Getting hate for wanting to recover from..
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I feel so horrible now. People on here that are anorexic and still losing weight are telling me im disgusting and ruining all my hard work and I'm going to get fat and huge like a house
That says a hell of a lot more about them than about you.
Block them. Maybe you can be friends with them again when they're ready to recover.0 -
I also echo everyone else's recommendations to you. New friends. Counseling. Take the steps necessary to create a new life to support the you that you want to become.
As for anxiety -- if the brain isn't getting the nutrients it needs anxiety can seriously increase -- & then the situation just spirals.
Take care of yourself and love yourself! Food is fuel and we all need it to become our best.0 -
Why are you still friends w/ folks who are still suffering from ED's?
It's like an alcoholic who's trying to quit drinking but still hangs out at the bars.
You already know what the answer is to your question is. Find new friends, continue eating at healthy levels until you're eating at maintenance. Maintain body weight not by starving but by exercising moderately.
I get the impression you don't want to live w/ an ED any longer. Time to cut those out of your life who are bringing you down and not supporting you.
Good luck! :flowerforyou:
Yep, it's time to break up with Regina George.0 -
I cannot go to the doctor. I have social anxiety anyways. Doctors scare me.
She'll put me on like 3,000 calories or something crazy and I'm far to worried ):
I highly doubt the doctor will put you on 3,000 calories.. that is way to much... even for someone trying to recover like yourself.
Is there anyway that you can see a counselor? One that specializes in ED? They can help as much as a doctor could, and could also help treat the social anxiety aspect.
They really don't put you on that many calories. You need a counselor who specializes in ED, probably a psychiatrist. They can help you get to your own normal.0 -
Why don't you try lifting weights at the gym? While you're at it, open up youtube and search for FuriousPete. He recovered from anorexia, which he was hospitalized for and nearly died from. Now he's a bodybuilder and a professional competitive eater. I sure wouldn't call him fat.0
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Also, in reading all the posts, there is BIG wisdom to be gained from a lot of people who really want you to be healthy and well! i'm impressed and amazed by all the total strangers who are willing to help you choose well!
Give a doctor and/or therapist a chance--you do need more help than you may be able to figure out on your own. And body dysmorphia--yep, do look that up! i was that way when i was younger, as i was so sure i was a horrible, fat cow. i see the pictures of myself from then and wonder what the heck was going on in my head.
Again, YOU are the smart one! You know you need help, you know things need to change, and that is such a huge part of the struggle. Professionals would likely be the best way to go at this point, like several people have said. Friend those who you can tell will support you even as you try to work through the seeing a doctor issue, through all the steps it may take to get well in body and mind.
Anxiety runs in our family, and one daughter has the social anxiety issue you mentioned, but she has been able to grow and learn and keep it from stalling out her life, and you can too. And please give a professional a chance, you don't have to stay with the first one you meet, you need to have someone you are comfortable with.
Surround yourself with those who support HEALTH, dump the others.0 -
You know that these people are not only being negative towards your weight goals but pressuring you to be unhappy and crippled by an eating disorder. Dis-friend anyone who makes you feel this way.
Many people have struggled with eating disorders, and many of them gather at websites like this. That doesn't mean they know anything they're talking about. Anyone who says you are getting chubby can go **** themselves, you're a strong individual trying to better herself, and that scares weak people. It makes them doubt all the pain and starvation they put themselves through, so they feel the need to pressure you to be like them.
Go for your goals, be at a healthy weight! But like other's have said, the first problem should be dealt with through counseling.0 -
You have a problem.
Your recognise that.
You want to get better.
You're asking for help.
To me that sounds very much like you are so much stronger than your realise.
I do not know you but you words make me proud of you. It takes a lot of strength to make such an appeal.
Someone replied by saying get some professional help. That is a step I think is worth considering - when you are ready for it. Continue with blogs and forums - stick to the support comments. Those who are negative are not your friends. My view is that they themselves lack confidence and strength and feel the need to take it out on someone else.
You are better than that.
Believe it.
Believe in yourself.
I believe you can get through this.
It's ok to be frightened. It's ok to feel anxious. That is how you feel. Your feelings are just that - yours.0 -
My BMI used to be 16 due to starvation when I was 14. Now it's currently 18.6-18.7 and people say I'm already looking pudgy and that I don't need to gain more weight even though my body isn't functioning properly.
I feel so horrible now. People on here that are anorexic and still losing weight are telling me im disgusting and ruining all my hard work and I'm going to get fat and huge like a house
My lowest I was only 69 pounds. I still feel cold, I'm anemic, my hormones are out of whack and I act insane and not normal. ):
I'm miserable. Gaining weight is scary though.
I gain weight quite easily and am doing it all by myself. no parents help or anything ( they dont care or believe im even sick )
should I continue eating or just..go back like I want to ):
currently eating 1,200-1,300
You need to report those on this site that are promoting anorexia by their disgusting comments to you.0 -
Your doctor will not make you become obese, they will teach you how to eat right so your weight naturally fluctuates towards a healthier bmi.0
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My BMI used to be 16 due to starvation when I was 14. Now it's currently 18.6-18.7 and people say I'm already looking pudgy and that I don't need to gain more weight even though my body isn't functioning properly.
I feel so horrible now. People on here that are anorexic and still losing weight are telling me im disgusting and ruining all my hard work and I'm going to get fat and huge like a house
My lowest I was only 69 pounds. I still feel cold, I'm anemic, my hormones are out of whack and I act insane and not normal. ):
I'm miserable. Gaining weight is scary though.
I gain weight quite easily and am doing it all by myself. no parents help or anything ( they dont care or believe im even sick )
should I continue eating or just..go back like I want to ):
currently eating 1,200-1,300
Get rid of those people trying to bring you down. You are doing the right thing for your long term health and well being.0 -
You are doing fine. Don't let them pull you back into the cycle. (They may feel a need to be co-dependent, but you don't have to.)0
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Dear OP,
A VERY recent change to our guidelines (within the past 24 hours) has made it against the guidelines to encourage eating disorders not only in the forums, where it's always been forbidden, but now also in profile posts, private messages, or anywhere at all on MyFitnessPal.
If you are being encouraged AWAY from recovery from an eating disorder, please contact me directly at http://www.myfitnesspal.com/steven and let me know the usernames of those who are violating the updated guideline, quoted below:3. No Promotion of Unsafe Weight-Loss Techniques or Eating Disorders
a) Posts intended to promote potentially unsafe or controversial weight loss products or procedures, including non-medically prescribed supplements or MLM products will be removed without warning.
b) Profiles, groups, messages, posts, or wall comments that encourage anorexia, bulimia, or very low calorie diets of any kind will be removed, and may be grounds for account deletion. This includes positive references to ana/mia, purging, or self-starving. Our goal is to provide users with the tools to achieve their weight management goals at a steady, sustainable rate. Use of the site to promote or glamorize dangerously low levels of eating is not permitted.
c) Photos intended to glamorize extreme thinness will be deleted.
d) Those seeking support in their recovery from eating disorders are welcome at MyFitnessPal.
Regards,
Steven
MyFitnessPal Staff0 -
I am in recovery and have lots of similar friends. I'll be your friend! You need to rid yourself of toxic people.0
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Dear OP,
A VERY recent change to our guidelines (within the past 24 hours) has made it against the guidelines to encourage eating disorders not only in the forums, where it's always been forbidden, but now also in profile posts, private messages, or anywhere at all on MyFitnessPal.
If you are being encouraged AWAY from recovery from an eating disorder, please contact me directly at http://www.myfitnesspal.com/steven and let me know the usernames of those who are violating the updated guideline, quoted below:3. No Promotion of Unsafe Weight-Loss Techniques or Eating Disorders
a) Posts intended to promote potentially unsafe or controversial weight loss products or procedures, including non-medically prescribed supplements or MLM products will be removed without warning.
b) Profiles, groups, messages, posts, or wall comments that encourage anorexia, bulimia, or very low calorie diets of any kind will be removed, and may be grounds for account deletion. This includes positive references to ana/mia, purging, or self-starving. Our goal is to provide users with the tools to achieve their weight management goals at a steady, sustainable rate. Use of the site to promote or glamorize dangerously low levels of eating is not permitted.
c) Photos intended to glamorize extreme thinness will be deleted.
d) Those seeking support in their recovery from eating disorders are welcome at MyFitnessPal.
Regards,
Steven
MyFitnessPal Staff
Bravo! Thanks, MFP!0 -
Dear OP,
A VERY recent change to our guidelines (within the past 24 hours) has made it against the guidelines to encourage eating disorders not only in the forums, where it's always been forbidden, but now also in profile posts, private messages, or anywhere at all on MyFitnessPal.
If you are being encouraged AWAY from recovery from an eating disorder, please contact me directly at http://www.myfitnesspal.com/steven and let me know the usernames of those who are violating the updated guideline, quoted below:3. No Promotion of Unsafe Weight-Loss Techniques or Eating Disorders
a) Posts intended to promote potentially unsafe or controversial weight loss products or procedures, including non-medically prescribed supplements or MLM products will be removed without warning.
b) Profiles, groups, messages, posts, or wall comments that encourage anorexia, bulimia, or very low calorie diets of any kind will be removed, and may be grounds for account deletion. This includes positive references to ana/mia, purging, or self-starving. Our goal is to provide users with the tools to achieve their weight management goals at a steady, sustainable rate. Use of the site to promote or glamorize dangerously low levels of eating is not permitted.
c) Photos intended to glamorize extreme thinness will be deleted.
d) Those seeking support in their recovery from eating disorders are welcome at MyFitnessPal.
Regards,
Steven
MyFitnessPal Staff
Bravo! Thanks, MFP!
I second that.0 -
You are doing the right thing trying to recover. Start blocking all the people on here that are trying to sabotage your recovery. You can do it!0
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I think you should get off this site and into a recovery center or otherwise under a professional's supervision. And I don't mean this in a snarky way. I hope you can find the help you need.
I have to agree with this post.
No offense....but you need help beyond MFP. Please seek out the assistance you need.
You ARE worth fighting for!!!
Add me as a friend, if you like!!!0 -
Continue eating and ignore those that are insulting you. No really, by their name there should be an arrow. Click on the arrow and hit ignore. Problem solved.0
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Of course you should continue eating, but you probably need to be under a doctors care. And you need to find friends and support on here that match your goals. Just because they're anorexic too doesn't mean that they're here to help you. It sounds like they're feeding your fear of being fat instead of supporting you in your goal to get healthy. Delete them. And go to the doctor.
THIS! THIS! AND MORE THIS!
Good luck, my dear.0 -
Dear OP,
A VERY recent change to our guidelines (within the past 24 hours) has made it against the guidelines to encourage eating disorders not only in the forums, where it's always been forbidden, but now also in profile posts, private messages, or anywhere at all on MyFitnessPal.
If you are being encouraged AWAY from recovery from an eating disorder, please contact me directly at http://www.myfitnesspal.com/steven and let me know the usernames of those who are violating the updated guideline, quoted below:3. No Promotion of Unsafe Weight-Loss Techniques or Eating Disorders
a) Posts intended to promote potentially unsafe or controversial weight loss products or procedures, including non-medically prescribed supplements or MLM products will be removed without warning.
b) Profiles, groups, messages, posts, or wall comments that encourage anorexia, bulimia, or very low calorie diets of any kind will be removed, and may be grounds for account deletion. This includes positive references to ana/mia, purging, or self-starving. Our goal is to provide users with the tools to achieve their weight management goals at a steady, sustainable rate. Use of the site to promote or glamorize dangerously low levels of eating is not permitted.
c) Photos intended to glamorize extreme thinness will be deleted.
d) Those seeking support in their recovery from eating disorders are welcome at MyFitnessPal.
Regards,
Steven
MyFitnessPal Staff
& This is why I love MFP.0 -
I cannot go to the doctor. I have social anxiety anyways. Doctors scare me.
She'll put me on like 3,000 calories or something crazy and I'm far to worried ):
Not if you go to one that specializes in eating disorders.0 -
continue eating 1200 to 1300 calories like you are. delete everyone who discourages you. try a new type of workout and stick to it! find something that you love and just think about making your body as healthy as possible.
i promise it will get better as long as you don't stop
I had an eating disorder when I was younger too. it's possible to recover! message me if you need some encouragement!0 -
Healthy is more important than anything else and I'm glad to see you trying to recover. Eat healthy whole foods, get a reasonable amount of exercise and don't over or under eat and you will look good.0
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Dear OP,
A VERY recent change to our guidelines (within the past 24 hours) has made it against the guidelines to encourage eating disorders not only in the forums, where it's always been forbidden, but now also in profile posts, private messages, or anywhere at all on MyFitnessPal.
If you are being encouraged AWAY from recovery from an eating disorder, please contact me directly at http://www.myfitnesspal.com/steven and let me know the usernames of those who are violating the updated guideline, quoted below:3. No Promotion of Unsafe Weight-Loss Techniques or Eating Disorders
a) Posts intended to promote potentially unsafe or controversial weight loss products or procedures, including non-medically prescribed supplements or MLM products will be removed without warning.
b) Profiles, groups, messages, posts, or wall comments that encourage anorexia, bulimia, or very low calorie diets of any kind will be removed, and may be grounds for account deletion. This includes positive references to ana/mia, purging, or self-starving. Our goal is to provide users with the tools to achieve their weight management goals at a steady, sustainable rate. Use of the site to promote or glamorize dangerously low levels of eating is not permitted.
c) Photos intended to glamorize extreme thinness will be deleted.
d) Those seeking support in their recovery from eating disorders are welcome at MyFitnessPal.
Regards,
Steven
MyFitnessPal Staff
& This is why I love MFP.
Thank you!0 -
I struggle in my recovery from EDs and while I actively seek others who struggle with similar issues (people without EDs generally cannot relate at all to what we go through when trying to get to a healthy weight), I also block out people who are actively starving themselves. It is just as unhealthy for me to see their diaries as it is for me to restrict. Block them, don't let them poison your thinking.0
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I cannot go to the doctor. I have social anxiety anyways. Doctors scare me.
She'll put me on like 3,000 calories or something crazy and I'm far to worried ):
Thats fear playing tricks... no physician or eating behavioral specialist is going to do that, and I know first hand what you are saying is significantly false. I work with well over 300+ physicians for a living with an extremely large and professional behavioral health network. Dont create an excuse - seriously speaking here, get off of MFP and get help...
MFP unfortunately is not the right place for those who are recovering - especially if you continue to associate with others who have ED that willingly continue with their disorder and willingly choose to manipulate you - clearly its working because you are struggling.
You CAN go to a doctor - you should not be dealing with this alone and on your own. My sister almost died because of an ED so I take this as serious as possible.0 -
As someone who has recovered from Anorexia and bulimia myself, I would also encourage you to seek the treatment of a counselor. I know from experience that you cannot fight this HORRIFIC disease on your own. It will come back to haunt you if you do not get adequate care and an understanding of what this disease is truly about. You are taking the first step in acknowledging that you need help, but the food part is only a symptom, there are so many other layers that need looked at. Take good care of yourself and please look for a support group and a one on one counselor to help support you through such a challenging time. I swear to you that my worst day in recovery was always better than any day in my disease. Best of luck to you in your journey through recovery.
I agree with what she said!0 -
My BMI used to be 16 due to starvation when I was 14. Now it's currently 18.6-18.7 and people say I'm already looking pudgy and that I don't need to gain more weight even though my body isn't functioning properly.
I feel so horrible now. People on here that are anorexic and still losing weight are telling me im disgusting and ruining all my hard work and I'm going to get fat and huge like a house
My lowest I was only 69 pounds. I still feel cold, I'm anemic, my hormones are out of whack and I act insane and not normal. ):
I'm miserable. Gaining weight is scary though.
I gain weight quite easily and am doing it all by myself. no parents help or anything ( they dont care or believe im even sick )
should I continue eating or just..go back like I want to ):
currently eating 1,200-1,300
My advice to you, m'dear, is this....EAT!! I know it's scary but you have to do what's going to keep you alive and healthy. You're doing a very brave thing by trying to fight your illness, don't give up because other people aren't as brave as you and are trying to bring you down!0 -
Continue eating! It's way more important to be healthy then to be super-skinny, which isn't even attractive to anyone but other anorexics. You're getting healthier, and that's what matters. Ignore the nay-sayers -- they're not worth your time.
Exactly this!0
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