"Face it, we'll never be that skinny again."
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First of all, you look smaller than a 10 already. I've seen how determined you are (on here anyway). And I have no doubt that you'll show up looking hotter than everyone else and in exactly the size you want to be wearing.0
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Views are different. I graduated from highschool at a weight of 126lbs. I NEVER want to be that skinny again.
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So...Don't tell her that you are on this sight or dieting/exercising/etc. and just show up in September looking your best!! Let her be the one to tell you how good you look and THEN ask how you did it!! There are so many downers out there.. Like you said, maybe she is just planning on staying the way she is. Well.... You will be the one feeling great about yourself. With no envy about anyone because you worked for it!! Keep up the good work!! And keep up that mentality!! No one is granting you the skinny wish here! You are working for every bit of it!! Take care!! -Billy Woo0
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You can do it! I'm 30 pounds away from being where I was in high school and I'm aiming for even lower than that. I can do it and so can yoooou. I just hope I keep some of the womanly curves I gained in college. :P0
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I'm thinner than I was in high school, even after having a baby, but I was just average throughout high school, so I guess that's not saying much, heh heh.
Besides, I think her statement was a thought that she said out loud, in the hopes that you would validate it with her, just like your statement is a validation on here for you.
Like you said, she changed body types; for her, she probably won't ever be that skinny again, because it's not physically in the cards for her any longer. For you, it could be, because physically, you haven't changed as much. You're just looking for different types of personal validation, and stating one or the other isn't a smack at the other person; it's just someone looking for someone else to agree with them, and make them feel better about their situation.0 -
years ago, a man said to my husband "you can't lose 50 pounds!" he lost 60! So go for it and be what you want for your reunion and for yourself!!!!!!!0
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You can do it!
I still weigh more than I did in high school BUT I'm wearing a size 4 and I don't think I ever wore anything less than a 6 in high school. I still have belly fat to tackle but I'm in better shape than I was in high school--even though I weighed less then.0 -
:happy: When you take care of your body, it makes ALL the difference in the world. I weigh LESS than I did in high school. I am 46. All the women in my family gained an enormous amount of weight in their 40s (and have an organ removed). Now, I have been heavy (when I didn't take care of myself), so it's not that I'm "naturally thin". You take care of your body and eat healthy and you reap the rewards.0
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That's what my best friend from high school said to me last night.
We have our 10 year high school reunion coming up in September and I told her how my goal was to be able to fit into my prom dress. My size 2/4 (I think it was maybe like a 3 in juniors) prom dress. I'm a size 10 right now (down from a 14). We were joking about how crazy we were for ever thinking we were fat back then, and how we wish we were that size again, when she said "Let's just face it, we'll never be that skinny again."
And I thought...well...maybe you won't...but I will. I guess it kinda rubbed me the wrong way, like she thought I couldn't do it or something. Or maybe it was just her resigning herself to being the size she is now after have 2 babies. Her body changed a lot (she was very skinny with no curves when we were 18, now she has hips and breasts), but mine didn't My body shape is still the same, I've always had hips and breasts, now they just have a LOT more fat on top of them. Sure, we were skinny back then, but neither of us were in shape...we were just teenagers with good metabolisms.
I'm sure she didn't mean it in a rude way, but it just kinda dragged me down, like well if my best friend of almost 14 years doesn't believe in me, then who does?? I have to think that if I work hard enough I CAN get down to a size 2 or 4 and fit into that prom dress, and this time I'll actually have some muscle definition and be in shape as opposed to just skinny! It just seems like size 4 is sooooo far away from me right now...I guess I kinda just wanted to post this as a vent/validation seeking post, so thanks for reading!
I suggest getting your bodyfat tested and then try to figure out a good goal weight that corresponds to a realistic body fat %. Be all you can be by all means but be intelligent about it. We aren't in highschool anymore and you probably have muscle mass you didn't have back then.
I def gotten those things done, which is why I'm all the more determined to get down to a size 4-ish. I have a small frame and have only set goals that are realistic for a HEALTHY body composition/weight/etc. I've gone from a 14 to a 10 in 4 months, so I feel pretty confident in my ability to get down to a 4, even if it takes me longer than 4 months. Sure, that prom dress by September is my goal, but I'm not going to do anything unhealthy to get there.
My first and foremost goal (for those of y'all who don't know me) is to be as fit and healthy as possible, and to complete a marathon next year (I've run 3 half so far). My aesthetic goal is to be down around a size 4 because I feel like that is what looks best for my body---a healthy, lean size 4. I'm not stressing about it, I'm not worrying about it, but I just don't like being told I can't do something. I've never been a "can't" type of person.
Awesome. Just making sure you're taken care of. Now about that little black dress........0 -
I struggled with overweight ever since I was 14. When I was 20, my sister got tired of hearing me say "When I'm a size 7..." so much, and made a bet with me that I couldn't get there in a year - I was a size 14 at the time. The bet was for $100 (she owed me already, so she wanted to cancel the debt).
Turned out that was the motivation I needed - a year later we went to the mall & anything she took off the rack with a "7" on it, I could zip up
Not only did she pay me the money for the bet, but the $100 she'd owed me already. So I had $200 to go shopping with (back in 1980 - that was worth something).
Looking back though, I should have had her pay me the first $100 on the date - and the second $100 the following year, because I didn't keep the size 7 - although I was much more comfortable at a 9 anyway -which I did maintain until years later & after babies came.
It's up to you how you want to motivate yourself, but if it were me, I'd challenge your friend to a contest & put some money on it - set a reasonable date for the both of you, and see who can win the money!
And I have to say, even now at 50 I'm in better shape than when I graduated high school Currently I'm a size 6 on Macy's jeans (I have no clue what size that would have been back when.. but it sounds good!).
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Be happy hun, at least your were skinny once. I was bigger than I am now in high school - embarassing big (over the 300 mark) and spent my whole childhood tormented and bullied becasue of it.
It wasn't until I tried to majorly loose weight in my early 20's that I realized I could do it, it just took ALOT of effort - then I hurt myself and stopped.
My next HS reunion is ...my 20th. I'd love to go to it and be all nice and skinny.... plus, as evil as it sounds, I'd love to see what some of the people I went with have done with their lives. Yes, I want to laugh at the ones that let themselves go to heck. I know.... evil and karma is a b*tch, but alot of the grad class tormented me in those 4 years and I would love to see if karma bit them in the *kitten*. LOL...
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Take it from someone who has been all over the spectrum of weight (way too skinny to obese). You CAN and you WILL do it if it's important enough to you and you work hard - Every. Single. Day. Determination and consistency is all it takes. I was always skinny growing up and never had to work at it. I ate like crap but was very active and had youth on my side. I think I weighed about 130 when I graduated from high school in 1993. Fast forward 4 years to college graduation, too much drinking and eating and no exercise I ballooned up to 180. I developed the mindset of "I'm getting older, my metabolism isn't what it used to be" and I resigned myself to the fact that I was just going to be fat. In 2006 I got pregnant with my first child and weighed 200 pounds. The day I gave birth to him I was 233. My son changed my whole outlook on life. I had an epiphany and realized that I didn't want to be the person I had become. I wanted to set a good example for my son and quite frankly, be alive and healthy in order to watch him grow up. By his first birthday with lots of discipline and life changes I got down to 138. Fast forward a few years to my second child who was born in August of 2010. I had gained 50 pounds with her and the weight did not want to come off. Sheer will and determination took it off and I am now a healthy, strong 37 year old woman that weighs 134 pounds and has 21% body fat. I exercise 6 days a week because I love how it makes me feel. I appreciate my body much more now than when I was a teenager because I know what it is capable of and what amazing things it has done. I'm not maniacal about food and I still eat chocolate every single day. (Only now it's a fun-sized piece instead of a whole bag!) So the answer is - you can do pretty much anything you set your mind to and don't let anyone tell you differently. I never said it was going to be easy though - I said it would be worth it! Keep it up! You can do it! 0
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i am actually thinner now then when i was in high school : )
This.
I think your goal is great. When you get closer to it you'll be able to tell if it's too extreme or not.0 -
Awesome. Just making sure you're taken care of. Now about that little black dress........
Haha oh no, my prom dress is ridiculous. I'm not actually going to wear it anywhere, I just want to be able to put it on, zip it up, and take pictures. It's hot pink, mermaid cut, one shoulder, a see through back to the waist with rhinestones going all the way down the back. It's so loud (I was a LOUD dresser in high school), it's insane. A little black dress is MUCH more my style these days!0 -
Im the same size as i was in high school. Although i am not toned like i was then. So it doesnt look as nice. But im working on it and im hoping to be smaller actually. I ate like crap back then and drank alot of soda so now im hoping that eating better combined with exercise will help me get smaller. Dont listen to your friend. Maybe if she sees u getting to your goal she will hop on board with ya! Good luck to you!0
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Awesome. Just making sure you're taken care of. Now about that little black dress........
Haha oh no, my prom dress is ridiculous. I'm not actually going to wear it anywhere, I just want to be able to put it on, zip it up, and take a pictures. It's hot pink, mermaid cut, one shoulder, a see through back to the waist with rhinestones going all the way down the back. It's so loud (I was a LOUD dresser in high school), it's insane. A little black dress is MUCH more my style these days!
Just sayin' that form fitting black dress would get your point accross to your HS BF about 10000% better than any discussion0 -
My goal is pretty much smaller than what I was in high school. :laugh:
Just because she doesn't believe in herself doesn't mean that you have to subscribe to her BS. She said it because she wanted you to confirm, and give her an excuse not to do anything about it. Use it as motivation. Get out there and prove her wrong! And then maybe she will be inspired to pursue her own fitness goals.0 -
That's a hot prom dress! I graduated in 1985, and my dress is sooooo 80's! It's a silver, taffeta "Material Girl" dress....you know, the one with a big bow in the back that tapers down your legs? UGH.I have my own prom dress on in my pictures.....red velvet with white sequin delight.!!
OP~ You can totally do this. Look how far you've come already!0 -
I'm 35 and 5 lbs away from what I weighed my senior year. With slightly larger boobs. Haha. You so can do it! When someone says something like this to me... it just ticks me off and gets me that much more fired up to prove them wrong. You're on your way to doing it... just keep up the great work!
Don't let what someone else believes about "reality" or "the way it is" change your reality!!0 -
my ex-fiance told me I didnt have the genes to ever be in shape, that I would be fat forever and he dint want to see me go through so much heartbreak trying to be fit when it wasnt in the cards for me.
I said - um my dad was a short stop and my mom was a gymnast and Im only over-weight because of 4 years in PT. My genes say Im ecto-meso, I'll be fine.
He said - that's not your genes, your genes tell me you are fat now and you'll never be thin even if you go bulimic.
^ mention he's my ex?
Prove your friend wrong :flowerforyou:0 -
My goal is to be 12 pounds heavier than I was in high school, but yeah I grew some woman curves (2 babies!) but I plan on most of those extra lbs. to be muscle. I don't want to be skinny, I want to be fit, firm and healthy.
Being a 30 year old teenager doesn't appeal to me.
So yeah, you could be just as thin, but why not just be better?
:flowerforyou: 
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I hate looking at pictures of me from high school. I was so tiny (still the same body shape, I've had hips and boobs since I hit puberty) but I thought I was HUGE! I wish I could slap myself...
Don't let her drag you down Mer. You're gorgeous
Ha, same here...thought I looked like a cow and I was actually at my smallest. I have the dress I wore to my HS graduation hanging in my closet and want to wear it by end of summer.
OP...with an attitude like that, your friend may be right....well about her ever being "skinny" again.0 -
I am currently weighing less than when I was a high school senior, and I have had 4 beautiful babies
My tummy doesnt look as perfect, because of some stretch marks, but my weight is definitely lower and I am definitely more healthy!0 -
My friend basically told me the SAME thing last week! She said something like we're "never going to look like we did in high school" since we are almost 30 now. (When did 30 become old?!?) Anyway, I told her I'm not trying to be skinny, I just want to be healthy and in shape. It was just frustrating since she is usually a very supportive person. But, I think it has motivated me even more! We have a girls trip planned in August and I can't wait to see what my results are by then! Don't let anyone bring you down. You can do it! :happy:0
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There is nothing better than being underestimated.
It's like motivation on steroids.0 -
Like you said, I think she was just resigning herself from doing it. Right now, she probably can't accept the fact that it's going to take some hard, hard work and it won't be easy to be thin, like it was back then. So she is just excusing herself by letting herself think that it's just not possible. But YOU are awesome and you WILL reach your goals!
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When I was 18 I was under 100 pounds, had no shape whatsoever, looked like a 15 year old boy, and had that "thigh gap" that seems to be so coveted these days. (BTW, I *hated* it then...I wanted to GAIN weight!)
I would never want to be that skinny again...I would rather look like a woman with some curves and a hot strong body than a pre-pubescent boy.0 -
Isn't a drag down..
You will be that lean again even if you don't end up the same measurements.
My bf in high school was about 18%, but because I hadn't matured ( or birthed babies) I had an 18" waist.
Will my bodyfat be 18% or less again? hell, yes
will I ever have an 18" waist again? Hell, no...0 -
Im smaller now then I was in high school - dont listen to her! You can fit into that prom dress!! Get it girl!0
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Hell yes you will :drinker:And I thought...well...maybe you won't...but I will.
I LOVE this attitude0
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