guys... don't want to lose weight and be "the smaller guy"?

loseweightjames

ok maybe i'm crazy, but there has been times, when i'll be walking somewhere... not necessarily "down a dark alley" but you know, places like that, less safe, and someone looks at you like something might be up, and you're thinking, oh ****, if they did something, could i defend myself? And it's been comforting to know I have a good 50 or 70 lbs on the guy, and ya i know weight's not everything, bruce lee weighted like 130 lbs and could kick anyone's *kitten*, but you got two average people the guy that weights significantly more (within reason, if he's like 500 and can barely walk that doesn't count) is likely to be the victor

like, some guy hit my convertible porsche on the highway, on purpose, because he was mad i went around him a few miles back (crazy right?), and we pulled over and he came storming up to my car (top down, so nothing between us) and i thought I'm glad i have about 70 lbs on this guy, so i just looked at him like he was crazy because i had no doubt i could take him.

does anyone else feel like that sometimes or am i just weird?

Drenched_N_Motivation

That doesnt apply to me, but I still understand what you're saying.

loseweightjames

That doesnt apply to me, but I still understand what you're saying.

ok good, so i'm not nuts... or we're both nuts

ya so when i get on the scale and I've lost X lbs part of me doesn't want to lose the weight as crazy as that sounds.....

i guess if i was 6'6 or something i wouldn't care because i'd be bigger than most but at 6'0 i feel i'm a rather average height.

Drenched_N_Motivation

Well just turn that into muscle and you will probably feel more secure than you did as a "big" guy.

walkner88

Take some boxing classes. I started boxing when I was just a kid and have always had a little bit of extra confidence because of it.

LilRedRooster

Interesting that many guys only worry about being attacked of feeling insecure when they get smaller, because women worry about that sort of thing for most of their life, no matter how physically "big" they are. I think it's a mental perception thing connected to your own belief in your abilities, because even when I weighed less than I do now, I still felt confident in my ability to defend myself, because of my background in martial arts and all the defense-specific training I had.

I can understand where you're coming from, though. Size is a big means of instant intimidation, since weight does carry a lot in terms of physical power, so it would be comforting to have that on your side.

budhandy

That doesnt apply to me, but I still understand what you're saying.

ok good, so i'm not nuts... or we're both nuts

ya so when i get on the scale and I've lost X lbs part of me doesn't want to lose the weight as crazy as that sounds.....

i guess if i was 6'6 or something i wouldn't care because i'd be bigger than most but at 6'0 i feel i'm a rather average height.

im 5'7", i would kill to be 6 foot lol

ThePhoenixRose

maybe you should mention your car some more. that might help ya feel better...

BuckeyeLife

I prefer my weight to be deceptive personally. I am always under judged on my weight by people. I suspect once I drop this weight and put on muscle, that is going to happen more. I played hockey and did martial arts some, so I would rather a person misjudge their approach on me and I feel a leaner beefier me would make it even more important.Just my feelings. I ultimately don't worry about fights though, people seem to perceive me as mentally unstable so most people who know me have 0 interest in getting physical and I wouldn't ever waste my effort actually fighting someone I don't know. (And if I am getting attacked in a self defense position my stance is to do debilitating damage temporarily then flee if possible, I have no interest in finding out if the dude has a weapon to make up for his lack of size/fighting ability/penis size.)

AmericanExpat

maybe you should mention your car some more. that might help ya feel better...

That was a bit snarky.... if it irritates you just don't read it.

ThePhoenixRose

maybe you should mention your car some more. that might help ya feel better...

That was a bit snarky.... if it irritates you just don't read it.

He mentions it 3 TIMES in his profile. We get it...

Drenched_N_Motivation

maybe you should mention your car some more. that might help ya feel better...

That was a bit snarky.... if it irritates you just don't read it.

He mentions it 3 TIMES in his profile. We get it...

LMAO

sktllmdrhmz

maybe you should mention your car some more. that might help ya feel better...

That was a bit snarky.... if it irritates you just don't read it.

He mentions it 3 TIMES in his profile. We get it...

LMAO

Have to admit it occurred to me, too. I definitely lol'd at the comments.

That said, I've never really known the feeling, being a relative light-weight for most of my life. One of my life goals is to know what it's like to feel physically intimidating, lol.

Drenched_N_Motivation

maybe you should mention your car some more. that might help ya feel better...

That was a bit snarky.... if it irritates you just don't read it.

He mentions it 3 TIMES in his profile. We get it...

LMAO

Have to admit it occurred to me, too. I definitely lol'd at the comments.

That said, I've never really known the feeling, being a relative light-weight for most of my life. One of my life goals is to know what it's like to feel physically intimidating, lol.

Dont get me wrong, i'd love to have a convertable porsche. But that was funny.

taunto

I live in a small city that was named "Murder capital of America" by NYtimes. I'm 100 lbs overweight and I can assure you, if somebody wants to hurt you, you "having 30-50 on him" won't mean jack. If you can fight, you can fight. The way you walk and talk makes all the difference. If anything, being overweight makes you look weak.

sarahsxt

Maybe it's just me, but I'm way more scared if the guy is lean and agile, than if he is big and tough looking. When I look at a big guy, I think strong, but slow - aka. very easy to dodge and run away from in a fight. When I see a lean and fit guy, I'm like... ****, I have no idea what I'm up against.

Maybe this is because I've been small for my whole life and I strategize differently.

Jersey_Devil

:laugh:

Jersey_Devil

I live in a small city that was named "Murder capital of America" by NYtimes. I'm 100 lbs overweight and I can assure you, if somebody wants to hurt you, you "having 30-50 on him" won't mean jack. If you can fight, you can fight. The way you walk and talk makes all the difference. If anything, being overweight makes you look weak.

^this

U either know how to fight or you don't. In a boxing ring weight might matter but not on the streets.

atjays

A lot of those "big" guys are used to size intimidating people into not fighting. A good crack across the jaw usually knocks their *kitten* out.

Laces_0ut

lets put it this way...i've lost about 75 pounds since last august. if i time traveled back and fought myself i would kill my fatter self.

that fat is giving you a false sense of security.

imthelobster

That doesnt apply to me, but I still understand what you're saying.

ok good, so i'm not nuts... or we're both nuts

ya so when i get on the scale and I've lost X lbs part of me doesn't want to lose the weight as crazy as that sounds.....

i guess if i was 6'6 or something i wouldn't care because i'd be bigger than most but at 6'0 i feel i'm a rather average height.

im 5'7", i would kill to be 6 foot lol

Yeah, I'm 5'6", so I hear that. I've never really been afraid of being jumped, though. Never been in a fight in my life.

Farfourah

And that's why I carry my toothbrush shank I made in prison when I got convicted of aggravated assault and battery with grave bodily harm, robbery in the first degree and jaywalking everywhere....*****es don't know that I'm crazy.

NaturalinCO

I'm w/the pp who said to build strength. I don't think it's necessary to jump bad just because someone is ridiculous - and WHY men seem to get aggressive because of a car (my husband gets this a LOT, I get it when I drive his car, wtf?!?!) is beyond me. I say, build strength, again, just for your own confidence, and maybe boxing/martial arts like someone mentioned. I know my son will be strong and able to defend himself for MY peace of mind lol! But don't be "that guy" just because they are. It's childish IMO. Just be ABLE to defend yourself if you must. You win some you lose some

iceqieen

yebb build strength. and remember that feeling of superiority you have! you can still project it, even when you are lighter. its when you are *scrawny* and smaller that the trouble starts.

oooooh I miss my friends.. a group of mostly bulky guys.. noone would mess with them. Never realised how safe I was feeling because of that untill I got into a situation and all I had around me were scrawny guys who didn't know how to scare off idiots. it is soooo hillarious to see smaller "tough" guys run away in fear from confident bulky guys.

likeschocolate

My mindset is to avoid aggression and a confrontation. Physical violence usually is not a solution, and it's better to try and avoid putting oneself in such situations.

If you're living in the USA -- the other guy likely packs a gun, so your extra lbs don't go far.

So if he storms towards you in an aggressive manner -- call 911 from your 911 (sorry couldn't resist ).

My approach is to let God guide me to good decisions and keep me safe. I understand it's not the kind of faith everyone has or what works for everyone. But, just my two cents.

Laces_0ut

My mindset is to avoid aggression and a confrontation. Physical violence usually is not a solution, and it's better to try and avoid putting oneself in such situations.

If you're living in the USA -- the other guy likely packs a gun, so your extra lbs don't go far.

So if he storms towards you in an aggressive manner -- call 911 from your 911 (sorry couldn't resist ).

My approach is to let God guide me to good decisions and keep me safe. I understand it's not the kind of faith everyone has or what works for everyone. But, just my two cents.

dont believe everything you see from Hollywood. most people in the USA are not walking around with guns.

loseweightjames

Well just turn that into muscle and you will probably feel more secure than you did as a "big" guy.

it's impossible to replace the fat weight with muscle weight, I'd look like one of those giant pro body builders.

loseweightjames

maybe you should mention your car some more. that might help ya feel better...

That was a bit snarky.... if it irritates you just don't read it.

obvious troll is obvious. I just put them on ignore, i'm just glad trolls make themselves obvious

neverstray

I never thought of that. I always thought speed and power over size.

Anyway, I'm always crazy, so I don't worry. If the crazy animal in me turns on, it really doesn't matter how big a guy is, he's dead.

likeschocolate

dont believe everything you see from Hollywood. most people in the USA are not walking around with guns.

The county in AZ I live in has an over 50% rate of gun ownership. Statistically speaking, the other individual is more likely than not to have one.

This is not surprising. According to a Gallup poll from last year about 47% of American households report gun-ownership. http://www.gallup.com/poll/150353/self-reported-gun-ownership-highest-1993.aspx

loseweightjames

My mindset is to avoid aggression and a confrontation. Physical violence usually is not a solution, and it's better to try and avoid putting oneself in such situations.

If you're living in the USA -- the other guy likely packs a gun, so your extra lbs don't go far.

So if he storms towards you in an aggressive manner -- call 911 from your 911 (sorry couldn't resist ).

My approach is to let God guide me to good decisions and keep me safe. I understand it's not the kind of faith everyone has or what works for everyone. But, just my two cents.

LOL - not everyone in the US carries a gun. In fact, I'd say 99% of people DONT carry a gun in the US. I do not know anyone that carries a gun on them besides law enforcement and i'm former army ("retired" but i hate saying that cuz i'm not old enough to retire from anything)

911 takes time to get there, in the meantime you have to somehow defend yourself