Most annoying NSV ever.

RobynDCrossman

Is there anything more annoying than an attractive girl complaining about getting hit on? It's not like they were going all Night at the Roxbury on you. If a guy can't ask a strange girl for a simple phone number, how the hell do babies get made?

Thank you for saying it.
Maybe I'm just jealous because I don't get hit on - but dang. Really?

kayleesays

Is there anything more annoying than an attractive girl complaining about getting hit on? It's not like they were going all Night at the Roxbury on you. If a guy can't ask a strange girl for a simple phone number, how the hell do babies get made?

Thank you for saying it.
Maybe I'm just jealous because I don't get hit on - but dang. Really?

Maybe it's just me, but I don't find a man slow-rolling up behind me in his car and saying something akin to, "would you like some fries with that shake?" particularly flattering. it feels a lot like assault, tbh. there are nice ways to let a girl know you find her attractive, and then there's street harassment.

beckyinma

I've gotten a couple-a honks while I'm jogging. Smile and move on. Take it for what it is, a typical boy enjoying the beautiful female form.

RobynDCrossman

Is there anything more annoying than an attractive girl complaining about getting hit on? It's not like they were going all Night at the Roxbury on you. If a guy can't ask a strange girl for a simple phone number, how the hell do babies get made?

Thank you for saying it.
Maybe I'm just jealous because I don't get hit on - but dang. Really?

Maybe it's just me, but I don't find a man slow-rolling up behind me in his car and saying something akin to, "would you like some fries with that shake?" particularly flattering. it feels a lot like assault, tbh. there are nice ways to let a girl know you find her attractive, and then there's street harassment.

What OP described was not assault. They didn't get skeezy either, from what was described. What you have described? Definitely skeezy and inappropriate.
Thus this sounds like an outcry of "Oh woe is me! I'm a beautiful girl! People look at me!" Especially if she's qualifying it as a NSV then asking if it's the norm for 'boys.'

lastchance2010

Ugh, I know what you mean. I almost wonder if that is why I got so fluffy in the first place. Ugh boys! :grumble: Boo for the unwanted harassment and Yay for the nsv.

callmeBAM

Yeah, I hate that. Guys do this to me regularly. I usually have a child or two with me but apparently that means nothing to the guys that do this.

Yes, b/c there aren't any single moms out there who want to date a guy who isn't turned off by children. SMH

I highly doubt a single mother of two is going to get with a guy who is hooping and hollering at you from a car in the street.

The OP said "slow rolled me in their cars and asked for my number" ... that's a far cry from "hooping and hollering at you from a car" little miss exaggerate.

rachaela06

Smile and let the compliment go to your head, hard work pays off. When I was 8 months pregnant this one guy would make obscene comments to me, whistle, and other things. Believe me I was not looking hot, I looked like I swallowed a hot air balloon. I asked my hubby what was this guy thinking?? He politely told me why he thought the guy was doing it and I had a good laugh. As long as they don't get physical it's harmless!! Great job by the way, keep up the hard work.

AlayshaJ

Yeah, I hate that. Guys do this to me regularly. I usually have a child or two with me but apparently that means nothing to the guys that do this.

Yes, b/c there aren't any single moms out there who want to date a guy who isn't turned off by children. SMH

I highly doubt a single mother of two is going to get with a guy who is hooping and hollering at you from a car in the street.

The OP said "slow rolled me in their cars and asked for my number" ... that's a far cry from "hooping and hollering at you from a car" little miss exaggerate.

Trollololollolololol

holleysings

Normal. The worst is when they are also walking on the street and keep following you and trying to get you to smile at them...

Jkmumma

AND sometimes I am reminded as to why I have, in the past, refrained from saying anything on a forums with this high of a user base.

No, it wasn't to go "woe is me, i'm beautiful."

First off, I do not see myself as a beautiful woman. Never have, and I don't WANT to see myself as a beautiful woman. I am far more proud of being an intelligent woman, or a hard working woman, or a compassionate woman, or a successful woman, or a confident woman.

Second off, this is something that's never happened to me before this recent rash of immature behavior from the people around me. It did make me uncomfortable, because I am not that girl who gets whistled at, or cat called, or anything else. it is an entirely new phenomenon, and I wasn't entirely sure what to do with it, or if it was normal for others to experience or such. I'm a math and physics nerd. My experience with males is far different than most. The males I associate with would never do something like this. Before this, the biggest compliment I've received from the opposite sex was "You solved that in 20 minutes, I've been struggling with it for an hour."

So thank you for making me feel uncomfortable about admitting to having an uncomfortable situation. I'm a fairly straight forward person. If I wanted compliments, I would have said 'so I've lost a bunch of weight and I feel a lot healthier for my efforts."


To all of those that have shared their similar encounters, Thank you. I think I will be using the "f off" method. or one a coworker gave me to "can I get your number?" "Sure, do you have a pen, E-A-T S***"

So far though, wearing loose fitting clothes (and I have a lot of those now... See.. now THAT is bragging) has lessened the problem, as has bribing my roommate into giving me rides.

Fieldsy

Mine would be....

Its cold in the winter without all that fat
Cant rest my beer on my tummy anymore
People telling me I dont need to lose anymore weight which I do

Cold_Steel

Even if it was a way for the original poster to say "Hey look at me I got hit on" isn't that still a success story.

So basically there is whining occurring over another person whining... (their own words).

In regards to the cat calling.

I have never understood it, me being a guy I have never felt compelled to whistle, say inappropriate comments or any thing of the sort.

I do notice that this behavior seems to be related to the size and scope of the group amongst the man-children. A single male in the wild will usually not exhibit his mating call, but for some homoerotic reason when man-children are with other man-children they need to prove how "not gay" they are by declaring their attractiveness to your bosom.

Eh, -

Jkmumma

I love that phrase "Man-children"

Merrychrissmith

Boy behavior regardless of age....not manly or mannerly.

losingthehealthyway

I do notice that this behavior seems to be related to the size and scope of the group amongst the man-children. A single male in the wild will usually not exhibit his mating call, but for some homoerotic reason when man-children are with other man-children they need to prove how "not gay" they are by declaring their attractiveness to your bosom.

Eh, -

Hahaha This!! ^^

I take it as a compliment when I get hit on, but it does feel unsafe when a group of men are following me and cat-calling from their car. Not one of them seems to realize that it doesn't make me feel sexy at the moment, just frightened. Especially if I'm alone.

Sharmender

Get used to it and just ignore it.
It always creeps me out when older guys that could be my father are checking me out and then come up to me. Gross.

skinnyinnotime

Well, I have that happens to me ALL the time, super market, walking, @ that bank or with all the kids...Looks, whistles, asking how im doing, if i say "I'm fine, thanks" they may reply "YOU SURE ARE" . I figured it is all part of being a beautiful woman no matter what you size. I take it as flattering, politely say no, or thank you for the compliment (if one was given) and keep it moving. I dont thenk they mean any harm, but if they didn't ask....they may think they are missing out on a good thing...:blushing:

Refreshing to read your post, after all the other ones. I mean how much of a big deal is it really?!

nichalsont

Well, I have that happens to me ALL the time, super market, walking, @ that bank or with all the kids...Looks, whistles, asking how im doing, if i say "I'm fine, thanks" they may reply "YOU SURE ARE" . I figured it is all part of being a beautiful woman no matter what you size. I take it as flattering, politely say no, or thank you for the compliment (if one was given) and keep it moving. I dont thenk they mean any harm, but if they didn't ask....they may think they are missing out on a good thing...:blushing:

Refreshing to read your post, after all the other ones. I mean how much of a big deal is it really?!

Exactly. It has been a while since I have heard any whistles. I miss them a little. The closest I get these days is the text notification tone on my friend's phone. Hoping a few more pounds fixes this.

opus649

Maybe it's just me, but I don't find a man slow-rolling up behind me in his car and saying something akin to, "would you like some fries with that shake?" particularly flattering. it feels a lot like assault, tbh. there are nice ways to let a girl know you find her attractive, and then there's street harassment.

Assault????? :noway:

phillieschic

Last year, the dude working the counter at the gas station hit on me while I was with my 9 year (who happened to be dressed in his shoulder pads/gear on his way to his football game). Here's how it went down:

Dude to Nolan: Is that your mom?

Nolan: Yeah.

Dude: You sure are lucky to have such a hot mom...

Nolan: Yeah. I live with her. I know how hot she is. I don't need some guy who works at a gas station using me to hit on my mom.

Nolan to me: Can we get our gas somewhere else, please? (and then he stomped out the door)


Ouch. :drinker:

Jersey_Devil

i thought people ask for email addresses these days

wingednotes

There are times when its absolutely ok to let women know they are attractive.
Most of the girls I know agree that when its on the street by strangers, its generally unwelcome. (and can be frightening as well, depending on the circumstances)

reyopo

I had somebody roll up and ask me where I LIVE one time! What kind of idiot thinks a girl walking alone is going to be so overcome by a TOTAL STRANGER that she would give out her address or even her phone number? First of all, I have only laid eyes on you for 2 seconds, but more importantly if you do this, I am going to go ahead and make the assumption that you are a rapist/serial killer...because honestly, I'm guessin that is EXACTLY what they do. I have never in my entire life dated anyone who approached me this way, anywhere...hell, I've never dated anyone I wasn't REALLY good friends with first. Don't get me wrong, at 41 years old, I don't mind a smile or a whistle now and then. Compliments are fabulous, but only under the best circumstances.

Duck_Puddle

Maybe it's just me, but I don't find a man slow-rolling up behind me in his car and saying something akin to, "would you like some fries with that shake?" particularly flattering. it feels a lot like assault, tbh. there are nice ways to let a girl know you find her attractive, and then there's street harassment.

Assault????? :noway:

Thank you. I barely survived an assault. I will never be able to be with someone without having to explain why I am covered in scars, or explain why I have parts that don't work properly because of damage in the assault. So it's annoying, it's bothersome, it's creepy, it's nervewracking, it's unsettling, it's all kinds of things (potentially even dangerous). But it's absolutely nothing like assault, tbh.


Sorry for the rant-carry on.

kayleesays

Maybe it's just me, but I don't find a man slow-rolling up behind me in his car and saying something akin to, "would you like some fries with that shake?" particularly flattering. it feels a lot like assault, tbh. there are nice ways to let a girl know you find her attractive, and then there's street harassment.

Assault????? :noway:

Thank you. I barely survived an assault. I will never be able to be with someone without having to explain why I am covered in scars, or explain why I have parts that don't work properly because of damage in the assault. So it's annoying, it's bothersome, it's creepy, it's nervewracking, it's unsettling, it's all kinds of things (potentially even dangerous). But it's absolutely nothing like assault, tbh.


Sorry for the rant-carry on.

I'm sorry for what's happened to you. Sexual assault and abuse is an awful, terrible thing that nobody should ever have to go to. But assault doesn't have to be this extreme. I was assaulted by a drunk college guy on the way back to my dorm and yes, when a creepy man comes up behind me and makes me feel incredibly unsafe or grabs my behind or makes it seem like he would definitely be willing to get out of the car and come after me, it does feel like sexual assault. It comes down to a person who is unwilling to respect your wishes and understand the word "no".

Ephena

I've had this happen and I don't think of it as annoying, I like it since it means I must look good and since my head space hasn't really caught up to my weight loss I really appreciate the compliment. If they are rude about it I just smile politely, say thanks no you can't have my number and should me kids witness this I wait until we alone then explain why that behavior is not okay.

fishndad

Even if it was a way for the original poster to say "Hey look at me I got hit on" isn't that still a success story.

So basically there is whining occurring over another person whining... (their own words).

In regards to the cat calling.

I have never understood it, me being a guy I have never felt compelled to whistle, say inappropriate comments or any thing of the sort.

I do notice that this behavior seems to be related to the size and scope of the group amongst the man-children. A single male in the wild will usually not exhibit his mating call, but for some homoerotic reason when man-children are with other man-children they need to prove how "not gay" they are by declaring their attractiveness to your bosom.

Eh, -

05HeatherLouise05

I get this sort of behaviour EVERYDAY, I find it come from Immature "Man-Children", and i do not appreciate it at all. But then i work in a Prison, so you can imagine :noway: We have a term for Men like this, we call them "Kid-Brained".

So it's not really a stretch to know that i absolutely do not like it being done to me on the street either, it's doesn't make me feel good (ok yeah maybe when i was 16 or 17) but now it just makes me feel like a piece of meat.
If a guy really finds me attractive i'd be more comfortable if he would walk up to me and pay me a quiet compliment and/or start talking to get to know me.
Following and Talking to me out of a car window is something my "Ex-Clients" would do :noway:

JoolieW68

I must be walking in the wrong places. I never get whistled at. :grumble:

legnarevocrednu

I love getting hit on. Now that's it's happening more often, it just makes me more aware of the difference in myself. I guess for the girls who are used to getting hit on, it could maybe get old, but for right now, I'm like, BRING IT! This being said, I would probably be disturbed if they either invaded my body space or were disrespectful. I don't think men asking for my number is disrespectful at all.