Relationship problem?
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:frown: Thank you everyone. You all made a lot of sense.0
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Did you forget to evolve?i understand that you dont dig chicks.. im not trying to say otherwise...
its just that when guys see chicks digging his chick then he starts to worry..
sure we got parts that girl;s can only pretend to have...
BUT
if he is lucky he gets to watch... if not then he gets to "watch" his girl run off somewhere and have "times" with someone else...
either way he is not included in the actual physical interaction...
he is left out... not saying that he shouldnt be sometimes... just saying that he is...0 -
You're only 18, stop settling.
You are 18?
You need to dump his azz and let him grow up. Relationships at 18 NEED to be fun. If they are not, they need to be kicked to the curb. You are way too young to be dealing with crap like that already.0 -
lesbian girlfriends of my girlfriend do scare me and yes it is because i am insecure..
they can be burly dikes or lovely "friends"
lesbians offer something men cant get... a womens point of views towards sex...
we cant compete with that... i dont care how hard you try we cant.. we arent women and lesbians scare us because they have something we dont when it come to courting and pleasing a woman... nothing can change that...
if things flow towards the girl then enjoy yourself and take lots of pics for us
I'm a straight female. I have a few lesbian friends (heck, my doctor is a lesbian!), and I'm sorry, but I had to laugh at your post. NOTHING could make me desire another female sexually,. simply because I love men...very masculine men. A very masculine female STILL doesn't do anything for me because I love MEN...and nothing will change that.
Should your wife worry about you having sex with your gay male friends? Probably not, unless you're bisexual. Women are no different. If a man or woman has a homosexual experience, it's because a part of them was curious enough about it to try it out...unless your wife has expressed such curiosity, I wouldn't worry about her cheating on you with her lesbian friends.
I once briefly dated a guy who seriously believed that all women were secretly gay to some extent. I'm sure that retarded mentality came from years of porn watching, but he was so wrong, it was sad.0 -
Did you forget to evolve?i understand that you dont dig chicks.. im not trying to say otherwise...
its just that when guys see chicks digging his chick then he starts to worry..
sure we got parts that girl;s can only pretend to have...
BUT
if he is lucky he gets to watch... if not then he gets to "watch" his girl run off somewhere and have "times" with someone else...
either way he is not included in the actual physical interaction...
he is left out... not saying that he shouldnt be sometimes... just saying that he is...
why dont you get that another girl is a challenge to his man stuff?
you dont hang out with other guys do you?
why would you hang out with another girl that likes you then?
whats so wrong with a guy having a problem with that?
drop him if you thinks its a problem that he cares who is interested in his lady but not because its just a woman...0 -
You're only 18, stop settling.
You are 18?
You need to dump his azz and let him grow up. Relationships at 18 NEED to be fun. If they are not, they need to be kicked to the curb. You are way too young to be dealing with crap like that already.
YES!!!!
Never let someone else's insecurities affect your life. You did absolutely NOTHING wrong by having your friend stay over. No, it is NOT weird.
You don't owe your boyfriend an explanation, an apology, etc. He should be grovelling and dealing with his issues, or he shouldn't be a part of your life.0 -
Good thing everyone on this forum is a mental health professional and a relationship counselor.0
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you dont hang out with other guys do you?
why would you hang out with another girl that likes you then?
Are you telling me you SERIOUSLY can't see a difference there? She's attracted to men. Not women. So if she hangs out with a guy who is attracted to her, there is actually a risk of something happening (not saying OP would ever cheat). If she hangs out with a girl who likes her, THERE IS NO RISK.
Seriously. You're telling me that if you have a female friend who likes you, and a gay male friend who likes you, there's an equal chance of you hooking up with either of them? (I am assuming that you're heterosexual. I apologize if that's not the case).
Seriously, think through the logic here.
ETA: And are you assuming, then, that the friend "likes" her just because she is a lesbian? Do you have feelings for every girl you know? No? Okay, let's not assume things like this then.0 -
Good thing everyone on this forum is a mental health professional and a relationship counselor.
Experience, my friend.
You're young and are most likely possessive yourself, which is why you find the OP's boyfriend's behavior appropriate and "flattering". Life will teach you otherwise. You cannot control other people, and any attempt to do so will push people away from you.0 -
Tell him its ok if he wants to have a boy friend of his sleep over.0
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you dont hang out with other guys do you?
why would you hang out with another girl that likes you then?
Are you telling me you SERIOUSLY can't see a difference there? She's attracted to men. Not women. So if she hangs out with a guy who is attracted to her, there is actually a risk of something happening (not saying OP would ever cheat). If she hangs out with a girl who likes her, THERE IS NO RISK.
Seriously. You're telling me that if you have a female friend who likes you, and a gay male friend who likes you, there's an equal chance of you hooking up with either of them? (I am assuming that you're heterosexual. I apologize if that's not the case).
Seriously, think through the logic here.
Wow, you go girl!0 -
Guys do sleep at his house!!Tell him its ok if he wants to have a boy friend of his sleep over.0 -
I love when people have the logic that just because someone is a lesbian, they're just going to try and screw everything with boobs and a vagina. Because, ya know, being a straight man means that you want to screw everything and everyone with the right body parts, regardless of any other factors.0
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Good thing everyone on this forum is a mental health professional and a relationship counselor.
Did you forget that you're on a public, My Fitness Pal forum?0 -
he is showing his insecurities obviously...and sounds like he's being an *kitten* along with it. YOU choose your friends. you shouldn't even need to be considering not being friends with her because he feels it's 'weird'.0
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Hi everyone! I was just wondering if any of you could help me out here.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half. Everything goes good but it seems like all he wants to do is fight. Last night, a friend of mine, (who is a lesbian) stayed the night. I feel like he doesn't trust me with a FRIEND for crying out loud. So what if she likes boobs? He thinks I am going to cheat on him with everyone and everything!! I have never done anything wrong to him. By the way, I am only into guys. Should I just stop being friends with her?
Thanks xoxo
Also, we have talked about this already. He said he just finds it "weird" that I have her staying the night. He is jealous for no reason. Because like I said, I am into men. I love him, and he loves me. I don't want things to be over with over a few arguments. It's not worth throwing a year and a half down the drain. How am I suppose to show him he can trust me?
no or low self esteem....he is applying his own insecurities on to you. He feels he is not good enough so he thinks that any chance you get you will leave him for someone else....anyone else same or opposite sex.0 -
And honestly, back to your original post, I would NEVER consider dropping or pushing aside a friend of mine for a romantic relationship, no matter how long we had been together. Those feelings will come and go, but friendships will remain, because they aren't based on the fragility of sexual attraction and passion. I would really consider how important to you he is, and what attributes you're willing to put up with, if it comes down to pushing aside your friend over him. His not trusting you, unless it's based on some past action of yours where you cheated or something similar, isn't going to go away, because more likely than not, it's based on his own insecurities, and doesn't have anything to do with you. A year and a half may seem like a long time, but in the world of romantic relationships, it's really a tip of the iceberg.0
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I love when people have the logic that just because someone is a lesbian, they're just going to try and screw everything with boobs and a vagina. Because, ya know, being a straight man means that you want to screw everything and everyone with the right body parts, regardless of any other factors.
Bingo.0 -
Just break up.
It's like you two just create dumb problems and stress.
It's gonna make you fat.
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Good thing everyone on this forum is a mental health professional and a relationship counselor.
Experience, my friend.
You're young and are most likely possessive yourself, which is why you find the OP's boyfriend's behavior appropriate and "flattering". Life will teach you otherwise. You cannot control other people, and any attempt to do so will push people away from you.
Who in the blue hell said I could control anyone? Also assuming makes a you know what out of both of us0 -
Get out. Once this kind of stuff starts happening, and you LET that kind of stuff start happening, he's only going to get more controlling in different aspects. And honestly, the assumption that just because she is a lesbian she would be attracted to you and try something is ridiculous. Men aren't attracted to EVERY woman they see, and neither are lesbians.
You should never ruin a friendship over a guy. Next, he will think all of your guy friends are going to try to get into your pants.0 -
Yeah, high school's rough.0
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Guys do sleep at his house!!Tell him its ok if he wants to have a boy friend of his sleep over.
In that case, tell him what he does with his boy friends in the privacy of his bedroom is no ones business, and he should show you the same respect or GTFO.0 -
Yeah, high school's rough.0
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Oh to be 18 again...0
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Yeah, high school's rough.
So is that combover, sexy.0 -
18 months seems like a long time now, but if you stay with him now you will only break up later.
If he thinks it's part of a relationship to fight with you over trivial stuff then the relationship is doomed and it's time to cut your losses.
Don't waste 5 years on him whatever you do.
Is he jealous when you talk to guys or lesbians on this forum? You bet your boots he is!0 -
Seriously? :noway:lesbian girlfriends of my girlfriend do scare me and yes it is because i am insecure..
they can be burly dikes or lovely "friends"
lesbians offer something men cant get... a womens point of views towards sex...
we cant compete with that... i dont care how hard you try we cant.. we arent women and lesbians scare us because they have something we dont when it come to courting and pleasing a woman... nothing can change that...
if things flow towards the girl then enjoy yourself and take lots of pics for us0 -
Yeah, high school's rough.
lol0 -
So is that combover, sexy.Yeah, high school's rough.
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