CHILL!!!
It is human nature to get defensive and protective when you feel you are being judged, attacked, made fun of, accused, looked down upon, laughed at....etc.
But, at the end of the day, its all how you, personally, CHOOSE to react. You can LET it get you down OR you can let it GO.
For some, its hard to do. For others, its a piece of cake. But, I think its healthier to learn to let it go and take it with a grain of salt, than it is to get all twisted and p.o'd and have it ruin your day or life. Know what I mean? Life is too short to spend it angry because somebody didn't tell you what you 'wanted' to hear. Or because somebody didn't agree with you. Who cares?! As long as YOU know WHO you are, it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks.
We may all be here for the same reason, but we all aren't going to have the same opinions on things or dish out the exact same advice or support. How BORING would it be if we all agreed on everything? Its just not realistic.
So what if somebody judges you? So what if somebody laughs at you? Don't let it get you down, let it make you stronger! THEY aren't beating you down. You're beating YOURSELF down by letting it get to you.
So, stay strong MFP's!! Grab life by the horns and kick a**!!!!! :happy:
Thats just my opinion!!
Opinion: a PERSONAL view, attitude, or appraisal.
Advice: an OPINION or recommendation offered as a guide to action, conduct, etc.
But, at the end of the day, its all how you, personally, CHOOSE to react. You can LET it get you down OR you can let it GO.
For some, its hard to do. For others, its a piece of cake. But, I think its healthier to learn to let it go and take it with a grain of salt, than it is to get all twisted and p.o'd and have it ruin your day or life. Know what I mean? Life is too short to spend it angry because somebody didn't tell you what you 'wanted' to hear. Or because somebody didn't agree with you. Who cares?! As long as YOU know WHO you are, it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks.
We may all be here for the same reason, but we all aren't going to have the same opinions on things or dish out the exact same advice or support. How BORING would it be if we all agreed on everything? Its just not realistic.
So what if somebody judges you? So what if somebody laughs at you? Don't let it get you down, let it make you stronger! THEY aren't beating you down. You're beating YOURSELF down by letting it get to you.
So, stay strong MFP's!! Grab life by the horns and kick a**!!!!! :happy:
Thats just my opinion!!
Opinion: a PERSONAL view, attitude, or appraisal.
Advice: an OPINION or recommendation offered as a guide to action, conduct, etc.
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It is human nature to get defensive and protective when you feel you are being judged, attacked, made fun of, accused, looked down upon, laughed at....etc.
But, at the end of the day, its all how you, personally, CHOOSE to react. You can LET it get you down OR you can let it GO.
For some, its hard to do. For others, its a piece of cake. But, I think its healthier to learn to let it go and take it with a grain of salt, than it is to get all twisted and p.o'd and have it ruin your day or life. Know what I mean? Life is too short to spend it angry because somebody didn't tell you what you 'wanted' to hear. Or because somebody didn't agree with you. Who cares?! As long as YOU know WHO you are, it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks.
We may all be here for the same reason, but we all aren't going to have the same opinions on things or dish out the exact same advice or support. How BORING would it be if we all agreed on everything? Its just not realistic.
So what if somebody judges you? So what if somebody laughs at you? Don't let it get you down, let it make you stronger! THEY aren't beating you down. You're beating YOURSELF down by letting it get to you.
So, stay strong MFP's!! Grab life by the horns and kick a**!!!!! :happy:
Thats just my opinion!!
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Not to mention we tend to learn the most from people who hold up the mirror to our faces and disagree with us. Look at the mess some of these Hollywood stars make of their lives because all they have is a bunch of yes-people around them agreeing with them and telling them what they want to hear. If you focus on the "crap" of life whether it be someones else's attitude or something that is happening to you all you're doing is attacting more crap into your life. Have gratitude every day!0
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I totally agree with you Roxy. It boils down to why are you here, to get praised or impress someone else?? Not me, I'm here for me and that may sound selfish, but if you not here for you your here for the wrong reason. If you don't want this for yourself your going to fail. You have to want to look better and feel better, and BE BETTER. It's nice for others to notice but you need to notice and believe in what your doing. Nothing is going to work 100 % for 100% of the people, otherwise everyone would do it. You really have to sift through everything and figure out what works for YOU. Everyone can offer advice but it just advice, what worked for them. As someone who has tried a bunch of different things for many different reasons I feel I have found something that works for me, better eating, exercise and support. Thanks to all the MFP's out there all working to be better.
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No kidding!
Take 5 of these and call me in the morning.:drinker:
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Omg, I LIVE with a spaz and it drives me NUTS! Spaz over things that are WORTH spazzing over. Not trivial, harmless, pointless, petty little things. Its just not worth it.0
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Omg, I LIVE with a spaz and it drives me NUTS! Spaz over things that are WORTH spazzing over. Not trivial, harmless, pointless, petty little things. Its just not worth it.
I got a spare room
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I would challenge people here to realize that part of becoming a better person is being a kinder, more empathic person. Instead of the person who tramples over others blindly.
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No kidding!
Take 5 of these and call me in the morning.:drinker:
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Omg, I LIVE with a spaz and it drives me NUTS! Spaz over things that are WORTH spazzing over. Not trivial, harmless, pointless, petty little things. Its just not worth it.
You too!!! so do I....and I am soooo not a worry person! I could be down...lightning struck/burned my house 2 weeks ago...house was 5 months old!....but I got up everyday and picked up what was left...kept my chin up...and managed to only miss a few work outs!....lol
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Omg, I LIVE with a spaz and it drives me NUTS! Spaz over things that are WORTH spazzing over. Not trivial, harmless, pointless, petty little things. Its just not worth it.
I got a spare room
no spaz here
On the internet I have come to learn you need to learn when jokes are appropriate and not appropriate. The more people I've dealt with I've learned you can easily offend someone. You have to remember that people have real feelings on the other side of the screen and you can either make someone upset, laugh, or cry. You have to be sensitive on the internet like you do in real life. Something to really keep in mind. Don't be so easy to dismiss someone or make jokes about someone, because right now I'm not too impressed with some of the members on this board.0 -
On the internet I have come to learn you need to learn when jokes are appropriate and not appropriate. The more people I've dealt with I've learned you can easily offend someone. You have to remember that people have real feelings on the other side of the screen and you can either make someone upset, laugh, or cry. You have to be sensitive on the internet like you do in real life. Something to really keep in mind. Don't be so easy to dismiss someone or make jokes about someone, because right now I'm not too impressed with some of the members on this board.
It's REALLY easy to forget that Falcon. Thanks for the reminder. 0 -
Omg, I LIVE with a spaz and it drives me NUTS! Spaz over things that are WORTH spazzing over. Not trivial, harmless, pointless, petty little things. Its just not worth it.
I got a spare room
no spaz here
On the internet I have come to learn you need to learn when jokes are appropriate and not appropriate. The more people I've dealt with I've learned you can easily offend someone. You have to remember that people have real feelings on the other side of the screen and you can either make someone upset, laugh, or cry. You have to be sensitive on the internet like you do in real life. Something to really keep in mind. Don't be so easy to dismiss someone or make jokes about someone, because right now I'm not too impressed with some of the members on this board.
impressed?
but judgmental....not a pleasant way to go through life0 -
Omg, I LIVE with a spaz and it drives me NUTS! Spaz over things that are WORTH spazzing over. Not trivial, harmless, pointless, petty little things. Its just not worth it.
I got a spare room
no spaz here
On the internet I have come to learn you need to learn when jokes are appropriate and not appropriate. The more people I've dealt with I've learned you can easily offend someone. You have to remember that people have real feelings on the other side of the screen and you can either make someone upset, laugh, or cry. You have to be sensitive on the internet like you do in real life. Something to really keep in mind. Don't be so easy to dismiss someone or make jokes about someone, because right now I'm not too impressed with some of the members on this board.
My experience on here has been that 99.9% of the people on here mean well. They want to educate, they want to debate. They don't want to chase people away, and they don't want to offend. I've been reading the posts (it's been a slow day) and nothing I saw was a joke made at the expense of someone else.
If something that you are reading on the internet is making you cry, you shouldn't be on it. If someone you don't know has that kind of power over you, you're going to need to see a therapist, and I don't mean that in a mean way. I'm 100% serious.
With that said... it is good to remind ourselves to be KIND in what we say... internet or no internet. Just because you yourself are not a sensitive person doesn't mean that everyone out there is that strong. We know you mean well, but I have seen some down talking. No need for it to go that far.
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Omg, I LIVE with a spaz and it drives me NUTS! Spaz over things that are WORTH spazzing over. Not trivial, harmless, pointless, petty little things. Its just not worth it.
I got a spare room
no spaz here
On the internet I have come to learn you need to learn when jokes are appropriate and not appropriate. The more people I've dealt with I've learned you can easily offend someone. You have to remember that people have real feelings on the other side of the screen and you can either make someone upset, laugh, or cry. You have to be sensitive on the internet like you do in real life. Something to really keep in mind. Don't be so easy to dismiss someone or make jokes about someone, because right now I'm not too impressed with some of the members on this board.
impressed?
but judgmental....not a pleasant way to go through life
Dave I'm not being judemental I'm stating a fact based on what I've read so far. You could be a realy nice guy in real life but on the internet it's easier to offend people why? because you don't have to be face to face with someone to see what they're reactions will be.0 -
Omg, I LIVE with a spaz and it drives me NUTS! Spaz over things that are WORTH spazzing over. Not trivial, harmless, pointless, petty little things. Its just not worth it.
I got a spare room
no spaz here
On the internet I have come to learn you need to learn when jokes are appropriate and not appropriate. The more people I've dealt with I've learned you can easily offend someone. You have to remember that people have real feelings on the other side of the screen and you can either make someone upset, laugh, or cry. You have to be sensitive on the internet like you do in real life. Something to really keep in mind. Don't be so easy to dismiss someone or make jokes about someone, because right now I'm not too impressed with some of the members on this board.
impressed?
but judgmental....not a pleasant way to go through life
Dave I'm being judemental I'm stating a fact based on what I've read so far.
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My experience on here has been that 99.9% of the people on here mean well. They want to educate, they want to debate. They don't want to chase people away, and they don't want to offend. I've been reading the posts (it's been a slow day) and nothing I saw was a joke made at the expense of someone else.
If something that you are reading on the internet is making you cry, you shouldn't be on it. If someone you don't know has that kind of power over you, you're going to need to see a therapist, and I don't mean that in a mean way. I'm 100% serious.
With that said... it is good to remind ourselves to be KIND in what we say... internet or no internet. Just because you yourself are not a sensitive person doesn't mean that everyone out there is that strong. We know you mean well, but I have seen some down talking. No need for it to go that far.
My two cents.
I've been here since November and what I've seen is that if you don't agree with the more popular posters you'll get one of two reactions:
1. You will get a good debate.
2. You will get snarky after snarky response that isn't a discussion and isn't an attempt to educate, it's just an attempt to completely negate the 'wrong' opinion and at times an attempt to make fun of the wrong opinion which CAN very much offend some people because some people take their opinion very personally.
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Omg, I LIVE with a spaz and it drives me NUTS! Spaz over things that are WORTH spazzing over. Not trivial, harmless, pointless, petty little things. Its just not worth it.
I got a spare room
no spaz here
On the internet I have come to learn you need to learn when jokes are appropriate and not appropriate. The more people I've dealt with I've learned you can easily offend someone. You have to remember that people have real feelings on the other side of the screen and you can either make someone upset, laugh, or cry. You have to be sensitive on the internet like you do in real life. Something to really keep in mind. Don't be so easy to dismiss someone or make jokes about someone, because right now I'm not too impressed with some of the members on this board.
impressed?
but judgmental....not a pleasant way to go through life
Dave I'm not being judemental I'm stating a fact based on what I've read so far. You could be a realy nice guy in real life but on the internet it's easier to offend people why? because you don't have to be face to face with someone to see what they're reactions will be.
it is a fact to you based on what you percieve
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Falcon - and my experience in message boards is that members can have relationships with each other that other random members of the same board don't know about. I've seen Roxy & Dave make comments back & forth for a few weeks now. He's never crossed a line with her & juding on Roxy's style, she'd put him in her place if she thought he did. Dave can be blunt, but he's honest. Another thing to remember is that there are men & women on this board &, as in real life, men & women communicate differently with each other. Men aren't as easily offended & women can take things on a raw nerve sometimes.
Hold on...where is that chill pill that Soupy brought in. I think you might need one.0 -
Falcon - and my experience in message boards is that members can have relationships with each other that other random members of the same board don't know about. I've seen Roxy & Dave make comments back & forth for a few weeks now. He's never crossed a line with her & juding on Roxy's style, she'd put him in her place if she thought he did. Dave can be blunt, but he's honest. Another thing to remember is that there are men & women on this board &, as in real life, men & women communicate differently with each other. Men aren't as easily offended & women can take things on a raw nerve sometimes.
Hold on...where is that chill pill that Soupy brought in. I think you might need one.
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Omg, I LIVE with a spaz and it drives me NUTS! Spaz over things that are WORTH spazzing over. Not trivial, harmless, pointless, petty little things. Its just not worth it.
I got a spare room
no spaz here
On the internet I have come to learn you need to learn when jokes are appropriate and not appropriate. The more people I've dealt with I've learned you can easily offend someone. You have to remember that people have real feelings on the other side of the screen and you can either make someone upset, laugh, or cry. You have to be sensitive on the internet like you do in real life. Something to really keep in mind. Don't be so easy to dismiss someone or make jokes about someone, because right now I'm not too impressed with some of the members on this board.
impressed?
but judgmental....not a pleasant way to go through life
Dave I'm not being judemental I'm stating a fact based on what I've read so far. You could be a realy nice guy in real life but on the internet it's easier to offend people why? because you don't have to be face to face with someone to see what they're reactions will be.
it is a fact to you based on what you percieve
but passing on your perception as a fact is not fair
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LIGHTEN UP! The world isn't so serious! Laugh a little! If people are offended over every little thing, what a dark place it must be. Again. As Roxy said...CHILL!0
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I need extra-strength CHILL lately with these preggo hormones going crazy!!!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:0
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