Is taking my own pancake mix too far?

DannyMussels

I go out plenty and don't eat at all.

98% of my social outings involve everyone drinking, yet I've only drank twice in about 3 months.

Sometimes being sexier takes priority to vices.

padraigin67

As a person that has to take her own food everywhere due to allergies. I suggest you do what you feel comfortable with. I would love to just go and be a part of the crowd and eat what everyone else is but I can't. If you really feel this strong about it then make up some pancakes and eat them there. I would not take my own batter I would do the pre-made pancakes. Alot of my friends will actually ask me to make up my own foods with my ingredients so they do not have to stress over what I can and cannot have. Talk to the party host, explain what you want to do and why. If they are truly your friend and care about you they will not have a problem. Those that have had a problem with my issues just never invite me back. Honestly I prefer that, if they cannot care about my health then they are not healthy for me.

becoming_a_new_me

If I were the hostess, I'd actually have you tell me the ingredients and I would make them for everyone but that is just me. I always serve healthy options at my parties, but my family is pretty split with healthy options. My brother and his wife and mother are both very health-concious so understand and there is always healthy options at family dinners. My two sisters on the other hand both struggle with healthy eating, and the youngest is the worst.

This weekend, the youngest had my neice's birthday party this past weekend, and while I didn't expect her to have a low-cal or sugar-free ice cream available, I thought she would at least understand why I passed on the 230 calorie cupcake and had a half portion of the 130 calorie per 1/2 cup ice cream. I figured a half a serving of ice cream meant I was still celebrating while meeting my macros. She threw a bloody fit!! Even went so far as to put a cupcake on my plate insisting I eat it. I politely declined, and she got even more defensive to the point that she put four cupcakes on a plate to send home for my daughter and I. When I told her we don't want them, she got even more huffy. It was very akward, and I felt that she could have at least been supportive. I think that it is her own emotional eating issues at play as she went from a size 8 in high school to now weighing in excess of 350 lbs. Watching me get thinner has really triggered some issues for her.

Anyhoo...sorry to hijack the thread. My point is some people will be supportive, some won't. Find out which way your friend is and try to work around the macros. Maybe offer to bring a huge delicious salad that you can fill up on then have one pancake or peice of pizza? If you are trying to avoid bread products, just eat the toppings...that's what I do.

Faintgreeneyes

Listen... If I were hosting a party and I had a friend coming over that I knew was trying to lose weight and she brought her own mix, I would say :"awesome and can I try some" Call her before and make sure its ok, tho. Good luck!

This is my attitude as well. When I host dinner parties, I always ask people if they have any allergies, etc. I would feel bad as a host not having something that everyone could enjoy. If my friend called and told me they had a pancake mix they wanted to bring, I would be like "okay, just let me know how it needs to be prepared". It wouldn't take that much longer as the hostess to prepare a pre-made mix.

This is just me, however. I think it wise to call your friend and have a chat about it. That way your not just springing it on her when you arrive.

Good luck!

zebraspots2069

ENJOY the pancakes...dont use syrup!

Meggles63

If it's that much of an issue, maybe you shouldn't go! I know that sounds rude, but your obsessing over this is equally rude. Get over it, and have some fun!

KateRF07

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nnylee

Agreed!!

I find it sad when I read the words "hopefully I don't eat any pizza." :sad:

I can't fathom restricting any food from my life, it's just sad.

Whodatgirl77

I think our task is to find a relationship with food that is healthy and can be maintained the majority of the time for life. Unless you are going to tote around your own pancake batter for life, I think this is one of those opportunities presented to us where we can show ourselves that we can enjoy anything in moderation and its not the end of the world. We didn't get fat from special occasions. I know I personally made every day a special occasion and that was the problem. If you had some sort of true food allergy. I'd say do it but otherwise go and enjoy.

KateRF07

I find it sad when I read the words "hopefully I don't eat any pizza." :sad:

I can't fathom restricting any food from my life, it's just sad.

Agreed.
It's like, just eat healthier the rest of the day/week and workout harder to burn off more calories before going to the party; then go ahead and eat the pizza and pancakes. Otherwise you're going to have this problem all the time. Either you'll quit going to parties or you'll be the weird girl who obsesses about bringing her own food every time.

Amy_Lynn74

I would eat their pancakes but bring my own syrup. The syrup is where the majority of the calories come from. I found syrup that is sugar free and only 5 calories for a 1/4 cup. You need to live a little!!!

WhittRak

Sorry..just eat the damn pancakes!!

i_am_losing_it

I would say call the hostess and tell her that you are really trying to watch what you eat and ask her if she would mind if you brought your own mix and tell her you could bring extra in case other people wanted a lower calorie option. Who knows she may think that is a fabulous idea...

Pohudet

I see no problem with bringing your own food to a party, as long as you bring enough to share it with others.
When I saw a person bring her own diet food to a party and enjoying it alone, it felt weird.
But I do not see much difference between pancake recipes. If you can eat 3 low calorie pancakes, then perhaps you can eat 2 regular calorie pancakes. This solution can make it easier for everybody. Just don't put any syrop on those pancakes!

Cathnger

Just enjoy yourself the last thing you want is your friends thinking your being a funny wotsit and they must be fat or pigs for eating "full fat" so to speak lol. Enjoy yourself, have fun have a blow out - hey hun it's only 1 week out of the rest of your life even if you put on a little at the end of the week is 1 week of fun and enjoying yourself really gonna set you back that badly?

And if you really feel that thing just limit what you eat hun. :happy:

missdabby

I always bring my own stuff to my friends gatherings. They know me and just laugh at me. It's all good though. I'm at my goal and that's how I got there.

I agree with you...this is what I do too : )




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jfinnivan

Sorry..just eat the damn pancakes!!

This might just be my new sig!

purplegoboom

Unless you have a food allergy, it's rude to bring your own mix of whatever the hostess is making. I would just eat a pancake or two, but instead of syrup (which is actually where the majority of the calories and sugar come from), I would offer to make a warm fruit topping for the pancakes and share with the rest of the guests.

DannyMussels

I'm changing my answer to, show up in a bikini, and everyone'll be too distracted to care wtf you do.

Then everyone wins.

MrsCon40

...the last thing you want is your friends thinking your being a funny wotsit and they must be fat or pigs for eating "full fat" so to speak ...

This is exactly correct. Not eating the host's food is saying "it's not good enough." No one said you have to make a pig of yourself.

I am saddened by the number of people who prioritize themselves over others here. Social graces are clearly a lost art. Cutting a couple calories for yourself is waaaaay more important than having good manners.

*face palm*

ladyraven68

How much calorie difference in yours and theirs - a normal pancake is about 100 calories, if yours is 50cals then that's only an extra 50 - that's not really going to wreck your day is it?

Go, have fun, and dance/run/walk/cycle/train the extra off tomorrow.

HauteP1nk

I always bring my own food to things...if I am going somewhere that I won't be able to properly 'calorie count'...

For example, on the weekend I brought my own snacks to the cinema. I didn't want to eat their popcorn where I wouldn't know how much butter/fat/calories I was necessarily consuming...

That being said, on the occasion it is okay to indulge. Maybe just plan for it by eating extremely healthy throughout the day, or the next day...etc. You have to let yourself live a little too.

KimbersNewLife

close to being very rude, but if she's your BFF, you'd probably get away with it.

The only other possibility that comes to mind is that you could offer to bring some pancake mix, so that your hostess doesn't end up providing all the food. No-one need know that the recipe you've used is low-calorie.

Great Idea! I recently did this at a family reunion. My cousin did the cooking but I brought a cheesecake. The hungry girl recipie. Everyone loved it and no one new it was low cal. Make it look like you are just being a good guest. Maybe even put it in a fancy container, pop a bow on it, and call it a "hostess gift."

sunnyday789

Ruby, I have to say I think this is taking things a little too far. Insisting on using your own pancake mix could complicate things for your hostess, which is never a good idea. Enjoy one or two pancakes, and if you are worried about the few extra calories, compensate a little tomorrow, either with food choices or exercise. Life is too short not to enjoy spending time with friends, and it sounds like insisting on using a different pancake mix is likely to make your evening more stressful for everyone, including you.

If you know the hostess really, REALLY well, you might be able to email her one of the recipes you've found (provided it doesn't require any unusual ingredients AT ALL), saying that it's a great recipe and low in calories, and you thought you'd share it in case she might want to use it. Only go down this route if you are VERY close, though, and she knows and supports your weight-loss goals. It's perilously close to being very rude, but if she's your BFF, you'd probably get away with it.

The only other possibility that comes to mind is that you could offer to bring some pancake mix, so that your hostess doesn't end up providing all the food. No-one need know that the recipe you've used is low-calorie.

Best and thoughtful answer.
And don't say you are allergic unless you truly are b/c someone will know you've eaten flour, milk, and eggs before without difficulty.

My1985Freckles

I am clearly in the minority here but I truly hope you take your own pancake mix...or get new friends if they are going to find you rude for caring about what you eat! Ok, I am kidding about ditching your friends but SERIOUSLY, there is nothing rude about eating what is best for you. Honestly, any host that would make you feel bad about it is a rude host.

She wouldn't need to worry about ditching her friends. A Faux Pas such as this and she won't be invited over to the friends anymore after this. It is incredibly RUDE for you to even consider doing this. If one of my guests showed up with their own food I would be incredibly offended and they would most likely not be invited back.

Reinventing_Me

I really wouldn't worry about it. But if you feel you must, tell your friend you found an amazing new pancake recipe that you've been dying to try. Offer to make up a batch for the get-together. That way you keep it healthy and include them in the process. They don't have to know that it's a healthier alternative unless they ask.

Otherwise, I wouldn't worry about it all. Have fun!

waferzdog

I love the idea of bringing "The" pancake mix. Helps out the hostess and you know exactly what your eating. I haven't done pancakes since signing up, but I would venture to guess that the toppings might be more of an issue (butter, syrup, sugar, fruit, etc). Personnally I'm a pizza person and have learned what to do to prepare to eat pizze and what type of pizza to have (toppings, crust, etc)

pogojr

If it were me, I would have tried to adjust my eating throughout the day to allow for the possibility of eating out of the normal in the evening. Another option would be to eat before and bring something to pass - fruit or veggie platter (you can normally stop and pick up a pre-made tray at the deli) - or a favorite healthy snack to nibble on during the evening. For future events, offer up front to bring part of the main meal and that way you will have something that you are comfortable with and who knows, your friends might enjoy your "healthy" dish.

natalieg0307

I would be sure to eat well that day.....throw in an extra workout.....go to my friends house...eat a slice of pizza and a pancake (is it just me? or is that an odd combination?), and have fun with my friends. Go have fun! Life's too short to worry about 1 slice of pizza.

madamepsychosis

You say you don't want food to get in the way of having a good time, but you are. You're letting a pancake freak you out! Pancakes are like, 100 calories each or thereabouts. Are you going to hide away from pizza and pancakes once you've got to your maintenance weight? Certain foods in moderation are fine. If you really feel like you overdid it, make up for it tomorrow with healthier food choices and exercise. You are 126lbs according to your profile, hardly overweight, you are not going to gain 10lbs overnight by eating one or two pancakes and possibly a slice of pizza.

By all means, bring something that everyone in the party can share, such as healthier toppings, but bringing your own mix to use by yourself is potentially alienating your friends. You're basically telling the hostess you think your choice is better than hers. I wouldn't mind someone bringing a healthy salad bowl or whatever to a party of mine, but if someone brought the same thing I was planning to make them to eat alone, I would probably find it rude to be honest.