You face looks too thin......

447eliz

If you continue to lose more weight, you will look older!! Are you sure you eat enough? You have to be close to your stopping point? Dont you think you are already thin enough?? I think you should worry more about maintaining then losing more!! You will start to look sickly!! Oh, I know you won't eat this, because of you DIET!! Blah Blah. This is all within the last five days from family, friends, co-workers. I really get sick of hearing this consistently from certain people. First of all, I am not on a DIET, I am on a life style change and I choose to eat healthier and not gorge on food all the time. I am 39 years old, 5'2" tall and weight 138.5lbs. I would not consider myself TOO THIN. I have a goal of reaching the a healthy BMI for my size. Which I would consider 125lbs would reach that goal for me. I am going to the Dr on Monday to get my BMI tested at my current weight to get an idea at were I stand, since I tend to run on the more muscular side then most people, (have all my life). I have loss 39.5 lbs since January (From my heaviest it more like 46.5lbs). I am super Proud of myself . It has taken alot of hard work and determination to get to this point. Just wish certain people in my life were my supportive. :-(. I can say that my Husband is not one of the above and is extremely supportive. Must of this is coming from my Mom and Sisters.

Has anyone else experienced the same situations?

ImaKnitter67

One word for your commenters, honey. Jealousy.

You are doing a great thing for your health, and you just keep on keepin' on! :flowerforyou:

daffodilsoup

"Thanks for the concern, but my weight loss isn't really up for discussion."

netsirk12

"Thanks for the concern, but my weight loss isn't really up for discussion."

this!

drmryder

Mostly from my mom, but she thinks it's okay to gain 5 pounds every 5 or so years as we get older. Drives me nuts.

Jugie12

:smooched: DANG! Great job losing the weight!! Don't give up and just keep on with your bad self! That's really awesome and I kinda figured those comments mostly (if not all) came from other women. Don't listen, don't care, just do this to be happy and healthy!! You'll glow and they will start to ask why... then how... then if you think they could do the same!

horndave

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DeenaSteelerGirl

OMG... I think we are related !! I get this same damn thing.. Frustrating as hell !!! I know exactly how you feel.. Heard it numerous time.. mom.. sister.. I sooo understand this. Pisses me off... I was once " Too big.. heavy " Now they say I am " Too skinny " WTF ? Sorry to rant on your post.. but this gets me boiling. I am 134 lbs.. And me too.. at a healthy weight according to BMI charts.. so I say F Off ! Woo.. That is better.. got that off my chest.. lol.

mes1119

I sense a little green eyed monster.

take it as a compliment, they are jealous of your success...

To be honest, I'm a little jealous, no one seems to notice my weight loss :sad:

kjerstenkipp

Tell them "i hear you can't be too rich or too thin...I am now working on the rich, pardon me"

spinqueen72

One word for your commenters, honey. Jealousy.

You are doing a great thing for your health, and you just keep on keepin' on! :flowerforyou:

AGREED!!!!

dad106

My first personal trainer was like that.. I'd tell him I'd lost another pound or w/e, and he'd be like OMG are you even eating... and then he'd ask what I'm eating and I'd tell him and he'd yell at me for cancling out our training efforts by eating things that aren't totally healthy. So glad he's no longer at my gym and my current trainer enjoys cookies as much as I do!

I'm 5'9, 151 and wearing a size 4.. so just tell those people to f-off and worry about themselves.

beanerific518

i just tell 'em that I'm a work in progress cuz I wanna look good in a bikini someday!

JennieAL

It just opens up the door for you to tell them their *kitten* are too wide.

dogacreek

I hear it every day. I have stopped telling people how much more I intend to lose, because that just brings on those comments. Frustrating, to say the least. :grumble:

Nanadena

Yes. especially from my mom. Two of my sisters are dead from the complications of obesity, so they can no longer cririsize me. I love the me I am now.

Sabine321

Yep, heard that too from my family. "You are already thin enough, you gonna look sick if you loose more." That was with 175 lbs. I told them ok, and kept on loosing to get to my goal of 150.

Ely82010

This is an article that I saw on line from health.com, and since this topic has been discussed several times in the forums, I though worthy of posting.

http://www.health.com/health/gallery/0,,20589779,00.html

leahlynn1991

"Thanks for the concern, but my weight loss isn't really up for discussion."

AGREED ^^

aymetcalf

First, congrats on your success - and it seems your goals are realistic and attainable - not underweight or anything like that. Second, we're the same height and weight! :flowerforyou:

Britt2Fitjrny

"I am 39 years old, 5'2" tall and weight 138.5lbs. I would not consider myself TOO THIN."

YES, YES, and YES!!! I am also 5'2" and I currently weigh 129. When I was at 138 I was getting those same comments from my family. They looked at me like I was crazy when I said I wanted to lose more! I wanted to pull up my shirt and say "Uhh do you see this chub? Is this stomach flat? No!" Just keep on going! They will learn to keep their comments to their self and once you show them what your UG looks like they will be like "Oh you look so good! WOW" They just don't want you to turn into a stick! It's totally understandable for them to feel this way to because some people go overboard with weight loss and they just want to make sure you are being healthy. As long as your being healthy and still enjoying life that’s all that matters. They will understand that you’re not being crazy once you reach your goal.

Now if they ask "are you still trying to lose weight" i just say no i'm mainly just trying to tone up now. No bad comments ever come from that. (I'd still like to lose 4-9 pound. 120-125 range )

P.s. I don't think It's all jelousy. I think it's mainly the fact that they care about you and they want you to be healthy but of course there is a tad bit of jelousy. Who wouldn't be!?

kittyhorn

I agree: Jealousy. There's a person in my life that told me I was "obsessed" when I started. Now she tells people that I dress nice when I go out for the boys ( I couldn't care less about what the boys think). Jealousy is a funny thing.

Keep at it! You're doing great!

mamasyd

I started hearing those things when I was about 25-30 pounds out from my goal. At that point, I was wearing a size 12 and it wasn't about what size I was. I, also, wanted a BMI that was in the normal range.

Since I have lost so much weight, one of the things that I have to consider is the weight of the excess skin that I now carry. The doctor said that it might be 25 pounds or more, even up to 40! If I factor that in to the BMI (taking off 25 pounds to consider that as my "real" weight), I am still within the normal range.

The truth is that most of the folks saying those things were also extremely overweight. They had been very encouraging early on in my efforts, but began to feel a bit threatened by the success. Having now reached my goal and wearing size 6 (and feeling great) they are no longer making the unkind comments. I know that they genuinely care about me. Sometimes people just can't deal with their own issues very well.

Raenstoirm

To me you are "lucky." My mother is constantly on me about my weight. Even when I was bikini bodied, I heard from her about how large I was. "You would be so pretty if you dropped 20lbs." Thanks mom. No wonder I have issues with food! :explode:

Congrats on the loss. That is awesome!

xButterflyEffectx

What mama said ^ plus, no one has noticed my loss. They don't even comment when I point it out to them.

goldfinger88

Do you have a small frame, medium or large. A lot of how you look at a given weight depends on that. I'm 5' 1" and weigh 139.8 (might as well say 140) and it looks just slightly overweight but not a big deal because I have a large frame. My goal weight is 135. That's where, at my age and frame, I feel and look good.

But just going by the numbers you gave, you're not at all too thin. Only pay attention to what people say when it's of benefit to you. Don't let what they say affect how you feel about yourself or what your personal goals are. Now, if you were "really" too thin, that would be different. But you're not.

CynGoddess

I could have writen every bit of that. The "diet" part always ticks me off. has taken a long time for me to convince just a few people I am not on a diet, this is my way of life. Just let it go in one ear and out the other. do what you want to so you feel good about yourself.

SexyCook

Sadly we all hear that from someone....For the most part if I had listened to many that said I didn't need to lose anything I would not be the person inside and out that I am.....I hear the any more weight loss and you are going to blow away....Some mean well...and others Haters....Do what's comfortable for you and when you have that confidence you have a come back for them...I know I do.....Keep doing an awesome job until you are satisfied with yourself...

evansproudmama

I get the same thing.. my sister in law and my mother in law look at me like im nuts when I say I want to lose another 35-40lbs (I lost 50lbs already with the help of another site I was at 210lbs when I started) Im like I still weigh 175lbs theres no way that 35-40 is such a crazy goal.. they are both super skinny so I dont know if they want me to be the "fat" in law or if they just dont realize how much I currently weigh.. anywho Id say your family is jealous and you do whats gonna make you happy! I agree that a healthy BMI is whats important and BTW CONGRATS on your success!!!!

belle_74

Well done on your loss! You have done so well.

We have very similar stats! I am 5 ft 2 and at my heaviest was 187 lbs. I have lost 38 lbs since the beginning of the year with another 14lbs to go before I hit my first goal weight of 135lbs, which puts me in the top end of a healthy BMI for my height. My ultimate goal weight is 125 lbs too (but that is my goal for next year ! I have been 125 lbs before and I would not have described myself as skinny at that weight!

I'm starting to get the same from people too - especially my parents and my sister in law. If I heard once last weekend that I have lost 'tonnes' of weight and I am fading away (I am hardly fading away - I am overweight!) I heard it a hundred times! I kept saying, 'really - I haven't lost too much weight since I saw you last but I have lost inches so that must be it' ... it is like it is almost acceptable to lose inches but not lbs!

It is also beginning to annoy me when people ask me what 'weight' I am now or how much weight I have lost - really I don't think it is anyone else's business! I know lots of people who have lost weight recently and when I see them I say things like 'you look great', 'your looking well', or 'look at you ...' and if they want to tell me how much weight they have lost, what they are doing to lose weight etc. then that is up to them. I would never ask some straight out how much weight they have lost but then again that is just me

I think your goals are very realistic! Best of luck ...

janey1306

im 5ft 2 and aiming for the same weight. Its in the middle of the healthy bmi, ive been that weight before and was happy with it, ive weighed less, but i was much younger and was happy with it then, but think its to thin for me now. Im no where near there yet, so havent been told anything like that, I have been told that im aiming to lose to much though, i think though they dont realise just how much I weigh