Hubby trying to lead me astray

jenlarz

Go and find some healthy good recipes. I can get my husband and kids to eat most of them. I do have to add more veggies to mine. There are plenty out there and often taste better with good seasoning than they do with all the extra fat.

binariiangel

I'm the only one in my house of 5 that is trying to eat healthy & lose weight. But I do all of the major cooking/cleaning etc. so I have decided that if they do not like what I am making/how I am making it. There is sandwich stuff, frozen meals, chef boyardee, lol. I hate to be like that, but at the same time I do so much around here (and I assume since most men don't do a lot of house work, you do as well), that I cannot cook 2 or 3 different meals. Hope this helps!

JustLena75

And keep one thing in mind....HE cannot sabotage you. YOU have control over what goes into your mouth. Yes we ALL know that is easier said than done, but don't blame anyone else.

khuckaby1

I understand that completely! My goal is 60 lbs as well. Feel free to add me.

cdkeeth

I have that same problem because my hubby does most of the cooking.

spinqueen72

Hi, I am new to MFP - and looking for support to help me reach my 60lb goal. I seem to do really well during the day, but then find it difficult in the evening when my hubby wants to eat unhealthy food!

Anyone any advice/ ideas for healthy alternatives so that I dont have to cook 2 meals?!

Here's what I did: I made a menu...then did my grocery shopping. I asked my family (husband mostly) if they wanted anything else. When they wanted shells-n-cheese & pigs in a blanket..I ate my chicken breast & baked sweet potato. When they wanted spaghetti..I used organic sauce (no added sugar), whole wheat noodles, and extra lean meat!
Don't give them a choice if you don't have to. Sit down with them and let them know your goals, and why you are doing this. Your husband may appreciate the fact that you are trying to make yourself look & feel better..not only for you..but for him as well!
If he wants his "girlfriend" back (the girl you were before the weight)...he'll understand, and be more willing to accept the changes you are making in your diet! I know mine did!!

HollyAus

I am genuinely shocked that so many women seem to cook for their husbands on a daily basis, honestly - do they never cook or do you not cook together? I've always cooked with my partners, it was a bonding, romantic sort of thing. Though to be fair I am the single one on this thread - perhaps I need to get my apron on!

Yes I cook EVERY meal for my husband! And I enjoy it. He works, I don't. Is it fair for me to ask him to come home and cook his own meal when I have been home all day? I don't think so. And I eat whatever he eats. No way am I cooking two meals (or more, for the kids) I try to make things he likes, and make it healthy so it works for my whole family

Gigglles

I know exactly how you feel... My hubby is the same way. And when I try to talk to him about it he gets defensive... I just try and eat a smaller portion and try to get him to eat earlier!

PaleoPath4Lyfe

I am genuinely shocked that so many women seem to cook for their husbands on a daily basis, honestly - do they never cook or do you not cook together? I've always cooked with my partners, it was a bonding, romantic sort of thing. Though to be fair I am the single one on this thread - perhaps I need to get my apron on!

I do the cooking during the week (breakfast and supper) and Sunday evening dinner ..........My husband cooks breakfast on Saturday and Sunday and then he also works supper on Saturday nights.

PaleoPath4Lyfe

I love the lingerie part!!! That will work on any husband. Better yet, let him go with you to pick it out, it will get him involved and you'll be assured that it will be in the front of his mind for the next months.. ..you can't catch a bear with vegetables.....

cook your food when its your turn... and have a spare tucked away for when he does his stuff... freeze leftovers or give it to the dog... I suggest making yours as yummy as you can seduce him x x x

or buy some sexy lingerie and tell him the sooner he gets with the program the sooner you will wear it x x x

To me, this is playing games and I am not one to play games with my spouse. Bribery and such has no place in a marriage.

Be straight forward and honest.

ArroganceInStep

So many people are unwilling to make more than one meal at a time. It's really not that hard. Different meals doesn't mean it has to be something completely different. Just use the same base stuff for everything with additions to make it more pleasing to whoever is eating it (hint: bacon and cheese make EVERYTHING better)

What if it's not a health thing but a difference in diet? I eat a lot less grains and fats than my fiancee but have probably 600 more calories a day that I can eat than she can. I also like my food much spicier than she does. Since I'm the one cooking does that mean she just shouldn't be able to eat or have to make her own dinner when I'm using the kitchen to make my chow? Of course not. I mean we of course try to make stuff with similar ingredients. If I'm having grilled chicken with steamed veggies I'll cut her smaller pieces of chicken, make a small serving of brown rice for her, and take her chicken out before I nuke mine with habanero sauce.

I had to make two separate chilis this past weekend for our lunches, one with the stuff I could eat and one with the stuff she could eat. It took a long time because we only had one slow cooker, but the actual prep time was only like an extra 20 minutes.

HollyAus

I love the lingerie part!!! That will work on any husband. Better yet, let him go with you to pick it out, it will get him involved and you'll be assured that it will be in the front of his mind for the next months.. ..you can't catch a bear with vegetables.....

cook your food when its your turn... and have a spare tucked away for when he does his stuff... freeze leftovers or give it to the dog... I suggest making yours as yummy as you can seduce him x x x

or buy some sexy lingerie and tell him the sooner he gets with the program the sooner you will wear it x x x

To me, this is playing games and I am not one to play games with my spouse. Bribery and such has no place in a marriage.

Be straight forward and honest.

I have to agree with not playing games, But I like the idea of getting him involved. The lingerie could be fun too. What I don't like about it is doing it to "trick" him, or bribe, whatever. It can be a way for him to help motivate you (and give him some motivation for motivating you lol)

porcupinegirl32

haha, in my house you get what I cook or you cook for yourself!

jenluvsushi

My hubby is the same way...he can eat at In and Out three times a day and actually lose weight....NOT Fair! Feel free to add me

fearlessbetz

It's hard having my husband's favorite foods in the house, oreos, burritos, mini-cheeseburgers. I can't control what he does though. We make one dinner, and he just gets more of it, and I have to keep my mitts off his cookies.

aholfinger

I don't think you should have to bribe him to eat the food you cook. Healthy options don't have to be bland or undesirable. Try making healthy foods that seem "bad" - like this dish: http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/george-stella/mock-garlic-mashed-potatoes-recipe/index.html. Everybody loves mashed potatoes. I have also found a lot of success making recipes from this cookbook: http://www.amazon.com/Anyone-Can-Cook-Step-Step/dp/0696232936. Most of the recipes are easy to follow and healthy, many giving you the opportunity to substitute your favorite ingredients with step by step substitution instructions.

Hope this helps!

kbw414

We don't buy any unhealthy food, so it's not there to tempt me. My husband snacks to get his extra calories but we have a big house and he's kind enough to me to do his snacking while I'm working out and can't see him. I'm sure your husband loves and respects you too--it sounds like you just need to come to a compromise.

ansonrinesmith

I think I saw this said, but unless he cooks, he will eat what you cook.

newday97

Keep up with your healthy eating and Im sure he will see your good results and try it your way!!! My husband of 38 years loves his chicken with skin so when I make chicken I cook his with skin and mine without in separate pans. Another is he loves his grilled hamburgers and hot dogs on the grill so I cook him his Beef hamburger and Ballpark hot dogs and I grill for me a portabella burger and a 97% fat free all beef hebrew national hot dog... Now my husband loves Portabella Burgers and 97% fat free hot dogs... So dont give up you can adjust without too much work!!!!

getfitdiva

Make one meal if he don't like it then he can make his own unhealthy meal. He will either be too lazy to cook and eat your healthy food or go out and get unhealthy food. Stay on track it's your journey!