to fat to exersize

Savyna

I know how you feel. Sometimes in the gym when I'm strength training I feel a bit self conscious thinking that people are watching and seeing how I need to use the assisted machine for my pull ups and dips. However I usually just try to tune that out. I'm in the gym to better my life and become healthier, at the moment I may not be the smallest nor the most in shape but I'm putting an effort out there to get better. Yes for right now you might huff and puff a short distance but don't let that stop you, if you never get out you'll never get past the point of where you huff and puff after 2 minutes. If it helps maybe take your runs early in the morning around dawn when less people will be out.

DPernet

It gets easier hun. 287lbs when I decided I needed to get fit or die. Putting on the swimming trunks and doing the walk of shame through the swimming pool for the first time in years, I found out you can't die of embarassment no matter how hard you try.

I just concentrated on the reasons why I was doing this and that helped me through. After a few times I realised nobody was even bothering to look. They have other things on their minds :glasses:

Cold_Steel

hey guys i am having a little trouble,

I would love to get out there and run every day to start off my day but i have two problems

1) i have trouble actually leaving my door,
and when i get the courage to leave the house
2) i am so scared people are going to make fun of me like this super fat chick running and puffing and dying

has anyone else had this problem

how did you over come it?

HalP

Walk
Walk
Walk
Walk
Walk walk walk walk walk walk walk walk walk walk walk walk walk

I lost my first 70 lbs solely off of walking in about 3 months,..... just walked. Didn't really work out... just walked 3 or 4 times a week. Give it a try... Up your mileage daily though.

azlady7

when I started running, I was almost 300 lbs, I was never worried people would make fun of me or laugh at me, I alway think I inspire every last person who sees me....I envision them saying...wow look at her!! If she can do it so can I!! haha, and now after a year of running it doesn't even faze me anymore.

you know what? i bet that is exactly what people think too! I know whether i have been fat or thin anytime i see a big person exercising i think "yay! good for them'. So I am 229 lbs and i walk around my neighborhood a lot and there is a fair amount of traffic. I always get smiles and waves

to original op. your own insecurities are what you are projecting onto others and trying to make it their thoughts. stop. love yourself and see that others love you too, fat or thin your beautiful and the courage it takes you to step out there and walk/run is what makes you even more beautiful. you can do this!

fitniknik

You know what I think when I see a large person struggling to exercise? "I am so glad that person is trying to help themselves, I hope they keep it up!"

StrongGwen

people will mock and ridicule you regardless. I'd rather be hooted at while out walking than in line at the fast food place! Turn the music up and ignore the idiots.

marycmeadows

I see people of all sizes out exercising and going to the gym. When I first started going to the gym i was 303.4 lbs. NOW I'm 198.4 -- still want to lose another 38.4lbs. BUT Point is, if I didn't get out there and do it, I wouldn't have lost over 100lbs so far. Screw what anyone thinks - you're not doing it for anyone else you're doing it for you! You're holding yourself back and that's not good!

havingitall

Who cares what others think. It isn't about them, it's about you. When I see anybody...and I mean anybody exercising...I think " Good for them!" Even if they are going slowly on a recumbent bike or walking slowly around the block, they are moving.

lilojoke

Just go out and do the best you can... It gets easier the more times you do it and in fact people may look at you and say things but really deep down the admire you.

mamagooskie

no one is too fat to exercize. Do a video at home if you have to (walmart has plenty of them I'm sure you can find something you'd like) If you can't stand, sit and do arm exercizes ( like boxing and whatnot) to get your heart rate up. There is plenty of stuff big people can do to get moving..................just see what jillian michaels has done with 400-500 lb people.

If you want to do it....you will find a way. Look up exercizes online too......you are bound to find something you want/can do!

Don't worry what others are thinking.......you do what you need to do to better yourself!!

Still_Fluffy

When I was close to 400 pounds I swore I would nver run outside. So I started working out inside. Once I got comfortable working out I moved it outside and found I liked it better. People will look at you, but that has nothing to do with your size. When people see others working out they are thinking they should be working out there too. Heck I workout daily and everythime I see a runner outside I want to go and join them.

If your nervous to run, start with speed walking and work your way up. Good luck.

eradik

First of all, way to go posting to get ideas. The members here are great at helping out in so many different ways.

Second, screw what anyone else may do or say. YOU are getting healthy. THEY are not. Ignore what people say, put in headphones and don't even listen to them. Look at the ground in front of you if you have to not make eye contact. Don't give them the time of day.

I agree with a lot of people that are saying walk. Walking is great. It's low stress on your knees and joints, and it gets your heart rate into the proper burning zone easy.

I would like to refer you to www.ganey.com. I follow him for inspiration. He weighed 577 pounds at his highest, and he literally couldn't walk very well. He started walking around his house, and eventually moved to the supermarket, using a cart as a 'walker'. He kept at it. He ignored the people who were mean.

Now? He weighs 287.5 lbs and lost 289.5.

I read his blog and he talks about a lot of things. If you look at his youtube video, or even some of his past posts about his struggles at the height of his weight, it really can speak to you. He replies to all emails, so you could even send him an email if you wanted.

Finally, just keep going. Ignore what people say. You're doing this for YOU. No one else. Period.

Good luck!

danmoffett

When I began my weight loss journey 2 years ago I couldn't do 5 minutes on an exercise bike. I learned you don't have to exercise to lose weight. When you are overweight you don't want to do to much. I've learned that it is better to lose the weight and then start exercising. I've lost 155 pounds in the past 2 years. I exercise now because I have so much energy. But you don't have to and you shouldn't exercise until you lose some weight.

Another thing, don't worry about counting calories, or weighing food. Live a high fat low carb lifestyle and the weight will fall off.
I eat all I want whenever I want, just the right stuff.

Read my blog for my story.
http://danmoffett.blogspot.com/

I have nothing to sell, you'll find no ads on the blog, just FREEDOM!

kristarablue

hey guys i am having a little trouble,

I would love to get out there and run every day to start off my day but i have two problems

1) i have trouble actually leaving my door,
and when i get the courage to leave the house
2) i am so scared people are going to make fun of me like this super fat chick running and puffing and dying

has anyone else had this problem

how did you over come it?

HalP

Oh sweetheart, I feel you and yes I felt that way without a doubt. I will never forget going into the running store to purchase shoes for the first time being so embarassed that a morbidly obese woman was buying running shoes because I felt that they were going to think..ya right...but you know what, they were so kind and wonderful (this did not calm this). Then when I started "running" trust me it was not really running, I could not run 30 seconds without wanting to die. I ran in the wooded area of the park and if someone was coming I would stop running because I was so embarassed. Slowly I became more confident, but it was hard I am not going to lie to you. Brings tears to my eyes just thinking about those early days. All I can do is offer you courage. Do what is good for you, if walking is good for you then do it. If you are not comfortable going outside your house to do any type of workout, then do what you can do inside your house with no eyes on you until you become more confident. The hardest thing to do is to do it the first time...first time running outside...first time at the gym...first time going into a class and man does that take massive courage. But you know what, I promise you it will become easier each and every time. Don't get me wrong, it still sucks and will still be hard, but it will be easier than the time before...I can offer you a big hug and pride for you to want to change your life and ask the quesion. Remember YOU are amazing and wonderful and YOU are worth having the courage to do it.

Just do what is comfortable for you, get used to it and keep pushing your limits until you know you belong (ya, this took me a while, but feels so good when it happens).

Good luck...YOU CAN DO THIS...I HAVE FAITH IN YOU!!!

jandk09

little by little, start off walking to the corner to just get outside again

Claible

I feel the same way I didn't even like riding a bike outside(I am not a runner). I started at 274lbs with workout DVD's at home. At first I wouldn't let my husband be in the same room. Now I have lost 105 lbs and have started to ride bikes with my kids and friends and I am enjoying working out and my husband is allowed to be in the same room. But, as everyone has stated who cares what everyone else thinks. If you want to run then run. Wishing you the best in your journey.

I don't know where I heard the below statement but I keep it in the back of my mind and it has helped me on my journey. I hope it will help you too.

"Just because someone is thin/skinny doesn't mean they are healthy or can walk up a flight of stairs."

nikkiej2012

Hi..I am Nikkie well anyway i am not a fitness expert but walking it a great way to lose pounds/exercise..i am new to this but i lost 7 pounds already and this is my 3rd or 4th day on this site and i am on another weight loss site to...i am now 267 but i dont want to run either but just take it slow at first then for like 20 sec and go up from that...best of luck to you

katrinaloveslunar

A lot of gyms offer a one day pass or a free trial day. Go, with lots of questions about their programs and what they can do for you. Workout for a day there. If you're uncomfortable, try a differrent one until you find the right fit. There are even some gyms that cater to weight loss. (Personally, I prefer a gym with mainly guys - I can distract myself with many thoughts while I'm on the elliptical and the time flies by. Many of my friends go to a female only gym.) I felt pretty awkward for the first two weeks because I was over 400 lb when I started; and, it took me months to screw up the courage to walk in those doors (I won a six month membership in Dec. & it wasn't until it's expiry date in May that I got through the tears and did it). I discovered the treadmill is not for me; however, I love the eliptical and the weight lifting. Within a month, I was comfortable enough to talk with people and within two months I was just one of the regulars.

And if you're not ready yet, the internet is a wonderful place for resources. My TV has UTube, and I can exercise for hours in front of it. Search workout, exercise, etc. I, personally, love my Zumba (and there's a ton of it online).

The most important thing is to get the negative feelings out of the way long enough to do something that you could potentially love! Good luck! Remember, you have the strength inside you all you have to do is find it. )

chattipatty2

Scott you're right (and have a nice profile picture) but you are right


Renstwin, i have tried Zumba at home, i think i need to be out of my comfort zone, i just wonder if anyone else had this hurdle


dls thanks you are right also,

thanks guys

YUP! I have. Fat and 47 here. I started in here and went back to the gym a little over a month ago. My kids friends see me there. And guess what they do? They high 5 me, they text my kids that their mother is going "HAM" and lately are coming up and asking me to let them work out with me.
But it wasn't like that in the first couple weeks. Felt so gross sweating like a beast, thought everyone was staring at me and my big ole belly. But now, the more I learn, the more I lose, the more pumped up and stoked I'm getting.
So chin up. Get up NOW and go do it. Pretty soon, and maybe only 5 or 6 lbs down the road, you too will see, feel and know what the rest of us are talking about. It's not about now...it's about the accomplishments you make a week, couple weeks, month down the road. And you will.

funkycamper

When I go to the gym and I see a very overweight person faithfully coming every day and plodding away on the treadmill, I am proud of them for making the effort! Who cares what everyone else thinks..this is for YOU!:happy:

Oh, me too! I don't do this because I don't want to embarrass anybody but I just want to give them a big high five.

OP, if you want to run, go fun and have a helluva good time doing it. :flowerforyou:

terrieannm

Hi
I not super over weight I have lost 30something pounds and I still have this problem. I am a very shy person
and I fight myself every day to get out there and run. What really helped me was my wonderful husband . For the first
few times he took his bike out with me and that helped so much. Now I still fight myself but its getting easier. I even
did a 5k last summer and my whole family was like we cant believe you are doing this that is how unlike me this is.
Even this last week I went out of my comfort zone and took a different route then I would. Even writing on here is not
like me at all. But I love the feeling running gives me and wish everyone could understand it. So if its what you want
then just do it ! Oh and I live on a main street with a college just a few blocks away and all the track teams run the same
places and most of the runners seem to run my street and they are all so nice and give you thumbs up and smiles. And those
who dont who cares it isnt for them its for us. Hope this helps you .

Leslie715

I worked out (walking, running, inclines, etc) on my treadmill (under my carport) until it died today. Waaaah! But i have the Exercise Bike for the Wii and that'll get me exercising! You don't need to immediatly plunge into the deep end and start off running. You just need to get moving somehow. You can walk up and down a staircase (at the library, the hospital, an apt complex) and get a nice workout. Don't try to do it all at once. Remember the old joke "How do you eat an elephant?" A: One bite at a time! so.... just take it a little bit at a time!

skatters

Everyone has given you such great advice - don't worry about others, do what you need to do for you! But... I am going to throw this out there, something that might not even apply to you. This is a recent discovery for me and I am still exploring it.

I also suffer from social anxiety. But I am a closet perfectionist. If I thought running outside was the "right" thing to do - I wouldn't want to do anything else. And actually, I would use that as an excuse to not start at all. For me, I think I need a treadmill. I have sat here for years, wanting a treadmill and not actually buying one. So what have I done in the mean time? NOTHING. It occurred to me the other day, that I *could* walk outside. I *could* walk through the house. I *could* buy a walking DVD. I can do a lot of things, but I wasn't, because I thought that I didn't have the right "tools" to do it. But now I tell myself, IMPERFECT PROGRESS IS STILL PROGRESS!! And I started doing some things last Friday.

Like I said, I am not sure if this might apply to you or someone else. But I thought I would throw it out there, just in case! But don't let your fears dictate your life. If you don't feel up to conquering those fears right now, at least find a way to work with them - exercising in your house. Walking instead of running, etc. YOU CAN DO THIS!!

countryrayne

I think you may find that people will respect you for getting outside and trying. I am also self consious but I have found that most people on my road just smile and wave.

defeatmylazyself

you know what? most of them will be staring because they're thinking "damn, look at her out for a run. I should really get some exercise done, too"! I also think that getting out the door and overcoming both the hurdle of leaving your snug home (big issue up here in the north, I tell ya! ^^) and then having people look at you are part of the journey to a better version of yourself. And soon you'll be meeting other runners and do that nod of approval as you pass each other! ^^

terryswade

I (you) can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

adamb83

1. The people who would look at you and make fun/think bad thoughts are either a) completely insecure themselves or b) just downright mean and don't deserve your time or energy. Don't worry about them.

2. Although it might feel like everyone is staring at you, they're probably not, and the majority of the people who do take notice will most likely be thinking "Good for her!" <-- I'm serious about this.

Ultimately, you're doing this for you. You need to get healthy. You want to look good. You've got to take other people out of the equation and just worry about how you feel and what you're doing. If you need to start at home, do that for a while - and think about taking walks outdoors instead of full-on jogging or whatever. Everyone goes for walks, after all (or they should!).

Gerikaye

Hey Awesomeness........You know I was worried like you when I started jogging. Not that they would be making fun of me so much, but just thinking to themselves......"Man she needs to be running!!!" But you know what I was finding........as people would pass me in their cars they were giving me thumbs up. Just a little encouragement that I needed, a couple of people verbally told me "Hey you're doing great!!" You'll be fine.....you are not losing weight for them, but for yourself, And if you worry about if people will make fun of you, that is just one more reason to not get up and exercise........you got this Sweetie........make yourself a better you.......make yourself a little more awesome!!!!

kelseyhere

All I have to say is anyone who makes fun of somebody else for exercising and trying to get healthy is an *kitten*. Don't listen to *kitten*.

geocachelinda

I know how you feel, I've over 200 and short but I get out there and walk and hike. Just ignore people, more than likely if they are thinking something they aren't going to say it out loud and if they do they are idiots. Just go for it!