How old were you when you had kids?

avafrisbee

I was 27 when my son was born we plan at least one more and I'd like for my son to be in preschool so likely around 30 or 31 for #2. I want a third my husband isn't so sure but if we do have a third it would be three years after #2 so 33-34 age range.

bkw2488

I have six kids, I had my 1st when I was 19, and my last at 31. I wanted to have all my kids right away, so I could be able to enjoy my grandkids for a long time. ( I am only 32 now and my oldest is 12) Hoping no grandkids for awhile though!!!

lururu

I had my first at 31 and my second at 34, I had 10 great years with my husband before we had children and now I feel like I can dedicate my time to them rather than worrying about missing out on experiences. However, I have a good friend who had her first child in her very early 20's and she is a brilliant Mum, I take a lot of advice from her as she seems to manage it so naturally.

nk17

I got married at 27 and had my first son at 31.

samanthaalgar27

I'm 23 (24 in April) & My husband is 32 and we don't have any children yet....I worry that the longer i leave it the older we're both going to get & if i wait until i'm 30 he'll be 38....Everyones different i suppose....we don't own our own house yet so i think that is our prority at the moment....It's your choice, noone elses! x

tropaze

I had my first when I was 23 and my last when I was 28, when you want children is a personal choice. I don't want to have children in my 30's, but there's nothing wrong with it. If that's when YOU feel comfortable having YOU'RE children then power to you! Let what they're saying be heard and acknowledged, and let them know you're going to do it on your time table, not theirs.

Steffi330

I had my oldest daughter when I was 19. I loved being a mother to her but now that I have basically started a second family in my thirties I realize how much more mature I am and so I think I am enjoying it a whole lot more. I am now 36 and my youngest is 6 months. My children are 17, 3, 16 months and 6 months. Mr six months was a surprise blessing. He ended up being born just 10 days after my father-in-law passed away. You and your hubby have a plan.... stick to it bc ultimately you are the ones that have to raise them so do what is right for you. Your parents are probably thinking a little selfishly than anything bc they are probably just anxious to be grandparents. Hopefully that means they will give you some much needed alone time and take the kids from time to time when you do have them. Being prepared to have kids is so much better than just jumping into it. Good luck and may you be blessed with the family you want when you want it! :happy:

NashvilleShelley

Married at 24, three kids - I was 30, 33 and 40! All are healthy. We saved so I could stay home with my boys. Love every minute of it!!

southofmadness

23 , 24 , 30......although...to say i had them might be a bit of a stretch... how about,.. how old was i when my wife had them? i was there for the birth.. and i hope for the conception!Pretty sure they are all mine.. the two crazy ones im sure of…. the one normal kid... I have my doubts ! Doesn’t seem possible that someone that sane came from me. I just don’t have the nerve to ask my wife for a blood test after 20 years. Im crazy...not suicidal

briggsy13

26, 28, & 30. Worked for me I'm now 32 and love my life.

toadiejones

I was 27 with my first (then 30, 32, 34). Now at 36, we are the youngest parents of all my firstborns friends. By at least 5 years. Many of our high school friend are only starting to have kids now. Even so, I wish we had started younger (partly so my body would have recovered easier!). We married when we were 22 but waited to be more financially stable...and we really didn't need to. We could have easily done it early. Kids honestly don't need much. If you wait for everything to be perfect to have kids, you'll never have 'em. Sometimes you just have to jump in!

bellevie23

19, 23, 24, 26, 27, annnnddd then I allowed people to intervene and make me sterile However my daughter passed away and one of those was a MC. I have 3 living children.


I too did not want to have any more children in my 30s, I have a girl and two boys, they dont make a 3rd kind, so there wasn't that whole 'continue trying for both', I would like to be able to spend as much time with my children and eventually grandchildren as possible, this is going off the theory I die from health and not something else. Also, my husband wanted to try for a boy before his deployments in case the worst happened, that there was someone to pass his name on, I would rather spend my 40s-50s to myself than my 20s, especially considering I was already settled down. My body bounced back quicker than the likelihood it would if I waited longer, I could go on and on on MY reasons for having them younger, but that should give an idea lol.

It really is each person's lifestyle choice, although the risk are higher having a baby with complications at a later age, unhealthy babies are not solely biased to later age. Do what makes you happy, even after you have one I guarantee people will be asking when you are going to have another, and forbid they be the same sex, they will ask when you are going to try for another to have the opposite sex, it is a never ending thing LOL, so don't feel pressured if you don't want to now.

loombeav

24 with my 1st 31 with my 2nd.

caroliiine86

19

Sh1tsRainbows

I was 25 ...bf was 18 with our 1st

wellbur

I was a late starter, but glad i did. the children have kept me young. I had my daughter when i was 34 and my son when i was 36. I think you are more relaxed the older you are.

dargytaylor

By the time I was 25 and my EX husband was 26, we had 3 boys.

Now I am 43 and my youngest is 18......Very bittersweet to me, they are all grown up and I am still pretty young and hip

BUT, I truly think early to mid-30's would be the best time to have kids..........you had time to grow, and you will still be pretty young when they are older!

shellma00

I had my son 2 days before I turned 21, then did not have my daughter until 2 months before I turned 27.

KyleB65

24 yrs for the first - This was a surprise!
26 yrs for the second - Another surprise but not as much as the first.

The oldest is now 21 yrs old!

Matt_Wild

24

EmCarroll1990

I would like to have my first child before I'm 30. Mind you, my mom had had 3 kids before that! First at 18, me at 23 and my younger brother at 27.

It was a different time though, don't stress over what others are saying. Have your kids when you're ready to have kids. Too many people are having them without even being remotely close to being financially stable.

All the best, hun.

kiters

I was 18 with my first and 25 with my second. I'm 28 now.

I agree, financial stablility is important but I love my kids....they are clothed, fed and sheltered and have almost every toy they ask for and I'm still not financially stable lol. Do it when you feel your ready to be a mom.

k0nfyo0zed

wow this got a lot more responses than i was expecting. thank you all for your input! i am very excited to be married and start a family, however, with so much going on with my husband's grad school adventure we won't actually settle until after he graduates. we're moving basically every summer. this august and next august, and then probably the following june... and because of that, me having a steady job is almost impossible. as such, we don't have much money right now. a little savings and a lot of loan money... i don't think we would be able to be proper parents right now, as much as i'd love to get started.

the plan for us is for me to be a SAHM, and i plan on doing something like medical transcription. something i can do when the babies are sleeping or late at night. with my husband going to school to be a pastor, his job will basically be 'on call 24/7' and we really don't have to worry about "WHO'S GONNA WATCH THE KIDS?!' if he gets an emergency call when i'm working. also, because i plan on being at home, and working at home, children close together shouldn't cause too much of an issue, we're hoping.

with 3 sets of grandparents (my husband's parents divorced and remarried when he was very young), 6 sets of aunts and uncles, and other family out the wazoo. the kids will be spoiled rotten, especially considering they will be pastor's kids, and from my experience in church, the congregation will also spoil them rotten. hopefully this means there will always be someone willing to watch them for a few days while hubby and i take a break to be husband and wife, instead of mom and dad.

we've thought this through, and discussed it at length... and we are in agreement, have been since before we even got engaged. it just nags at me that i'm going to be 30 next year and have not had children yet.

bluberrygoo

I was 19 when I conceived my first son, 20 when he was born. 22 when my second son was born. I want two more before I'm 26 (I'm 23 now), but I doubt it will happen.

All4Tris

I was 27 when I had my one and only son.

rossi02

Had my first at 30 and my second at 32.

I have several friends my age now (35) that have either just had their first.. or are trying for their first. I don't think it's such a big deal now to wait later to have kids. My mom had 3 (her first was still-born) at 23, then my sister at 25 and me at 27. When she was in the hospital (to give birth to me) there were a couple of nurses and even a doctor who couldn't believe she was so old and having a baby. Crazyness I say!

kreat

23

spa9177

I had my first child at 18. I know that is very young, but I am very well off and have been married for almost 17 years. I have a total of 3 children and we are very happy. Their ages are 16, 12, and 7, 2 boys and 1 girl.

stormieweather

28 with first one, 35 with the second and 44 with the third. I sowed my wild oats before I had children, traveled around the world, lived on a sailboat, and generally played like a wild child. :bigsmile: :happy: But once I did settle down, I was/am perfectly happy being a mom and doing the domestic goddess thing...

run4yourlife

My daughter was born 2 weeks before my 27th birthday, and I had my son when I was 29. I used to think I wanted to be done having babies before I hit 30, but now that I'm in my 30s, I see NO reason why I couldn't be having children now. That whole "too old" argument is irrelevant if you ask me.

I'm happy I had my kids when I did, and I feel I was ready, but I probably would have worried and stressed far less if I was having them now. You certainly are NOT too old, nor anywhere near! You and your husband should do what's best for you. Don't be influenced by what your family thinks. You definitely don't want to rush it. Being a parent changes your life in all kinds of ways and you'll probably be more prepared if you wait until you feel the time is right.