would you help out a lady?

karylee44

hit up the homedepot yesterday.. bought 33 blocks, 4 bags of dirt.
so weight of my cart was over 300 pounds.
i loaded it.. and dragged it back to my car...
now my question is.. would you have asked to help load my car if you saw me (or anyone else)?
i had several men and women .. just wander by. and two smart *kitten* men comment on the fact that i was loading all that into my SUV and not a truck.
not that i can't do it.. i can.. (carried 80 pound bags of dirt to my car today)
but i would help out someone (and have) .. why is it that i can't get me any help!!

Gordie580

that is the problem with our society nowdays. Very few people help anyone out anymore.

Jfearn64

I definitly would have. That is how my parents raised me.

KrisyKat

Where I'm from, you would have gotten help before even leaving the store. We call it the "Aloha Spirit" :flowerforyou:

good2bthaking

In a heartbeat, chivalry is not dead with me!!!!

hbrittingham

Even though I am also a female, I would have offered to help you. As long as you didn't look like you wanted to kick my *kitten*.

will010574

Of course I would have helped. Unfortunately people get more and more selfish, with the what's in it for me outlook. So sad!

BrienJD

Yes in fact I would...and I did just that at Lowe's the other day. It wasn't a whole load of bricks but it was an oversized box she was trying to put in the bed a little pickup all by herself, it was bulky and she couldn't get it up.

So Yeah, I would most definately

Fit_Canuck

The answer is yes, it happened to me twice this week

1. Today a woman in front of me was carrying something quite heavy so I offered to help her to the car with it and she was happy

2. I held the door open for a woman and her little girl, the cute part was when the little girl asked me " Why would you open the door for us "

7funnygirl7

I help people with groceries etc. all the time (especially elderly). If I am able, I will certainly try my best to help someone who is in need or struggling! I so would have helped you "drag" a bag or two....LOL

meshashesha2012

i probably wouldnt help. sorry but i write horror screenplays and i've seen enough to NOT trust that scenario.
i'd think if that person needed help then they would have just asked someone from the store to help, which they will if you ask

naomi8888

The answer is yes, it happened to me twice this week

1. Today a woman in front of me was carrying something quite heavy so I offered to help her to the car with it and she was happy

2. I held the door open for a woman and her little girl, the cute part was when the little girl asked me " Why would you open the door for us "

Of course you do - you're Canadian!! I'm Australian and I was told if you can't tell if someone's Canadian or American then "accidentally" stand on their feet. The Canadian will apologise to *you*. I've been to Canada a couple of times and went out with a Canadian for a while and you guys are all polite - keep it up!! :flowerforyou:

rachelleahsmom

Don't know where you live, but here in ND, you would have had many offers of help! Sometimes I have to wrestle the grocery store guy who wants to help me. Just kidding about the wrestling, but they always offer! :-)

PinkiePie07

I always help when I can, but I'm insanely weak, soon strength training will fix that, but at the very least I would have done my best or I would have sent one of my big burly man friends to help.

Marper8521

Just as I do with the door, regardless if she wants me to or not, I open it and would have followed you to your car (NOT STALKER LIKE) and helped. The changes that our society have gone through have men in a pickle and many these days just don't bother as it's the lesser of two evils. If I help, I'm a shov, if I don't I'm a pig, you can't win. I just do it..

CoderGal

I remember my motorcycle broke down on the side of the road at around midnight on a friday night. Luckily I had a clue and knew how to fix it...I was on the side of the road with bike parts everywhere working away and guarding all my parts in the dark making sure no screws were blowing away while lots of cars went by...honking and hollering cat calls at me...but no offers to help? Society is win. Luckily I figured it out and got to drive home.

mznisaelaine

I dont believe chivalry is dead but it is very rare that I ever get help when needed. Just a few weeks I had to carry a huge box full of kids toys and I had to carry it upstairs and the guy who was coming through the door didnt even hold the door and I was struggling.

sktllmdrhmz

I'm originally from Alabama, and Southern hospitality certainly extends to this. If I didn't offer help, it would somehow make it all the way back to my grandmother and I'd rightfully have been hearing about it later.

stevewynjones

Yes, and if I knew you in real life, offer to do the work for you!

cliche because I'm British, but I held a door open for a lady recently and got asked gruffly " did you hold that because I'm a woman?"

Err...no..because I'm polite. I hold doors open for the next person regardless of sexuality.

Also you might not get help as people think you've got it covered?:glasses:

MrsInmon

2. I held the door open for a woman and her little girl, the cute part was when the little girl asked me " Why would you open the door for us "

I'm from California but have lived in Texas most of my life. Southern hospitality is big here in Texas. Everyone helps their neighbor (strangers). I went for a visit down in Cali and thought everyone was rude for not holding doors for me. Not that I'm spoiled but its just courtesy.

I am constantly helping others, I totally would of asked if you needed help

lyssamichelle

I'm not honestly sure if I would.. just because I've tried to help someone load heavy things in to a truck before & I busted the bag of .. what ever it was all over the ground.. I'm all for helping out anyone who needs it. I just wouldn't want to be the reason they just wasted money. You know..

I always hold doors open for people, I'm from a very.. "trashy" city, so most of the time.. people walk buy with out saying a word or look at you like your an idiot.. I had one man RUN to the door while he was on the phone. Didn't nod, say thanks, or anything. He just ran.. A far distance.. to get out the door.

ls_66

no questions asked I would have helped you
was once at the home depot and this lady was trying to load about 20 bags of bagged manure in her Lexus !!! I had a truck loaded everything in it a drove to her place

wellbert

Last couple times I offered help to a lady, she got offended.
I only help out bros now. Sorry.

Still_Fluffy

Yes, I would help. I think its important to help people espically if my daughter is with me. Its good to show girls that not all men are jerks.

CoderGal

I'm not honestly sure if I would.. just because I've tried to help someone load heavy things in to a truck before & I busted the bag of ..

Good point, not to mention the amount of people who would hold it against you and sue if you do something wrong these days.

Il_DaniD_lI

I would help anyone who was in need. I'm surprised no men jumped at the opportunity to help a pretty lady like you! I have never had this issue, but then again, I live in Canada. :happy:

jennifer_417

Honestly, because of some of the more extreme forms of feminism, I think that some guys are afraid to off help, because the woman will take it as an insult, as if she is too weak to do it herself. And, honestly, some guys are just jerks.

aquasw16

I am surprised no one at HOME DEPOT asked to help you!!! Now that's just plain bad customer service!

C00lCountry

This kind of a sticky situation now and days.

You can offer to help and if damage the goods get yelled at or wanted to pay for item and cleaning of vehicle.
You can offer to help and they fell like you are singling the person out cause they think you think they can't do it.
You can offer to help and everything goes great.

My bigger question is where the heck was the store people at?

karylee44

i don't think it would hurt just to ask if i needed any help (and not make fun of me loading my SUV with dirt and cement blocks!). I have been dragging these blocks home for over a year (i only have enough money to buy about 30 at a time.. i just finished retaining walls and now working on a staircase..). and not once has someone offered to help.. and just today while i was carring 80 (yes i said 80) pounds of dirt to my car.. only one person offered to help.. and that was an older woman who saw me drop one of the 40 pound bags.. (wet bags.. one slipped).. the men just walked on by..
well at least i got my work out in the last two days! i got some good arms!

Saffyra

I am surprised no one at HOME DEPOT asked to help you!!! Now that's just plain bad customer service!

This. Sheesh!

I have to admit I probably wouldn't have helped you load up your car but I'm tiny and mostly useless in that department BUT if my husband had seen you, he definitely would have ran over and loaded it up for you.

ETA: I'm horrified that those men just walked by and made fun of you. That is awful!