would you help out a lady?

CoryIda

I would offer to help.

Elizabeth_C34

hit up the homedepot yesterday.. bought 33 blocks, 4 bags of dirt.
so weight of my cart was over 300 pounds.
i loaded it.. and dragged it back to my car...
now my question is.. would you have asked to help load my car if you saw me (or anyone else)?
i had several men and women .. just wander by. and two smart *kitten* men comment on the fact that i was loading all that into my SUV and not a truck.
not that i can't do it.. i can.. (carried 80 pound bags of dirt to my car today)
but i would help out someone (and have) .. why is it that i can't get me any help!!

I would have helped you. Gladly so.

Last time I had to haul 400 lbs of dirt, one of the home depot guys helped me load it.

LaurasClimb

I guess my answer would be...it depends...

I know that when I'm loading something into my vehicle, I usually have a plan to make it fit. When I accept help, generally they mess up my plan (yeah, I know, control freak!). So, if you looked like you knew what you were doing and didn't seem to be struggling I would probably walk by.

But, if you were struggling, I would probably stop to help.

I try to teach my kids to help others. Yesterday my son and I were in the store. There was an older man in one of those store scooters. As he was moving away from the crackers, the scooter knocked a bag of crackers to the floor. He backed up the scooter and was attempting to pick up the bag and probably would have gotten it but was struggling. I just looked at my son, nodded toward the man and said "go help." My nearly 14 year old son had no problems helping and probably would have done so on his own if I hadn't said anything. The man looked very relieved, probably something he wasn't expecting.

StevLL

I think Chivalry is dormant not dead. Someone should have. Even my wife who has MS will help out when she can. Home Depot should have helped and I'm suprised it wasn't offered. I prefer Lowes as they always ask. Most of the time there is someone already holding your cart waiting to take it to your car at Lowes. I never accept it, but it's good to know they will help out my wife.

LaurasClimb

I am surprised no one at HOME DEPOT asked to help you!!! Now that's just plain bad customer service!

Yeah, last time I was at the Home Depot, we couldn't get out the door without about 8 employees asking to help!

dlw13

Yes, I would have helped. I do things like that all the time.

deeharley

I wouldn't have offered to help. You're in better shape than me, and since I tend to not go to Home Depot and buy more than I can handle, I kind of assume the same of others. If you looked around like you were desparate for help, I might have told my teenager to offer, though. :laugh:

jesusHchris

I always offer to help in that sort of situation. Some people get freaked out, though, like I'm going to rob them.

A crazy old lady in a wheelchair tied with a million bags was crooning at people to push her the other day. I offered and ended up cruising her around downtown Mission District for like half an hour. I eventually gave her to some other dude as he was taking the train she wanted to get on. That dude did NOT volunteer and seemed a bit off-put when I handed her over, but promised to get her where she was going.

She even tried to pay me. I don't take money from crazy old ladies, though. That other dude better not have.

kdeaux1959

Depends really on what my schedule was honestly, but most likely I would. If I was not in a major crunch for time, I definitely would. None-the-less, I most certainly would not be one of the ones criticizing what you were driving.

carolemack

The answer is yes, it happened to me twice this week

1. Today a woman in front of me was carrying something quite heavy so I offered to help her to the car with it and she was happy

2. I held the door open for a woman and her little girl, the cute part was when the little girl asked me " Why would you open the door for us "

Of course you do - you're Canadian!! I'm Australian and I was told if you can't tell if someone's Canadian or American then "accidentally" stand on their feet. The Canadian will apologise to *you*. I've been to Canada a couple of times and went out with a Canadian for a while and you guys are all polite - keep it up!! :flowerforyou:

This made me laugh out loud...it is so true...and yes, I am Canadian! :laugh:

hapoo100

Manners are free, its amazing how rare they are at times. Hold the door, hold the elevator, hold a chair, lift a package, all minimal effort. Every time I see a Mom putting bags in her car, I offer to take her empty cart back to the cart corral so she can put her child in the car seat. The little time it takes me are made up for by the smile and thank you which make my day.

Maurice1966

Absolutely. Man, woman or child. It's not about chivalry and all about helping someone out for no reason at all other that it feels good intrinsically and that they could be your next boss

xTenaciousJx

i would have asked if you needed help and tried to help, if my husband was with me he would have 100%. It's a sticky situation sometimes these days. For those men to laugh at you or make rude comments that's just crazy to me! As far as Home Depot, I'm thankful at mine there are employees ready and willing to help. I really can't believe if you've been doing this over a year that NO ONE has asked.

*sigh*

yustick

I would only offer to help if the person seemed to be struggling. In most cases I would think the person has a plan or would have asked store personnel to help. I consider myself to be polite though. I hold doors open, smile or pick something up if someone drops something.

We do a lot of yard work. In the spring I go for loads of soil, mulch etc. No one has ever offered to help me. I figured people think i need the exercise. But, I would have thought that guys would jump to help an attractive young lady like the OP.

sjebert

I would have helped, my mama would beat me if she found out that I didnt help

lissymae11

I would help (even as a female) but probably only if it looked like you were struggling or needed help. I'm always cautious not to offend...

orangecrayon

I don't know. I mean society is very self-centered nowadays, but if I had that much stuff (and there have been times that I have) I've usually gotten the offer for help. So I don't know.

mybeach27

Of course you do - you're Canadian!! I'm Australian and I was told if you can't tell if someone's Canadian or American then "accidentally" stand on their feet. The Canadian will apologise to *you*. I've been to Canada a couple of times and went out with a Canadian for a while and you guys are all polite - keep it up!! :flowerforyou:
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Ouch! Well I'm from America and I pride myself on my good southern manners...soo...nothing against Canadians though, just saying that not all Americans are as rude as we are portrayed!

Ttopeka

I don't consider myself to be rude in the slightest, but I probably wouldn't have offered to help unless I saw that you were visibly struggling. I'm not particularly strong myself, so if you seemed to have a handle on things, I wouldn't want to mess that up.

Plus, I probably would have assumed that if you were doing it by yourself, it's because you had turned down help from the employees. I can't believe they didn't offer to help with that!

carrotstick2012

I'm usually one of the first to offer help to people but, in this situation, I wouldn't. My back is just not up to that kind of lifting and I don't want to injure myself (and have to pay for the treatment I'd need). I wouldn't feel bad about this because a person who needed help has the option of approaching a member of staff and asking for help to load up.

Hootsmamma

I would definitely help. I help others (men...women...whomever). I routinely carry 50 lbs--dog food/bird seed etc. by myself ( although an 80lb sack of horse pellets pushes me over my limit) - even if I am not walking all that well (I have MS). Yup, I have noticed too, that folks rarely ever offer to help--even if I am struggling. My parents raised me right, and I Always try and help whomever needs asistance. I don't discriminate about where /when/or who I offer assistance.

REET420

I would help. I have abnormal strength for a female. I don't see why women should get offended if a man offers help. I think if they offer to help it's being polite I would either accept or politely decline. I went to home depot for patio stones and they offered to help and I said no because I felt I needed the exercise of loading them all into my piece of crap soccer mom van. I don't understand why they would be so mean to you. People are just *kitten* holes sometimes. **** em you'll never see them again they are just misreable people who need to feel better about their own insecurities by looking down on others.

Fieldsy

Of course, unless someone at the store was already there. It wouldnt be just for a woman, it could be for anyone.

i_love_vinegar

You could have just asked one of the people at the store to help. I probably wouldn't offer to help unless you looked like you were in pain or something...and only in broad daylight with lots of people around. o-o Even then I might just ask if you would like me to call one of the employees over to help. Liability + the fact I'm the size of a child so chances are weaker than most the population...

lovediets

How rude! I can't believe not one person offered to help!

SueGremlin

I think I look at this differently than most from reading this thread. Maybe it's because I am a NYer or something. But I bristle when I hear that it's wrong for a man not to help out a woman. That implies to me that everyone thinks women are not capable and will get the vapors if they have to work too hard.

I realize that is probably not the case, and it puts me at risk for being called a feminazi.

stephzub

I would help out anyone who looked like they could use a hand; especially the elderly. I frequent Home Depot in our town and load up on wood pellets, top soil, mulch, landscape blocks, etc. and no one ever offers to help me either. I don’t get offended by it and instead believe that “they” must think I look very capable. :-)

NotGoddess

There's a difference between offering help to make the work easier for all, and implying that someone can't do something without help. Sometimes the person receiving the offer can't tell the difference (or assumes the worst) and gets offended. Some people (me) are wary of getting that reaction. Those doing the cat calls were just rude.

If you were struggling, I would have offered-like you said it's a good chance to get an arm workout for the day.
If you looked like you had it under control, had that 'get it done' look on your face, I would have thought 'good for her!', wondered what you were going to build, and gone on by.

Thanks, you've made me think. Next time I see someone in that situation I'll offer help. More to help my character grow than anything else. If they refuse, fine. If not, it's a chance for me to pay forward all the kindness I've received in my life.

SueGremlin

There's a difference between offering help to make the work easier for all, and implying that someone can't do something without help. Sometimes the person receiving the offer can't tell the difference (or assumes the worst) and gets offended. Some people (me) are wary of getting that reaction. Those doing the cat calls were just rude.

If you were struggling, I would have offered-like you said it's a good chance to get an arm workout for the day.
If you looked like you had it under control, had that 'get it done' look on your face, I would have thought 'good for her!', wondered what you were going to build, and gone on by.

Thanks, you've made me think. Next time I see someone in that situation I'll offer help. More to help my character grow than anything else. If they refuse, fine. If not, it's a chance for me to pay forward all the kindness I've received in my life.

Of course, you are absolutely right. I should unclench a bit. :flowerforyou:

Losing2Live69

Did you ask for help or just continue loading it yourself as people walked by? People probably assumed that if someone from the store wasn't already helping you that you were fine just loading it on your own. Sometimes we have to make our needs known to this busy world. We have gotten used to impersonal contact with others with things like texting and Facebook. I really think society has become distant towards each other due to this. If you wanted help you should have just asked for it. Sometimes the obvious isn't so obvious to those around us. Don't take it personally that nobody stopped to ask if you needed help.