Dating or Deceit ??

EBFNP

I think its pretty natural for people to be on their best behavior at the beginning of dating. However, once the honeymoon is over usually the comfort level changes and you will see the flaws come through!

crisanderson27

I used to be that really humble, nice guy, that wasn't a creep and just wanted to meet up for dinner and have a nice convo.

Girls put me in the friend zone. I wasn't "challenging" them. I guess I was "showing my cards too soon".

So now I have to give off this cocky, almost sociopathic bravado to create some sort of intrigue. It works, surprisingly too well; but it is hard because I still want to be a really nice guy. Usually once I tell a girl that I like them and want to keep seeing them, they start to walk all over me or get turned off, so I try to wait until I at least get a make out

Human nature sucks though. I really wish we could all just be friendly, or crazy, from the get go.

Like somebody else said - dating blows haha.

Isn't it funny...and sad, how this works? For me it was in high school. I was short, played football, wore glasses...was more intelligent by half than all of my classmates...the list goes on. I was pretty popular I guess...but I couldn't get a date to save my life. I was every hot girls 'guy friend' that they'd ***** about their asshat boyfriend to. And I was there for every one of them. Finally though I had had enough, and basically told them all to ***** to their girlfriends if they were too stupid to realize that Mr. Star Pitcher was pitching to three other girls too. I then straight ignored them.

Within two weeks one of them asked if I wanted to go do something. Within a month after that...I got in two fights because of guys pissed at being compared to me by their girlfriends. Now...I wasn't just a nice guy...but I knew how to treat them like dirt too!!

Same dorky, long curly hair...same dorky glasses...same too smart for my own good...same dorky skinny build.

Later I got tired of the act and just went back to being a nice guy...and I've been mostly single for it since too.

BondBomb

I have to be honest. Men don't like the 'real me'. At least not the men I date. They actually want to date the high-maintenance, hair always nice, nails manicured, always going out girl. But when they find out 99% of the time I am a beer drinking, video-game addicted home-body I get called 'boring'.
I decided to make a match.com profile with the truth about who I am. I still only get responses from guys that are not into what I am offering. So many emails start out...'well I dont like video games...well I don't like rollercoasters...but...'
pft whatever.
And I honestly used to tell guys I was a flight attendant or bartender (no offense to either). When I say biochemist their eyes just glaze over.

fieldsy4life

I used to be that really humble, nice guy, that wasn't a creep and just wanted to meet up for dinner and have a nice convo.

Girls put me in the friend zone. I wasn't "challenging" them. I guess I was "showing my cards too soon".

So now I have to give off this cocky, almost sociopathic bravado to create some sort of intrigue. It works, surprisingly too well; but it is hard because I still want to be a really nice guy. Usually once I tell a girl that I like them and want to keep seeing them, they start to walk all over me or get turned off, so I try to wait until I at least get a make out

Human nature sucks though. I really wish we could all just be friendly, or crazy, from the get go.

Like somebody else said - dating blows haha.

Isn't it funny...and sad, how this works? For me it was in high school. I was short, played football, wore glasses...was more intelligent by half than all of my classmates...the list goes on. I was pretty popular I guess...but I couldn't get a date to save my life. I was every hot girls 'guy friend' that they'd ***** about their asshat boyfriend to. And I was there for every one of them. Finally though I had had enough, and basically told them all to ***** to their girlfriends if they were too stupid to realize that Mr. Star Pitcher was pitching to three other girls too. I then straight ignored them.

Within two weeks one of them asked if I wanted to go do something. Within a month after that...I got in two fights because of guys pissed at being compared to me by their girlfriends. Now...I wasn't just a nice guy...but I knew how to treat them like dirt too!!

Same dorky, long curly hair...same dorky glasses...same too smart for my own good...same dorky skinny build.

Later I got tired of the act and just went back to being a nice guy...and I've been mostly single for it since too.

Yeah it sucks, I hear you man. I learned a lot from my buddy who read "The Game" and became quite an impressive pick up artist. I didn't want to believe it was true - but alas, you really have to ignore them, act cocky, pretend you're interested in where they went to college, and pretty much act the way a *kitten* would naturally. But when you're a good guy with a lot to offer, acting like a d-bag is tough!

ChasingSweatandTears

All you nice guys, please keep being nice!!! I looooved the nice ones and I married one! nice guys are so where it's at and the right woman will appreciate you for it I swear and you will adore her. The only thing I can say is most women really do like nice guys we just also want to be pursued a little. You gotta balance showing interest with being clingy and sme guys don't understand the difference. I don't understand women who are attracted to jerks. Jerks always leave you. The only reason I was ever with any was because they freakin had me fooled into thinking they were nice Gus before the bomb dropped lol

SlimSammy2012

I think the hard fact to accept for most people is that we ALL want to be ina relationship that is Honest, Trusting and Loving. I believe the way the world is today, it just isn't possible. People (Rightfully so), are hesitant to be themselves right off the get go. We put on our good face in the begining. We get comfortable with the person we are with. Then our inate and or our quirks, habits or bad traits come to the surface. Then it gets ugly because the person we thought you were isn't true. I "want" to believe it isn't intentional. I pray it isn't intentional.

I hate being alone! :frown: