how without upsetting her do i...

rml_16

I want my boyfriend to love reading as much as I do. How do I make him like reading?

Invite your girlfriend to the gym with you and cook for her, but ultimately she's an adult and she knows she's gained weight and she may or may not enjoy working out, but that's her business.

ninerbuff

Show a before picture and comment on how she still looks the same. She'll say "that's BS, I'm overweight". Then you chime in a say, "If you feel that way, we would make it a goal together to lose some weight."

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this is actually a great idea. i guess if you're going to do it, you have to get her to say it instead of you.

Yep. If you mention it then it could resort to an argument. Letting the other person bring it up gives them the feeling you want to help instead of telling them what they should do.

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ninerbuff

You don't say anything..

Lol, as a man if we do that then the next thing we hear is "You never talk to me about anything"...........we'll never win.:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

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MaryBowen27

I think all the "honesty is the best policy" and "women need a tougher skin" comments are really not applicable in this case. This is clearly a case of vanity/personal preference, not a life or death situation. If he tells his girlfriend, who is likely in average if not good shape, he's not happy with her gaining a few extra pounds I can only imagine the next few threads:

-My girlfriend refuses to eat in front of me, what do I do?
-Why won't my girlfriend have sex with me after I made her feel like a heifer?
-How do you get your girlfriend back after hurling her into the arms of someone who's not an insensitive *kitten*?

I think his concern is valid, but the whole "get tough, it shouldn't bother you if your boyfriend essentially tells you he's not as attracted to you!" is insensitive. I'm not an overly sensitive person, but I will say my boyfriend of 2 years started dating me at my heaviest and supports me getting thin, but he says, and truly means, "I love you no matter what" and that is invaluable.

Lala20112

I think you should just ask her,Tell her you would love to have a workout partener and getting fit and healthy would benifit you both,just something else you can do together..

madamepsychosis

I think all the "honesty is the best policy" and "women need a tougher skin" comments are really not applicable in this case. This is clearly a case of vanity/personal preference, not a life or death situation. If he tells his girlfriend, who is likely in average if not good shape, he's not happy with her gaining a few extra pounds I can only imagine the next few threads:

-My girlfriend refuses to eat in front of me, what do I do?
-Why won't my girlfriend have sex with me after I made her feel like a heifer?
-How do you get your girlfriend back after hurling her into the arms of someone who's not an insensitive *kitten*?

I think his concern is valid, but the whole "get tough, it shouldn't bother you if your boyfriend essentially tells you he's not as attracted to you!" is insensitive. I'm not an overly sensitive person, but I will say my boyfriend of 2 years started dating me at my heaviest and supports me getting thin, but he says, and truly means, "I love you no matter what" and that is invaluable.

Yes, this. I really don't get the impression from the original post that the OP's girlfriend is drastically overweight and that her health is at risk, so it seems to be coming from more of a vain/surface level-type place than genuine concern for her welfare. If he said that his wife or girlfriend is on the verge of losing a foot to diabetes or what have you, I would totally advocate a more no-nonsense approach.

DavetheHYNIC

How with out a heated argument; one that you can not win do I tell my girl she ain't as fit as she use to me and has put on a little weight and want her to come to the gym with me so she becomes more healthier also she eats junk how to make her eat better its a tough conversation to have of course ill love her no matter just want her to love fittness as much as me plus if she's healthier she will have a better life so if u was me how would u go bout it?and have you ever had the convention with your partner to get fitter aha

When you go to the strip club together always point out and show her the chicks with tight fit bodiess .

r1ghtpath

YES to all of this!!

I think all the "honesty is the best policy" and "women need a tougher skin" comments are really not applicable in this case. This is clearly a case of vanity/personal preference, not a life or death situation. If he tells his girlfriend, who is likely in average if not good shape, he's not happy with her gaining a few extra pounds I can only imagine the next few threads:

-My girlfriend refuses to eat in front of me, what do I do?
-Why won't my girlfriend have sex with me after I made her feel like a heifer?
-How do you get your girlfriend back after hurling her into the arms of someone who's not an insensitive *kitten*?

I think his concern is valid, but the whole "get tough, it shouldn't bother you if your boyfriend essentially tells you he's not as attracted to you!" is insensitive. I'm not an overly sensitive person, but I will say my boyfriend of 2 years started dating me at my heaviest and supports me getting thin, but he says, and truly means, "I love you no matter what" and that is invaluable.