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nray3119
nray3119 Posts: 100 Member
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What has changed in the dating world these past few years? I am about to jump back in and I don't want to be blindsided by anything.
It seems like eveyone is meeting online. Do people still meet at bars??
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  • mamnboston
    mamnboston Posts: 81
    I'm newly single too and yes, people still meet in bars but online seems to be a good way to meet as well. Good luck while on the hunt :-)
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    I have a bf now but I was single for about 7 months since my divorce.

    I was lucky in meeting great or nice guys who I just didn't like enough to date longer, except for my bf.

    I met guys online, bars, out with friends, concerts, etc. Just remember to start giving off the single girl vibe. If you've been in a marriage or relationship for years, it's a bit odd at first to transition but fake it till you make it!
  • Veronica_029
    Veronica_029 Posts: 88
    I'm so not into online dating...I want my guy "if he exist in this life" to meet me in person first..Falling for my online persona then rejecting me for my look in real life should not happen again to me..
  • LadyKatieBug
    LadyKatieBug Posts: 178 Member
    I am single and not on the dating scene. a lot are seeking them online. me I am not comfortable with online dating thing I did that in my first marriage that was not a good experince. my last relationship was with someone online he was very insecure and jealous over friends I've known for a long time and assumed because I was not online when he wanted I was running around on him when the reality was I was at the store, taking my daughter to 4 h meetings and going to a home making club. after that I am more cautious. but I have nice online friends.
  • elexichoccyeater
    elexichoccyeater Posts: 310 Member
    met my future blokey on line xx sorry xxx
  • MMarvelous
    MMarvelous Posts: 1,067 Member
    LOL *sigh* I have work to do...I will say there is good and there is bad. Hook-ups seems to be the trend or norm which is NOT my style at all.
  • Diary_Queen
    Diary_Queen Posts: 1,314 Member
    Online dating has been my best pal... you can find whatever you want there and you dont have to waste your time with your friends setting you up with who THEY think would be a good match. Also, I don't drink and won't be around alcohol, so going to bars was not an option for me. I'm a mom with small kids and finding time to randomly meet a guy just somewhere out in the world wasnt working. It seems I only go to the grocery store or hardware store or whatever store when all the senior citizens are out doing their bidding before the sunsets & they have to get to bed LOL (I kid, but still)... so, since I wasn't primed for an octogenarian, I did the online thing.
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    Not single now, but I was for a LONG time, and I met my husband in a tire store waiting room, so just remember to keep an open mind no matter where you are, and if someone strikes up a conversation, you just never know where it might take you.....
  • nray3119
    nray3119 Posts: 100 Member
    Online dating has been my best pal... you can find whatever you want there and you dont have to waste your time with your friends setting you up with who THEY think would be a good match. Also, I don't drink and won't be around alcohol, so going to bars was not an option for me. I'm a mom with small kids and finding time to randomly meet a guy just somewhere out in the world wasnt working. It seems I only go to the grocery store or hardware store or whatever store when all the senior citizens are out doing their bidding before the sunsets & they have to get to bed LOL (I kid, but still)... so, since I wasn't primed for an octogenarian, I did the online thing.
    I have small kids too. Sometimes I just want some to talk to. After 8pm I have nothing to do, but I can't leave the house lol.
  • kansasbelle
    kansasbelle Posts: 264 Member
    It's not easy. I dated a friend of a friend on facebook who contacted me. My friend actually married a friend of a friend on facebook too. I don't like the bar scene either. Plus I have moved to small town America.. There are NO MEN in South West Kansas. I look great for my age, but am still curvy so I wonder if I will catch more attention later into my weight loss journey. Would love to read any advice from a males perspective.


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  • kansasbelle
    kansasbelle Posts: 264 Member
    Also there are no men online in my part of the country....it's pitiful out west. :(
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
    Dating sucks! Make sure you buy a helmet and a mouth guard.

    Enjoy!
  • jbella99
    jbella99 Posts: 596 Member
    Dating sucks! Make sure you buy a helmet and a mouth guard.

    Enjoy!


    How true is this?? hahahaha
  • catherine4211
    catherine4211 Posts: 944 Member
    I don't really have much to say that is positive. Keep your chin up no matter what. Be patient and try your best to not get discouraged.
  • whitetiger011680
    whitetiger011680 Posts: 218 Member
    I prefer to meet people through friends or online. The last random guy I met in a bar told me he didn't work because he gets a crazy check. :noway:
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    I have little to nothing...wait, no...I have nothing to add that is positive lol.

    I'm a single Dad as well (with custody), few friends left (being a single Dad doesn't leave a lot of time to maintain friendships really)...and online is really my only option for meeting people.

    Again, not a lot positive to say to that lol.
    I'm so not into online dating...I want my guy "if he exist in this life" to meet me in person first..Falling for my online persona then rejecting me for my look in real life should not happen again to me..

    I wish I had that option.
  • hcoburn37
    hcoburn37 Posts: 442 Member
    I just started dating after 15 months of being single after my divorce. I am also a single mom to two teenage boys and meeting new people is really difficult. I am trying online dating .... I have had some good experiences and some not so good. Its still fun to get back out there.

    Good luck
  • nray3119
    nray3119 Posts: 100 Member
    I have little to nothing...wait, no...I have nothing to add that is positive lol.

    I'm a single Dad as well (with custody), few friends left (being a single Dad doesn't leave a lot of time to maintain friendships really)...and online is really my only option for meeting people.

    Again, not a lot positive to say to that lol.
    I'm so not into online dating...I want my guy "if he exist in this life" to meet me in person first..Falling for my online persona then rejecting me for my look in real life should not happen again to me..

    I wish I had that option.

    Its rare you find a guy that is a single dad. Congrats!!
  • Erindipitous
    Erindipitous Posts: 1,234 Member
    I don't like the idea of meeting people at bars.. You're better off meeting people at places where alcohol isn't affecting judgement.

    Just go out, have fun, get involved in activities.. Meet people through friends or common interests. :)


    [Edited for typo correction.]
  • whitetiger011680
    whitetiger011680 Posts: 218 Member
    I'm a single Dad as well (with custody),



    Admiration :flowerforyou:
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    I have little to nothing...wait, no...I have nothing to add that is positive lol.

    I'm a single Dad as well (with custody), few friends left (being a single Dad doesn't leave a lot of time to maintain friendships really)...and online is really my only option for meeting people.

    Again, not a lot positive to say to that lol.
    I'm so not into online dating...I want my guy "if he exist in this life" to meet me in person first..Falling for my online persona then rejecting me for my look in real life should not happen again to me..

    I wish I had that option.

    Its rare you find a guy that is a single dad. Congrats!!

    Aww, thanks!

    We're not as rare a breed as people believe, really. Maybe that's a myth perpetuated by the fact that whenever you see a guy in the grocery store, or anywhere else really...with kids, you assume he's married and his wife is at work or home.

    I once went through the same checkout line, with the same incredibly cute checkout girl...for three months straight to get to know her. Every time, she'd smile and talk to my daughter (who was at the time 3yrs old). We'd joke a little, she'd tell me Cheyann was 'sooooo cute!!!', and 'she's lucky to have such a great Dad!!'. Finally I thought the time was right, so I said...'Hey, I've been thinking...maybe we could go catch a movie or dinner some night? You seem really great and I'd like to get to know you better.'

    The look on her face was priceless. She sputtered about seven times, then popped off with 'I freakin' knew it! Look...I don't date married men, go find some bimbo who does!'

    I just stood there dumbfounded. I then looked her straight in the face, held up my left hand with no ring and no ring mark, and said 'I'm not married, I've had custody of my daughter since she was 11mos old. Have a nice day.'

    I didn't go through her line again, but two weeks later...she approached me in the produce section, apologized, and told me that she'd been talking with all of her friends that work there, and they'd all decided that I was 'that guy' that doesn't wear a ring so he can use his kid to pull women. Apparently, EVERY guy without a ring on, with a kid...is that guy. We did end up going out, and dated for a few months, at which point I found out that even though she lived in her OWN apartment (her mother and sister moved down from Washington with her 3wks after we started dating), had her OWN car, and a freaking ID that let her get into bars...she was only 17.

    Yes, this dating story has a double punchline.

    Anyway, her explanation also clarified why anytime I talk to ANY woman at a grocery store, they go gaga over my kids, then run whenever I try to talk to them about anything else.

    I gave up loooong ago.
  • nray3119
    nray3119 Posts: 100 Member
    I have little to nothing...wait, no...I have nothing to add that is positive lol.

    I'm a single Dad as well (with custody), few friends left (being a single Dad doesn't leave a lot of time to maintain friendships really)...and online is really my only option for meeting people.

    Again, not a lot positive to say to that lol.
    I'm so not into online dating...I want my guy "if he exist in this life" to meet me in person first..Falling for my online persona then rejecting me for my look in real life should not happen again to me..

    I wish I had that option.

    Its rare you find a guy that is a single dad. Congrats!!

    Aww, thanks!

    We're not as rare a breed as people believe, really. Maybe that's a myth perpetuated by the fact that whenever you see a guy in the grocery store, or anywhere else really...with kids, you assume he's married and his wife is at work or home.

    I once went through the same checkout line, with the same incredibly cute checkout girl...for three months straight to get to know her. Every time, she'd smile and talk to my daughter (who was at the time 3yrs old). We'd joke a little, she'd tell me Cheyann was 'sooooo cute!!!', and 'she's lucky to have such a great Dad!!'. Finally I thought the time was right, so I said...'Hey, I've been thinking...maybe we could go catch a movie or dinner some night? You seem really great and I'd like to get to know you better.'

    The look on her face was priceless. She sputtered about seven times, then popped off with 'I freakin' knew it! Look...I don't date married men, go find some bimbo who does!'

    I just stood there dumbfounded. I then looked her straight in the face, held up my left hand with no ring and no ring mark, and said 'I'm not married, I've had custody of my daughter since she was 11mos old. Have a nice day.'

    I didn't go through her line again, but two weeks later...she approached me in the produce section, apologized, and told me that she'd been talking with all of her friends that work there, and they'd all decided that I was 'that guy' that doesn't wear a ring so he can use his kid to pull women. Apparently, EVERY guy without a ring on, with a kid...is that guy. We did end up going out, and dated for a few months, at which point I found out that even though she lived in her OWN apartment (her mother and sister moved down from Washington with her 3wks after we started dating), had her OWN car, and a freaking ID that let her get into bars...she was only 17.

    Yes, this dating story has a double punchline.

    Anyway, her explanation also clarified why anytime I talk to ANY woman at a grocery store, they go gaga over my kids, then run whenever I try to talk to them about anything else.

    I gave up loooong ago.

    That stinks. My ex was a "single dad" but then I found out the kid lived with his Mom and he saw him about once a month. Ummmmm not quite the impression he first gave off lol.
  • whitetiger011680
    whitetiger011680 Posts: 218 Member
    I have little to nothing...wait, no...I have nothing to add that is positive lol.

    I'm a single Dad as well (with custody), few friends left (being a single Dad doesn't leave a lot of time to maintain friendships really)...and online is really my only option for meeting people.

    Again, not a lot positive to say to that lol.
    I'm so not into online dating...I want my guy "if he exist in this life" to meet me in person first..Falling for my online persona then rejecting me for my look in real life should not happen again to me..

    I wish I had that option.

    Its rare you find a guy that is a single dad. Congrats!!

    Aww, thanks!

    We're not as rare a breed as people believe, really. Maybe that's a myth perpetuated by the fact that whenever you see a guy in the grocery store, or anywhere else really...with kids, you assume he's married and his wife is at work or home.

    I once went through the same checkout line, with the same incredibly cute checkout girl...for three months straight to get to know her. Every time, she'd smile and talk to my daughter (who was at the time 3yrs old). We'd joke a little, she'd tell me Cheyann was 'sooooo cute!!!', and 'she's lucky to have such a great Dad!!'. Finally I thought the time was right, so I said...'Hey, I've been thinking...maybe we could go catch a movie or dinner some night? You seem really great and I'd like to get to know you better.'

    The look on her face was priceless. She sputtered about seven times, then popped off with 'I freakin' knew it! Look...I don't date married men, go find some bimbo who does!'

    I just stood there dumbfounded. I then looked her straight in the face, held up my left hand with no ring and no ring mark, and said 'I'm not married, I've had custody of my daughter since she was 11mos old. Have a nice day.'

    I didn't go through her line again, but two weeks later...she approached me in the produce section, apologized, and told me that she'd been talking with all of her friends that work there, and they'd all decided that I was 'that guy' that doesn't wear a ring so he can use his kid to pull women. Apparently, EVERY guy without a ring on, with a kid...is that guy. We did end up going out, and dated for a few months, at which point I found out that even though she lived in her OWN apartment (her mother and sister moved down from Washington with her 3wks after we started dating), had her OWN car, and a freaking ID that let her get into bars...she was only 17.

    Yes, this dating story has a double punchline.

    Anyway, her explanation also clarified why anytime I talk to ANY woman at a grocery store, they go gaga over my kids, then run whenever I try to talk to them about anything else.

    I gave up loooong ago.

    That stinks. My ex was a "single dad" but then I found out the kid lived with his Mom and he saw him about once a month. Ummmmm not quite the impression he first gave off lol.

    My ex husband was a single father with custody when I met him. He hasn't been quite as good spending time with mine and his kids as he was his his other kids even though we're on good terms and don't live that far away from each other. Makes me sad for my kids.
  • kansasbelle
    kansasbelle Posts: 264 Member
    I have little to nothing...wait, no...I have nothing to add that is positive lol.

    I'm a single Dad as well (with custody), few friends left (being a single Dad doesn't leave a lot of time to maintain friendships really)...and online is really my only option for meeting people.

    Again, not a lot positive to say to that lol.
    I'm so not into online dating...I want my guy "if he exist in this life" to meet me in person first..Falling for my online persona then rejecting me for my look in real life should not happen again to me..

    I wish I had that option.

    Its rare you find a guy that is a single dad. Congrats!!

    Aww, thanks!

    We're not as rare a breed as people believe, really. Maybe that's a myth perpetuated by the fact that whenever you see a guy in the grocery store, or anywhere else really...with kids, you assume he's married and his wife is at work or home.

    I once went through the same checkout line, with the same incredibly cute checkout girl...for three months straight to get to know her. Every time, she'd smile and talk to my daughter (who was at the time 3yrs old). We'd joke a little, she'd tell me Cheyann was 'sooooo cute!!!', and 'she's lucky to have such a great Dad!!'. Finally I thought the time was right, so I said...'Hey, I've been thinking...maybe we could go catch a movie or dinner some night? You seem really great and I'd like to get to know you better.'

    The look on her face was priceless. She sputtered about seven times, then popped off with 'I freakin' knew it! Look...I don't date married men, go find some bimbo who does!'

    I just stood there dumbfounded. I then looked her straight in the face, held up my left hand with no ring and no ring mark, and said 'I'm not married, I've had custody of my daughter since she was 11mos old. Have a nice day.'

    I didn't go through her line again, but two weeks later...she approached me in the produce section, apologized, and told me that she'd been talking with all of her friends that work there, and they'd all decided that I was 'that guy' that doesn't wear a ring so he can use his kid to pull women. Apparently, EVERY guy without a ring on, with a kid...is that guy. We did end up going out, and dated for a few months, at which point I found out that even though she lived in her OWN apartment (her mother and sister moved down from Washington with her 3wks after we started dating), had her OWN car, and a freaking ID that let her get into bars...she was only 17.

    Yes, this dating story has a double punchline.

    Anyway, her explanation also clarified why anytime I talk to ANY woman at a grocery store, they go gaga over my kids, then run whenever I try to talk to them about anything else.

    I gave up loooong ago.
  • kansasbelle
    kansasbelle Posts: 264 Member
    O not true the last two guy Iwent out with ahd kids. I wanted to date guys with kids because I misscarried 3 years ago and have no kids of my own. No guys my age want to have more kids, and the ones that heve them get terrified because they had horrible exes. So they fall in love and the freak out and run.....
    I have little to nothing...wait, no...I have nothing to add that is positive lol.

    I'm a single Dad as well (with custody), few friends left (being a single Dad doesn't leave a lot of time to maintain friendships really)...and online is really my only option for meeting people.

    Again, not a lot positive to say to that lol.
    I'm so not into online dating...I want my guy "if he exist in this life" to meet me in person first..Falling for my online persona then rejecting me for my look in real life should not happen again to me..

    I wish I had that option.

    Its rare you find a guy that is a single dad. Congrats!!

    Aww, thanks!

    We're not as rare a breed as people believe, really. Maybe that's a myth perpetuated by the fact that whenever you see a guy in the grocery store, or anywhere else really...with kids, you assume he's married and his wife is at work or home.

    I once went through the same checkout line, with the same incredibly cute checkout girl...for three months straight to get to know her. Every time, she'd smile and talk to my daughter (who was at the time 3yrs old). We'd joke a little, she'd tell me Cheyann was 'sooooo cute!!!', and 'she's lucky to have such a great Dad!!'. Finally I thought the time was right, so I said...'Hey, I've been thinking...maybe we could go catch a movie or dinner some night? You seem really great and I'd like to get to know you better.'

    The look on her face was priceless. She sputtered about seven times, then popped off with 'I freakin' knew it! Look...I don't date married men, go find some bimbo who does!'

    I just stood there dumbfounded. I then looked her straight in the face, held up my left hand with no ring and no ring mark, and said 'I'm not married, I've had custody of my daughter since she was 11mos old. Have a nice day.'

    I didn't go through her line again, but two weeks later...she approached me in the produce section, apologized, and told me that she'd been talking with all of her friends that work there, and they'd all decided that I was 'that guy' that doesn't wear a ring so he can use his kid to pull women. Apparently, EVERY guy without a ring on, with a kid...is that guy. We did end up going out, and dated for a few months, at which point I found out that even though she lived in her OWN apartment (her mother and sister moved down from Washington with her 3wks after we started dating), had her OWN car, and a freaking ID that let her get into bars...she was only 17.

    Yes, this dating story has a double punchline.

    Anyway, her explanation also clarified why anytime I talk to ANY woman at a grocery store, they go gaga over my kids, then run whenever I try to talk to them about anything else.

    I gave up loooong ago.
  • GasMasterFlash
    GasMasterFlash Posts: 2,206 Member
    Nobody has pubes anymore.
  • jadashute08
    jadashute08 Posts: 56 Member
    I prefer to meet people through friends or online. The last random guy I met in a bar told me he didn't work because he gets a crazy check. :noway:

    :laugh:
  • jaric01
    jaric01 Posts: 132 Member
    Nobody has pubes anymore.

    :drinker:
  • MyTime1985
    MyTime1985 Posts: 456 Member
    Nobody has pubes anymore.

    LMAO!
  • autumnk921
    autumnk921 Posts: 1,374 Member
    I have been single for a over a year & have no idea where to meet men...My life is on here (MFP) & other than the grocery or hardware stores I am home with my 3yr old son....I am not into the bar scene anymore & on the weekends when I have a sitter I just try to get some 'ME' time but I would love to have some adult real life conversations if that is possible...I am hoping when my son starts Tee Ball or Soccer that I may meet some people during those....That would be nice...Also, I heard about this online site called www.meetup.com which gives you groups in your area for meeting people that you have things in common with...Not just a singles thing but socializing groups as well...Like walking, hiking, knitting (not for me), and clubbing, & singles dances, etc....I have checked out my area today & it might be something some other people might enjoy...Single or not!! Just thought I would share that.... :)

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