CHILL!!!
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Omg, I LIVE with a spaz and it drives me NUTS! Spaz over things that are WORTH spazzing over. Not trivial, harmless, pointless, petty little things. Its just not worth it.
I got a spare room
no spaz here
On the internet I have come to learn you need to learn when jokes are appropriate and not appropriate. The more people I've dealt with I've learned you can easily offend someone. You have to remember that people have real feelings on the other side of the screen and you can either make someone upset, laugh, or cry. You have to be sensitive on the internet like you do in real life. Something to really keep in mind. Don't be so easy to dismiss someone or make jokes about someone, because right now I'm not too impressed with some of the members on this board.
impressed?
but judgmental....not a pleasant way to go through life
Dave I'm not being judemental I'm stating a fact based on what I've read so far. You could be a realy nice guy in real life but on the internet it's easier to offend people why? because you don't have to be face to face with someone to see what they're reactions will be.
it is a fact to you based on what you percieve
but passing on your perception as a fact is not fair
It is not about crossing lines it's about how your presenting yourself to someone
does that work both ways?
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Omg, I LIVE with a spaz and it drives me NUTS! Spaz over things that are WORTH spazzing over. Not trivial, harmless, pointless, petty little things. Its just not worth it.
I got a spare room
no spaz here
On the internet I have come to learn you need to learn when jokes are appropriate and not appropriate. The more people I've dealt with I've learned you can easily offend someone. You have to remember that people have real feelings on the other side of the screen and you can either make someone upset, laugh, or cry. You have to be sensitive on the internet like you do in real life. Something to really keep in mind. Don't be so easy to dismiss someone or make jokes about someone, because right now I'm not too impressed with some of the members on this board.
So you're saying that those who like to joke and be more direct should take into account those who are too thin skinned to realize that it can NEVER be personal if you don't know the person IRL.
Lets all be sensitive to one way of thinking because it merely seems nicer.
I don't think the "sensitive" people are necessarily all that nice. Why would a person assume strangers are out to get them? I don't assume that, but I'm familiar with the adage "It takes one to know one."
Maybe instead of getting offended, people should read and listen. "Get off your butt and get healthy so you can live longer and stop whining" isn't mean. A nice filet tastes just as good served on a plastic plate as it does on a silver platter.0 -
Oh Dang, I must have missed something...
Listen, I'm about as sensitive as they come. Ask my DH - I can get my feeling hurt in a heartbeat. Ya know what I've learned? All that "sensitivity" is really a mask for anger ... I've spent my whole life feeling like it's easier to be "hurt" than it is to be angry. When someone was mean - I cried. When my ex hit me - I cried. When I was a single mom - I cried. And the WHOLE TIME I was crying... I was dipping my spoon in some ice cream.
When I made the decision to get healthy - it was a decision to get TOTALLY healthy - mentally, physically, spiritually... and part of that has been being honest about what I'm really feeling. If I need to get mad - I get mad. If I need to be sad - I get sad. What I don't do anymore is self-medicate with ice cream, chips, french fries, etc.
My point is this... I challenge those who are feeling "hurt" on the boards or those who are feeling "attacked" to really sit back and look at whether they "should" feel that way.
Is Dave blunt? Oh heck yeah! Will Dave tell you your full of crap if he feels that you're full of crap? Sure will... but in the same respect, I gotta tell ya - his "no bull" attitude makes his "Way to go"s seem that much more credible. When I post something and Dave says, "Wow - good job" - it always makes me feel good... because I know he's just as likely to tell me, "Quit complaining and get on the treadmill." I use Dave as an example because it seems that quite a few people have a problem with his bluntness... my suggestion? If you don't like reading what he has to say - skip over his posts.
Ok - stepping off my soapbox now. Carry on....0 -
WELL said!! Excellent post!! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:Oh Dang, I must have missed something...
Listen, I'm about as sensitive as they come. Ask my DH - I can get my feeling hurt in a heartbeat. Ya know what I've learned? All that "sensitivity" is really a mask for anger ... I've spent my whole life feeling like it's easier to be "hurt" than it is to be angry. When someone was mean - I cried. When my ex hit me - I cried. When I was a single mom - I cried. And the WHOLE TIME I was crying... I was dipping my spoon in some ice cream.
When I made the decision to get healthy - it was a decision to get TOTALLY healthy - mentally, physically, spiritually... and part of that has been being honest about what I'm really feeling. If I need to get mad - I get mad. If I need to be sad - I get sad. What I don't do anymore is self-medicate with ice cream, chips, french fries, etc.
My point is this... I challenge those who are feeling "hurt" on the boards or those who are feeling "attacked" to really sit back and look at whether they "should" feel that way.
Is Dave blunt? Oh heck yeah! Will Dave tell you your full of crap if he feels that you're full of crap? Sure will... but in the same respect, I gotta tell ya - his "no bull" attitude makes his "Way to go"s seem that much more credible. When I post something and Dave says, "Wow - good job" - it always makes me feel good... because I know he's just as likely to tell me, "Quit complaining and get on the treadmill." I use Dave as an example because it seems that quite a few people have a problem with his bluntness... my suggestion? If you don't like reading what he has to say - skip over his posts.
Ok - stepping off my soapbox now. Carry on....
I am in complete agreement!
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WELL said!! Excellent post!! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:Oh Dang, I must have missed something...
Listen, I'm about as sensitive as they come. Ask my DH - I can get my feeling hurt in a heartbeat. Ya know what I've learned? All that "sensitivity" is really a mask for anger ... I've spent my whole life feeling like it's easier to be "hurt" than it is to be angry. When someone was mean - I cried. When my ex hit me - I cried. When I was a single mom - I cried. And the WHOLE TIME I was crying... I was dipping my spoon in some ice cream.
When I made the decision to get healthy - it was a decision to get TOTALLY healthy - mentally, physically, spiritually... and part of that has been being honest about what I'm really feeling. If I need to get mad - I get mad. If I need to be sad - I get sad. What I don't do anymore is self-medicate with ice cream, chips, french fries, etc.
My point is this... I challenge those who are feeling "hurt" on the boards or those who are feeling "attacked" to really sit back and look at whether they "should" feel that way.
Is Dave blunt? Oh heck yeah! Will Dave tell you your full of crap if he feels that you're full of crap? Sure will... but in the same respect, I gotta tell ya - his "no bull" attitude makes his "Way to go"s seem that much more credible. When I post something and Dave says, "Wow - good job" - it always makes me feel good... because I know he's just as likely to tell me, "Quit complaining and get on the treadmill." I use Dave as an example because it seems that quite a few people have a problem with his bluntness... my suggestion? If you don't like reading what he has to say - skip over his posts.
Ok - stepping off my soapbox now. Carry on....
I am in complete agreement!
Stop being so sensitive. It's just too adorable.0 -
WELL said!! Excellent post!! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
Is Dave blunt? Oh heck yeah! Will Dave tell you your full of crap if he feels that you're full of crap? Sure will... but in the same respect, I gotta tell ya - his "no bull" attitude makes his "Way to go"s seem that much more credible. When I post something and Dave says, "Wow - good job" - it always makes me feel good... because I know he's just as likely to tell me, "Quit complaining and get on the treadmill." I use Dave as an example because it seems that quite a few people have a problem with his bluntness... my suggestion? If you don't like reading what he has to say - skip over his posts.
I am in complete agreement!
Me too!0 -
A nice filet tastes just as good served on a plastic plate as it does on a silver platter.
Beautiful!! SO true! Love it!!! :drinker:0 -
Oh Dang, I must have missed something...
Listen, I'm about as sensitive as they come. Ask my DH - I can get my feeling hurt in a heartbeat. Ya know what I've learned? All that "sensitivity" is really a mask for anger ... I've spent my whole life feeling like it's easier to be "hurt" than it is to be angry. When someone was mean - I cried. When my ex hit me - I cried. When I was a single mom - I cried. And the WHOLE TIME I was crying... I was dipping my spoon in some ice cream.
When I made the decision to get healthy - it was a decision to get TOTALLY healthy - mentally, physically, spiritually... and part of that has been being honest about what I'm really feeling. If I need to get mad - I get mad. If I need to be sad - I get sad. What I don't do anymore is self-medicate with ice cream, chips, french fries, etc.
My point is this... I challenge those who are feeling "hurt" on the boards or those who are feeling "attacked" to really sit back and look at whether they "should" feel that way.
Is Dave blunt? Oh heck yeah! Will Dave tell you your full of crap if he feels that you're full of crap? Sure will... but in the same respect, I gotta tell ya - his "no bull" attitude makes his "Way to go"s seem that much more credible. When I post something and Dave says, "Wow - good job" - it always makes me feel good... because I know he's just as likely to tell me, "Quit complaining and get on the treadmill." I use Dave as an example because it seems that quite a few people have a problem with his bluntness... my suggestion? If you don't like reading what he has to say - skip over his posts.
Ok - stepping off my soapbox now. Carry on....
You're awesome! I admire ppl who are honest with themselves. Its very important! :flowerforyou:0 -
This is supposed to be a support board and I saw a member quite today wow0
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This is supposed to be a support board and I saw a member quite today wow
so if someone quits
this isnt a support board?0 -
:sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad:
WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
everyone else's first amendment rights aren't as important as my FEEEEEEELINGS!!!!!!!!
:sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad:
we saw someone quit today who was unable to carry on an adult conversation. who could not handle the topic being discussed with the maturity my 12 year old students possess.
Nobody EVER made any comments about the (former)member, they addressed the TOPIC. The crybaby ran away because they could not handle it.
Good riddance.
Feel free to bash me- I have a thick enough skin to handle it.0 -
:bigsmile: *giggling*0
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WELL said!! Excellent post!! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:Oh Dang, I must have missed something...
Listen, I'm about as sensitive as they come. Ask my DH - I can get my feeling hurt in a heartbeat. Ya know what I've learned? All that "sensitivity" is really a mask for anger ... I've spent my whole life feeling like it's easier to be "hurt" than it is to be angry. When someone was mean - I cried. When my ex hit me - I cried. When I was a single mom - I cried. And the WHOLE TIME I was crying... I was dipping my spoon in some ice cream.
When I made the decision to get healthy - it was a decision to get TOTALLY healthy - mentally, physically, spiritually... and part of that has been being honest about what I'm really feeling. If I need to get mad - I get mad. If I need to be sad - I get sad. What I don't do anymore is self-medicate with ice cream, chips, french fries, etc.
My point is this... I challenge those who are feeling "hurt" on the boards or those who are feeling "attacked" to really sit back and look at whether they "should" feel that way.
Is Dave blunt? Oh heck yeah! Will Dave tell you your full of crap if he feels that you're full of crap? Sure will... but in the same respect, I gotta tell ya - his "no bull" attitude makes his "Way to go"s seem that much more credible. When I post something and Dave says, "Wow - good job" - it always makes me feel good... because I know he's just as likely to tell me, "Quit complaining and get on the treadmill." I use Dave as an example because it seems that quite a few people have a problem with his bluntness... my suggestion? If you don't like reading what he has to say - skip over his posts.
Ok - stepping off my soapbox now. Carry on....
I am in complete agreement!
I agree and i might add that I am overly sensitive and have social anxiety disorder if something bugs me I don't read it as for dave I've always just taken him as a say it how you see it type person it's alot nicer to know where someone stands that to be lied to
that's my 2 cents0 -
:bigsmile: *giggling*
Come ON, Marla! You know you wanna. *peer pressure*0 -
She made a thread because she was concerned and it was adressed in a complete and humilatting manner0
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She made a thread because she was concerned and it was adressed in a complete and humilatting manner
OH PUULLLEEEEZE0 -
The TOPIC was being ridiculed. Nobody said "wow what an idiot you are because you believe everything CNN tells you. "
they pointed out the relative BS level being spouted by media.
If that's gonna make her eat, then EVERYTHING is gonna make her eat. And that's not anybody's fault but hers.
GIMME A BREAK.0 -
:sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad:
WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
everyone else's first amendment rights aren't as important as my FEEEEEEELINGS!!!!!!!!
:sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad:
we saw someone quit today who was unable to carry on an adult conversation. who could not handle the topic being discussed with the maturity my 12 year old students possess.
Nobody EVER made any comments about the (former)member, they addressed the TOPIC. The crybaby ran away because they could not handle it.
Good riddance.
Feel free to bash me- I have a thick enough skin to handle it.
You rock!!! :laugh:0 -
She made a thread because she was concerned and it was adressed in a complete and humilatting manner
OH PUULLLEEEEZE
You may not see it that way. But I do. So we agree to disagree0 -
who says I agree?
don't make assumptions for me!
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
you see what I just did there? It was a sarcastic use of humor. It doesn't mean anything except "ha ha, let's have a laugh"0 -
So we agree to disagree
YES!! Lets all agree to disagree!
Good one Falcon! :drinker:0 -
WOW!:noway:
That is all.
On second thought.............
No it isn't.
Get a life folks. It's a dog eat dog world. If you can't hack it in life or even on these boards because your afraid of getting your toes stepped on.......don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya.
I've been here well over a year and this crap never stops!!! That's why they say "The strong will survive,"
and we do.:smokin:
As Dave says...."DEAL"
As I say....."Got an issue? Here's a tissue. Move on"0 -
gimme a tissueWOW!:noway:
That is all.
On second thought.............
No it isn't.
Get a life folks. It's a dog eat dog world. If you can't hack it in life or even on these boards because your afraid of getting your toes stepped on.......don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya.
I've been here well over a year and this crap never stops!!! That's why they say "The strong will survive,"
and we do.:smokin:
As Dave says...."DEAL"
As I say....."Got an issue? Here's a tissue. Move on"
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Omg, I LIVE with a spaz and it drives me NUTS! Spaz over things that are WORTH spazzing over. Not trivial, harmless, pointless, petty little things. Its just not worth it.
I spaz uite often, i'm a well know spazzer in my home. I spaz over the toilet paper roll being put on WRONG! :laugh: , I spaz over no one answering the phone but 15 people are sitting around looking at the damn thing, I spaz over tripping over cats on my way down the stairs, they don't realize I can fall faster than they can run.....wow, I need to chill!:laugh:0 -
I've been here since November and what I've seen is that if you don't agree with the more popular posters you'll get one of two reactions:
1. You will get a good debate.
2. You will get snarky after snarky response that isn't a discussion and isn't an attempt to educate, it's just an attempt to completely negate the 'wrong' opinion and at times an attempt to make fun of the wrong opinion which CAN very much offend some people because some people take their opinion very personally.
It's interesting how people have so many different experiences in the same place but it's because we're all so different.
YES!!! She said snarky! Remember when that was my favorite thing to call you Dave!!:laugh:0 -
gimme a tissueWOW!:noway:
That is all.
On second thought.............
No it isn't.
Get a life folks. It's a dog eat dog world. If you can't hack it in life or even on these boards because your afraid of getting your toes stepped on.......don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya.
I've been here well over a year and this crap never stops!!! That's why they say "The strong will survive,"
and we do.:smokin:
As Dave says...."DEAL"
As I say....."Got an issue? Here's a tissue. Move on"
You don't need one JoJo! :laugh:0 -
I've been here since November and what I've seen is that if you don't agree with the more popular posters you'll get one of two reactions:
1. You will get a good debate.
2. You will get snarky after snarky response that isn't a discussion and isn't an attempt to educate, it's just an attempt to completely negate the 'wrong' opinion and at times an attempt to make fun of the wrong opinion which CAN very much offend some people because some people take their opinion very personally.
It's interesting how people have so many different experiences in the same place but it's because we're all so different.
YES!!! She said snarky! Remember when that was my favorite thing to call you Dave!!:laugh:
sure..I remember this morning:laugh: :laugh:
well...glad I didnt make you quit the site 0 -
I think sooomeonnne on here neeeeds a xanax.
I'll give it to you for free.....geeeeze.0 -
so you used to call Dave snarky?0
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I usually try to stay out of things like this. And actually, I'm not quite sure why I'm not. I just wanna say what I'm thinking so I can forget about it and move on. :ohwell:
Personally, I feel we should all try to find a middle ground. Being an overly sensitive person myself, I can totally understand where some members are coming from. It's one reason I don't post very often (aside from the fact that I rarely make time for the computer lately). I also do understand that this is an internet forum, and is open to the public, so there will always be a difference of opinon and everything should be taken with a grain of salt. I agree things got blown waaay out of proportion in multiple threads the past couple days. I think deleting one's account over what happened in the 'Swine Flu' thread was very over the top.
I also believe that bluntness definately has it's uses. Support doesn't mean always patting each other on the back and ignoring when people seem to be looking for excuses to slack and ease guilt. It also doesn't mean automattically agreeing with other's opinons and walking on egg shells so that no one gets hurt feelings. Sometimes "though love" is just what's required. Pushing ourselves is the only way to improve, both mentally and physically, and sometimes we need someone else to give us a little push.
BUT - I still feel that some posts I have read lately have been unnecessary. I'm not going to point out which ones, cause it really doesn't matter. Maybe they were only unnecessary in my opinon, which is part of the point. We all have different levels of what we feel is acceptable. And yes, maybe some peoples levels need to be elevated, but while none of us should feel we need to skirt around subjects to avoid causing a stir with the more sensetive members, does that mean that some understanding can't be given to them as well? It seems to me that it has all been "live with it, toughen up, deal", which is valid advice, but just as this is a public forum and so the more blunt members have a right to say what they wish, do not the other memebers have the right to enjoy themselves here as well? Can't we all just try to get along, and maybe take walk in each other's shoes?
I've seen this forum go through one exodus already, and I would really hate to see it go through another.
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