VERRY embarrassing question!

sabified

If your partner says they didn't cheat, trust them. If you don't trust them, break it off and find someone else. Seriously, if you consider your relationship to be a healthy one, then why are you even discussing this with strangers? There is absolutely nothing weird about a person being too tired or stressed to give a crap about sex for a year. I can say that if you don't trust him, then you might want to reconsider your priorities. Try talking to him straight. Ask him if he has issues with sex before marriage. It's hardly a weird thing to wait until you're married, even if most people don't want to admit it. IF that's not his issue, then find out what it is. Talk with him, not us. There's no other way to a clear answer.

I disagree with most of this post... I do agree that you should trust your partner, and if you can't, break it off. But, there's nothing wrong with going to strangers when you have no one else to discuss with, and there IS something wrong with someone not wanting it for an entire year, after having had it before. Whether there's something wrong with him or with the relationship needs to be determined, but something is definitely up!
It sounds like you have spoken with him about it, and haven't gotten any resolution. I think the time to talk to him is up- you need to figure yourself out. And the fact that you have kids does not limit your pool- you just have to keep a lookout for the right person I hope that's not why you're staying with him!!!

bitty1taz

If your partner says they didn't cheat, trust them. If you don't trust them, break it off and find someone else. Seriously, if you consider your relationship to be a healthy one, then why are you even discussing this with strangers? There is absolutely nothing weird about a person being too tired or stressed to give a crap about sex for a year. I can say that if you don't trust him, then you might want to reconsider your priorities. Try talking to him straight. Ask him if he has issues with sex before marriage. It's hardly a weird thing to wait until you're married, even if most people don't want to admit it. IF that's not his issue, then find out what it is. Talk with him, not us. There's no other way to a clear answer.

I disagree with most of this post... I do agree that you should trust your partner, and if you can't, break it off. But, there's nothing wrong with going to strangers when you have no one else to discuss with, and there IS something wrong with someone not wanting it for an entire year, after having had it before. Whether there's something wrong with him or with the relationship needs to be determined, but something is definitely up!
It sounds like you have spoken with him about it, and haven't gotten any resolution. I think the time to talk to him is up- you need to figure yourself out. And the fact that you have kids does not limit your pool- you just have to keep a lookout for the right person I hope that's not why you're staying with him!!!

No, I'm not with him for any reason other than I love him and really want to get this problem resolved somehow.


Thanks again everyone! I've heard some really good ideas, some funny ones, and others that make me scratch my head in wonder...LOL!
Over all I have a lot to think about.

michelleepotter

I've talked to him a number of times.
He insists he doesn't have any "issues".

This says a lot to me. The problem isn't just that he doesn't want to have sex -- it's also that you have come to him with something that is really bothering you, several times, and he is apparently not willing to look for a solution.

Specialkayrina

I would understand if it was a couple of months..but over a year that's really weird.. I would just move on.

Farfourah

He doesn't give, he receives. Invest in a strap on if you care to salvage your relationship.

jryan12341

He doesn't give, he receives. Invest in a strap on if you care to salvage your relationship.

Ouch!!!! but funny....at least wait until he is sleeping and then bam bam baby....mama's home

DominiqueSmall

From what I've read (and guys correct me if I'm wrong) but stress and or depression can have a major impact on a man's desire. If you love him, I would try talking to him. Also, supporting him and encouraging him and letting him know you are there no matter what may be what he needs right now instead of the pressure to have sex.

While sex is fun and great, the person is more important. And as you said, you can always take care of your needs yourself.

One last thing, perhaps instead of sex you could do other things and slowly build back up.

But I would talk it through. Sounds like something is bothering him.

rmsrws

I spent several years with a hubby that had no (whisper) sex drive. He kept telling me it wasn't me, it was him.

We finally started seriously talking about all of our issues and feelings, and it seemed to resolve itself. Communication is the key.

MFPAddict

He doesn't give, he receives. Invest in a strap on if you care to salvage your relationship.

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