I am giving up

TheAncientMariner

1. OPEN UP YOUR DAMN FOOD DIARY
2. GET RID OF THAT DAMN SCALE
3. TAKE YOUR MEASUREMENTS ONCE PER WEEK
4. DON'T GIVE UP

I haven't lost a pound since last November. It is frustrating and disheartening, but I'll never give up because I see the MEASUREMENTS changing. Stop comparing yourself to your friends. It's your journey, not theirs. It's your genetics, not theirs. It's your successes and failures, not theirs. If you give up now, the dream will be not be improbable, but impossible. Even hanging on by a thread is better than giving up. You can do this, but you have to talk. You have to communicate. Most importantly, you have to LISTEN. Too many ask for help and then want to change things too soon. This is a lifelong journey, not some fly by night tryst with dropping a few pounds. Giving up on yourself is a slow death; an atrophy of your very self. Believe in those who believe in you. In your profile, you mentioned that nothing is possible without Christ. I'm not going to get all religious, but if you quit now you're basically letting the enemy win. He needs this energy from you and he wants to see you frustrated and failing. Do not be tempted by quitting because that's the easy way out. Yeah, Jesus could have been tempted on the mountain but he was like "**** you Satan... you don't tell me what to do." So, the question I ask you is Who's report shall you believe?

malins2

What worked for me was to change my diet. I can not eat like I used to and only take smaller portions. I would be hungry and wanting to eat all the time if I did that.... my diet consisted of too many foods with bad carbs that caused my bloodsugar level get very high, a lot of insulin then gets released and lowers the blood sugar level which in turncaused me to be hungry again soon after... I started eating a lot of protein (helps keep you full longer and when digesting it you burn calories), vegetables and good carbs. This kept my blood sugar level under control and that was the cure for me to not feel hungry all the time. The first weeks I was craving for all the bad carbs I used to eat, but now I don't even see it as a sacrifice not to eat them
I can't see your diary so I don't know how much or what your eating, maybe your doing it right and there is another reason for your struggle, but I hope this can be of help for you!
Good luck and come back when you feel motivated again!!!!

raylenebrooks

I know it may not be popular but what works for one may not work But I will keep trying to figure out what works for me because I do not want to be obese forever. I know my friends in here have kept me going and only hope the best for you but not changing and not trying I will gain never lose. your ticker shows 5 lb lost so that is better than 5 lb gain

davcro

DON'T GIVE UP!!!! It's the only sure way to fail.

howeclectic

There is no magic solution to losing weight. It is 100% mental. You have to be brutally honest with yourself. I weight and measure everything i eat. I resist the urge to over estimate the intensity of my workouts. I bike 20-22mph. I log it as 12-14mph (MFP has wildly inaccurate calorie burn estimates). I deal with weeks on end of seeming non progress at times. I deal with not being able to eat what my friends are eating. I have to recover from days where I fail to hit my goals, pick myself back up, and make sure the next day I get back on track. I have to deal with feeling down on some days but ecstatic on others of my progress. I've lost over 80 pounds... and its taken me a year and a half so far. Adjust your expectations... I didn't get overweight in a month... i wont lose it all in a month either. Is it worth it? I can bike more than 100 miles in a day, i can run fast and eat stairs for breakfast. Hell yes it is.

TasTam

Try not to give up. Like Nerdybookgirl said, plan days when you can have those treats you like. When you tell yourself that you are not ever going to have something that you enjoy ever again, it does make you want it more!!!. Just plan ahead for what I call a "spike" day and it will give you something to look forward to.

Another thing that I had to get over is that there are going to be days that your not going to do so well and slip up. On those days just chalk it up as just "one day" and don't give up the whole shebang just because of "one day". Jump right back on that horse and you will feel a whole lot better about not giving up altogether.

marycmeadows

Giving up will get you nowhere.

If it's easy, it's not worth doing.

I am glad I didn't give up when I got frustrated. I still get frustrated. but I've lost 111.2lbs. That's where sticking with it gets you.

EbonySD

sometimes you just need a break so give yourself a break and come back to it in a few days.

roro73

I know many people say moderation is the key and I'm sure that works for some, but me personally I have to eliminate the bad foods at least for while otherwise I'll binge on them. You need to figure out what works for you.

My friend does really well on WW...I watch her eat a small bag of chips with her sandwich & she's satisfied...I'd go back for a second bag of chips or feel totally deprived, but it works because it's in her points and she doesn't binge. I on the other hand have tried lying to myself over and over thinking I can have just a little, but it turns into a lot and then I feel like a failure so I get off the wagon for a week or two...I've lost the same 4lbs a few times since January. I think I've finally found what works for me. I just started going lower carb (not extremely low carb but trying to only get carbs from veggies & fruit) and it is really helping me. I know it's not for everyone, but I find that I eat more "real" food when I watch my carbs instead of my calories. Although, I really think even the low carb thing works because eventually you are eating at a defecit because you're just not hungry. Anyhow, my point is not to get you hooked on a low carb diet, just try different things to see what works best for your body, mind and spirit. As long as you eat at least at your BMR, you get some exercise and you feel good there are many nutritional approaches that would work even if they are considered fads. Check out Eat to Live, Diet Free for Life, Atkins/Keto, and Paleo/Primal. I have studied them and came up with my own modified carb approach that I feel very comfortable with. You can and will definitely do this when you're ready. Good luck to you!

wozzy38

Hi, I did take a look at your recent posts and it looks like you go out to eat a few times a week..Maybe limiting that to once a week or cutting it out altogether would help...I also saw that you've written about your clothes feeling better and losing inches so you have seen some results..don't give up!!

stephc0711

Has your doctor done any blood tests? I know people cringe when it comes to lab work, but it can tell you A LOT! It could be the thyroid, for example. I've had mine monitored for a couple years because it fluctuates so much, but always with in normal range. FINALLY, one day, I had it checked and it was out of range. I'm on meds now for it, and (if I'd remember to take them everyday it'd work better, but) I'm losing weight a little easier. I'm also very imaptient, so it doesn't come off nearly fast enough for my liking... It does take time. It's taken me 2 years to drop 25 lbs, 14 of which have been since November.

chatipati1

If you want it bad enough, you will do the work to get it...There is no quick fix, unfortunately. No one is perfect...but you can take one day at a time...

jmsouth5

You obviously have hit a lot of nerves here. WE CARE!! Work with us and you will help yourself. Open the food diary, let us in to your world and all this support is here for you, just like it's been here for all of us!! DON'T GIVE UP, DON'T LEAVE HERE! Then you'll really be alone!

Juli

Chipmaniac

Giving up is the only unforgivable sin.

queenpushycat

nawwwww.... Don't! I spend 4 years to get to where I am, and I've been... "naughty" for the past few weeks and now I'm working harder again Join meh~

Savyna

Don't give up. weight takes a while to be put on (when I was 17 I was 194-198 and my doctor told me I was nearly morbidly obese so I got down to 177 in a year or so, but then once I began college over a 3 year period I gained that back and got up to around 204 pounds.) Weight loss is a journey that has no quick fixes unless you like cut your tummy or put the lapband, but even then someone has to do a lot to ensure they are eating enough nutritionally. It takes time for things to get into motions, don't compare yourself to others just continue to try, you won't be disappointed.

Good luck.

seonf

Hi there, I was once in your shoes. I weighed 135 kg and I would get to a stage where I no longer lost any weight and felt like giving up but something inside me pushed me and told me to keep going. I am glad I listened to that inner voice because I now weigh 83 kg, love life and love myself. I no longer hate myself and am no longer digusted with myself. I love the man I have become and you can do it to. I had club feet and was limited in what I can do, so if I can loose weight anyone can. It's just a amtter of getting out there. And the doctor is wrong, I stopped eating pizza, chocolate drinking pepsi and doing all the things that were making me fat. I had meat and veggies for dinner but if I could do it all again i'd go on weight watchers. So yeah, you can do it. Don't give up, I am sure I saved years from my life.

JanetLM73

Don't give up! I wish I had advice for you. I can tell you that I'm down 30 pounds and I have never been happier. I have worked my *kitten* off, it's not easy, but it's so worth it when you look in the mirror and you're happy with how you look.

BigRedgw2010

It's so easy to give up then to keep on trying! This is not easy! If it was, then everyone would be sexy. A quitter never wins and a winner never quits. Which one are you???????

anacsitham5

There are a few things to remember. You didn't get to where you are by eatting too many salads. You didn't gain it all in a month. You aren't going to lose weight if you keep eating the way you were. You aren't going to lose it all in a month. If you want to lose weight, you have to put in the commitment. I was where you are. I made the choice that I didn't want to live in baggy clothes and hoodies all summer again. I lost 52 pounds in 8 months and went from a size 16 to a 4. I am thrilled!

Remember, if you are working out, you are gaining muscle weight, but you are losing fat. You should take your measurements and record your body fat percentage. Then have someone kidnap your scales for one month. Plan your meals in advance, eat right, don't eat after 7 pm and watch your fat, carbs, calories & sugar. Work out or at least walk for 30 min each day. Your will see a change! If you give up now you will continue to be miserable and you will have to start over again.

When I was a size 1, I weighed 145 pounds. (This was years ago)
When I was a size 8, I weighed 125 pounds.
The difference was that my body fat was at 13% when I was a size 1. It was 28% when I was a size 8.

blueye17

dont give up! I remind myself that I did not get where I am at over night, and leaving the place that I am now will not happen over night. Dr. Oz talked about a product called Raspberry Ketones on his show. It is not a new fad. It has been around since 1965 and I have started it and I know there is a difference. you are worth continuing this restructing in your life. you can do it! We can not give up, it is worth having so take small goals. Set your goal for 1 lb a week, then up it. It will work!! And DRINK WATER!!! I get so tired of it sometimes, but it is the bath for your insides. The water flushes out the fat. Keep drinking!!!

treehopper1987

I know motivation is hard sometimes. Maybe you could find a close friend to "compete" with that will keep you motivated. My husband and I are both on here and we try to see who has eaten the healthiest over the day, or who has exercised more,etc. It has really helped me to have somebody really close to me for motivation, and the competition is fun. One thing I've had to deal with though is that he loses weight a lot quicker than me. I've had to realize it's not the weight, it's how you feel. I have to do what's necessary to make me feel better. Continuing to work out even though I've hit that stubborn plateau, again makes me feel better. Weight loss is not easy, it's something that you have to work at every day. Only you can get in the way of your weight loss. I hope you decide to keep at it!

Danielle_2013

I CANNOT DO THIS I AM GIVING UP. I JUST CANT SEEM TO STOP EATING THE THINGS I AM EATING I WAS TOLD BY MY DOCTOR NOT TO CUT ANYTHING OUT BUT TO EAT SMALLER PORTIONS AND MY WEIGHT IS STILL NOT DROPPING. I DO WORKOUT 5 DAYS A WEEK BUT OVER THE LAST WEEK I AM REALLY NOT MOTIVATED. I WANT TO TRY EVERY FAD OUT THERE AND THATS NOT GOOD. I HEAR ABOUT 1 THING AND I WANT THE NEXT I WANT TO SEE MY WEIGHT JUST DROP AND ITS NOT HAPPENING. I THOUGHT I WAS DOING REALLY GOOD BUT I AM FAILING. MY FRIENDS ON HERE ARE LOSING WEIGHT AND IM STUCK SOOOOO I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO JUST NOT FEELING IT RIGHT NOW

Well your mind is made up and I guess I understand as weight loss is not for every one and its really hard to make it successful when you cant stop eating. Farewell on your journey but you should keep exercising!

Edit: At least you tried and then gave up after your failure rather than not trying at all.

Wow. Dude with awesome body turns out not to be so good at being sympathetic. I thought this was the motivation and support section? At least you're hot.

For the original poster (sorry I forgot your name) - Don't throw in the towel just yet! You are worth taking care of. I totally get not being in the right headspace. But.. if you can.. just keep going anyway. Even when you don't feel like it, even when it feels like you'll never get anywhere... just keep doing the right things and something will work!
Definitely speak with your doc, do some research and maybe try and figure out a way to look at it positively - even if it is only that you ate a piece of fruit instead of a chocolate bar - that IS progress.

Try not to get so down on yourself. You can do this if and when you want to and you are ready to accept that it isn't going to be a perfect journey or look like anyone else's.

nomayo

1. OPEN UP YOUR DAMN FOOD DIARY
2. GET RID OF THAT DAMN SCALE
3. TAKE YOUR MEASUREMENTS ONCE PER WEEK
4. DON'T GIVE UP

I haven't lost a pound since last November. It is frustrating and disheartening, but I'll never give up because I see the MEASUREMENTS changing. Stop comparing yourself to your friends. It's your journey, not theirs. It's your genetics, not theirs. It's your successes and failures, not theirs. If you give up now, the dream will be not be improbable, but impossible. Even hanging on by a thread is better than giving up. You can do this, but you have to talk. You have to communicate. Most importantly, you have to LISTEN. Too many ask for help and then want to change things too soon. This is a lifelong journey, not some fly by night tryst with dropping a few pounds. Giving up on yourself is a slow death; an atrophy of your very self. Believe in those who believe in you. In your profile, you mentioned that nothing is possible without Christ. I'm not going to get all religious, but if you quit now you're basically letting the enemy win. He needs this energy from you and he wants to see you frustrated and failing. Do not be tempted by quitting because that's the easy way out. Yeah, Jesus could have been tempted on the mountain but he was like "**** you Satan... you don't tell me what to do." So, the question I ask you is Who's report shall you believe?

This is a beautiful response. I hope you don't give up. Is not easy, but we all are trying to get healthier. Don't give up. I hope you go over this soon, Hugs.

ukloveme

Look in the miirror and say i will do this, no one is more important than me I will figure this out. People are here to help you

AMHouse85

I've been eating so much better, and getting in exercise. My numbers haven't been going down as much as I would like, but my clothes are looser. I've lost 2" on my hips and thighs. So don't always go by the numbers, they can really be a downer.

You won't regret trying again tomorrow, but you will regret it if you just give up.

Please don't give up. Take the day off, don't panic. Find something motivational ( I use the Fitness boards on Pinterest). Look through a page of photos and stoke that inner fire!!!

One day at a time, One pound at a time, One meal at a time.

jenniejengin

Do not give up. Don't look at what you doing, just to lose weight, look at it as a way of life. Look at it for the health benefit of it and maybe that will keep you motivated. I am not losing anything either, but I can tell you this, working out has mad me feel better mentally and physically & guess what? Nobody can not tell me that I do not look good....lol.

howeclectic

Don't give up. weight takes a while to be put on (when I was 17 I was 194-198 and my doctor told me I was nearly morbidly obese so I got down to 177 in a year or so, but then once I began college over a 3 year period I gained that back and got up to around 204 pounds.) Weight loss is a journey that has no quick fixes unless you like cut your tummy or put the lapband, but even then someone has to do a lot to ensure they are eating enough nutritionally. It takes time for things to get into motions, don't compare yourself to others just continue to try, you won't be disappointed.

Good luck.

Surgery and lap band is no easy journey either. You have to deal with a painful surgical recovery and scars. They also put you on a special diet for lap band. (that you must stay on to keep the results after the loss, many gain the weight back). There is no easy solution. The only way to make the journey easy is to mentally prepare yourself and accept that this is a permanent life change. It isn't a diet... its a totally new way of living. You can never go back to your previous habits again. MFP isn't a means to a goal weight. MFP is a means to a new way of living.

77tes

Don't give up. Tell the voices in your head to shut up!:noway:
Sounds like your doctor is giving you good advice. Go buy a scale to make sure your portions are right, add in a FUN workout (I love Zumba), and find somethings you love to eat that are healthy.

Good luck! If I can do this, so can you!:drinker:

hanniejong

You know I don't lose weight easy and I have been at it for a long time and right now the scales are once again not moving, but I also exercise 5-6 days a week and love it. The one thing I have noticed is that the inches/cm's are moving, my clothes are looser and that is awesome. So just because the scales are not moving maybe the inches are and that in itself is awesome. If you need a friend feel free to add me, I love encouraging my friends here.