Getting hit on now I have lost weight, awkward

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  • jodycoady
    jodycoady Posts: 598 Member
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    This is to be expected.
    Being fit is attractive while fat is NOT.

    Welcome to the human race.

    Actually I must correct you on that. In many other cultures "fat" is considered healthy and attractive. I myself, prefer being thin and fit -- but it's not necessarily the view of the whole human race.
  • onedayillbamilf
    onedayillbamilf Posts: 662 Member
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    This is to be expected.
    Being fit is attractive while fat is NOT.

    Welcome to the human race.

    And some people think that just because they got fit that they are attractive.....but really they're even more unattractive than they were when they were fat!!!

    Welcome to the unshallow side of the human race.

    Hey! I think I love you.

    I KNOW I love you! :love:
  • _Ren
    _Ren Posts: 89 Member
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    Whoah, when he touched your hips that was crossing the line.
  • PlanetVelma
    PlanetVelma Posts: 1,231 Member
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    I agree with the other posters that him touching you is completely inappropriate.

    I had a similar situation, but it was a customer who had made comments and asked me on a date. I politely declined and a few weeks later he came in to conduct some business and another girl was helping him. I happened to be on my break and was headed outside for a walk. He had made a comment to the girl that was helping him and she told me what happened.

    I told my boss, my boss called him and told him in the future that if he needed assistance to call HIM. LOL This guy and I are NOT co-workers, he was my customer and my direct supervisor AND the company that I work for do not tolerate that kind of nonsense.

    I would tell him that you are not comfortable with him touching you. If you are not comfortable telling him that, request assistance from your HR or union rep. Good luck!!!
  • saramerrigan
    saramerrigan Posts: 555 Member
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    ........, and if he touches me again, or says anything inappropriate to me, I will make it clear that I am not interested, and then if it carries on I will take if further,


    Karen

    I personally feel that saying you're not interested is strong enough....it's almost saying that his behaviour is acceptable but becuase you're married you're not interested. The message should be that his actions were totally inappropriate, and in my view, harrassment.

    Hope for your sake, and for the children in the school, that it was a silly mistake
  • PlanetVelma
    PlanetVelma Posts: 1,231 Member
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    This is to be expected.
    Being fit is attractive while fat is NOT.

    Welcome to the human race.

    What if the OP was your wife/mother/sister/daughter?

    I suspect your response would be dramatically different.
  • BeautifulArtemis
    BeautifulArtemis Posts: 641 Member
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    Becauce I work for a federal agency I'm required to stay with all civilians working in the building and I've noticed that I'm flirted with ALOT.....From the maintenance guy to the phone guy....They are never rude about the flirting and always classy about it in most cases but a couple months ago I had a very unpleasant experience. We had a guy in the building working on the handicapped door and during the whole process of staying with him, he repeated kept grabbing his junk and looking at me winking even mentioned my weight loss and how pretty I was.....I thanked him for the compliment and pretended not to notice and kept looking the other way talking with other employee's as the came down the hall but I was very uncomfortable. I was so happy to escort him out of the building! I told my boss I REFUSE to work with him anymore....My Boss tried to tell me it was just a nervous reaction but he's worked in the building before AND never did that in the past!
  • thompson000
    thompson000 Posts: 38
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    gross, these guys sound creepy, I could understand if they were saying these things when you are out on the town but not while you are working. They might want to look up the meaning of professionalism. yikes.
  • becoming_a_new_me
    becoming_a_new_me Posts: 1,860 Member
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    Creeper alert....and he works with CHILDREN? Not a great role model....report him, this isn't 1954
  • Bentley2718
    Bentley2718 Posts: 1,690 Member
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    That's not getting hit on, that's sexual harassment. Tell them that you are happily married and not interested, and that you do not appreciate inappropriate behavior. Also, write down the date and approximate time of the incidents, in case you need to make a formal complaint.
  • DivaDiane
    DivaDiane Posts: 73
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    I imagine I would have turned around and given him the "stink eye," you know, that look you get from your mother that says, "It's NOT OK." If he didn't get the message, I think I would have a chat with him, telling him in no uncertain terms that touching your body or anyone's body at school is a definite NO NO. If the behavior persists, tell him you are going to report him and DO IT.

    What a d-bag.
  • Bentley2718
    Bentley2718 Posts: 1,690 Member
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    This is to be expected.
    Being fit is attractive while fat is NOT.

    Welcome to the human race.

    If she were outside of work, and a man (or woman) expressed an interest in her that is one thing. She is AT WORK, and people are making comments that are not polite. Also, touching someone like that in the workplace? I don't think so.
  • Captain_Tightpants
    Captain_Tightpants Posts: 2,215 Member
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    A local drag king show here always starts out with a section called "good touch, bad touch" - the general message being that good touch is any touch that is consensual while bad touch is not.

    So, OP, next time he puts his hands on you, I suggest you bad-touch him back... with a non-consensual foot to the balls.
  • christina0089
    christina0089 Posts: 709 Member
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    Compliments are one thing. But when you are getting physicaly touched by another person especially without any type of invitation to do so. It is WRONG! He needs to be told in no uncertain words that if he feels he can put his hands on you then you can certainly put your hands on him then slap him upside his empty head!

    It may not be the answer but it sure as hell would teach him to keep his hands to himself!
  • beqy12
    beqy12 Posts: 569
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    As a young professional, I've dealt with creepy old men twice now. Anything that makes you uncomfortable IS sexual harassment. One time I went directly to my boss who I have a good relationship with, the other time was a friend of my boss' so I made a joke saying "I'm pretty sure you're not supposed to touch females in the workplace" thinking he'd think twice about the statement and stop just to cover his bases... but when it happened again, I said "No really, it makes me uncomfortable" and he stopped. I think he's always been overly flirtatious and didn't think twice about it before... but letting him know I was uncomfortable worked - I would hope it would for any decent human being.
  • m615dan
    m615dan Posts: 40
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    Wish I had this problem
  • netty1959
    netty1959 Posts: 46
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    I think i would report the head for sexual harrasment, if he says i thought you were one of the children is that the way you would want your children touched, i would have give him a good kick were he would feel it the most, and a slap around the chops
  • skinnyinnotime
    skinnyinnotime Posts: 4,141 Member
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    This is to be expected.
    Being fit is attractive while fat is NOT.

    Welcome to the human race.
    Im curious if you ever come back to a thread after posting to see the general consensus that everything you say makes you look like a *kitten*? Its a theme I have noticed over and over again.

    Lol!!
  • killagb
    killagb Posts: 3,280 Member
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    I'm waiting for Killagb to admit that his sexual harassment panda needs some remedial training on Title Vii liability.....assuming he is US policy panda....
    Not likely to happen. You go ahead and start touching women on the hips at your work....see how that works out for yourself.
  • MaximalLife
    MaximalLife Posts: 2,447 Member
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    This is to be expected.
    Being fit is attractive while fat is NOT.

    Welcome to the human race.

    I don't think people have to expect that others will come up behind them, uninvited, and touch them.
    No, but the general notion of beauty bringing out the best and worse in people is just a reality.

    Set boundaries - even if that means a slap to the face or worse. When it was my wife, I ruined the guy.
    Welcome to my human race - :smile:

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