Does anyone else pretty much have NO support at all?

MrDude_1

People who make snide comments that I 'must be on steroids!'

I finally had someone say that about me.... I was pretty happy about it myself. It takes alot of work to get someone to think you're jucin when you're not. lol.

pcteck2

When I started my weight loss I didn't tell anyone, not even my husband. Only my sister and I shared and that was mostly by e-mail and not often. I had failed so many times that I didn't want to announce it to anyone. After about 20 pounds I made a few hints, but got sot of a hohum response. After 40 pounds people suddenly sat up and noticed and suddenly I was an expert on weight loss. Funny isn't it? I became a nine days wonder for quite a while. I think I did better before anybody knew.

2gabbee

It's so sad so many of us suffer from lack of support in our weight loss journey from family members, friends and significant others. Believe in yourself, be honest, strong , don't let anyone stand in your way of happiness and your goals. Surround yourself with those who support you in all areas of your life, your hard work will payoff, people will notice, those that doubted your successful will see your serious about a healthy life style and may in time learn to support you. In my case members of my family are living with high blood pressure, are diabetic , & dealing with weight issues. I made it clear that I expect from them in my struggles with weight the same respect I give them dealing with their health issues. Don't get me wrong change didn't happen over night slowly I feel I'm getting family support. From cookbooks for healthy meals, to my dad purchasing me a bike with a exercise triangle that converts my bike to a stationary bike., to my daughter & I walking our dogs & she supports me as one of my biggest cheer leaders on MFP . Reach out to members of MVP in your community for support or around the world. Their are great people on this site who understand and are willing to help. Check out meetup.com for walking,running ,fitness , hiking groups, Community centers for exercise classes., VolksWalking or Volksmarching groups for organized walks. Support comes from a number of resources.I refer to these resources as my extended family. Good luck in your journey your not alone!

enlightening

That is so tough, but it happens. Don't say another thing to them. You can get support here, and when they see the changes in your body, they will say something and it could even be something positive! But the other part of this is that along with the changes in your body there will be changes in YOU! Your new confidence and energy may very well be a threat to these two people. I would be more concerned about this in the boyfriend. Does he want to keep you down? You'll soon find out. Do not let those two discourage you--shame on them!!

Amjd412

I am a single mom, so I don't have a husband to support me and my mother is super supportive but she lives out of state. So I am kinda on my own to make it happen. It would be so nice to have a friend in town to walk with me and keep each other positive. So yes I understand.
But on the positive side congrats on your loss! Keep up the good work.

jyow01

I am sorry that those around you don't support you. Don't let it get to you if you need support feel free to add me. As far as your mom and boyfriend go maybe tey are jealous of your weight loss. You can't really choose your mother but the boyfriend you can do something about. Explain to him how important this journey is to you and how much you want his support. If not then I am not sure what I would do in your position maybe he doesn't know how to support you or maybe he is scared if you lose the weight you will leave him for someone else. Just a thought.

223730

Definitely with you on this one. My husband could care less, to be honest. I would tell him I wanted to eat a cake, “sure honey what kind do you want?” I would tell him I lost 2 lbs, “that’s good, hmm”. I think we all want someone to be excited with us when we accomplish something that means so much, and we all want encouragement because these kind of changes are not easy! Especially when those around us are not inclined to change their own habits.

My friends are not health/weight loss conscious either. The neighbor next door will see me eat a subway sandwich and say “I couldn’t eat just that, I’m a fat girl, I need my food”. My best girlfriend says she’d rather eat what she wants and be happy than to ‘diet’ and be miserable. Another friend is all about doing the “fad” diets and she is always going from one extreme to another – low carb, no carb, no sugar, whatever is out there. She says she doesn’t have time to exercise.

So, I am on my own with this, with only my MFP friends to support me! I want it for myself, so I think that is why it is working. I feel so good about getting out there and exercising, and eating better, knowing that even when I don’t want to, I did it anyway! It’s going to take me to where I want to be.

I also find that random compliments make me feel great too. I may not get them from my friends or my husband, but when other people notice, it still makes a difference! My husband’s best friend said “don’t take this the wrong way, but you look like you have been losing weight”. That was a great moment (he said it in front of my husband, so that makes it even better! I had to refrain from sticking my tongue out at him:happy: ). My co-workers notice, and people I don’t see often make mention of it.

Reneefit135

I am really glad i came across this post. I have been using MFP since Nov 2011 and have been trying to get my friends and family to join. We all need to lose weight and get healthier. Only 2 of them joined and they haven't stuck to it. I have started blogs for me and my friends where i send out comments successes and encouragement it was supposed to be a community like this but of people i actually know. It FLOPPED, nobody responded to the posts. I don't understand how the people in your life who care about you the most can be so un supportive especially when they need the help as well. They actually seem irritated with me every time i mention something about health, wellness or weightless. Its really tough.

jasminemonique1

I feel the same way my family really don't support me they often think that I am losing weight for the wrong reasons. They think I am doing it just to be thin. yes I would like to be smaller but I find that myfitnesspal also helped me to realized that there are more things to losing weight than being thin. I also have cut down of my sugar intake and my sodium intake. I would Like to find people ust like me who can give me advice or pointer so that this journey will be more efficient,enjoyable and alot easier.