Friends? I'm Confused

kiminikimkim

In my twenties I felt that way.

I worked in a small male dominated office, my husband had his own friends since HS.
I came from a small town so in the big city, I knew no one. I made a few good friends but they have eventually moved out of the city. When I found myself being used by the newer so-called friends, I decided that I would stop trying so hard.

Now in my thirties, I enjoy meeting new people at meet-ups and volunteer groups. I don't feel the need to make best friends and chat on the phone for hours. That's just not me.

shady81x

Thanks everyone for all the posts so far, glad to not feel quite so alone.

I second that. I never knew that many others feel this way too. Everyone i know on fb seem to have groups of friends whom they hang out with, posting pix of the fun times they have.. etc. Me? I have problems even getting someone to go dine out or watch a movie with me. Most of those I know are either too "old" (am talking abt mental age), too busy or too tired to do anything. Gets worse when I get older, and people around me start to have kids and all. Have always wondered if it's me who push people away... though I really don't think I've got a nasty personality :frown:

I guess one of my problems is that I'm an introvert. I don't need people around all the time. I'm perfectly happy to just cuddle up in my bed or a chair and read a good book, or watch a movie. But I can't do that ALL the time lol. It'd be nice to have a workout buddy, or someone to go out to lunch with, or see whatever new chick flick is out that my bf doesn't want to see. lol. Or, more importantly, come be my concert/mosh pit buddy! lol. I just want someone that I can feel comfortable hanging out with, you know? I love my bf, and he's great, but just like a cuddling up with a book, I can't spend ALL my time with just him.

That too. With exception of the bf part cos I don't have one. While I'm pretty satisfied with being by myself most of the time, I do like to have offline social interraction now and then :laugh:

KelseyPalmtree

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