Rude MFP posters...

Scott613

I don't know if you guys noticed this, but I have noticed that men with pictures of themselves in front of the mirror with their gigantic bulging biceps are the meanest -- maybe we are dealing with 'roid rage here Yeah, I have noticed some rudeness from others as well: EMO types, probably those bitter of people's progress, those who can't share their negativity in anyone else's forums..... It's sad but true! We shall be positive and continue our MFP!

SunKissed86

So many of the 'rude' people I've seen on these forums are just trying to be helpful or correct misinformation. Maybe they're not very tactful, but I don't see that many honest-to-god trolls on this site, honestly.

Lately a lot of people have been posting along the lines of, "but do I really have to eat above 1200 calories?" and then others respond saying yes, you do... but they're not full of sweetness and rainbows when they say it. They get impatient. Which then others interpret as rudeness, and yet others scream at the top of their lungs about how the naysayers are just being unsupportive, and then someone posts about how rude everyone is and everyone piles on.

I don't see many real trolls. I see people complaining about rudeness and meanness when people don't agree with them. I don't know about the specific incidents the OP is talking about - in fact, I'd hope there aren't specific incidents, because it's against the rules of the forum to start a new thread to continue drama from elsewhere - but most of what I've seen is just people starting things like this when someone disagrees with them.

The person who tells you your diet could use an adjustment may just be trying to help, in their own slightly grating way.

You have completely nailed it here. Sadly it will get lost in the shuffle, or go right over the heads of the very people you are talking about - the ones who ask for advice but really just want people to agree with them.

Like the OP here, who posted a snarky, passive-aggressive message ("Is it really necessary..." isn't exactly the shining example of good manners and well intentions), got replies that didn't just agree with and validate her for her completely unhelpful post, and said WHATEVER, YOU'RE ALL RUDE. Ha ha.

HAHAHAH .. whatever you're all rude....I don't remember typing that... :laugh:

_Timmeh_

I don't know if you guys noticed this, but I have noticed that men with pictures of themselves in front of the mirror with their gigantic bulging biceps are the meanest -- maybe we are dealing with 'roid rage here Yeah, I have noticed some rudeness from others as well: EMO types, probably those bitter of people's progress, those who can't share their negativity in anyone else's forums..... It's sad but true! We shall be positive and continue our MFP!

Whew, I'm safe!!! No bulging biceps here.

forever28

People get wrapped up in these forums WAYYYYYYY too much! Just my two cents.....

eeebee

maybe we are dealing with 'roid rage here

:laugh:

Jennjenn1974

I particularly agree with part of mikeyrp's post about people wanting others to be like them.. Those people are all over the place. If someone expresses an opinion other than theirs, they can't stand it and will argue the point til the bitter end. Like there is only ONE way to accomplish something... THEIR WAY. They try to control everyone to their liking. WOW! Wouldn't that just keep you busy all day long?

Yes! I have come across this SO many times! My way or the highway. Generally because they have read everything on the interwebs and now they are an expert.

jacquelynkay

Yes. My anger management therapist told me to stop holding in my my feelings.

lolol :flowerforyou:

lol

EmpressOfJudgment

I just want to thank the OP for allowing me the indirect opportunity to say "pegasus farts."

BondBomb

If people on the internet upset you, you may need to re-evaluate everything. And I mean EVERYTHING.

k1mcat

I view the forums as entertainment (with benefits). An occasional *kitten* keeps things interesting. Some people take all this personally and WAY too serious!! How can you take a statement personally when people don't even know you? And you say, "how could someone say that when they don't even know me??" See, there ya go! Don't sweat the small stuff.

^^This I love the entertainment value. No need to personalize things to benefit from them. Keeps things interesting. The occasional antagonist fosters more "thinking", that's a good thing. :happy:

awidener86

The Internet: Where the women are men, the men are boys, and the boys are FBI agents.

Haha.

SunKissed86

I just want to thank the OP for allowing me the indirect opportunity to say "pegasus farts."

HAHAHAHAHHAHA yes, absolutely. lol pegasus farts :drinker:

Seminolegirl97

At least I'm consistently as rude on the internet as I am in real life. Continuity is key.

This...

HOTTMESSYGIRL

I have only been on here two days. This being my second. LOTS of rude peeps!

SunKissed86

I have only been on here two days. This being my second. LOTS of rude peeps!

YUP! but we have eachother!! :drinker:

:flowerforyou:

i_love_vinegar

As a 55 year old, I have watched society go from one in which people debate the issues to one in which people attack the person rather than debate the issues. Whether this is from people lacking the knowledge needed to debate the issues or lacking the ability to put together their argument in a manner in which they can successful support their point, I don't know. I have noticed, though, that in 99% of the cases in which the person has to be rude, sarcastic, bullying, or abusive, the issues seems to stem from fear.

Fear is a funny thing.

Some feel that their opinion is the right opinion, but others are presenting other opinions that differ from they's, so they may fear that their opinion is now wrong. This is an ego problem. People like their ego stroked, not snipped. Many don't want to admit that they don't know it all. Some don't want to admit that there are other ways to do things. And still others don't want to face the fact that they may have held on to knowledge that was incorrect and will now have to bite the bullet (no calories there) and learn the right information.

In some cases, people don't want to accept that something is really the way it is, so they will fear the change and be rude to the person proposing the change. I find that many people, young and old, seem to live in an illusional word. When prevented with what is real, they have a problem accepting these things. They would rather not know what is true and will become nasty when someone does point it out to them.

Then we have people who take things personally. I once posted about what I was seeing in regards to students at the college where I teach and got jumped all over by one poster who literally attacked me, not my argument. Such attacks occur because the person is fears that you are pointing your finger at them, saying that they did this or that. Even though you are not, they still feel a need to attack you because they literally believe that they are being attacked by you.

When a person attacks me, I just laugh because I know it is because what I am saying is pretty much the truth and they can't pick it apart, so they need to attack someone. Most likely the person is living under the delusion that things are a certain way and I just burst their bubble. So they are fearful because of what is actually happening in the world.

Many people don't want to hear truth. When they are told truth, the fear kicks in. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering. Suffering is something people don't want to deal with. Many who are suffering will lash out at other people. They throw nasty, sarcastic and caustic remarks at people in order to relieve their own misery.

The best thing to do is ignore them. They are all over the place. People whose lives are so miserable that they can't help but make others miserable as well. Don't let them.

What is really sad is that these miserable people don't realize that they could just improve their lives if they would just change their attitude.

Just realize that they are everywhere. Not just online. They are like zombies, walking around and spreading their misery like it is the bubonic plague. Just put on a smile, don't say anything about their nasty behavior, and keep on trucking. Don't give them the power to ruin your life by making you as miserable as they are.

I just have to say that this is an AMAZING post! Really great thoughts and perspectives. Very well-said! :flowerforyou:

tiptoeketo

Bikini27

I don't know if you guys noticed this, but I have noticed that men with pictures of themselves in front of the mirror with their gigantic bulging biceps are the meanest -- maybe we are dealing with 'roid rage here Yeah, I have noticed some rudeness from others as well: EMO types, probably those bitter of people's progress, those who can't share their negativity in anyone else's forums..... It's sad but true! We shall be positive and continue our MFP!

Bless your heart, using a blanket statement to point out the mean people. :flowerforyou:

LilRedRooster

If you go onto an online forum, and someone on the other end of the internet, whom you don't know, and doesn't know you, ruins your day because they're "rude", perhaps you need to reevaluate some things about yourself and your own sense of self.

Peoples' opinions are like armpits: Everyone has them. Some of them smell pretty bad, but they're there, just the same. Buy some deodorant for yourself, and walk away from the stinky ones, because that's all you can do.

sandy729

As a 55 year old, I have watched society go from one in which people debate the issues to one in which people attack the person rather than debate the issues. Whether this is from people lacking the knowledge needed to debate the issues or lacking the ability to put together their argument in a manner in which they can successful support their point, I don't know. I have noticed, though, that in 99% of the cases in which the person has to be rude, sarcastic, bullying, or abusive, the issues seems to stem from fear.

Fear is a funny thing.

Some feel that their opinion is the right opinion, but others are presenting other opinions that differ from they's, so they may fear that their opinion is now wrong. This is an ego problem. People like their ego stroked, not snipped. Many don't want to admit that they don't know it all. Some don't want to admit that there are other ways to do things. And still others don't want to face the fact that they may have held on to knowledge that was incorrect and will now have to bite the bullet (no calories there) and learn the right information.

In some cases, people don't want to accept that something is really the way it is, so they will fear the change and be rude to the person proposing the change. I find that many people, young and old, seem to live in an illusional word. When prevented with what is real, they have a problem accepting these things. They would rather not know what is true and will become nasty when someone does point it out to them.

Then we have people who take things personally. I once posted about what I was seeing in regards to students at the college where I teach and got jumped all over by one poster who literally attacked me, not my argument. Such attacks occur because the person is fears that you are pointing your finger at them, saying that they did this or that. Even though you are not, they still feel a need to attack you because they literally believe that they are being attacked by you.

When a person attacks me, I just laugh because I know it is because what I am saying is pretty much the truth and they can't pick it apart, so they need to attack someone. Most likely the person is living under the delusion that things are a certain way and I just burst their bubble. So they are fearful because of what is actually happening in the world.

Many people don't want to hear truth. When they are told truth, the fear kicks in. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering. Suffering is something people don't want to deal with. Many who are suffering will lash out at other people. They throw nasty, sarcastic and caustic remarks at people in order to relieve their own misery.

The best thing to do is ignore them. They are all over the place. People whose lives are so miserable that they can't help but make others miserable as well. Don't let them.

What is really sad is that these miserable people don't realize that they could just improve their lives if they would just change their attitude.

Just realize that they are everywhere. Not just online. They are like zombies, walking around and spreading their misery like it is the bubonic plague. Just put on a smile, don't say anything about their nasty behavior, and keep on trucking. Don't give them the power to ruin your life by making you as miserable as they are.

:flowerforyou:

mikeyrp

I think there is a big difference between blunt and rude.

Blunt. "You're not loosing weight because you are only logging on weekdays"
Rude "You'll always be fat because you cant be bothered to log properly"

(Polite) "I see you're only logging on weekdays - I think this is probably a contributing factor to your slow weight loss"

Nothing wrong with being blunt - in fact in many cases its what people need to hear. Lots wrong with rude. I suspect people on here who say they are 'consistently rude' are really just consistently blunt.

MaryPhillips90

Is this really necessary? :grumble:

It is necessary so they can feel good about themselves.
Sad that some people don't know what true happiness is.

Just_Dot

I just tell the rude people to go make a pine cone bird feeder...works every time.

OP, welcome to the Internet!

SunKissed86

Is this really necessary? :grumble:

It is necessary so they can feel good about themselves.
Sad that some people don't know what true happiness is.

:flowerforyou:

SunKissed86

:laugh:

perfect_storm

I have seen both rude and smart a** intentional remarks. I choose to move on. Most often never posting, just reading. I check a board out, see the disaster unfolding and keep on going to another hopefully on topic and drama free thread. I can't really offer real insight here OP, I guess people may have too much time on their hands. I guess there are people here (and in real life as well) that just can not resist poking at the hornets nest.

tashjs21

(can be seen as a rude post...meant to be funny and "lighten" the mood)

tiptoeketo

kennethmgreen

Is this really necessary? :grumble:

Depends on your goal hole.

Beastette

This looks like a job for me...