The other woman becoming your Best Friend*** Drama Alert***

Foxypoo61287

I was in a relationship for almost 3 years. My SO was not faithful. I never caught him or anything except when I was pregnant ( approx 3-4 months) I walked in on her walking out of the bathroom at our house while I wasn't home. Of course I suspected something, but was never confirmed. Well he would tell her he was leaving me, and etc. He pledged himself to me. Well She finally got smart ( though I did not & stayed with him for the sake of our daughter) and she got over him, we became really good friends after that. Well me & him have broken up ( for good) despite our daughter. Well he called his ex and cried on the phone with her for like 30 minutes, of course she called me to tell me this, some drama has started because I changed my relationship status from in a relationship to single. So what, well all my friends really didn't like him and were all excited & stuff, well someone told him, or showed him what was going on. I never said anything bad about him, my friends did and one was his ex. So he proceeded to write "&^%^& all you haters you can only hurt someone so much before its my turn." Then following this he wrote " Ex's g/f name here, your just mad that ____(me) left me & you couldn't, I left you, so ha." She found out and wrote this WHOLE LONG response on her fb page to kind of spite him and said basically that she was better off without him and him leaving her was the best thing that ever happened, because she's with a man she loves dearly, has a baby with him, etc. Well idk if he saw it but someone commented on his post that he shouldn't have written something like that because its immature & he replied it's going to be funny when her man finds out that she was messing around with him around her birthday ( im assuming this was last year not this year)

Now, do I say something to both of them about this matter, or do I let it go and let them continue this Facebook war. And do I finally breakdown and ask her woman to woman what happened between them?

axannamorgan

I'd stay well out of it. Seriously.

bigswedeman

Facebook is destroying relatinships faster than anything else in the history of man.

Drenched_N_Motivation

JERRY! JERRY! JERRY! JERRY!

Ocarina

Facebook is destroying relatinships faster than anything else in the history of man.

NU2U

I deleted my fb acct..for several reasons. One being......the "EX" factor. And I agree...it ruins relationships....fast!!

juliecat1

Facebook is destroying relatinships faster than anything else in the history of man.

People are destroying relationships. Facebook just makes it public.

Exercise your delete friend button. Both on Facebook and irl.

Kityngirl

People are destroying relationships. Facebook just makes it public.

Exercise your delete friend button. Both on Facebook and irl.

^^this.

gomisskellygo

JERRY! JERRY! JERRY! JERRY!

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

JellyJaks

Facebook is destroying relatinships faster than anything else in the history of man.

People are destroying relationships. Facebook just makes it public.

Exercise your delete friend button. Both on Facebook and irl.

^ITA!

MissC787

I would stay out of it for #1. #2... You already know the answer to your question. You don't need to ask.

NU2U

If you wanna know if the bf/gf is stayin in touch with the ex...go to their fb page.

emdeegan

this is going to sound snarky.. and its not meant to be.. but read your post out loud to yourself. the whole thing. then take a moment and answer this question: are you an adult? because if you are, then you need to remove yourself from high school drama and keep your chin up and your self respect high.

brittanylock09

Delete the post you made. I wouldn't be friends with her. How could you be friends with someone that was with your man at the time? especially since ya'll ain't talked about it. And don't even acknowledge him.

jocelyn_martin

Just let it go. It's over between you and him so no need to concern yourself with the past. Don't become a part of this Facebook situation. Let them handle it like children and you be the adult!

2FattyXFatty4

I was in a relationship for almost 3 years. My SO was not faithful. I never caught him or anything except when I was pregnant ( approx 3-4 months) I walked in on her walking out of the bathroom at our house while I wasn't home. Of course I suspected something, but was never confirmed. Well he would tell her he was leaving me, and etc. He pledged himself to me. Well She finally got smart ( though I did not & stayed with him for the sake of our daughter) and she got over him, we became really good friends after that. Well me & him have broken up ( for good) despite our daughter. Well he called his ex and cried on the phone with her for like 30 minutes, of course she called me to tell me this, some drama has started because I changed my relationship status from in a relationship to single. So what, well all my friends really didn't like him and were all excited & stuff, well someone told him, or showed him what was going on. I never said anything bad about him, my friends did and one was his ex. So he proceeded to write "&^%^& all you haters you can only hurt someone so much before its my turn." Then following this he wrote " Ex's g/f name here, your just mad that ____(me) left me & you couldn't, I left you, so ha." She found out and wrote this WHOLE LONG response on her fb page to kind of spite him and said basically that she was better off without him and him leaving her was the best thing that ever happened, because she's with a man she loves dearly, has a baby with him, etc. Well idk if he saw it but someone commented on his post that he shouldn't have written something like that because its immature & he replied it's going to be funny when her man finds out that she was messing around with him around her birthday ( im assuming this was last year not this year)

Now, do I say something to both of them about this matter, or do I let it go and let them continue this Facebook war. And do I finally breakdown and ask her woman to woman what happened between them?

Really? You're worried about all this when you have a kid to be concerned about? He's immature? Sounds like you both need to grow up ... if not for yourselves then for your child. *smh*

christine24t

Okay, I'm going to be honest here.

First off, choosing to be friends with your ex's mistress isn't probably a wise choice. She knew you and your child existed, yet stayed with him anyway and slept with a committed guy, a committed guy with a child?? Doesn't sound like a good person to me. It's one thing if he lied and she had no idea, but she did and she still fooled around with him. So she's not great material if you're asking me.

So with the fact that she is that type of person, this doesn't surprise me. Your answer is what everyone has been saying. Stop being friends with her. It is too messy with her connection to your ex. Don't get involved. I would want to know sooooo bad too but you're probably not going to like the answer you hear. For the sake of your child, just leave the whole thing.

2FattyXFatty4

this is going to sound snarky.. and its not meant to be.. but read your post out loud to yourself. the whole thing. then take a moment and answer this question: are you an adult? because if you are, then you need to remove yourself from high school drama and keep your chin up and your self respect high.

:drinker:

munkey418

I would stay out of it for #1. #2... You already know the answer to your question. You don't need to ask.

^^^agree 122%

Farfourah

Well that's an awkward turtle....

HealthyNFit4Life

Genuine question: Don't you ever get jealous seeing her?? Knowing that your ex slept with her WHILE you two were dating?? I know for sure that I get nauseated by the thought of my ex's new gfs, who messed up our relationship. Everytime I think of her I get so angry and jealous. Maybe that's just me.

BriskisGrl

I would stay far away from the drama. Since the ex is your child's father you need to think about what would be in that child's best interest? It would not be to get involved in the mess created by him and someone else. That could make things worse with your relationship with him which in turn could hurt your child.

pudadough

I was in a relationship for almost 3 years. My SO was not faithful. I never caught him or anything except when I was pregnant ( approx 3-4 months) I walked in on her walking out of the bathroom at our house while I wasn't home. Of course I suspected something, but was never confirmed. Well he would tell her he was leaving me, and etc. He pledged himself to me. Well She finally got smart ( though I did not & stayed with him for the sake of our daughter) and she got over him, we became really good friends after that. Well me & him have broken up ( for good) despite our daughter. Well he called his ex and cried on the phone with her for like 30 minutes, of course she called me to tell me this, some drama has started because I changed my relationship status from in a relationship to single. So what, well all my friends really didn't like him and were all excited & stuff, well someone told him, or showed him what was going on. I never said anything bad about him, my friends did and one was his ex. So he proceeded to write "&^%^& all you haters you can only hurt someone so much before its my turn." Then following this he wrote " Ex's g/f name here, your just mad that ____(me) left me & you couldn't, I left you, so ha." She found out and wrote this WHOLE LONG response on her fb page to kind of spite him and said basically that she was better off without him and him leaving her was the best thing that ever happened, because she's with a man she loves dearly, has a baby with him, etc. Well idk if he saw it but someone commented on his post that he shouldn't have written something like that because its immature & he replied it's going to be funny when her man finds out that she was messing around with him around her birthday ( im assuming this was last year not this year)

Now, do I say something to both of them about this matter, or do I let it go and let them continue this Facebook war. And do I finally breakdown and ask her woman to woman what happened between them?

Really? You're worried about all this when you have a kid to be concerned about? He's immature? Sounds like you both need to grow up ... if not for yourselves then for your child. *smh*

Thank god someone said it. You are 100% correct.

saragato

Oh lord Facebook.

That whole thing is their business. I would suggest deleting the post it originated from (if it's yours, if not, "unfollow" it) and letting them have their spitting match. She may be your friend now but even friends have limits. Plus... it's Facebook. It's the INTERNET. It's just ridiculous to let stuff that festers in nothing but text and smilies get to you.

pastryari

Thank you for bringing the facebook drama over here....:noway:

Tamaralea88

Facebook is destroying relatinships faster than anything else in the history of man.

No people are doing that, facebook is just putting it out in the open lol

M1chelles5

It it helps you feel a sense of closure then ask.

But you already know what the deal is, so I personaly would leave it alone!

kelseyhere

Stay out of it, and ditch her as a friend. She never really was your friend in the first place it seems to me. If she was wouldn't have been with your man behind your back.

Personally, I would delete BOTH of them from as friends from facebook and make your account friends only so they can't see what you post. I understand he is the father of your child so you probably want to maintain some contact with him, but you can do that over the phone. If he is still your facebook friend, it will be tempting to look at his profile which can just stir up bad feelings. Also, he might start posting nasty things on your wall too. Remove the temptatation for both of you. I had a similar situation with my ex and his new girlfriend. I felt sooo much better once I removed them, it was like a huge weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Facebook is a great tool for staying connected, but don't let it control your life.

Set a good example for your child and don't worry yourself with petty drama. Hold your head high and be a strong woman. Leave the BS behind you.

**Oh and don't bother asking her what went on, it's not going to make anything better. Leave the past in the past and focus on the future, things you can change.

jenilla1

:sick:

Trail_Addict

Why do I feel like I just stepped back into High School?

missashley884

how old are all of you?! seriously ...