has a close friend of yours died?

LaurenAOK

One of my good friends from high school died last semester. We hung out all the time and he was even my date for the homecoming dance my junior year. Since coming to college, we kind of grew apart but still talked. His death came as an absolute shock and sometimes I think it still hasn't hit me. Like, I'll at times I'll randomly realize, oh my god, he's gone, and almost burst into tears. Other times I feel like I'm at terms with it.

I'll always remember and love him. Death is a strange and scary thing.

groovyfirechick

The 2 year anniversary of a close friend's suicide is coming up in two weeks (on my birthday which makes it suck even more). I think about him all the time and still question if I missed any signs that he was going to kill himself in the weeks leading up to his death....RIP PM....I won't ever forget you.

JessicaMarie9382

A very close friend of mine died on her 29th birthday, which was on Jan 25. She had 4 daughters. youngest was 3 months oldest just 9. I miss her more then words can say. She battled metastatic melanoma for over 3 years. She was the best mother I knew. She lived for her girl. I think about her everyday and miss her terribly. Sometimes I still break down when I think of how I can't hug her, or talk to her. Then I feel her with me. She visits my dreams a lot.

Allie_71

Yes. A good friend of mine died last year. He was supposed to come to my birthday party, and I was a little hurt, cuz it was my 40th. But he was a busy guy, and was always involved in so many things, and although it was strange that he didn't show up, I chalked it up to spreading himself too thin.

Turned out he had a stroke on the Friday, my birthday was on Saturday, and he wasn't found 'til Sunday, when someone dropped by his house to take him out for breakfast. He was a lovely man, taken too soon, and the whole community felt the loss. I often think I see him in places I expect him to be. And I miss him very much.

peachNpunkin

I lost a good friend in highschool at the end of my Jr. year. He killed himeself.

In the past few years I have lost many more to the war. Nothing like watching the news and seeing a picture someone you grew up with killed in the war. It doesn't really hit you until you hear the 21 guns. Many have come back totally messed up. It is like you've lost them all, because they arent the same when they come home.

I'm sorry for you loss. Unfortunately, it is something that we all have to endure. I pray the God comforts you.

midnightwhispers

Yes. My best friend/on and off again bf died 5 years ago in a motorcycle accident - drunk driver hit him. We had a very complicated relationship/friendship for many reasons and I told him 2 months before he was killed that I couldn't see/speak to him anymore. All because it made my then bf jealous. I hate myself every day for that decision and there isn't a day that goes by that I still don't miss him

Mom2rh

A very good friend of mine died in December. Suddenly. She had a pulmonary embolism. She had a 16 year old daughter...same age as my oldest son. In fact we first met when our kids were toddlers. Miss her terribly. I just ran into her sister and as soon as she saw me she burst into tears.

glenner

Just before Easter weekend three years ago a beautiful little girl I knew was kidnapped, raped and brutally murdered. My father had died 10 weeks earlier and when I went to the Alzheimer's walk the day after he died I started to cry and didn't think I could manage. This little girl saw me, came running over and started chatting away and walking with me so I had to pull it together so she wouldn't ask why I was crying. Three days after the girl was kidnapped my mother died very unexpectedly. I was grief-stricken but hoped that the girl would turn up okay. Several weeks later two people were arrested and charged with her murder. I felt as if the three deaths were so intertwined, the triple loss was so close together. And now at the three year anniversary the trial of one of the murderer's is going on and I have to hear all of the awful things that happened. Sometimes I just want to go to bed and cry nonstop.

KBreezy76

One of my best friends passed away on April 4, 2010 of a heart attack at 33 years old!! That was mega hard and still is! Then later another long time friend died in a car crash and then not even 4 days after THAT, my childhood friend's mother passed away from a heart attack. She was dear to me because she helped me through a rough time when I was a teenager. She opened up her home to me even! Not to mention losing my mother at 9 and my step grandfather in 2004, and a cousin last year. And a few more distant relatives and friends along the way. Death is something we are never prepared for, although we expect it! Stay encouraged honey!

pinuplove

I lost two friends in high school in separate car accidents. We weren't extremely close but ran in the same group.

What bothers me a lot more is the fact that my husband is the same age my mother was when she died (I was 13). I don't even want to think about that :frown:

Heyman09

In my case my very best friend died in Feb. My dad!! I was a daddy's girl my whole life and he was my hero. Every since his passing I've had a hard time getting through my day.

Jersey_Devil

yes, including one on 9/11

Scatterdragon

My husband died in a helicopter crash 6.5 years ago... I still struggle with it. I have also lost some friends. It never gets easier to deal with.

delilah47

After both parents pass, it's a very lonely feeling. Mine both passed by the time I was 40.

TopazCarey

It's so weird, but I was just talking about this with my little sister. Fortunately, I haven't lost any friends but one of my sister's friends got hit by a car and died just last night. She was all of 13 years old. It's really sad. It just makes me think how short this life really is and how any moment could be our last.

LenaMena87

Yes my three close friends two of them my exes. I still hurt in pain but I manage to go on with life. There is a brighter tomorrow and you just keep holding on.

ElementalEscapee

I'm guessing pets don't count <.< lol

USMCConditioning

Actually, i am extremely fortunate to not have lost any immediate family members for most of my life, only person i remember passing is my grandma on my moms side. However, i have had several close friends pass, which isn't any easier.

I'm afraid for how i will handle my grandparent's death on my dads side. Cause i know my G-PA hasn't much longer to live. And i want to make sure he can see me succeed with my goal to become a United States Marine before he passes.

Hernandeak11

I'm only 22, but unfortunately I've experienced the loss of several friends. One of them would have been 24 today, actually.

Unfortunately, two of them took their own lives..it's just something you never expect to happen to someone you know. I kind of always blew off the notion of suicide--thinking "that's what a person wanted, etc.", but when you go through it, it's absolutely unreal--I don't think I'll ever understand why something that terrible happened, but I just cherish what I have and remember my friends fondly.

BuffERRN

I have had three close friends die since high school- two from cancer and one from asthma. I work in the ER and the buddy that died of an asthma attack was my patient... I will forever carry the images of him forever in my memory of him on the morgue cart after with a tube inserted through his neck because they could not intubate him... All three were not even 25 years old.

SMarie10

So many sad stories - makes you appreciate life. The reason I joined MFP is because of my close friend who died of cancer - three years ago this month. She was obese and that contributed to the spread of the cancer and to her death. I don't want my weight to be a factor in my life or my death. I still am in touch with her family and we have a good cry every year about this time.

bikinibeliever

I do think the older you get the more people you know that have passed on. I lost a friend for the first time when I was 8, it was a tragic accident. :frown:

tfancey

Just before Easter weekend three years ago a beautiful little girl I knew was kidnapped, raped and brutally murdered. My father had died 10 weeks earlier and when I went to the Alzheimer's walk the day after he died I started to cry and didn't think I could manage. This little girl saw me, came running over and started chatting away and walking with me so I had to pull it together so she wouldn't ask why I was crying. Three days after the girl was kidnapped my mother died very unexpectedly. I was grief-stricken but hoped that the girl would turn up okay. Several weeks later two people were arrested and charged with her murder. I felt as if the three deaths were so intertwined, the triple loss was so close together. And now at the three year anniversary the trial of one of the murderer's is going on and I have to hear all of the awful things that happened. Sometimes I just want to go to bed and cry nonstop.

So sorry for all your losses and so sorry that you have to constantly relive the loss of the little girl - from reading your post I recognize how high profile the story has become.

MrsRobertson1005

A friend of mine who was a big brother to me was shot the day after christmas.. he lives 6 hours away and it was so quick that we didn't know he was shot until he was gone. Even harder was when we got there we helped plan his funeral, give the final ok that he looked like him before everyone saw him at the wake, my fiance was even the one who picked his clothes to be buried in. can't believe how hard it was and how much it still doesn't sink in.

hannp

5 years ago when I was 14 my daddy was my best friend. He passed away from cancer that year. So hard to think he nevers going to walk me down the isle, see my kids and all that future stuff.

Artemis726

Yes- I lost a kindred spirit about 16 years ago. She was only 19 with a 1 year old baby- working the 3rd shift so she could be with her son during the day. Burning the candle at both ends until she fell asleep at the wheel and crashed when she was almost home. I still miss her.

I also lost an ex to a heart attack when he was only 32. It's still hard to wrap my head around that.

mama2shi

I have had many friends pass, and I am 39. The worst was being widowed at 34, although I am happily married again . Some people I know have never experienced a close death, I think it has made me appreciate life much more having been through it.

PapaverSomniferum

I lost a good friend last fall. We'd only met one year (almost exactly one year) before. He was an actor in a local film I was doing make-up for. I spent about 4 hours giving him some fake tattoos and we were quick friends. He had just moved to my home town so called me a lot looking for ideas of things to do. We talked online a lot, did a couple short films together.

He was only one year older than me, 29, had two kids, just like me, and died peacefully in his sleep. No warning. It REALLY made me re-evaluate my life and what I'm doing with my creativity.

Up to a certain age, a lot of people don't really think about death. There's a feeling of having all the time in the world. Losing someone really puts some reality in you.

amalthea23

A very close friend of mine died at 29 and it was awful. It wasn't a easy death and for years the anniversary rocked me badly.

JAllen32

Had a bad couple of years myself. My little brother died, a few years later I lost one of my best friends. Two weeks later, my mom died and my gramp a month later. And then next year, my stepdad died. I'm only 34, but I think about losing my dad now, even though he is totally healthy and just turned 50. But everyone else died and they were healthy and young too. It really brings your mortality up front and center when things like that happen.