Do you get hit on now that you have lost weight?

xginanax
xginanax Posts: 333 Member
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Hi guys, just wondering, now that some of you have lost weight, do you see any changes to the way guys talk to you, more approachable? get more numbers etc?

The reason im asking because yesterday a friend of mine and i were talking about how ever since she lost weight, guys are starting to take more notice of her which is pretty sad really how people can be that shallow.

so yeah tell me your story.
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  • maddiey
    maddiey Posts: 231 Member
    I wouldn't say that I've been "hit on" more, but I would say that now I feel happier in my skin I probably have a better... glow? I guess haha and I would say people have noticed me more; men more than women, but I wouldn't say it's due to weight loss, just due to a happier more radiant me :)
  • lacroyx
    lacroyx Posts: 5,754 Member
    no. :sad:

    but I'm really bad a reading the opposite sex. so maybe I am and just don't realize it:frown:
  • beduffbrickie
    beduffbrickie Posts: 642 Member
    I wouldnt say I have been chatted up to the point of a phone number, But I did have a girl behind the till in a clothes store try and flirt with me quite badly, while my GF was stood in the back ground, To be honest I notice people's looks towards me more now. Not saying that im some god, but looking in much better shape than I did 5months ago. I think its a nice confidence boast to have the opposite sex check you out, or someone show interest.
  • HonkyTonks
    HonkyTonks Posts: 1,193 Member
    Yes I get hit on more. I also get treated better by the opposite sex in general.
  • Awkward30
    Awkward30 Posts: 1,927 Member
    I drunkenly went off on somebody recently because it was the third time I had met him (first time since I lost weight) and he actually asked if I was an interviewee. Not remembering my name would be reasonable... But the guy had seen right through chubby me like she was cellophane! That makes me wanna listen to that song. Anyways, I get hit on/ checked out a lot more now. I like the attention, but love my boyfriend more :)
  • beskimoosh
    beskimoosh Posts: 375 Member
    I get hit on more, but I think it's because I'm more confident. It's great though, because when guys eye me up my boyfriend finds it hilarious, and gets so proud that he's the one with me, so it makes us both happy!

    Because lets be honest, we all like the little ego boost that we get when someone hits on us!

    I will be honest, and totally shallow though. The attractiveness of the men hitting on me has totally gone up. As has the size of their ego. Win some, lose some!
  • annafonte
    annafonte Posts: 82 Member
    Yep been getting hit on more - I got called hot on Saturday night so something deffo happening with my body even though I'm not seeing much difference :D
  • Chairless
    Chairless Posts: 583 Member
    Not really, my personality more than makes up for any improvement in looks recently.
  • Redapplecandie
    Redapplecandie Posts: 171 Member
    Oh yeah. The worst part, is the guys doing the flirting don't notice the giant rock on my finger indicating my unavailability.

    I do have more confidence, but its kinda creepy to see guys' eyes slither over my body.... ick... :sick:
  • Teliooo
    Teliooo Posts: 725 Member
    I have just been talking about this. Men go out of there way to do things for me now. I get stared at a lot, and doors opened for me and so on. I do get hit on a lot more as well. I have a big butt (and a small waist) and that seems to be a main focal point at the minute. haha
  • fionarama
    fionarama Posts: 788 Member
    it is depressing but both sexes are nicer to you the better you look. I find anyway. That said it might be a reflection of your glowing health and newfound self confidence making you more attractive to p;eople, as well as the aethetics.
  • skinnyinnotime
    skinnyinnotime Posts: 4,078 Member
    Hi guys, just wondering, now that some of you have lost weight, do you see any changes to the way guys talk to you, more approachable? get more numbers etc?

    The reason im asking because yesterday a friend of mine and i were talking about how ever since she lost weight, guys are starting to take more notice of her which is pretty sad really how people can be that shallow.

    so yeah tell me your story.

    I fail to see how it's sad or shallow, the majority of people will be attracted to a slimmer/fitter person than a bigger one, it's human nature.

    What is sad is not to look after yourself and ending up being overweight and unhealthy as a result.
  • AliciaStaton
    AliciaStaton Posts: 328 Member
    To be honest no, I have never had a problem with getting chatted up, just had to work out who was interested in me and not just an idoit. I am with someone who has accepted me for who I am and thats what it should be all about.:laugh:
  • Natx83
    Natx83 Posts: 1,298 Member
    That's awesome for you ladies. Confidence and the way you feel inside does carry through to the outside, the vibe you give off. Confidence is sexy, if your feeling better about yourself there is a good chance the opposite sex will pick up on it :)

    I've not had a huge problem getting dates, but what I'm concerned about is the superficial aspect of it all. Do you know what I mean?
  • 0PhAtDaDdY
    0PhAtDaDdY Posts: 569 Member
    Hi guys, just wondering, now that some of you have lost weight, do you see any changes to the way guys talk to you, more approachable? get more numbers etc?

    The reason im asking because yesterday a friend of mine and i were talking about how ever since she lost weight, guys are starting to take more notice of her which is pretty sad really how people can be that shallow.

    so yeah tell me your story.

    I have to say no guy's have hit on me r asked for my number since I lost weight.... LOL!!!
  • coachblt
    coachblt Posts: 1,090
    I'm not sure. I'm friendly to just about everyone and if they are in return, I think nothing of it. I don't know how to read the signs...I've been out of the game too long. One day, I'll get back in it.
  • Natx83
    Natx83 Posts: 1,298 Member
    I'm not sure. I'm friendly to just about everyone and if they are in return, I think nothing of it. I don't know how to read the signs...I've been out of the game too long. One day, I'll get back in it.

    Sure is a game, wht can people just tell each other if they like each other or not rather than send cryptic messages! Though it is fun figuring it out and sometimes failing :)
  • coachblt
    coachblt Posts: 1,090
    I haven't figured anything out and failing...well, if I don't put myself out there, I won't have the opportunity to fail. Right now, I have more stressful things to worry about than dating. It'll happen again soon enough I imagine.
  • JenAiMarres
    JenAiMarres Posts: 743 Member
    I have never had that much weight to loose but I DO notice that different types of people hit on me at my different weights..(20 lb fluctuation).I won't get into major specifics but heavier...I get approached by guys that are into bootys!! Thin/skinny...older men...now that I am adding muscle I feel like its all 20 somethings....it is odd! But I definitely see a pattern that goes along with my weight!
  • Kerri_is_so_very
    Kerri_is_so_very Posts: 999 Member
    No, but I would happily accept directions to a place where I might find some, um, opportunities :smooched:
  • 72MonteCarla
    72MonteCarla Posts: 169 Member
    Yes. I definitely get flirted with more often. I also, in general, get treated much better by strangers, male or female. Is it shallow? Maybe. Is it a reality? Absolutely. I think it's a combination of people having more desire to interact with an "attractive" person (someone who is at a healthy weight) and the fact that people who are overweight tend to be more insecure and thus more unapproachable. I also think people who are overweight are self-conscious and assume that others are judging them, even if they aren't. Whatever the reason, I know that my social life is more enjoyable now that I've lost enough weight to be considered attractive again. And I'm never going back!
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    I wouldn't say that I've been "hit on" more, but I would say that now I feel happier in my skin I probably have a better... glow? I guess haha and I would say people have noticed me more; men more than women, but I wouldn't say it's due to weight loss, just due to a happier more radiant me :)

    This exactly.
  • HMD7703
    HMD7703 Posts: 761 Member
    I definitely get hit on a lot more.. but by a whole new group of people.

    It used to be black men hitting on me when I was considered "thick/fat/curvy". Now I get hit on by all types, including women. I rather enjoy it. LOL

    Never going back to fat! NEVER!
  • BlackStarlight
    BlackStarlight Posts: 554 Member
    I get hit on alot more and Im gonna be the sad and honest girl that says she has no idea what to do when it happens! Ive always been shy when it comes to men and guys mostly because Ive never been someone who would be considered attractive. Apparently now I am and I have no idea how to deal with it lol
    Oh well Ill learn xx
  • UponThisRock
    UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
    I'm relatively certain I've been hit on in the men's locker room at the gym.

    Feels bad man.
  • HMD7703
    HMD7703 Posts: 761 Member
    I'm relatively certain I've been hit on in the men's locker room at the gym.

    Feels bad man.

    That must be the trick ladies... head to the men's locker room!

    :bigsmile:
  • shanlynt
    shanlynt Posts: 718 Member
    No lol and I think I'd fall over in shock if it happened.
  • BAMFMeredith
    BAMFMeredith Posts: 2,810 Member
    This is going to sound REALLY full of myself, but honestly, from my heaviest to my smallest, I've always gotten hit on. Now, I'm not saying I'm like a supermodel or anything, I think it's just the way I present myself. I dress well, I usually have a smile on my face, and I walk with my head up and give off the vibe of confidence. It's just kinda the way I've been since I was probably about 19 or 20...I think men in general are just attracted to women who possess confidence and pride in oneself, and since that's something I've had pretty much my entire adulthood, there's been no shortage in men hitting on me, even at my heaviest. I won't lie, it's kind of a big ego boost :)
  • ZombieChaser
    ZombieChaser Posts: 1,555 Member
    no. :sad:

    but I'm really bad a reading the opposite sex. so maybe I am and just don't realize it:frown:

    How you doin'?!? :bigsmile:

    I have not been flirted with, looked at, or otherwise made to feel like I exist...partly because I'm a ninja.
  • gatorgirlyyy
    gatorgirlyyy Posts: 349
    Well honestly I get hit on a lot more and I've only lost around 40 pounds. I think a lot of it has to do with your confidence levels as well. There is nothing sexier than a woman who knows what she wants and doesn't doubt herself. :)

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