Poll: YES or NO? Saying "Great Job!" On Your Diary

Nana_Booboo

Guess I'm just a mean Bi**h.

I won't tell you good job unless you did a good job.

EAT, MOVE, LIVE!!!

wells0707

Who am I to judge what people use their calories on. Unless I specifically know they are trying to stay away from certain foods I say "good job staying under ESPECIALLY considering you ate junk food all day"

To each their own way of getting there. Some days people might have super low calories, but maybe thats what they were aiming at to make up for a prior day of going way over.

nutandbutter

I did a "great job" of eating my Quarter Pounder wif cheeze last night.

Mcdouble has better macros.

OSC_ESD

Rule your world as you may ... But don't encourage poor choices from others. :huh:

Wow, you are so judgemental it's unbelieveable. You must be a clairvoyant as well as a nutritionist.

You couldn't be farther from the truth if you tried ... That wasn't directed at you personally ... it was a general statement. To each is own ... I just am saddened to see people encouraged to make poor choices. Why not just not say anything and continue on with your day ? I mean really, are you doing them a favor ????

I have some of the GREATEST supporters on MFP ... and I am very thankful for not only their support .. but also them calling me out when it is deserved. It's all about honesty ... That's all I ask from them and everything they get from me.

I hope you understand I never meant to offend you ... for that I apologize. :embarassed:

JanieJack

So it sounds like most people are saying they want the support, and those who give it are mostly saying they're trying to be "responsible supporters." Thanks for your opinions, peeps!

Mr_Cape219

So it sounds like most people are saying they want the support, and those who give it are mostly saying they're trying to be "responsible supporters." Thanks for your opinions, peeps!

You Are WELLCCOOMMEEE!!!!!

WickedGarden

i don't comment on food diaries, I will comment on working out because it's really tough to commit to a program like P90x EVERY DAY, especially if they are new to it.

My diary is open to friends only, and I make notes in it so when others look at it, they will know why I only ate 300 calories for the day: "really sick, went to doctor, can't keep food down". I think it's encouraging to see someone who can eat healthy, still indulge once in a while, and still lose weight. Example: I go out with friends on the weekends and will figure in eating dinner out into my daily allowance. So what if I go to McDonalds for lunch...it's not every day, and I figure it into my allowance. My other half doesn't want to count calories, so some days I have to "eat bad". I also like to see what others eat for snacks or get inspiration for meals.

In general, I don't usually comment...too facebook-ey.

WhittRak

If you are eating junk, and still meeting your calorie goal..I am going to let you know.

AlsDonkBoxSquat

I don't say "good job" if I don't look at it. Usually it'll be something more specific like "nice protein!" or if they're one of my ed friends "wow, way to get those calories up there!" or if I know there's another struggle they've been having. As a person previously with EDs I find a blanket "congrats" can be dangerous.

sg1982

I appreciate encouragement. I don't expect anyone to read and judge my food journal. I need nice people on my side. I don't enjoy the message boards being pushy or judgmental. Everyone has their own issues.

I agree.

amymaria91

I never comment on a food diary unless I look at it. I don't know what I'm commenting on otherwise

fuhrmeister

I try to look at a diary before I comment. I uasually only coment w/o looking on friends who I've known for awhile.

Some peopel get offended if you suggest more veggies and less crackers but I would lov eit if some said "Hey maybe you should swap 100 cals of you 200 chocolate cals for an apple" I need to be encouraged to make good swaps.

kiminikimkim

People who eat poorly & don't take care of their health are either deleted from my friends list or I just don't accept them in my MFP circle of friends. All the MFP friends I have now eat well, exercise regularly and we encourage each other mutually. I will give them a "Good job!" even though I don't always read their diaries. (Ipad app won't show the diaries)

I have an intimate small circle of friends which I take the time to give positive remarks but I never give unsolicited advice. I don't want to be one of those people who comment on how too many diet sodas have been consumed or if eating meat is cruel to animals.

So I do comment when I don't read their diary sometimes.

HealthierMimi

So glad you brought this up... haven't really thought about this Yes, I have said that. Now that I see all the comments, I think from now on I will only comment on "under calories" if I look at their diary and then comment appropriately. I know I probably needed someone to view mine before they commented sometimes. :laugh: This has been a good topic to read about.

delilah47

Seems like these days people expect praise for ... well, for whatever! I believe in praising for anything very impressive. And.. when people say "great job" to me for staying under calories (it would be hard to find a day I didn't eat healthy), it seem fake because I don't think it's praiseworthy. Just me. And that's why I no longer have any friends. I took'em all out!

Do you *really* expect praise for following your meal plan on a daily basis? :huh:

delilah47

@ Vermilla's profile photo:

That's about the cutest little kitty I've seen in, well, just about forever! :happy: :happy:

sunkisses

Don't waste the characters involved in patting me on the back for calories and exercise please.

JanieJack

I think it's great to say great job to someone starting out who stayed under (in a healthy way) or burnt more calories in exercise than they are used to.

And I truly do appreciate the support I've been getting. I just don't like it when I'm at 900 calories though because of being nauseous or poor planning and people congratulate me. Especially this past week... my diet has been horrendous (but under calories) due to long work hours.

megsmom2

I keep my diary closed, and tend not to check others often. If I say "good job" to someone, its usually meaning "hey you checked in, you're still here, still working at it, good for you!" The people I'm friends with, though, aren't doing funky things with their food diary. If they were, I'd probably just say nothing.

sschoolfield

I guess I just view MFP as a tool for me to set and monitor my personal goals and track my progress. It's nice to hear from friends occassionally, but at almost 50 years old, I don't need another parent bird dogging my efforts and being critical about every morsel I put in my mouth. I am accountable to myself and most other people's comments really are going to have little to no impact on my journey. There are only a few I value enough for it to matter that much....not that I haven't learned a few things on this site. I have but maybe I'm just too bull headed to let those who are super critical of others have any impact at all in my life. To me the site is about being supportive not dictating to everyone else how to make their journey.

For some who have truly struggled with weight, there are often already self esteem issues and negative comments are just the ticket to set them back. We are not all alike and do not all respond the same. Surround yourself with friends that meet your individual needs and delete those who do not. But never, never let stongly opinionated people (regardles of what their opinions are) deter you from working toward your own personal goals. Hopefully everyone who finds their way to this site will find and take away what they need and leave the rest on the table. Good luck all.

JanieJack

That's true. I try to offer only positive feedback on someone's profile. If I can't be positive, I don't say anything. And if they ask my opinion, and it's negative, I will send it as a message.

rammsteinsoldier

I try to always comment when my friends have a post whether it be for calories burned or food diary. I think it is important to let your friends know you are out there for them and that you are thinking about them. The fact that they are on MFP and trying should be enough for a "good job" sometimes. I do view diaries if they are open to me and try to learn from them but I am not one to judge if they simply want my support and friendship.

Monti_e_lmt

Personally for me, when I throw out a generic great job -- it's for actually logging, especially when I can't see the diary. When I first started, it was soooo hard for me to consistently log, so (to me) logging in itself is worthy of support. It's a start, especially for those at the very beginning. Besides, who am I to judge the quality of the food they are eating...I am certainly not perfect in my own choices.

On the other hand, once I have a friend that I know well and who is consistently logging, I'll be sure to give more specific praise when they deserve it. If they have a crappy food day, I'll be sure to give them a "tomorrow is a new day" or something like that. Personally, I never critique unless specifically asked ... because we are all here for the same reason because we've had the same struggle. And I absolutely hate getting that PM that says ... "Whoa! A little too much wine today." or "You went way over on sodium today good luck ever having abs." <--(it happened) ....I logged it, so trust me, I know :drinker:

AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!! I appreciate the thought of someone taking a moment to message me. In my business, time is money, and we stay so busy I hardly get to talk. I need all the positivity I can get, I get nothing but negativity where I live. I hate it here I want to move someday.