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  • BaconMD
    BaconMD Posts: 1,165 Member
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    Never been, don't plan to, don't want to.
  • 30yearssincebikini
    30yearssincebikini Posts: 261
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    I wouldn't want my hubby going. But I have never had him say he wanted to. Just not his thing. I'm his thing.
  • Amanda0325
    Amanda0325 Posts: 245 Member
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    i don't mind.. i think its fun goign with the guys personally and i've had a few lap dances/dollar dances myself... and i REALLY don't mind cause my bf even though he finds it intersting is turned off by what they do for a living lol.. but he'll look LOL
  • bikermike5094
    bikermike5094 Posts: 1,752 Member
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    havent been to one in 20 plus years. my wife is 5'4", 115 lbs, tri-athlete, red head.

    why would I need to go to a strip club? I got all I want or need at home. :love:
  • allenxiong
    allenxiong Posts: 1
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    fosure
  • Spinelli2288
    Spinelli2288 Posts: 188 Member
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    I don't even understand the "it makes me uncomfortable so he shouldn't go because he's supposed to love me". It's stupid...... like girls who think porn is cheating. Being in a relationship doesn't give anyone the right to dictate, whether it's directly or indirectly, what the other person should or shouldn't do. Ladies, you all know we're more than capable of controlling a situation indirectly, and to cover it up with "I don't tell him he can't go" when you know its "He *kitten* knows not to go.".
  • NeuroticVirgo
    NeuroticVirgo Posts: 3,671 Member
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  • alyssaanagram
    alyssaanagram Posts: 73
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    I can't say I'd be thrilled...but if my fiance and his buddies were all going for a guy's night out, I'd wouldn't mind. I'd rather him go out for one night of harmless fun than "forbid" him and us fight all night. But if he went out by himself all the time to a club then I'd have an issue (because then clearly he wants something I'm not giving him).

    I know he feels the same way - my sorority sisters and I have had a few crazy nights. As long as I call him if I'm crashing at my friend's house or call him if I need a ride he's happy. It's definitely a nice balance.
  • AmberJslimsAWAY
    AmberJslimsAWAY Posts: 2,468 Member
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    I don't even understand the "it makes me uncomfortable so he shouldn't go because he's supposed to love me". It's stupid...... like girls who think porn is cheating. Being in a relationship doesn't give anyone the right to dictate, whether it's directly or indirectly, what the other person should or shouldn't do. Ladies, you all know we're more than capable of controlling a situation indirectly, and to cover it up with "I don't tell him he can't go" when you know its "He *kitten* knows not to go.".

    EXACTLY what I was thinking. I hate the sugar coating that's going on in some of these responses.
  • QueenJayJay
    QueenJayJay Posts: 1,139
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    havent been to one in 20 plus years. my wife is 5'4", 115 lbs, tri-athlete, red head.

    why would I need to go to a strip club? I got all I want or need at home. :love:

    WINNING
  • amuhlou
    amuhlou Posts: 693 Member
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    I don't have a problem with my hubs going to one. He can look all he wants, I know that I'm the object of his desire.

    Only thing I'd have a problem with is him spending our joint $$ to go to one, which is something he'd never do since we each keep personal bank accounts in addition to the joint.
  • Spinelli2288
    Spinelli2288 Posts: 188 Member
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    I don't even understand the "it makes me uncomfortable so he shouldn't go because he's supposed to love me". It's stupid...... like girls who think porn is cheating. Being in a relationship doesn't give anyone the right to dictate, whether it's directly or indirectly, what the other person should or shouldn't do. Ladies, you all know we're more than capable of controlling a situation indirectly, and to cover it up with "I don't tell him he can't go" when you know its "He *kitten* knows not to go.".

    EXACTLY what I was thinking. I hate the sugar coating that's going on in some of these responses.

    I know right!? You can't tell me there is a happy marriage out there where both people had to give up things because the other one didn't like it. No such relationship exists. Resentment maybe, but no relationship.
  • AmberJslimsAWAY
    AmberJslimsAWAY Posts: 2,468 Member
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    I don't even understand the "it makes me uncomfortable so he shouldn't go because he's supposed to love me". It's stupid...... like girls who think porn is cheating. Being in a relationship doesn't give anyone the right to dictate, whether it's directly or indirectly, what the other person should or shouldn't do. Ladies, you all know we're more than capable of controlling a situation indirectly, and to cover it up with "I don't tell him he can't go" when you know its "He *kitten* knows not to go.".

    EXACTLY what I was thinking. I hate the sugar coating that's going on in some of these responses.

    I know right!? You can't tell me there is a happy marriage out there where both people had to give up things because the other one didn't like it. No such relationship exists. Resentment maybe, but no relationship.

    In my opinion, not "allowing" strip clubs, and not allowing *kitten* are hand in hand, and it's very controlling. Not to mention the fact that HOW can you be THAT insecure that if your SO goes to a strip club they are going to cheat. Really?! YOU picked him. UGH!!!
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,022 Member
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    I would never tell a grown man what he can and can't do. I just wouldn't date a man who likes going to strip clubs. If that's something he likes and insists on being able to do, then we are not going to be compatible.

    I really hate when women try to make this an issue of "insecurity" in some effort to prove to men how cool and easy-going they are. Whatever. I understand and acknowledge the fact that opportunities to cheat are ALWAYS going to be there, whether it's with a stripper or some skank he works with. If you're a weak and morally bankrupt individual, cheating is easy. If you aren't either of those things, then being around other women isn't going to turn you into a cheater. The strip club thing is just something I personally find disrespectful (to me ... not to the woman doing the stripping). I realize not everyone shares my opinion, and that's fine.
  • KimmieBrie
    KimmieBrie Posts: 825 Member
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    When I was younger I had a problem with it and have given the whole "you are not going ever" lol .. now that I am older and have had more relationship experience it doesn't matter so much.

    I think I have always had the opinion that those places are trash and the people in them are trash .. so why would I want to be with someone who wants to go to trashy places. Now I just don't care enough for it to matter. Whatever floats your boat.

    I used to think that till I went to a few with groups of people. The men weren't all drooling over the women, in fact many were engrossed in conversations and not really paying much attention, I think I was paying more attention. The girls also didn't seem the least bit overly interested in anyone in the crowd and were just trying to earn some $$. I was offered a few lapdances... I think they would have preferred dance for me than some of the men I saw - the ones who would have looked creepy in any setting... that serial killer look...no offense to anyone sporting that look. There were only a couple of those. Most of the crowd seemed like normal people just out at a bar that happens to have naked ladies. It wasn't the scene I was expecting.
  • AmberJslimsAWAY
    AmberJslimsAWAY Posts: 2,468 Member
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    I really hate when women try to make this an issue of "insecurity" in some effort to prove to men how cool and easy-going they are. Whatever.

    I think it's an insecurity issue, and it has nothing to do with how cool or easy going I am, nor am I trying to prove to anyone those facts :flowerforyou:
  • Lambiii
    Lambiii Posts: 321
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    I wouldn't mind if my husband went,

    for his stag he was brought to a strip club and although it wasn't planned there was strippers at my hen night, We both knew and Neither thought much of it,

    its a bit of fun! not like your going there to sleep with them!

    Tho at my wedding the guys were discussing it and One of the guys girlfriend apparently didn't know they had gone to a strip club, and she flipped out at him..

    So i suppose it depends on the person, I personally don't see any harm!
  • Trophyyf
    Trophyyf Posts: 218 Member
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    It doesn't bother me and wouldn't long as it's not causing a problem in the relationship and finances. If it becomes where the man is spending his entire paycheck on s stripper when bills need to be paid that is where it ends.
  • mummyzena
    mummyzena Posts: 259 Member
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    I'm more likely to be found in one than my SO but I don't have an issue with him going. His friend was told by his fiancee that the stag party (bachelor party) weren't allowed to go to a lap dancing/strip club... how that did not send out alarm bells I don't know. It's not as if they were heading to a brothel or out searching for prostitutes, they are paying to watch a show, it's an expensive and short cinema/concert trip.lol.
  • HauteP1nk
    HauteP1nk Posts: 2,139 Member
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    My fiance thinks strip clubs are a waste of money...so he doesn't go very often. He has been open and honest about it (well as far as I know) and tells me when he does go. It kind of bothers me but I know it is all in good fun. And I have been as well with my friends...so it wouldn't be fair to have double standards.

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