Fat Shaming

Lozze

After reading the 'obese' thread and giving myself a night to sleep on it I have to post this.

This is a weight loss website as well as a fitness website. The majority of people are here to lose weight. Knowing that the amount of fat shaming that goes on here is disgusting. Being fat, curvy, obese, overweight, morbidily obese, voluptuous or fluffy does NOT make one a bad person. It does not make them horrible or evil or deserving of shame. It generally will make them unhealthy but most people realize that. They don't need to be bluntly told how unhealthy they are. They know it. Trust me. They might be in denial but deep down they know it. They're on this site.

Secondly dont post on here with 'at least I'm not THAT big' or a varation. It makes you look like an *kitten* and makes the people who are that big feel like crap. Please, think of others and their feelings.

Thirdly, to the people who have either lost their weight or have never been overweight and are here to lose a small amount of weight stop being blunt, stop saying it like it is. We fat people don't care. All we know is we have some skinny person telling us how awful we are. Trust me, a lot of us get this in our every day life. We don't need it from somewhere that is meant to be supportive.

Lastly to all those people who have this nutty idea that morbidily obese people can't walk anywhere, need wheelchairs and oxygen listen up. Until last night I was morbidily obese. I run, I lift weights, I walk every day. In other words THIS is a morbidily obese person.

SONIA820

Thank you, it's sad that a post should even exist and even worse that you felt the need to put it out there, but obviously it needed to be said.

robinogue

Well said!

beatreject

Thank you so very much for posting this. I have been a member of MFP for over a month, but this is my first posting anywhere because it is the first one I have found that stresses HEALTH over WEIGHT.

nhughes1864

You go girl! Tell it like it is Most people need to get over the weight thing and tune into the health thing! I would much rather be healthy than skinny and just because you are skinny does not mean you are healthy!

PinkEarthMama

BarbWhite09

I must have missed something...

sistergoddess

Excellent! People put too much stock in appearance over health. If the world focused on healthy instead of skinny, then I think everyone would be better off ( including the skinny people who get told they need to eat a cheeseburger).

I'm still considered obese because I'm short, but I know I'm eating better and am healthier than when I was thinner!

Good Luck on your journey!

SithZombie

Bump, because this needs to be read by other people.

kekl

Great post! I fully agree.

I have to share: This reminds me of an episode of Dr. Oz they had playing at the gym last week, I was absolutely disgusted by it and had to fight wanting to leave my workout early. It was about very obese women who were happy with their appearance and were actually quite healthy, and Dr. Oz and various people spent the whole time fat shaming them! I was absolutely DISGUSTED, not only by the fat shaming but the looks that people in the audience were giving these women were like they were animals and not fellow human beings, it made me so angry and I wanted to punch things.

That is the first time I have seen that show and I will never ever be watching it again. It made me so angry.

pmich08

Okay so, I agree that maybe bashing people who are obese on here is not nice, BUT, if you want to stress health over weight I'd like to point out that no matter how much you run or how much weight you can lift, if you are obese or morbidly obese you are unhealthy. That much fat on you puts stress on your organs, bones, joints, etc.

Although it may come across hurtful on some occasions, a majority of the people on here are trying to help, and sometimes having someone tell you something you already know is the kick in the butt you need to get yourself into gear. Plus, many of the people on here have been right where you are or have some sort of knowledge you may not.

It wouldn't hurt to listen to some of them, you may learn something. And if someone truly just being mean, there is an ignore function you can utilize.

Megthatgirl

I did a similar rant and rave on this very topic before. Im trying to lose my weight to join the military... and I had people being extremely negative towards me, saying that the military wouldnt want someone who used to weigh 270 lbs and all kinds of garbage.. Ive had people point out to me that I weigh a lot, and Ive tried to explain the concept of muscle being less dense than fat... and that I have 145 lbs of lean body mass... then I had to stop and think... Who are these people Im explaining myself to? Certainly not anyone that will help me succeed if all theyre doing at this point is tearing me down!
Ive mostly kept off the forums because of how many jerks there are.
Its my fitness Pal, not my fitness Aholes!!

jeyko

Well said!

mixedfeelings

I completely agree! I feel like this in real life too, the sort of judgement that you must sit around eating junk all day to be overweight. Some people find it harder to lose weight, and I don't mean in a getting their head around things. I have never been able to eat the normal 2000 cals a day even with an active lifestyle and I know a lot of other people are the same, I've put my weight on by eating around 800-1800 cals a day.

I usually find the people that bark the loudest to others, telling them what they think they are doing wrong usually haven't had to struggle.

I like this site, this site is here to help people wanting to lose weight, put on weight and maintain their weight. I like to keep it positive, I know what's healthy and what isn't I don't need to be told unless I ask for an opinion on something.

Lozze

I did forget to say that if people are morbidily obese, obese or overweight (or even in a healthy weight range) and can't do what I do that's not an issue. Everyone needs to do what they can do to be healthy.

Okay so, I agree that maybe bashing people who are obese on here is not nice, BUT, if you want to stress health over weight I'd like to point out that no matter how much you run or how much weight you can lift, if you are obese or morbidly obese you are unhealthy. That much fat on you puts stress on your organs, bones, joints, etc.

I wondered how long it would take.....

First off at this point in time I AM healthy. My doctor after performing extensive tests on me that include blood work and fitness tests has told me I'm in perfect health. Except after strenuous exercise i dont have aches and pains. You, random person on the internet do not get to tell me im unhealthy.

Now having said all that, if I stay at my current weight I don't believe I'll continue to be healthy. I still don't like how I look. So I'm still losing weight (which should be obvious by my ticker) For me. Not because some random person on the internet told me so.

I got a really hateful comment when I first started. Had me crying all night. For a lot of people that would be enough for them to quit. It's hard enough when you first start this to stick to it without having negativity thrust in your face. Often unasked for negativity. I didn't let that happen and kept going.

chantyfol

I did a similar rant and rave on this very topic before. Im trying to lose my weight to join the military... and I had people being extremely negative towards me, saying that the military wouldnt want someone who used to weigh 270 lbs and all kinds of garbage.. Ive had people point out to me that I weigh a lot, and Ive tried to explain the concept of muscle being less dense than fat... and that I have 145 lbs of lean body mass... then I had to stop and think... Who are these people Im explaining myself to? Certainly not anyone that will help me succeed if all theyre doing at this point is tearing me down!
Ive mostly kept off the forums because of how many jerks there are.
Its my fitness Pal, not my fitness Aholes!!

Very Well Said!!!

hooligansmom

and I had people being extremely negative towards me, saying that the military wouldnt want someone who used to weigh 270 lbs and all kinds of garbage

It seems to me (I'm no expert but I did serve eight years in the Army) that being in the military takes discipline, and losing weight helps you learn some discipline. Seems like if you went to the recruiter with that story they would be excited to sign you up.

Silverkittycat

I usually find the people that bark the loudest to others, telling them what they think they are doing wrong usually haven't had to struggle.

I don't bark. I do try to offer advice when it's asked for, even when it's just my own personal experience. I'm sure most of us struggle with something in our lives.
This is just the internet, what do other's opinions here really matter?


Your world is created in your mind, not by others, create a great world and you will live happily in it.

HoosierMomma1

Well said!!

Aerohead21

I feel very similarly! I am honestly surprised by the level of ignorance and judgement people have on this site. I was so excited to find this place because I know I need the support. Unfortunately, that hasn't yet happened for me. So many people are so busy tearing others down in the name of support and then blaming us for reaching out - as if by our reaching out for support we somehow deserve to be reminded that we are disgusting creatures.

Let's be honest here: I am obese. I am healthy. I am fully aware that I can maintain my health better by losing weight, eating right, and living an active lifestyle.

No one has a right to take that away from me so do me a favor Random Internet Person and keep your opinions to yourself. Support does not come in the form of shame or blaming. It comes from understanding and caring.

SONIA820

If you missed anything, it's the I hate the word Obese and now apparently I have psychological problems....