would you help out a lady?

karylee44
karylee44 Posts: 892
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hit up the homedepot yesterday.. bought 33 blocks, 4 bags of dirt.
so weight of my cart was over 300 pounds.
i loaded it.. and dragged it back to my car...
now my question is.. would you have asked to help load my car if you saw me (or anyone else)?
i had several men and women .. just wander by. and two smart *kitten* men comment on the fact that i was loading all that into my SUV and not a truck.
not that i can't do it.. i can.. (carried 80 pound bags of dirt to my car today)
but i would help out someone (and have) .. why is it that i can't get me any help!!
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  • Gordie580
    Gordie580 Posts: 154 Member
    that is the problem with our society nowdays. Very few people help anyone out anymore.
  • Jfearn64
    Jfearn64 Posts: 353 Member
    I definitly would have. That is how my parents raised me.
  • KrisyKat
    KrisyKat Posts: 740 Member
    Where I'm from, you would have gotten help before even leaving the store. We call it the "Aloha Spirit" :flowerforyou:
  • good2bthaking
    good2bthaking Posts: 325 Member
    In a heartbeat, chivalry is not dead with me!!!!
  • hbrittingham
    hbrittingham Posts: 2,518 Member
    Even though I am also a female, I would have offered to help you. As long as you didn't look like you wanted to kick my *kitten*.
  • will010574
    will010574 Posts: 761 Member
    Of course I would have helped. Unfortunately people get more and more selfish, with the what's in it for me outlook. So sad!
  • BrienJD
    BrienJD Posts: 541 Member
    Yes in fact I would...and I did just that at Lowe's the other day. It wasn't a whole load of bricks but it was an oversized box she was trying to put in the bed a little pickup all by herself, it was bulky and she couldn't get it up.

    So Yeah, I would most definately
  • Fit_Canuck
    Fit_Canuck Posts: 788 Member
    The answer is yes, it happened to me twice this week

    1. Today a woman in front of me was carrying something quite heavy so I offered to help her to the car with it and she was happy

    2. I held the door open for a woman and her little girl, the cute part was when the little girl asked me " Why would you open the door for us "
  • 7funnygirl7
    7funnygirl7 Posts: 1,176
    I help people with groceries etc. all the time (especially elderly). If I am able, I will certainly try my best to help someone who is in need or struggling! I so would have helped you "drag" a bag or two....LOL :smile:
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    i probably wouldnt help. sorry but i write horror screenplays and i've seen enough to NOT trust that scenario.
    i'd think if that person needed help then they would have just asked someone from the store to help, which they will if you ask
  • naomi8888
    naomi8888 Posts: 519 Member
    The answer is yes, it happened to me twice this week

    1. Today a woman in front of me was carrying something quite heavy so I offered to help her to the car with it and she was happy

    2. I held the door open for a woman and her little girl, the cute part was when the little girl asked me " Why would you open the door for us "

    Of course you do - you're Canadian!! I'm Australian and I was told if you can't tell if someone's Canadian or American then "accidentally" stand on their feet. The Canadian will apologise to *you*. I've been to Canada a couple of times and went out with a Canadian for a while and you guys are all polite - keep it up!! :flowerforyou:
  • rachelleahsmom
    rachelleahsmom Posts: 442 Member
    Don't know where you live, but here in ND, you would have had many offers of help! Sometimes I have to wrestle the grocery store guy who wants to help me. Just kidding about the wrestling, but they always offer! :-)
  • PinkiePie07
    PinkiePie07 Posts: 103 Member
    I always help when I can, but I'm insanely weak, soon strength training will fix that, but at the very least I would have done my best or I would have sent one of my big burly man friends to help.
  • Marper8521
    Marper8521 Posts: 158 Member
    Just as I do with the door, regardless if she wants me to or not, I open it and would have followed you to your car (NOT STALKER LIKE) and helped. The changes that our society have gone through have men in a pickle and many these days just don't bother as it's the lesser of two evils. If I help, I'm a shov, if I don't I'm a pig, you can't win. I just do it..
  • CoderGal
    CoderGal Posts: 6,800 Member
    I remember my motorcycle broke down on the side of the road at around midnight on a friday night. Luckily I had a clue and knew how to fix it...I was on the side of the road with bike parts everywhere working away and guarding all my parts in the dark making sure no screws were blowing away while lots of cars went by...honking and hollering cat calls at me...but no offers to help? Society is win. Luckily I figured it out and got to drive home.
  • mznisaelaine
    mznisaelaine Posts: 2,262 Member
    I dont believe chivalry is dead but it is very rare that I ever get help when needed. Just a few weeks I had to carry a huge box full of kids toys and I had to carry it upstairs and the guy who was coming through the door didnt even hold the door and I was struggling.
  • sktllmdrhmz
    sktllmdrhmz Posts: 1,799 Member
    I'm originally from Alabama, and Southern hospitality certainly extends to this. If I didn't offer help, it would somehow make it all the way back to my grandmother and I'd rightfully have been hearing about it later.
  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    Yes, and if I knew you in real life, offer to do the work for you!:smile:

    cliche because I'm British, but I held a door open for a lady recently and got asked gruffly " did you hold that because I'm a woman?"

    Err...no..because I'm polite. I hold doors open for the next person regardless of sexuality.

    Also you might not get help as people think you've got it covered?:glasses:
  • MrsInmon
    MrsInmon Posts: 49 Member
    2. I held the door open for a woman and her little girl, the cute part was when the little girl asked me " Why would you open the door for us "

    I'm from California but have lived in Texas most of my life. Southern hospitality is big here in Texas. Everyone helps their neighbor (strangers). I went for a visit down in Cali and thought everyone was rude for not holding doors for me. Not that I'm spoiled but its just courtesy.

    I am constantly helping others, I totally would of asked if you needed help
  • lyssamichelle
    lyssamichelle Posts: 1,307 Member
    I'm not honestly sure if I would.. just because I've tried to help someone load heavy things in to a truck before & I busted the bag of .. what ever it was all over the ground.. I'm all for helping out anyone who needs it. I just wouldn't want to be the reason they just wasted money. You know..

    I always hold doors open for people, I'm from a very.. "trashy" city, so most of the time.. people walk buy with out saying a word or look at you like your an idiot.. I had one man RUN to the door while he was on the phone. Didn't nod, say thanks, or anything. He just ran.. A far distance.. to get out the door.
  • ls_66
    ls_66 Posts: 395 Member
    no questions asked I would have helped you
    was once at the home depot and this lady was trying to load about 20 bags of bagged manure in her Lexus !!! I had a truck loaded everything in it a drove to her place
  • wellbert
    wellbert Posts: 3,924 Member
    Last couple times I offered help to a lady, she got offended.
    I only help out bros now. Sorry.
  • Still_Fluffy
    Still_Fluffy Posts: 341 Member
    Yes, I would help. I think its important to help people espically if my daughter is with me. Its good to show girls that not all men are jerks.
  • CoderGal
    CoderGal Posts: 6,800 Member
    I'm not honestly sure if I would.. just because I've tried to help someone load heavy things in to a truck before & I busted the bag of ..

    Good point, not to mention the amount of people who would hold it against you and sue if you do something wrong these days.
  • Il_DaniD_lI
    Il_DaniD_lI Posts: 1,593 Member
    I would help anyone who was in need. I'm surprised no men jumped at the opportunity to help a pretty lady like you! I have never had this issue, but then again, I live in Canada. :happy:
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    Honestly, because of some of the more extreme forms of feminism, I think that some guys are afraid to off help, because the woman will take it as an insult, as if she is too weak to do it herself. And, honestly, some guys are just jerks.
  • aquasw16
    aquasw16 Posts: 342 Member
    I am surprised no one at HOME DEPOT asked to help you!!! Now that's just plain bad customer service!
  • C00lCountry
    C00lCountry Posts: 282
    This kind of a sticky situation now and days.

    You can offer to help and if damage the goods get yelled at or wanted to pay for item and cleaning of vehicle.
    You can offer to help and they fell like you are singling the person out cause they think you think they can't do it.
    You can offer to help and everything goes great.

    My bigger question is where the heck was the store people at?
  • karylee44
    karylee44 Posts: 892
    i don't think it would hurt just to ask if i needed any help (and not make fun of me loading my SUV with dirt and cement blocks!). I have been dragging these blocks home for over a year (i only have enough money to buy about 30 at a time.. i just finished retaining walls and now working on a staircase..). and not once has someone offered to help.. and just today while i was carring 80 (yes i said 80) pounds of dirt to my car.. only one person offered to help.. and that was an older woman who saw me drop one of the 40 pound bags.. (wet bags.. one slipped).. the men just walked on by..
    well at least i got my work out in the last two days! i got some good arms!
  • Saffyra
    Saffyra Posts: 607 Member
    I am surprised no one at HOME DEPOT asked to help you!!! Now that's just plain bad customer service!

    This. Sheesh!

    I have to admit I probably wouldn't have helped you load up your car but I'm tiny and mostly useless in that department BUT if my husband had seen you, he definitely would have ran over and loaded it up for you.

    ETA: I'm horrified that those men just walked by and made fun of you. That is awful!

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