Rant: MFP Forums.

katysmelly

I strongly urge anyone who finds themselves getting upset to use the "Ignore User" button.

Sometimes it's fun to get into a little bit of a flame war. But, if you're being "triggered" then IGNORE USER IS YOUR FRIEND. If you want, say "Your posts upset me. I'm putting you on ignore." Then, do it. You'll get the last word and go on with your life.

Also, find or start a group that attracts like-minded people and do most of your posting there.

I've actually been wondering about this! Is there such a thing and where is it? I have no desire to surround myself with like minded people. I am open minded but I do have a very low tolerance for d-bags. It would just be nice to weed out some of the trolls. Also, what happens if their posts get quoted by another user?

Click the little drop-down arrow below the poster's avatar.

And, yeah, if someone is quoted, you'll almost certainly see it. I've been on boards where a trollish person is nearly impossible to ignore because other people like to feed them. At times, I've had to ignore their primary feeders, as well. Generally, though, it works OK.

cmriverside

Maybe I don't read enough of the threads but I've been pleasantly surprised by the general civility here. There are people with strong opinions (myself included) and I am one of the ones that think support can, at times , include information the OP may not want to hear.

Want to see snarky.......go to a scuba forum and tell them that you're open water certified and just dived to 250 feet on air! :laugh:

Bah ha ha! That is the truth. Or mention split-fins or integrated BCs. Then swim away in a hurry.

katysmelly

Maybe I don't read enough of the threads but I've been pleasantly surprised by the general civility here. There are people with strong opinions (myself included) and I am one of the ones that think support can, at times , include information the OP may not want to hear.

Want to see snarky.......go to a scuba forum and tell them that you're open water certified and just dived to 250 feet on air! :laugh:

Every subject has its hot-button topics!

On Catholic message boards, it's usually "kids at Mass and their behaviour."
On knitting message boards, it's copyright issues of the "If I knit a hat from a pattern, can I sell it?" variety.

It's really funny to see - every sort of forum has 'em!

k8blujay2

Oh my goodness! Anyone who thinks these forums are harsh hasn't been on very many forums... These are tame compared to mommy forums... or political forums... or even spiritual forums.... You want mean... try the Babycenter birth clubs or Sodahead... then you will think this is the utopia of forums.

AlsDonkBoxSquat

You think this is bad you should try a parent website, this is the gooey center as compared to people who have differences in opinion on how to raise children.

cmriverside

Think animals are cute? Try posting about shelters or training methods on Dog Forum. Mention letting your cat go outside on Cat Forum.

k8blujay2

Think animals are cute? Try posting about shelters or training methods on Dog Forum. Mention letting your cat go outside on Cat Forum.

Or even better, declawing (which by the way, I'm personally against (before I get attacked here for even merely mentioning it))...

BrianSharpe

Maybe I don't read enough of the threads but I've been pleasantly surprised by the general civility here. There are people with strong opinions (myself included) and I am one of the ones that think support can, at times , include information the OP may not want to hear.

Want to see snarky.......go to a scuba forum and tell them that you're open water certified and just dived to 250 feet on air! :laugh:

Bah ha ha! That is the truth. Or mention split-fins or integrated BCs. Then swim away in a hurry.

Everyone knows split fins will kill you.

cmriverside

Think animals are cute? Try posting about shelters or training methods on Dog Forum. Mention letting your cat go outside on Cat Forum.

Or even better, declawing (which by the way, I'm personally against (before I get attacked here for even merely mentioning it))...

Oh, yeah, I knew there was something else! We had a declawing fight here on MFP once. Fifteen pages in, they shut it down. It didn't affect how I feel about declawing one way or the other.

You know really, I've been here since "before" moderators. I actually prefer the, "Let them duke it out" approach on some other forums. Like ScubaBoard. If adults want to argue for 75 pages about the differences between two types of fins on a Scuba Forum; then I say pull up a chair and laugh, or read through it and try to weed out the grains of wisdom from the personality disorders.

It's always the same ones who will argue the same argument.....so you have to pick a side, make your point and leave. Otherwise that one guy who has all day on the computer will argue until you give up. What's the point? Even if you are right - who cares, really.

I would prefer that these forums be left to their own devices. A good argument is not something to shy away from. Even 75 pages of argument could serve to persuade someone to eat their exercise calories. If I don't feel like reading it, I don't. I liked the "old days" when there was almost no moderation.

I've learned a lot here. Arguing is human nature. I don't know you people and you can't affect me from your little computer keyboards. Meh.

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JessG11

I agree with the OP too. I started spending more time on here to get away from the drama and negativity of facebook...and it's gotten to a point it's not much better...I try to spend more time in the group that I'm member of...always positive there!

thinclo

I totally agree with this and it really gets on my nerves. Its happened to me a couple of times and I find it disgusting that people on here most of which dont have the highest of self esteem (including myself) then have to have it knocked again by idiots on Mfp. I think its generally a case of people putting others down to make themselves feel better, and they really just need to get a life.

BarbWhite09

Agree with you, there are a lot of times on here that a lot of negative comments are made. This topic has been mentioned a ton of times though...& by reading your post it seems you knew that people were going to attack you for it, so I don't see any reason to even post about it. Easier to just avoid the drama.

k8blujay2

Think animals are cute? Try posting about shelters or training methods on Dog Forum. Mention letting your cat go outside on Cat Forum.

Or even better, declawing (which by the way, I'm personally against (before I get attacked here for even merely mentioning it))...

Oh, yeah, I knew there was something else! We had a declawing fight here on MFP once. Fifteen pages in, they shut it down. It didn't affect how I feel about declawing one way or the other.

You know really, I've been here since "before" moderators. I actually prefer the, "Let them duke it out" approach on some other forums. Like ScubaBoard. If adults want to argue for 75 pages about the differences between two types of fins on a Scuba Forum, then I say pull up a chair and laugh, or read through it and try to weed out the grains of wisdom from the personality disorders.

It's always the same ones who will argue the same argument.....so you have to pick a side, make your point and leave. Otherwise that one guy who has all day on the computer will argue until you give up. What's the point? Even if you are right - who cares, really.

I would prefer that these forums be left to their own devices, a good argument is not something to shy away from. Even 75 pages of argument could serve to persuade someone to eat their exercise calories. If I don't feel like reading it, I don't. I liked the "old days" when there was almost no moderation.

I've learned a lot here. Arguing is human nature. I don't know you people and you can't affect me from your little computer keyboards. Meh.

I totally agree...and sometimes it's kinda fun to sit back and watch the crap hit the fan... But in general people take the internet way too seriously, when all one must do is click the red box with an x in upper right hand corner (Or the red circle on the upper left, if you have a Mac)...

koolmum

Agreed.
There's contructive critisism and honest advice and then there's downright rude.
I think there are people on every forum who lack a social filter.

:flowerforyou:

Bermudabarbie

Bump for review.

Scott613

KarmaxKitty

Once upon a time, this place wasn't THIS bad. Then the trolls figured out that they could make anonymous profiles. Also, there are a lot of people who simply don't READ THE THREAD first... One thread the majority of the people CLEARLY only read half of OP's post...and ran with it. Stuff gets taken out of context all the time. How are we supposed to talk about things if the people responding are not even reading or are just being horrible for the heck of it?! D8

femmi1120

Agree with you, there are a lot of times on here that a lot of negative comments are made. This topic has been mentioned a ton of times though...& by reading your post it seems you knew that people were going to attack you for it, so I don't see any reason to even post about it. Easier to just avoid the drama.

Easier yes. But how can anyone expect change if they're too afraid to confront the problem. Maybe if this continues to get talked about, the moderators will actually start paying more attention and banning some people rather than just locking threads.

femmi1120

Agree with you, there are a lot of times on here that a lot of negative comments are made. This topic has been mentioned a ton of times though...& by reading your post it seems you knew that people were going to attack you for it, so I don't see any reason to even post about it. Easier to just avoid the drama.

Easier yes. But how can anyone expect change if they're too afraid to confront the problem. Maybe if this continues to get talked about, the moderators will actually start paying more attention and banning some people rather than just locking threads.

BrettPGH

Maybe if this continues to get talked about, the moderators will actually start paying more attention and banning some people rather than just locking threads.

This is my favorite part. When the "people should be nice and understanding of one another" crowd really shows their true colors. People can be nice, your standards of nice, or they can be banned. That's what you're really after.

It's not enough that you overlook comments you don't care for, you're not even willing to put people you don't like on ignore. You want them banned from the site. People can agree with what you post or they should be silenced permanently.

I didn't join this site looking to get people kicked off. I came here to learn from them. I have and I've been very successful. And I've made great friends. Maybe you should try that instead of telling everyone on the internet how to behave.

JoolieW68

Arguing is human nature.

No it isn't.

jfrog123

Maybe if this continues to get talked about, the moderators will actually start paying more attention and banning some people rather than just locking threads.

This is my favorite part. When the "people should be nice and understanding of one another" crowd really shows their true colors. People can be nice, your standards of nice, or they can be banned. That's what you're really after.

It's not enough that you overlook comments you don't care for, you're not even willing to put people you don't like on ignore. You want them banned from the site. People can agree with what you post or they should be silenced permanently.

I didn't join this site looking to get people kicked off. I came here to learn from them. I have and I've been very successful. And I've made great friends. Maybe you should try that instead of telling everyone on the internet how to behave.

^ this

daddiod

Good job

LorinaLynn

I was bullied big time when I was 12-14 years old. And you know what I realized?

That people's words could only hurt me if I gave their words power.

As soon as I realized, "Hey, why do I care if this nasty person doesn't like me?" they had no effect on me. And ever since then, when someone said something that upset me, I asked myself if what they said had any true weight. If someone insulted me, it was either because it was true, in which case that's something I should own, or they were just trying to hurt me, in which case... what the hell kind of pathetic jerk are they? And why should it bother me that some person is a pathetic jerk!?

This site is supposed to be for adults. Adults should be able to handle this sort of thing more than a very sensitive, very emotional, very unpopular little girl.

If they're breaking the rules of the site, report the post. If you just don't like the way they word things, either put them on ignore or learn to suck it up.

LorinaLynn

Arguing is human nature.

No it isn't.

That's one argument my husband can always win. When he says, "You just like disagreeing with me!!!"

There's no way to answer that one. :laugh:

catcrazy

Locked!

OP you have a point but if you (or anyone else) see a thread that you think is being derailed, or posts that you consider rude or unnecessary then hit the report button and let the admin/moderators deal with it.

Topics like this, although started with the best of intentions, only cause more friction on the boards and end up being a moderation nightmare.

At our discretion, this locked thread may be deleted entirely in the near future.


With respect,
CatCrazy
MyFitnessPal Forum Moderator