MSNBC POLL: Half Of Men Say They Would Leave A Partner Who G

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"Half Of Men Say They Would Leave A Partner Who Gained Weight"
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/07/27/men-leave-weight-gain_n_911143.html

I read this article on MSNBC, and was curious what other myfitnesspal members thought?

MaraDiaz

"Half Of Men Say They Would Leave A Partner Who Gained Weight"
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/07/27/men-leave-weight-gain_n_911143.html

I read this article on MSNBC, and was curious what other myfitnesspal members thought?

I think in that case, I should be strategic and find a man while I'm at the highest end of my weight range. Problem solved. Now excuse me while I go put all those pounds back on.

Oh never mind, I'm not looking for love at the moment. But I'll be sure to gain it all back before I do. It's a foolproof plan!

WickedGarden

Interesting, my ex left me for a girl who was 10 years younger, and twice as big as me.

Farfourah

Half of men would also screw anything that stands up right.

mrmanmeat

Half of men would also screw anything that stands up right.

As would half the women too.

Trail_Addict

Oh yay.... the makings of another male bashing thread. Can't wait! :grumble:

Farfourah

Half of men would also screw anything that stands up right.

As would half the women too.

No, it's more than half...

Scott613

Half of men would also screw anything that stands up right.

Not true, I like to power drill my stuff!

MariaMariaM

I heard this from ex boyfriends I had in the past and also from other male friends. It is kind of sad that some men think that way.It was never (supposedly) directed to me but I always thought it was some sort of threat.

I don't know what I would do but right now I don't think I would leave a person for gaining a normal amount of weight.

Farfourah

Half of men would also screw anything that stands up right.

Not true, I like to power drill my stuff!

LOL! And I just like to lay there and take it...

TitanGM

Half of men would also screw anything that stands up right.

As would half the women too.

No, it's more than half...

lol... these replies made my day :laugh:

CoryIda

I am going to offend all feminists and say that I refuse to bash men for leaving their partners for gaining weight.

Why? Because men are visual creatures. They are stimulated by what they see.
Fortunately, some men like to see bigger women. Some like smaller. We all have different tastes, and that's okay.

I imagine that, when this study claims that men would leave a partner for gaining weight, it isn't all visual, however. They may find, as I did as I lost weight and my partner did not, that being with a partner who doesn't share your desire to be healthy can be difficult to deal with. It wasn't my reason for leaving him, but it definitely did put a strain on the relationship.

Anyway, women can be shallow, too - we tend to be a bit more forgiving on weight issues, but not about money, or sexual performance, or any other number of issues.

So don't assume that half of all men are douche bags because of one study. You know what? Most men are pretty awesome.

BassesGirl

Honestly, I would leave a boyfriend if he became fat (note: this is assuming he started out in shape). But I don't mean, kinda fat...thats no biggie....but if my guy ever became obese, I would probably leave him.

The reason for me would not be so much that I wouldn't find him attractive anymore, but I can't picture myself being with someone who cares so little about their health.

Bottomline, if my man started gaining significant weight, I'd talk to him...if he continued to an OBESE level, I'd leave him.

CRMrunner

Is this dating or married? I didn't have a large history of leaving people for any reason. I wouldn't leave my wife if she gained 400 pounds. (I would worry about her health way before that.)

Elizabeth_C34

I am going to offend all feminists and say that I refuse to bash men for leaving their partners for gaining weight.

Why? Because men are visual creatures. They are stimulated by what they see.
Fortunately, some men like to see bigger women. Some like smaller. We all have different tastes, and that's okay.

I imagine that, when this study claims that men would leave a partner for gaining weight, it isn't all visual, however. They may find, as I did as I lost weight and my partner did not, that being with a partner who doesn't share your desire to be healthy can be difficult to deal with. It wasn't my reason for leaving him, but it definitely did put a strain on the relationship.

Anyway, women can be shallow, too - we tend to be a bit more forgiving on weight issues, but not about money, or sexual performance, or any other number of issues.

So don't assume that half of all men are douche bags because of one study. You know what? Most men are pretty awesome.

Did you ever know...




that I love you?

lickmybaconcakes

I am going to offend all feminists and say that I refuse to bash men for leaving their partners for gaining weight.

Why? Because men are visual creatures. They are stimulated by what they see.
Fortunately, some men like to see bigger women. Some like smaller. We all have different tastes, and that's okay.

I imagine that, when this study claims that men would leave a partner for gaining weight, it isn't all visual, however. They may find, as I did as I lost weight and my partner did not, that being with a partner who doesn't share your desire to be healthy can be difficult to deal with. It wasn't my reason for leaving him, but it definitely did put a strain on the relationship.

Anyway, women can be shallow, too - we tend to be a bit more forgiving on weight issues, but not about money, or sexual performance, or any other number of issues.

So don't assume that half of all men are douche bags because of one study. You know what? Most men are pretty awesome.

Your honesty is awesome and I tend to agree with this.

JustJennie1

I am going to offend all feminists and say that I refuse to bash men for leaving their partners for gaining weight.

Why? Because men are visual creatures. They are stimulated by what they see.
Fortunately, some men like to see bigger women. Some like smaller. We all have different tastes, and that's okay.

I imagine that, when this study claims that men would leave a partner for gaining weight, it isn't all visual, however. They may find, as I did as I lost weight and my partner did not, that being with a partner who doesn't share your desire to be healthy can be difficult to deal with. It wasn't my reason for leaving him, but it definitely did put a strain on the relationship.

Anyway, women can be shallow, too - we tend to be a bit more forgiving on weight issues, but not about money, or sexual performance, or any other number of issues.

So don't assume that half of all men are douche bags because of one study. You know what? Most men are pretty awesome.

Well said.

LilRedRooster

Why is it ao bad for people to be honest about what they find attractive?

My boyfriend would not be as attractive to me if he gained weight, not because he got bigger, but because that would only happen with a negative change in lifestyle. Someone who would allow that to happen would not be a good partner for me, and I would find them unattractive.

Let's not bash men here for being honest. As a woman, I would feel the same way.

Rae6503

Ya know, I think it's okay to be a little shallow... Men and women. My husband would not like it if I gained a large amount of weight and didn't do anything to remedy the situation. He's a fit guy. He likes doing active things. He would see my lack of concern with my weight as a lack of concern with his feelings and which would be a huge issue.

california_peach

First, we don't know if anyone answering any poll is telling the truth. Even if they are this poll does not cover the entire male population. Personally, I've never known a man who left his wife/girlfriend because she got fat. But I once knew a man who left his wife because she never put the bread back in the cabinet; turns out the cat was pulling the bread out of the cabinet after his wife put the bread up. --true story

infamousmk

Physical health is in direct correlation to mental health, IMO. If your partner lets themselves go physically, chances are they are not maintaining a healthy mental stance either. I see no problem with leaving a partner who doesn't take care of their wellbeing.

TinkrBelz

Bump for later.

Musikelektronik

Good thing my wife's a woman. Otherwise, she'd be long gone! :laugh:

alpha2omega

And I'm technically considered obese..:grumble: Hopefully my wife is sympathetic. lol

Trail_Addict

My problem with polls that ask about what someone "would" do, is that the inclination to do something does not always stand up to the "act" of doing something. Meaning, I can easily say I'd jump the bank robber with the gun, but when the moment comes, I may freeze (even though I really wouldn't ).

So, to me, a poll asking if someone "would do" something is pretty meaningless. We are defined by our actions, not our intent to someday do something.

Edited to add: I'd love to see a poll asking how many women have left their man for things non-physical - lost his job, emotionally detached, bad with money, etc. Polls on this forum have clearly shown that women aren't as hung up on body anyways, so for that poll to say 20% of women would leave their hubby is kinda pointless. Apples and oranges.

amalthea23

My partner is openly a "no fat chicks" guy, but when I was on steroids for 6 months, I was totally a fat chick and he never said a single word to me about it or treated be any less than the wonderful way he always does. I think a person who immediately answers "yes" to a question like this has some other issues with their relationship and is just looking for any excuse to leave.

IamRoJ

Question for the male-bashers...or really anyone who's lost a significant amount of weight. Aren't you a different person than you were when you were heavier? I know I was. And honestly, I like new Ro better than old Ro...not because she's thinner, but she's got a better outlook, and more confidence, and laughs a whole lot more.

So maybe, the fact one set would leave another set isn't always the superficial "she's not hawt" thing, but maybe it's for all the other baggage that comes with the weight.

Let's also not assume that there are many women who might do the same darn thing.

thistimeismytime

After reading some of the male responses, I'm feeling extremely grateful for my husband right now. At my heaviest weight, he still wanted me all the time, and told me I was beautiful every day--many times a day. We've been married 13 years and have 2 children. Your body can expect some changes with time and the stresses of life. He NEVER pressured me to get back in shape or eat a certain way. I'm getting healthy and strong for myself, but also out of respect for him and my children. Attraction is more than skin deep, and people who don't get that should not get married in the first place.

tjradd73

I don't disagree with the thought process on this... if you marry someone who is fit, attractive, healthy, and who has a lot of confidence...feelings are bound to change for that person if they gain a ton of weight...including their self confidence and, lack of motivation, and lack of happiness!!

Point being...they are most likely not leaving the person just because they got fat...there are many other things that go along with being overweight...and a person can be totally different from fat to thin!

tjradd73

Question for the male-bashers...or really anyone who's lost a significant amount of weight. Aren't you a different person than you were when you were heavier? I know I was. And honestly, I like new Ro better than old Ro...not because she's thinner, but she's got a better outlook, and more confidence, and laughs a whole lot more.

So maybe, the fact one set would leave another set isn't always the superficial "she's not hawt" thing, but maybe it's for all the other baggage that comes with the weight.

Let's also not assume that there are many women who might do the same darn thing.

just read this...pretty much exactly what I just said

SofaKingRad

Half of men would also screw anything that stands up right.

That's not true. I like when women are on all fours.