Friend Request denials.

Kenzietea2

I try to keep my friend list small, so for me it is usually only because we seem not to have many goals in common. I also typically delete my friends who are ALWAYS negative, or are eating too low of calories. Women who add me that clearly have a disorder won't be accepted. Been there, done that, don't need the unhealthy triggers. Also, if I do accept someone, and they never give support or we don't communicate with each other, I also delete them.

I seem so hard to please, lol. But honestly, this is not an easy journey and I have learned that having 75+ friends and negativity floating around really does not help me at all- nor can I be as supportive as I would like.

k0nfyo0zed

i haven't denied any friend requests sent to me. and i've only had to remove one for posting things i didn't agree with our found generally insulting (early on in my time at MFP)... the only thing that would make me deny a request would be some kind of insult in the message.

jetscreaminagain

I warned them about your potty mouth.

But seriously though, certain keywords cause your friend request to not get sent. One example would be profanity. If you say **** or ****, in the friend request, the other person will never get it.

Oh I did not know that. I rarely have this problem as I usually don't send FRs but I usually accept them and then delete or hide the person at a later date if they end up being creepy or annoying.

It's true. We did extensive testing a long time back. There also seem to be some other random triggers that make FR's mysteriously never get received, but as you might imagine, it's very hard to diagnose this from the end user's perspective. Or it might just be a random bug.

While I don't recall ever cursing in a FR, I have sent a few that never got a response. People in the crowd I think I hang with. No response. I'm going to choose to believe that this is why. Thanks, Taso.

mayatiger

I have the privilege of being friends with you, you awesome, badass beautiful person!! Can't imagine why anyone would deny your friend request!! (:

Justjoshin

I know for a fact that many requests that are sent to me hit the spam box before I ever see them.
For some reason, I draw some awesomely worded requests apparently.

nancyinfernley

i tend to only accept requests of ppl that give a msg with it, have fibro or like yourself are extremely interesting or different. i don't get many on here. but those i do usually i accept. on facebook is another matter. lol!

andygettinfitt

I try to keep my friend list small, so for me it is usually only because we seem not to have many goals in common. I also typically delete my friends who are ALWAYS negative, or are eating too low of calories. Women who add me that clearly have a disorder won't be accepted. Been there, done that, don't need the unhealthy triggers. Also, if I do accept someone, and they never give support or we don't communicate with each other, I also delete them.

I seem so hard to please, lol. But honestly, this is not an easy journey and I have learned that having 75+ friends and negativity floating around really does not help me at all- nor can I be as supportive as I would like.

there missing out cause you are an AWESOME friend!

1996gtstang

as a creeper i accept everyone

lkm111

After reading your profile, I would have to say it could be because they may not have the same sense of humor. Luckily, I do.

Don't take it personally though, I've been dropped as a friend a fair number of times. Be a duck (rollin' off your back).

JoyceJoanne

Ummm..... maybe your FRs aren't NEARLY as good as mine.... just sayin... hahahaaaa!!!

Who knows the issues. I only accept requests from women. I have also denied a few as well. I usually check out their profile, most seem to mesh pretty well, but on occasion, there will. Be someone that just doesn't seem to fit. There was a while when I was going through some stuff that I denied them all.... you can always send them a message and ask them why...??? I'd be honest if someone asked me.

They don't know what they're missing though, I think you ROCK!!

megsmom2

I accepted two friend requests...and both people seem to have dropped out....within days. I swear, I was nice! Oh well. Doin' my own thing....

Allie_71

I've not accepted a couple because their profile was empty and there was no reason given, but other than that...dunno. Not sure why. You seem pretty awesome though, judging by your profile, so they're missing out ]]

WickedGarden

I just started out on here, so I don't know that many people. I got one FR and just sent one-both are doing P90x like me.

I'm not a big chit-chatty person, kinda private...but, d'oh...zumbachicklet...I guess I better update my profile!

yummy♥

i've had several FR go *poof* in the last few weeks. i've caught a few via notifications to my phone, but it makes me wonder how many slipped through. server glitches, i assume.

Nopedotjpeg

They don't seem to be the type of person I'd get along with. It's usually a snap judgment, but hey, it's my snap judgment to make.

RenCara

I got a friend request the other day that had no message, no picture and no information... I denied it. That's creepy.

invisibubble

Some people are just not frienders. I'm like that. I'm also a real thread killer. So.. sorry. Bye bye, thread.

moniquelessard

I don't accept any friend requests anymore. Too many friends to comment on every day, and very little time. Don't take it personally.

MissO﹠A

NO WAY. I probably used the fu@k word in every single one of those request.

Damn. I didn't get any f**ks in my request. :grumble:

JCN_1103

I rarely send out a FR, and even more rarely get them. No sweat off my back. I'm more than happy with the friends I have.

reepobob

I deny almost all friend requests because I am a weirdo and very shy. It has nothing to do with the requesters and everything to do with me. I'm the Boo Radley of MFP.

A "To Kill a Mockingbird" reference...you ARE a worldly lady...foreign, even.

tmarie2715

Don't take it personally, I think some people just have a lot of friends already and can't support any more.

This. I am a friend request denier. I still feel guilty for doing it, but I actually look at diaries and try to make insightful comments... It takes a lot of time. Keep putting yourself out there, give good support, and you'll find good friends!

BrienJD

Who could or would deny a friend request from someone with those knees???!! :bigsmile: Uhhmmmm...that's not creepy is it?

Scott613

Da Nile

Helloitsdan

I dont accept anyone who doesnt send a note as to why.

ahunkofmexican

Well before i accept a friend request i first look at the persons profile and what kinda replier they are . On February 8th you replied to over 10 + topics. That would mean you would dominate my page and all i would see are high socks and white legs. That alone would hesitate me from accepting your request. On average some people reply every few days but some reply day in and day out. That would freaking annoy me and i would just eventually hide your profile, Then delete if it continues. Being honest here ! :ohwell:

committomittxoxo

That's lame _snw_ because you, my love, are an awesome friend!!!! . And I know how you feel... I just requested someone's friendship and I'm really really hoping to be accepted. Then I ask myself, "Why do I care, it's the Internet?" but I've never cared about my dignity and self-respect before... I sure as *kitten* am not going to start now!!! It's us against the world babe... Jump in.. The water's fine..... :smokin:

jamiem1102

I usually accept everyone's friend request... and then if they get creepy or they're dormant, i just delete them. Harsh?

cantjustcant

ACK!!! I always end up rambling in my FRs! I would say something like I saw that we have several friends in common and then start rambling from there.... I either end up with a new friend or a restraining order so it's a win/win situation!

MissingMyOldSelf

I normally accept all friend requests, except when I see a person who only has members of the opposite sex as their friends, only to stroke their fragile little ego and see all the "cheerleaders" say, 'ZOMG you burned 1000000 calories today??!?! You're so freaking HOT!!!!"

This isn't freaking Facebook or a dating site. I'm not here to be a girl on your ever growing friend's list. I'm here to give and get support, not have someone try to hit on me pathetically to try to join his "Sister Wife Empire."

........yes, I'm a party pooper.