the way people look if I hadn't have been heavy at one point in time. Anyway I don't want to look at it that way, I like to think I'm the same person no matter how things had turned out.
  • purpleipod
    purpleipod Posts: 1,147 Member
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    I'm glad I came across this because I am terribly self conscious about mine. I started getting them before I even gained weight, unfortunately.
  • TwinkieDong
    TwinkieDong Posts: 1,564 Member
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    as a guy I have them. I am not so vain as a woman's stretch marks would ever make me think any less of her, or for that matter I really dont care. Unless she is a porn star then I think she has to be perfect without stretchmarks. lol
  • Chubbyhulagirl
    Chubbyhulagirl Posts: 374 Member
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    Great post! I never had stretch marks growing up and didnt get em too bad with my first two kids. My third was a whole different story though. I used to wear maternity shorts and my husband mentioned that I was getting stretch marks on the back of my knees. I never even thought that would be a place to look! We were driving home at the time so when we got home, I ran in the house and looked in the mirror. Sure enough, stretch marks! I was already feeling so fat and ugly, I started crying. lol. My husband comes in the room and says whats the matter? You're crying about your stretch marks?
    He then sits me down and lectures me on how they are battle scars from our two beautiful children and one more to come and how much he loves them because thats all he thinks about when he sees them. After this "lecture" he bends down and kisses my stretchmarks. It was one of the best feelings ever to know that he still finds me attractive and maybe more so regardless of the marks.
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,831 Member
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    Hahaha oh now I.can't look at elbows the same way

    Me neither!
  • Troy67
    Troy67 Posts: 556 Member
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    I don't care about hers and she doesn't care about mine. Being fellow travelers in this journey, finding fault with something so trivial would be ridiculous. I was 336 pounds. Now weigh 171, can wear a medium shirt and 34 jeans but have a lot of stretch marks. She knows it is just a part of me and she loves everything about me. If you love or care for someone, those things don't matter. If they do matter, they can just ease on down the road.

    Troy
  • velloxal
    velloxal Posts: 78 Member
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    Like any of us are perfect? I've been married to the same woman for 10 years on February 15th. Those stretch marks are a road map of our life together.

    They are a testament that she bore my children and has lived with me.

    They are yet another reason to love my wife.

    I like your poetic answer * Road map to our life together* :bigsmile:
  • Bikini_Bound150
    Bikini_Bound150 Posts: 461 Member
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    I read every, single response and I have to say it made my whole, entire day better!! :smile: I have been self conscious about them for a long time but I am already feeling so much more confident now! And I am glad for all the other ladies that said this post made them feel better! Ahhh, my day has been made! :flowerforyou:

    There are so many wonderful men that posted here! Your ladies are lucky to have you!
    I should have also included ladies that like to look at other ladies too! lol Sorry!

    :heart: :heart: :heart:
  • Bikini_Bound150
    Bikini_Bound150 Posts: 461 Member
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    If I've got her naked, the last thing I'm worried about is stretch marks

    TOTALLY THIS! for shizzle! .. the only thing I would say is DON'T MENTION IT OR MAKE A BIG DEAL ABOUT IT. The guy isn't thinking about it .. so when you act all bashfull about it, and say something like "I'm embarrased for you to see my stomach", It just makes the whole situation like 100 times worse. Just be confident ... and never hesitate. We know our junk isn't the most attractive thing in the world, it often looks like unused elbow skin that god used to make our twig and berries. We don't say, " you can taste just not look"... just saying!

    AND THIS IS MOST DEFINITELY THE FUNNIEST THING I HAVE EVER READ!! HAHAHA :laugh:
  • Skinny_Jeans_Soon
    Skinny_Jeans_Soon Posts: 326 Member
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    Like any of us are perfect? I've been married to the same woman for 10 years on February 15th. Those stretch marks are a road map of our life together.

    They are a testament that she bore my children and has lived with me.

    They are yet another reason to love my wife.

    I wish my husband was this sweet! Your wife is one lucky lady!!!
  • qwe3nz
    qwe3nz Posts: 29
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    I presonally think there really ugly. I have them on my butt, calves??? and a few on my thighs from pregnancy I went from 57kg to 80kg. There really faded now but I still hate them and I always will but I accept them I will never say I'm proud of them or think there "cute" because I think there not. But my partner told me he couldn't care less and that he doesn't notice them
  • tageekly
    tageekly Posts: 3,755 Member
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    Or his stripes. :-)
  • Loserbabe2012
    Loserbabe2012 Posts: 58
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    I hope my boyfriend doesnt notice mine...hes all muscular and has NEVER been big and no body in his family ever has...their all doctors and stuff :http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/485087-family-and-weight
    If I've got her naked, the last thing I'm worried about is stretch marks


    Love this! You get brownie points. I don't think women point out men and their beer bellys. We love them for who they are. Yes, we would all like our men to look like Adonis, but that isn't realistic.

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